• Narley posted a new activity comment 1 day, 20 hours ago

    Ohhh wow congrats on the upcoming 5 year soberversary!! That’s so inspiring!!

  • Narley posted an update 3 days, 21 hours ago

    Morning everyone! Day 235 AF 🙂 a bit of a test coming up this weekend because my wife has gone off to Ireland to visit a friend. Normally in the past this would have triggered a bout of increased drinking on TOP of what I usually drank! But not this time!! I’ve got my self care all planned out 🙂 and my beautiful wife was so sweet and left me some of my favourite soft drinks in the fridge, with a bar of chocolate and a lovely card with some money in it to go out and get a nice meal on the weekend. So I’m treating myself to a nice bit of meat which I intend to BBQ 🙂 Hopefully the weather will behave and it’ll be cool enough for me to take my dog out for a nice long hike! 🙂 I’m fully looking forward to my sober weekend but it’s great to know i’ve got a backup plan should I need it 😉 and of course you guys are part of that plan too! Wishing you an amazing day and sending my love to each and everyone of you who is struggling right now whether it be with alcohol or just personal matters.

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Woooo!! Amazing! That’s 100 days of freedom and guilt free mornings. Keep on keeping on!!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hey @noodle71 firstly congrats on day 9! Almost double digits! I’m glad you’re in a good place too in terms of your sober journey! Keep it up just one day at a time and you’ll get stronger each day! In terms of advice i’m afraid I can’t really say too much about AA having never been, but I know there are a few on Living sober who do go and I’m sure will give you advice on that. I think my advice to you would just be to do what fits you best! You know what your strengths and weakness’s are better than anyone. If you don’t think that AA would be a good fit maybe search around and see if there’s another alternative that would suit. Your sober journey is just that Yours. I have personally found that lurking/posting on here regularly and reading sober stories and posts has been enough to keep me motivated but everyone has their own struggles and care needs. The most important thing to focus on atm for you is your own self care and doing whatever you can not to put yourself in a place where you’ll be tempted enough to give into cravings. It sounds like you’re doing a great job so far though and are certainly approaching everything with thought and care 🙂

    • Thanks very much, yes I am focusing on the long term, and building strategies for the future, when my guard may drop slightly and life happens, but I know that drink will never make any disaster any better. X

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    @lucy I’m so sorry about your mum! I’m glad she’s ok! You handled yourself like a legend with your husband though!! Well done you!! Not just for dealing with the temptation but recognising just how much better we feel without booze 👍 keep it up you totally got this!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Woooo 20 years!!’ What a legend!! Amazing and inspirational! Thanks so much for sharing ❤️

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Congrats on 100days 🥳🥳🥳🥳 That’s an amazing achievement! You can totally hit 365! I’m already looking forward to when you post it in 265 days!! 😁 one day at a time but we can totally do this! 👍

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Wooohoo congrats on Day 329!!! We’re exactly 100 days apart! Excited to know that when you hit 1 year i’ll only Be 100 days from hitting my first year sober!! We totally got this!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    It’s so funny you mentioned about physical changes after drinking! Everyone I know keeps mentioning to me that I’m growing! Let’s be clear i’m 35 this year there is no way my body is getting taller! But I think I’m actually standing taller! I feel confident and proud of myself for the first time in a long time and it’s actually made me taller! It’s not something I’m doing consciously but just another positive benefit from freeing myself from the chains of alcohol

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    @craftygirl congrats on Day 14!!! And yes it’s good to have as many tools as you can in your sober toolbox 🙂

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Welcome both of you! @dooshbag and @ClaireT

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Welcome @MissBennet congrats on day one! Keep coming back often if you find the first few weeks difficult, I was on everyday Usually lurking when I first started out, it helped a lot with motivation! And posting when something was coming up in my social schedule that I thought might trip me up helped too. Having the moral support of everyone here was such a huge strength boost when I myself felt weak. You got this!!! Take it day by day and be amazed where this journey will take you!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    That all sounds pretty wise to me @morgan 👍

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Welcome @DaisyM and congrats on your Day one 🙂

  • Narley posted an update 1 week, 2 days ago

    Wow! Woke up this morning to see so many new members!! Amazing Welcome everyone!!! This small step in signing up is amazing in itself 229 Days ago that was me! By signing up I was admitting to myself that I wasn’t in control of my drinking and that needed to change. It’s not a smooth process to go through! I wasn’t sure if I was even strong enough to manage it. But day by day using this site and the tools, advice and encouragement all the members give each other I was able to take it day by day. And here I am! 🙂 I really look forward to getting to know you all or you just getting to know us if you just want to lurk!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Awesome job!!! That feeling of pride and accomplishment is something Alcohol could never give you! So pleased for you and your family!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Woooo!! Well done @māorigirlsober! Fitness has been one of my sober focus’s too and i’m Loving all those endorphins and toning up i’m getting! And that’s great you’re getting to meet new ppl who aren’t in it for the drinking buddies! 👍

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Me too @jesss ❤️

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Happy Sober Friday to you too!! And congrats on hitting a month!!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Sending warm thoughts and best wishes your way @jesss I don’t even know how I would begin to cope with what you’re going through right now! I’m glad you aren’t beating yourself up about drinking, but equally glad that you realise it’s not the answer. Keep strong and just take it moment by moment.

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Good luck! Sounds like the most amazing night! Enjoy!!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    @freedom1025 you took the words right out of my mouth! 👍 @newstart100 you kicked alcohols butt this trip! Kudos!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Well done!! That’s the key!! Don’t just cut alcohol out of your life! Add something to it 🙂 you did great 🙂 keep it up! Will be celebrating this weekend by being sober with you 🙂

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    @lynn-e You’ve 100% made the right choice! If ever you’re struggling or feel like you could struggle with a situation coming up in your life, definitely come and post here, I found it helped me a lot in my earlier days. Also get yourself some sweets for the first few weeks. If you feel a craving coming on pop a few sweets. Not great for the waistline but it really helps those initial weeks. And baths!! Have lots of baths! It helped me so much to relax and unwind 🙂 you’ve totally got this! One day at a time and you’ll be amazed how much it’ll transform your life!

    • thankyou for your kind words and advice. my partner will eat all the sweets. But I will try some barley sugar I think. they take a while to dissolve. I love baths.

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Wooohoo 3 years!! 🥳🥳🥳 What a great achievement! Congrats!!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    That’s amazing and really doesn’t surprise me at all!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Well done Sam!! You’re doing amazing! 🙂

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Sounds like a plan!! 😉 salts are the best i’m normally a nice bundle of jelly after a nice salt soak 😚! Also I’m glad your kids were safe!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Oh my goodness you must have been terrified! Make sure to get some self care in ok? I had a stressful situation happen to me the other day and having a bath and walking the dog, watching something light and funny really helped me through it. But also drinking a calming tea or just sitting in a quiet room listening to nature sound recordings helps. Anything that helps other than alcohol basically! Don’t forget to still deal with those emotions and to calm yourself back down, you’re just need to use different tools to help. You’ll find that they are actually much more effective than alcohol which just temporary masks your stress.

    • Thanks for the suggestions, I just remembered I have some epsom salt in the bath so that’s where I will be hanging out later!

      • Sounds like a plan!! 😉 salts are the best i’m normally a nice bundle of jelly after a nice salt soak 😚! Also I’m glad your kids were safe!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Awww that sucks about the wheat intolerance! At least you’ve been diagnosed 🙂 try and stock up on yummy wheat free snacks and treats! It’ll help a lot! And I can’t wait to see you post about day 112!! You’ll be amazed how quickly it’ll come about! Keep going you’re doing amazing

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Thanks all 😋 yeah seriously tempted to move up to a remote Scottish island after all that! The Rat race in the south of England is stressful stuff! Thankfully I live and work on a large country estate which means I don’t have to hit the roads too often or commute.

    • I always thought a visit to the Outer Hebrides would be interesting Narley – not sure about living there tho!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Woo congrats on reaching day 10!!! 🙂

  • Narley posted an update 1 week, 6 days ago

    Day 225, Just got back from Edinburgh from meeting my 3 month old niece for the first time. I am honestly smitten! She’s so adorable and just a bundle of life waking up! We drove up with my Brother and his girlfriend so a bit of a road trip! I wasn’t really too worried about how I would react with my brother and his girlfriend drinking alcohol. I’ve socialised with them now a few times and i’ve been ok. It was mostly just so lovely to see my Other brother as a new Dad 🙂 only stressful part of an amazing weekend was driving back down, near London I had a big 4X4 driving right up behind me on a slip road, driving really aggressively and obviously in a hurry, which honestly always confuses me!! What did he expect me to do? I’m behind another car, on a slip road going the speed limit! I can’t just make myself disappear! Anyways my wife took Umbridge with his aggressive driving and flipped him the bird as he went to undertake me. Which escalated him into full road rage mode, from then on he basically was swerving in front of me, slamming his brakes on and then swerving to my side and making as if he wanted to push me off the road, eventually when I needed to turn off the road he pulled in front of me and stopped and got out and was screaming at us outside our car, there were four of us in the car and my brother is built like a tank so I wasn’t particularly concerned but it definitely put a downer on the whole weekend. Eventually when we didn’t react he got back in his 4×4 and followed us for a little bit but eventually lost interest and went his separate way. Word to the wise, people are idiots sometimes on the roads so get a dash cam. I ordered one the second I got back home safely, the most annoying thing in that whole situation was how someone who has driven so dangerously and obviously used his vehicle to intimidate and try to cause a crash has gotten away with it because no one in my car thought to whip their phones out. 😑 anyways I took the dog for a l…[Read more]

    • What a fuckwit. Hopefully he’ll have a heart attack 😳lol

    • sounds like he nearly gave *you a heart attack narley 🙁 what a wanker.

      it is terrible, isn’t it, people being so horribly agressive and just no consequences for it.

      sounds like a hot bath was just the ticket

      and big congrats on 225 days and NAFD! (not a fucking drop 🙂 )

    • Man, you handled that well, @Narley. Kudos.

    • Thanks all 😋 yeah seriously tempted to move up to a remote Scottish island after all that! The Rat race in the south of England is stressful stuff! Thankfully I live and work on a large country estate which means I don’t have to hit the roads too often or commute.

      • I always thought a visit to the Outer Hebrides would be interesting Narley – not sure about living there tho!

    • Congratulations on handling a difficult situation and the 225 days!

    • What a complete Dick, I hate road rage and people who think they own the road, you did well not to bite and certainly not to drink… well done you… 😀😀

    • What an arsehole of a driver!. Glad you got to meet your niece and spend time with your family. Day 225 wow just wow

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Happy Birthday!!!! @agirl Congrats on a Sober Birthday and for getting to almost 300days!!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    🌈 Nice! Have a great time at pride in Chicago! I’ll be enjoying my first sober pride in Brighton Uk in August 🙂 I’m really looking forward to enjoying it with my family and friends being completely sober and able to enjoy the experience to its fullest 🌈

    • @Narley Thanks! I’m sure it’ll be tempting to drink since Boys Town will be free-flowing mayhem but I plan to breath my way through it and enjoy the actual reason for the day. Enjoy your first sober Pride in August!!! 🌈

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Hey @dreamer88 sending all the thoughts and prayers your way! I hope you are able to find the help you need and also just have somewhere to vent! I often find just writing things out helps release any build up emotions 🙂 stay well ok and post here often for support 🙂 we’ve all been there and are happy to just listen 🙂

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Amazing post @mari135 🙂 thanks so much for sharing!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Welcome back @kathryn 🙂 and congrats on being three weeks in!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    I wish you the best vacation ever! You can be 100% present and more engaged than ever before for your trip 🙂

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Wow I love this post! It’s so nice when we are able to have honest and understanding conversations with family and friends about being AF and to be able to go into the reasons why. 🙂 I’m so glad you came away from it feeling so positive! You’ve passed on your positive vibes to the rest of us here! Thank you!!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Amazing! Congrats on 40days!! What a difference being AF makes 👍

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Woohoo amazing!! The first week down! Take it day by day you’ll be amazed where it will lead you! Also well done on all the treats! I went all out in my first few months! And then slowly changed those treats for healthier options aka less sugar. But for now spoil yourself rotten with whatever it takes to deal with the cravings and know you’re earned them and deserve to feel proud of yourself!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Well Done @WakingOwl !! 150 days!! Isn’t it amazing how quickly it all starts to go?!?

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    Sending warm thoughts for you and your family! I hope your mum gets better soon!! And happy that you’re able to be present for them in their time of need.

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    Congrats on getting to 85days! One day at a time and make sure to celebrate those milestones, even if it’s just a nice hot soak! Or a long walk 🙂

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    Amazing!!! So glad you are feeling the freedom!! It’s a thing of beauty when our lives of rid of the chains that alcohol wraps around our minds! Keep going! Onwards and Upwards!

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 5 days ago

    Welcome @ellie24! You’ve come to the right place! And yes that’s a great place to start… 😉 day by day with baby steps! We all help each other out here so definitely drop in lots even if it’s just to lurk and read other posts 🙂 also the blog section is an amazing tool, I read it daily when I first started it really helped motivate me through my first few months!

  • Narley posted an update 1 month ago

    Hey just seen on BBC news that there is going to be a Panorama program about the drinking problem in Britain on BBC One tonight at 8:30 I don’t know if anyone from Nz or the Us can watch it but I thought i’d put it out there just in case anyone was able to see it. Apparently it’ll be on BBC IPlayer after it’s been broadcast

    • Thank you @Narley. I’m going to google it and see if I can stream it here in the US. Since. Since I’ve started on this journey I’ve become so much more attuned to how much alcohol is present in everything – media, TV, social gatherings. Hopefully it’s beginning to resonate in people’s consciousness. Thanks for the heads up. Enjoy your day.

  • Narley posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Amazing job winner!! We’re a 100 days apart in our sober journey!! Can’t wait to celebrate my next 100 when you celebrate yours! 🥳🥳

  • Narley posted an update 1 month, 1 week ago

    Woke up with a big smile on my face this morning. It’s meant to be a day off but I have to get up because a plumber is coming to finish fitting my new bath. But that doesn’t dampen my spirits… not much will today! Because today I got to 200 days Alcohol Free!!! 😁😁😁 honestly guys i’m at the stage now where I just keep going to back to how much my life has just transformed! Not like big things I still have the same job as 200 days ago, but I feel like I give so much more to it! I’m still married to the same woman as 200 days ago and yet our relationship is the closest it’s ever been, I have lost weight, i’m Getting fitter everyday from going to the gym. But the biggest thing is just freedom from guilt that I had when I was drinking. It’s lifted my spirits and let me loose to soar and live my life freely! Anyways I’ll stop gushing! Thank you everyone on this site you guys inspire, challenge and encourage me every day. Just reading your posts and the responding comments is such a blessing! So thank you all!

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