• MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    I send winter greetings to you. I’m wrapped up in pjs and two blankets to keep warm!

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    You too!

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Try upping your protein intake and snacking on Banting type desserts. It helps me stabilize my sugar levels and come out of a sweet binge. Treat yourself kindly. You can read more on a blog called marks daily apple. If I eat carbs and sugar I binge terribly and have no willpower.

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 1 month ago

    Hey everyone. I’ve been quiet but sober. Starting up a business which isn’t the best idea in early sobriety so I’m taking a lot of time out to take care of me.

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    This is beautiful and straight from your heart. Thank you for sharing. There’s something cleansing about water isn’t there. Keep protecting that sobriety x

    • Thank you @msm. You have no idea how amazing it was to get so much encouragement (or maybe you do!) I was traveling at the time though so didn’t have the chance to express my gratitude.

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 1 month ago

    53 days sober today. I’ve been quiet on here 🙂 But I’m taking care of myself. Probably trying to do far too much sober again. I always overestimate how much I can actually get done in a day. But I’m sober x

    • Yay for 53 days @msm 🙂 Go you! Xx

    • Well done MsM, 53 days is awesome!! I remember mine clearly cos it was at 52 days that I treated myself to expensive perfume to mark the occasion. Pull back from busyness and go S L O W while adding things that bring you joy.. a long bath, a good book, a walk in nature, going for a run, dancing in the kitchen.. whatever brings you light and peace. You CAN do this. I am AF going on 2 years and am currently dealing with an alcoholic brother who might soon be homeless plus packing up my moms flat and settling her into a care home and not once have I thought of drinking. MsM, be king and gentle towards yourself, one day at a time. They all add up.

    • 53, well done!!!

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Have an awesome day!

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Keep going. I had to start on day one less than 2 weeks ago. It is what it is and we keep moving forwards x

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Aaaahhh @hummingbird I would fly some over to you (US yes?) but that could take some time. I randomly found these in a local store. There was no price on them but I just jumped and bought some anyway. I still don’t know what they cost 🙂 It’s time to live a little.
    Maybe you could get some local lamingtons and smear caramel and sea salt on them? I’m making myself hungry all over again …

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Awesome. Maybe also dream about visiting me on that island? I will practice some meditation with you between reads 🙂 That’s the thing – my job doesn’t make me feel alive at all that’s why I go off in my head haha

    • I dream that all my study and experience will be really useful to more people – teens probably.
      I dream of a balanced life, less driven by fear of the mortgage and not supporting my children enough.
      I love your post as I think it would be good for me to do some dreaming, visualising, holding onto my goal ( which at present erodes my income as I do some volunteer work. I get scared, and work myself into the ground, then forget to enjoy life.)
      Thank you. Happy dreaming.

    • This beautiful post from @Msm could maybe be a guest post @mrs-d? Quite an inspiration to visualise our new lives – or perhaps everyone does, and I forgot to 🙂

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    We don’t have macaroons here 🙁 I did have salted caramel lamingtons for breakfast though! yum

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Love this. You also have wonderful dreams/reality – it’s sheer freedom and quiet peace in being exactly who you are and present through it all. Everything really is a teacher @soberlynn

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 3 months ago

    I have wonderful dreams for myself when I’m sober. I believe anything is possible with planning, hard work and a little faith. It is, isn’t it?
    When I drink life becomes about survival. Surviving the aftermath of the mess and the chaos I create. Trying to piece things together in a world that seems to cave in on me. It gets smaller and smaller, until the walls close in and I’m gasping for air. The emotional roller coaster I’m sweating through for days, the blackouts, forgotten promises and selfish actions. Bloodied knees and bruised limbs. That’s my drinking reality. My sober dreams are so much better.
    I have wonderful dreams for myself when I’m present and navigating real life sober. Some dreams are about escaping to a tropical island and laughing at the silly stuff that worries me now, some dreams are about creating life and looking into my children’s eyes, some dreams are about having all my reading books color coded and packed neatly on a crisp white shelf. Really. All possible dreams yes? Except when I drink. So today I’m claiming my right to all my dreams and my right to making them happen. I AM going to stay sober and explore this beautifully crazy world and everything it blesses me with. Along with everything it doesn’t bless me with. All a blessing in itself.
    I just felt I had to write something really deep today while I imagine reading a novel from my color-coded shelf on an island beach with my kiddos running around in the sunshine! It beats work 😉 I’d love to hear other sober dreams if you have some. It’s fun to dream x

    • Hate to sound boring, but at my age my only dream is to love, live and die free from alcohol. I want to continue to be 100% available to myself and my family. That’s not just my dream, but will be my reality.
      You are so right when you said that not only are blessings a blessing, but non-blessings are a blessing too! 🙂 Everything is a teacher.

      • Love this. You also have wonderful dreams/reality – it’s sheer freedom and quiet peace in being exactly who you are and present through it all. Everything really is a teacher @soberlynn

    • Love it @msm 🙂 I dream of being full of energy and doing a job I love, working part time so I have more time to relax and do yoga and walking. More time to see friends and family. I dream of having an actual daily meditation practice! All this is possible and Im working towards it. Xx

      • Awesome. Maybe also dream about visiting me on that island? I will practice some meditation with you between reads 🙂 That’s the thing – my job doesn’t make me feel alive at all that’s why I go off in my head haha

        • I dream that all my study and experience will be really useful to more people – teens probably.
          I dream of a balanced life, less driven by fear of the mortgage and not supporting my children enough.
          I love your post as I think it would be good for me to do some dreaming, visualising, holding onto my goal ( which at present erodes my income as I do some volunteer work. I get scared, and work myself into the ground, then forget to enjoy life.)
          Thank you. Happy dreaming.

        • This beautiful post from @Msm could maybe be a guest post @mrs-d? Quite an inspiration to visualise our new lives – or perhaps everyone does, and I forgot to 🙂

    • Lovely, @MsM.

    • 10 lb trout
      5 lb Spanish mackerel
      4 lb pompano
      45″ red drum
      6 lb flounder

      Yup. That’s about got it covered

      • Crak up @Wvlheel farkn fish 🙂
        What fish would you be in your afterlife? (Dik 🙂 )

        • Hah. I’d be a big bad ass shark @janus. I’d cruise along the swimming beaches and bite the dumbasses who “swim” holding beer bottles.

          You’d probably outswim me though- wouldn’t bite you as I’m sure you’d give me a stomach ache 😉

    • My dreams are very basic ! No more farkn shitload of meds, know my son and meet my grandaughter, dreams-not reality 🙁

    • Sober dreams and sober sleep = bliss!!!!!!
      oxoxxo

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Me too @Stella and thank you. You too x

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 3 months ago

    Quick check in at the end of day 12 before I drift off for a sober sleep. Feeling much better today. I was struggling with life a bit before drinking again and right up to yesterday I think haha. But life is an ebb and flow and nothing is forever. So enjoying the peace and joy inside right now. Sleep tight sweet friends x

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 3 months ago

    Sober day for me today. I’m actively trying to stay calm as I tend to get myself worked up over menial silly little things. Had another slip but on day 10 today (like a few others apparently) so we keep going. Onwards and upwards with kindness and love x

    • Well done on day 10 @msm 🙂 Go you! X

    • Great job!! Double digits is good!!

    • Good to see you here! Keep trying, good things start to happen eventually. Way to go on 10 days! I always loved getting into double digits, it always felt like such a big accomplishment (because those first days are so rough). Now I look forward to triple digits! D54 today! Take extra good care of yourself — it isn’t something everyone says for the heck of it, it actually makes things easier. XO

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Hay house is having their annual summit – you just sign up for a free account to log in. There are videos and interviews on there about different life aspects. I listen to/watch the ones that appeal to me. The summit lasts for about 3 weeks and I think this is the second week. I haven’t listened to their radio station so I can’t advise you on that Here’s the link: https://www.hayhouseworldsummit.com/

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    I don’t have kids but I sneak into the room and watch these movies by myself anyway haha they are really good! Want to try boss baby next

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    The hay house summit is on with free talks by some well known authors. Maybe you want to listen to a talk that catches your eye there?

    • Thanks for the recommendation, @msm! I’ve hear of hay house but haven’t really investigated it much. Is the hay house radio the best place to listen?

      • Hay house is having their annual summit – you just sign up for a free account to log in. There are videos and interviews on there about different life aspects. I listen to/watch the ones that appeal to me. The summit lasts for about 3 weeks and I think this is the second week. I haven’t listened to their radio station so I can’t advise you on that Here’s the link: https://www.hayhouseworldsummit.com/

      • This is great, @msm! Thank you!

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 3 months ago

    Has anyone watched the animation Ballerina? It’s a lovely movie and will cheer you up if you need it

    • Yep, i watched it with the kids. Enjoyed Boss Baby at the movies recently, really funny. Hanging out for Paddington 2 this year!! I love having kids, I’ll have to find some to borrow when mine don’t want to watch these anymore 😉

      • I don’t have kids but I sneak into the room and watch these movies by myself anyway haha they are really good! Want to try boss baby next

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 3 months ago

    Does anyone find that there’s a ‘theme’ to what depresses or pisses you off in life over the long term? And that this theme is what you experience in your family life, your friendships, your relationships, your work environment etc.? I have this theme of what hurts me deep down sore and some days it’s like all the aspects of my life work together to make it come to the fore. Today was one of those days. And I’m thinking that I’m the only common denominator here so I am actually the theme (the person creating the feeling or circumstances) but I don’t know how to start changing to not let this hurt me anymore. Some days I accept this better than others but I can’t believe I can still feel like this and that it can persist for so many decades. Hopefully tomorrow will be a bit better. Today was a crap-ass of a day! 🙁

    • So sorry to hear that. Have never thought about a theme. I know certain behaviors trigger my frustration. Willing to share your theme?

    • I am sorry today feels a bit heavy. Those days are tough.
      xoxo

      Sometimes getting one good night of sleep helps, and everything looks already brighter the next morning.

      If there is a theme in my life, it’s the “I am not good enough for anything” that is holding me back. That, and people-pleasing. Working on that though. Giving others so much power over my well-being is dangerous, and it lead me to the wine bottle in the past.

    • Yes @MsM, I think I know what you’re talking about. I have certain sore points/deep hurts that I come back to over and over.
      It’s a great thing to stay curious about. How much do we play a part in generating the very situation that we then feel hurt by? Such a revelation, isn’t it, to see another person in the same situation responding to it very differently. Whether we play a part or not, how can we do it differently? How can we ease or support that hurt so it’s not the part of us making choices for us all the time? I hope tomorrow is better for you. xxx

    • Me too @MsM, I have themes or certain triggers that really get to me. Recently I have been reflecting on the serenity prayer, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.” Hugs to you, and sending you love and light for a more peaceful tomorrow xo

    • Idea listen on you tube of Eckhart Tolle regards to the pain body. Saying that we all have hurts and if we allow ourselves to feel ok or good our mind goes oh that doesn’t feel right and we go back to what’s the norm-pain-regrets-hard done by me-parents didn’t love me I wasn’t heard-blah blah all the rest. Has books on Audible. Highly recommend xo.

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Morning! And go YOU!

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 3 months ago

    I have some sober momentum again and it feels good. I’m in the right headspace and taking action every day to stay sober. I come on here, read blog posts, don’t let myself overthink things or get too down about things (a huge trigger for me and it’s mostly all in my head!) and I’m making time to get outside in the sunshine. I’m 59 days sober today 🙂 Reading posts from those who are in their very early days reminds me how difficult those days are and how I don’t want to go back to that black hole. So we keep going and keep on doing what works. Have a beautiful sober day my friends from across the globe x

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Necessity is the mother of all invention!

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    All the time. But I used to drunk dial and then I couldn’t read (remember) what was said. I don’t miss those!!

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    @janus2 I often read your posts twice to fully get all the humor. Take care of yourself x

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    It touched me thank you so very much xxx

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    I love them!

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Wash, rinse, repeat. If we do that it will work.
    A big cyber congrats on 975 sober days and such ‘pearls’ of wisdom 😉

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Well done, well done, well done! Keep going, keep going, keep going 🙂

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    387 congrats to you and your amazing ability to express gratitude no matter the circumstances. I will send some sunshine your way. Let me know when you get it!

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Don’t focus or do anything else right now except staying sober. Just stay sober, whatever it takes. Soberlynn is right that this is hard. We have all had our Day 1s and they suck. So make this your ONLY goal and do whatever it takes to get some sober momentum. Then protect it like your life depends on it because it probably does. Stay close.

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Well done! x

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 3 months ago

    I’m sober. Sometimes the weight of that statement blows me away – I’m sober!

    I had my big grump yesterday (thanks to everyone for their support) and a bit of a grump again today if I’m honest. It is hormone related. Ain’t it lovely being a lady ha ha. But I’m coming out of it and it isn’t the end of the world if I have a few off days every now and then. I will live. Just need to stay out of people’s way when I feel like that and that’s okay.

    • Yay for sobriety!!!!!

    • Its so amazing isnt it @MsM 🙂 🙂

    • I have big grumpy days to and yes it is ok.. and being sober is fabulous.. no awful hangovers every morning, hot sweats or shakes.. day 59 for me and very thankful for all the support I get…

    • Extra self-love when that happens. I like to have a bed day if I can, even just an hour will help me. Happy sober day @msm!

    • Sober grumps are ok, sober hormones are less wonky, sober days are just plain easier 🙂

    • Check you out bein’ all sober and everything! It’s bloody fantastic. Being a woman has it’s moments that’s for sure. Being sober has made those mad voices easier to handle those couple of days per month. Heck, being sober has helped me recognise them for what they are. Before, I just thought I was mad, in both the insane and the angry way. Now I get to have a gentle little chuckle at the voices and wait for them to settle, sometimes. Can’t say I don’t dive into the deep end occasionally.

    • great post x

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Yip. This sounds a lot like me. Life is very different sober – for a start there’s no more waking up hating yourself 😉 Keep that in mind as you push through these first few days x

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Well now you’ve made me smile and I’ve been a total grumpy bear all day. Who knew a goat could make me smile again! ha! x

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    I love it when you stop by. Well done x

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 3 months ago

    So I woke up in a very bad mood this morning for no real reason. Nice. Just feel frustrated most of the time and I don’t know why. I should really just keep my mind quiet and be grateful for what I have (and I DO have a lot). I’m actually very blessed. But grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

    • Know what you mean. When I used to wake up in the morning I was always hungover or seedy so that was the norm, there wasn’t room for feeling anything else. And now I’m not hungover and seedy I have room for other emotions instead so I take more notice them, like feeling grumpy for no reason…

    • I have that happen sometime to wake up grumpy

    • Hope you can shake off the grrrrrr and bring on the grin! Wishing you comfort and joy.

    • I do the same. A friend of mine who is a psychologist recommended the book The Happiness Trap. I bought it on kindle and am just working through it but it looks to be very useful

    • Could just be ‘women’s business’ and there isn’t much working through that. Chocolate is my advice. The voices in your head should settle in a day or two.

    • You know, @MsM, it’s okay. You can’t force happiness every second of the day. Allow yourself to have some grumpy time. It’s normal and will pass. Smiling helps. 🙂

    • It’s not your fault!
      xoxoxo
      And those mornings/days/weeks suck when it feels like “all sorts of restless/frustrated/uncomfortable etc.”

      In Buddhism we call the shame or anger or impatience we feel when the mood is down “the second arrow”. Feelings come and go anyways, and they are not your fault, nor does anyone intend to “wake up feeling like a grumpy frumpy”. Not your fault. It’s part of having a human brain and body. And the only thing we can gently approach and comfort, is that idea of “the second arrow”.

      It’s hard enough to deal with the grump, so try and be extra kind to yourself and not shoot that second arrow of “I have so much and it’s my fault I can’t be grateful and make this grump go away.”

      It does not matter how much you have or don’t have. The low tide is right now in your mood is just as much your fault or under your control as the moon shifting oceans. Meaning, it s not your fault at all!!

      xoxoxo

      Just how joy and contentment often wash over you for no reason. This morning I had a short wave of “joy” for NO reason at all. Nothing has changed externally between yesterday and today. I did not “do” anything. Nothing happened to me in a different way.

      I hope it feels a bit lighter by the time tomorrow rolls around. Treat yourself to something compassionate, like maybe have that chocolate Temperance recommended. Take that extra hot shower. Treat yourself to a nice new expensive organic tea. Have that favorite Thai takeout.

      And you know what? It’s also totally ok to feel that anger or whatever comes up. I usually scream out loud when I am alone by myself in the car. Or I say really loud over and over again: “No. Noooooo!!!! Noooooo!!!” Or I punch my pillow on really bad days when I am alone at home. Or I box the air in front of me alone at home.

      And on some days, none of that helps and that really sucks.

      oxoxox

      Not your fault. It will pass.

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    I get the whole Braveheart pic in my mind of him raising his arm screaming freedom! It is amazing how much you can do and all with a smile. Enjoy it @Lizzy !

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Thanks @Lizzy you too x

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 3 months ago

    I’m sober and happy today. A little lonely but I have lots to do so will keep myself busy.

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Great. I also love a good clean out. I have started with the main areas people “see” so I can have visitors over. A neighbour visited the other day and took a look everywhere – he didn’t stay in the visitor see areas haha – even in my office haha. I was so embarrassed. My personal nickname for my office is the graveyard. It’s where puppy takes everything he finds and chews it so it’s a huge mess. I don’t know what this guy must have thought blush. Oh well. Sober has everything to do with it and I will get in there some day. I work there every day so hopefully sooner rather than later!

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Awesome well done! Sounds like you are doing good work on yourself and the rest will follow. It’s a great day to be sober 🙂

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Camomile and honey works for me. Perfect combo

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 3 months ago

    Goodness, I had a scary (funny?) flashback now. I heated up my dinner from frozen this eve and made it too hot. I was so hungry I ate it anyway, and burnt my tongue in the process. So I’ve been sitting here feeling this burnt tongue all the time and wondering – have I been drinking? This is how my tongue used to feel sometimes after a drinking session. It took a few drinking burns for me to realize that I was making hot food while drunk and burning my tongue on it. That’s why I kept waking up with this funny tongue feeling in the morning.
    And then I still sit and wonder sometimes if I really have a problem … surely everyone burns their tongue while drunk then wonders what’s wrong with it the next morning? Am I the ONLY one?

    53 days today without a burnt tongue from drinking 😉 The food was actually really good (Thai curry and a cherry smoothie)! Happy sober Friday night everyone x

    • Hi .. I have done many harmful things when drunk lol. talking today at work someone reminded me at a works party when walking home I fell through a tree ..I was so horribly out of it and cut all my arm.. I’ve bought take out food while staggering home and not eaten it to wake up the next morning and I’ve dropped it all over the kitchen.. I was so drunk I couldn’t find a plate.. My god they were bad times it’s all coming back to me now I’ve started thinking about it…. MUCH better times now .. 55 days for me.. well done to you.. were doing great.x

    • Haha I can relate to the burnt tongue.

      I used to get the munchies while getting drunk and stoned, so would order pizza from down the road.

      I walked down to get it, got it the second it came out the oven piping hot, then proceeded to eat it at the bus stop outside. To add to the classiness, I would normally have taken the bottle of bourbon with me from home, and be drinking it from the bottle at the bus stop. Just to ensure there was little to differentiate me from homeless winos as possible. Cough.

      I could feel the pizza burning my mouth but I really didn’t care – when you’re drinking to that extent, even in denial stage you realise a burning sensation isn’t the biggest health risk you’re exposing yourself to lol.

      I really was a class act. Not.

    • I hear you! I used to drink and cook, very scary to think about now because I could have burnt the house down. One night I cooked butter chicken, there was butter chicken sauce all over the gas hob and up the walls…I had absolutely no recollection of cooking anything but the evidence was everywhere, and I mean everywhere!

      Heres to no more burnt tongues and random messes! Go us 😉

    • Hahaha, many, many burnt tongues. Burnt my eyelashes and brows off one time flambe-ing some chicken while drunk. Was very lucky my hair was back in a pony tail.

    • I had new friends over, and was drinking because I was nervous, they were lovely and vegans so I made vegan pizza and burnt it because I didn’t watch the times.. because well… I was drinking. These freinds were from out of town and I am usually a good cook, thinking of this is so embarrassing. I had just met them. ugh ugh . Well. Not again. Love to all. And forgiveness.

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Aaaahhh @jessi what wonderful news. I’m very happy for you! I would glitter like this one if I could 😉

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 4 months ago

    I don’t know how you do so much @prudence on such little sleep!

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 4 months ago

    I would click the like button here if there was one 🙂

  • MsM posted an update 2 years, 4 months ago

    Off to bed on my 51st string of sober days ladies and gents.
    I’m still finding my feet in all this. Still a bit difficult to socialize and date to be honest. Anyone remember mr Monday night? Well things aren’t working out too well at this stage. I’ve explained to him that he does something specific that hurts my feelings. Besides this he’s awesome. Yet he keeps on doing the one thing that hurts me and I really don’t understand why. I guess this sounds ALOT like me and my drinking huh? Anyway, he did it twice over the weekend and to be honest I had a knee jerk reaction and wrote a snarky WhatsApp msg to him. Then deleted it and thought I should sleep in it – all in the name of trying to be a more mature and less hot headed sober MsM. I Just haven’t spoken to him again since and he hasn’t tried to contact me. Dating takes up too much headspace! @ylang-ylang I agree that relationships shouldn’t be such hard work. It’s one area of my life I just can’t seem to grow in.
    I’ve been working on a blog. Doing a blogging course and Pinterest courses too. All in the evenings after work. Lots and lots of work to do. Adopted a puppy and welcomed a nephew into the world in the space of a week or two. All sober. We keep going as we never know what’s round he corner do we. How exciting x

    • HI MsM.

      Don’t be too hard on yourself. In dating terms 51 days is not a long time of sobriety. I had a disaster within the first 3 months first time. Was attracted to all the same things I would have looked for a man when drinking. He was dry drunk and had been a good friend. Pity I forgot about his terrible reputation with girlfriends..

      Me a better prospect (Mr Nearly Right) at 1 year and we went out on and off for 8 years. He had lots of good points but was pretty selfish too. But he was a lot better than my previous choice:)

      Lots of work on myself later and maybe 13 years sober I met Mr Right.

      Don’t freak out at the length of time it took me to meet him but I did get more aware of what does and does not work for me as I became more clear headed.

      Hope this is helpful. Nto saying don’t date as it is good practice but maybe take it slow?

    • Good thoughts from @Janna. 51 days isn’t very long. I can’t imagine dating that early. Aside from that, dump his ass – not the right man for you. Actually, not sure I should be listened to – I’ve been with the same man for over 17 years and I just can’t imagine dating at all – the thought horrifies me. I don’t fantasise about being with other men, I fantasise about being alone. It’s something that’s become clear to me over the last couple of years – a new partner can never enhance my life until I’m well. Not truly, not in a healthy way. And definitely not if he’s not working on himself as well. Interesting… this post has opened up a lot to think about for me. Too much swirling around to share right now.
      Anyway, good luck – the rest of your life sounds like heaven! Puppies, classes, babies, blogging – not sure any man could add to that!
      Loves

    • Stick with the puppy, they can be trying but so much unconditional love 🙂 . Re: relationships, I am having to put in some hards yards with my DH, we’ve been together 20+ years. Right now he and the marriage are worth my effort. Probably not otherwise!
      You sound like you are doing good work on yourself xx

  • MsM posted a new activity comment 2 years, 4 months ago

    I’m up 5 kilos. I feel your pain! No control with the sweets for me either (blush)

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