• Noelle posted an update 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Checking in. Did Dry January then had wine at a movie on Saturday then a bottle last night. No, I can’t be trusted . I know that I’ll slip into my bad habits again . I’m going to carry on … Day 1 or 34 – 2 . I had a splurge now it’s back on the horse again …

  • Noelle posted an update 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Reporting in. 33 days . No news

  • Noelle posted an update 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Day 32. I’m feeling pretty good except being extremely tired after lunch . Luckily I work part time and my day finished at lunchtime. I had lunch then had a very long nap. Today I finish a bit later. I’m hoping I’ll be ok . I’ve never been this tired in my whole life. I’ve been checked out by my GP, blood tests etc but I’m perfectly healthy which is great so all I can put it down to is withdrawl.
    Anyway, I’m off for a long walk while it’s cool.
    Have a great day everyone. X

    • You to lovely lady, yep our bodies are strange things lol 🤔💕

    • Enjoy your walk, that will help to wake you up for sure!
      I constantly struggle with feeling tired, nothing I have tried helps, I just have decided that it will be a part of my life haha

    • Congrats on passing your first month AF @Noelle and it’s great to see you back here with us. xoxo

    • I used to feel slumpy after lunch but I tried eating only fruits or veggies (plants only, basically) and now it rarely happens. I’m hungry mid afternoon, though! Good luck!

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Omg that is insane. I heard it’s too cold to go outside in some parts over there. Hoping you are tucked up safely inside @hammer123.❄️

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    I’m the same. Dry Jan done and dusted but I’m going to carry on .

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Oh so cool. I love it 😀hope you’re all good @song-bird. Time for another road trip ?

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi there @clearrainbow . Sounds like you’ve got a very full plate on your hands at the moment ( including the ice cream ) . You will be very glad when you have shifted and you are near your daughter. Everything else will fall into place soon I’m sure. Take care x

    • Thanks @Noelle. I am very happy to be moving near my daughter. Now that both houses have a closing date there is light at the end of the tunnel. And I will stay AF.

  • Noelle posted an update 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    1 month AF at the end of today and I know I’m going to make it as it’s my new norm 😀
    In the beginning the concept of Dry January was all I could see myself doing and I’m so glad I’ve done that, but now what? Go back to drinking ? No the thought actually doesn’t appeal to me strangely enough. I’m happy with the way things are so I’ll keep going. There are a couple of challenges ahead however so it won’t be plain sailing.
    Have a great day . Stay cool everyone in NZ another day of the heatwave today ( late 30 degrees Celsius in most places ) and in the USA Northern Staes, stay warm. X

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Good on you @a-better-person. Sounds like a good reason to me . Good Luck 👍

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Wbhat a lovely post @kiwifit and well done on Day 1 you’re off to a great start. 😀

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Sorry I just read your post below mine @sober4real. Sounds like tonight isn’t a good night for you. Try not to let things get on top of you . Can you distract yourself somehow before bed ? Or as someone has mentioned just go to bed😀

    • Hi @noelle, I’m binge watching Netflix doing Sudoku. I’ll be okay- it was just the first time I had been seriously triggered since I got sober and that’s a HUGE SHAME that I have to feel like that with my own kid. I will eventually have a big talk with her …..in good time. Thanks for the support. I will go to bed soon. I’ve been staying up too late and it is going to catch up with me.

  • Noelle posted an update 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Reporting in, 29 days. 😀 this hot weather is making me feel like a glass of Chardonnay but I haven’t partaken. Nice to have evenings free to do what I want without feeling tired.
    Hope everyone is all good. X

  • Noelle posted an update 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    28 days today. I’m actually doing it- still can’t believe what’s happening. 😀Back to secondary teaching today. Teacher only day but lots to do and stress of computers not working properly. Grr hope all is up and running when Year 9 s and 13s arrive. I REALLY felt like a drink at about 4pm but I realised I was thirsty and tired again. I need to make sure I have that truly under control by having plenty of AF alternatives and treats on hand when I get home. Humid, cloudy and warm here which isn’t too bad. Supposed to be a scorcher tomorrow. Have chosen my dress for the powhiri ( Maori welcome ceremony ) tomorrow. Bag and laptop all packed ready and waiting. Lunch made.
    Have an amazing day or night wherever you are and think of me tomorrow teaching in a boiling hot classroom full of sweaty teenagers !

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Great 😀

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Great going @clearrainbow😀👍

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    So sorry you lost your husband @sunny92. Someone on here might be able to answer your question . Good luck .

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks @JM very interesting.

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Great to hear others are thinking of continuing 😀

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    When someone says that to me @kiwi I always think to myself “ and yours will be even shorter if you carry on drinking like that ! “ . Sad but true .

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi Reggie @reginald. Lurking is acceptable in this context. 😀

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    @dontblamethemusic try to get out and interact with people again. Think about some of the things you used to enjoy, even back in your childhood. Even if you don’t talk to many people to start with you could take it in stages. Eg, walking, biking, fishing, learning or playing an instrument.
    I’m not sure of your circumstances and how far along the recovery trail you are but have you thought of getting a pet of some sort. Looking after an animal is very therapeutic and allows us to feel responsible for something other than ourselves. I hope this helps and keep posting on here. Others may have ideas .

    • Thankyou @noelle for the support. When I first went into recovery my cat was my higher power. She knows when things aren’t going great, she’s very judgmental 😼

      • Hahaha we all need a cat to keep us on the straight and narrow. Tell us more about her if/when you have time. Hope you like it here – so many of us are finding new ways to live, broadening our horizons, overcoming anxiety and so, so many other things

  • Noelle posted an update 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi all. Had a very quiet day today. Housework, reading, school prep, groceries. Day 27 , I can’t believe I’ve almost finished my Dry January. When I started that’s all I thought I could manage , but I think I’ll keep going😀I can’t believe I’m saying that – amazing !

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Congratulations. Very well done @claloula.👍

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Wonderful @clearrainbow 😀Good to hear you are keeping busy and back AF.

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    So lovely . Better than getting a cab. Good on you 👍

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi there @Lilkaz welcome. 😀

  • Noelle posted an update 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Checking in. Just realised I have been miscounting my days. I had my last drink on NYE. So I’m now 26 days. I didn’t have much that night, just twoo teeny tiny ( 175 ml bottles ) of wine . I had my grandson staying the night and I had saved some sparklers from fireworks night so we went outside and had fun with those . Another reason for going AF I thought, spending quality time with him.
    On another note, I was listening to the Recovery Elevator yesterday and a guest mentioned that he doesn’t call himself an alcoholic in recovery. I personally hate that term too. That is one reason why I’m not keen on going to AA. Don’t you have to say.. I’m x, I’m an alcoholic…
    To me, if you’re trying to recover , that should be a label you want to forget ?
    I prefer to think of myself a problem drinker , or alcohol dependent. I don’t want to be reminded of it all the time, I just want to get better and move on. It’s a period in my life that happened , I need to be extra vigilant but I don’t need to be reminded of it.
    I hope I haven’t offended anyone who goes to AA here. For many, many people all over the world, it works but sorry, it’s not for me.

    • Many now refer to it as an “alcohol use disorder”. I’m like you, I don’t think of myself as a recovering alcoholic. I think of myself as being alcohol free. Congratulations on 26 days @noelle! That’s awesome.

    • I like, ” I want to be free of as many poisons as possible. ” I guess our bodies need to recover from smoking, from toxins, from all drugs, but yes the in recovery thing is a bit weird and old perhaps.

    • @noelle I feel the same way and I’ve been going to AA on/off for 25 years. The reason initially they asked people to identify themselves was simply to help them break down their barriers of denial. It put a lot of shame into me and I still do not like it to this day. It’s been part of the program from the beginning – maybe because those who were at bottom were harder to get onboard in the old days. It’s definitely one of the biggest reasons I don’t go often any longer.

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Loved This video and the music. Very clever ! Insects are pretty random aye . 😀

    • Thanks for the reminder, my daughter loves them. What a nice melody but true I don’t want to live like this but I don’t want to die. It’s very happy music even with some of the lyrics. LOL. Reminds me of my childhood when I would be playing mudpies with grasshoppers, potato bugs and salamanders. hahaha! Catchy!

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Great , @michael6.

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    I think if you CHOOSE to be alcohol free its an advantage.That way you take ownership of your recovery and you are the one in control. That’s what happened to me 25 days ago. The thought of just doing the things that were being offered to me was enough to spur me into action. The Drug and Alcohol specialists were very surprised but very pleased that I was already a week sober before my scheduled appointment.
    I do realise however that this approach is not an option or could be unsafe for some people. For me, I choose to get a referral from my doctor to CADS , I choose to cut down, I choose to go AF initially for 30 days , it’s so much more powerful when you make thechoices that are right for you. Good on you for self referring 👍

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    I too have been teaching for over 30 years. I’m thinking of making this my last year but will have to look into my finances as I’m on my own. Good on you making that choice .

  • Noelle posted an update 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    24 days and still going strong just tired . Looks like it’s going to be a lovely day today . From my bed I can see blue sky . Another hot one . Thinking of our NZ “cousins” in Australia struggling in the 40 degrees Celsius heat. Hoping your air con is cranked up. On the news last night they said if the temperatures went over 40 in Adelaide, one pub was offering free beer. That sounds like a recipe for disaster to me. Why not offer free cold AF drinks?!

    • @noelle seriously?? free beer in that heat?? water or juice or anything else would’ve been the smarter choice, but it’s the world we live in, huh?

    • Congrats! And great point re the beer. Dangerous since alcohol is dehydrating which is the opposite of what you need in extreme heat! ❤️❤️

    • I remember going to a dodgy club once in my late teens. 50¢ for a handle of beer $1 for a glass of water! And a sign in the toilets saying the water wasn’t suitable for drinking! WTF I’m sure they couldn’t do that these days.

    • Happy Day 24 @Noelle!

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks @newstartsteph you just gave me the reminder to be more adventurous with my clothes! I’ve got a wardrobe full but tend to stick with just my favourites. I need to go for more adventurous combos ! It’s amazing how they can give you a boost when you need it . Sounds like you are really going strong, keep it up !

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    A great post @wildchild. Good that you’re expressing how you’re feeling including the shitloads of bad stuff. I hope things improve for you.

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yes @laraised it is very normal to feel tired in tge early stages apparently. I’m only on day 24 tomorrow but I asked this same question a few days ago. I think that the explanation was that your body is adjusting to the new way of existing without alcohol. Try not to give in and just let your body heal. Good Luck on your journey.

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @Mrs D yup I feel the same way about my ginger beer and lime now. And – I can actually guzzle it down not like wine which I had to make last! I honestly think that half my trouble ( 23 days ago ) was that I was thirsty . 😀

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    At 23 days I feel the same @cath1683 . Thanks for asking this question.

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    @gilligan5323 I love puzzling. On my third big puzzle since New Year. 😀

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Things I found helpful @michael6 are Netflix, reading, any form of exercise or housework, 1000 piece jigsaw. I’m not sure of your circumstances but do you have a dog you can take for a walk ?

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    I get to organise my office. I get to go for a long walk…

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @clearrainbow. What a pity you felt rejected at the A.A. meeting . Was it the same one you used to go to ? Maybe they thought 2 days was not long enough under your belt to be there ? I don’t go to AA but I’m sure you could go to a different one.
    Yes, you have a lot on your plate but stay strong and there’s plenty going on to keep you busy. Have a good day / night .

  • Noelle posted an update 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi out there sober warriors, can I please have the names of sobriety podcasts . I have The Bubble Hour, unpicked and thee Naked mind ones. Any others please ?

    • Recovery elevator is one I’ve heard of.

      There’s an NZ one I like – not recovery only but talking about mental well-being and quite funny. It’s RNZ – Eating friend chicken in the shower with James Nokisi

    • i listen to recovery elevator. have listened to every one of them from the way back. helped me tremendously from 1 to 100 days.

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    We re always here. I hang out in the toilet when things get tricky. Good on you. Just try and stick it out. 😀

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @Clearrainbow I’m back here too. Great to meet up again !
    I’ve started again and am on 23 days so far . I seem to remember you doing well in the past. You can do it again my friend . X

  • Noelle posted an update 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Daughter left today so the house is very empty again. I blobbed around this afternoon not feeling like doing anything. Not much energy these last few days . I hope I can cope with going back to work next week. I really need to as only income now I’m on my own. Feeling a bit down tonight and felt like a drink but couldn’t be bothered going out in the strong winds we’ve been having. Hopefully I’ll feel better tomorrow.

    • What you talking bout, no drink for you, think of Ollie and new bub, not worth it. When can i visit cus i will

  • Noelle posted an update 4 months, 4 weeks ago

    Three weeks AF today. Felt very, very tired today. Had to force myself to do anything. No energy and a bit grumpy . Feeling down too about my daughter having to go back to Bristol. I so love having her here and I’m sick of living alone. On the plus side, I’m stoked about my 21 days AF. Have a great day/ night all and stay strong. X

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 4 weeks ago

    Welcome @Tonic. You’ll love it here. Lots of support from members from all walks of life who are going through the same thing. Congratulations on 5 days . X

  • Noelle posted a new activity comment 4 months, 4 weeks ago

    @Janus2 Oh I’m sooo sorry to hear about fatbum😭 I must have missed your post. I have had the great pleasure of meeting you and fatbum a couple of times and she was a lovely dog and anyone could see that she was a very special part of your life. My thoughts are with you my friend. Hugs and kisses .

  • Noelle posted an update 4 months, 4 weeks ago

    3 weeks today😀Feeling positive and strong . One day left with my daughter and her baby wriggler inside her, before she goes back to Brisbane . I will miss her so much but not long to go until the baby is born and I’ll be over there being Grandma and enjoying every minute of it with no booze ! Have an amazing day everyone – N

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