• MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    @englishmum yes, sadly I lost a really good friend – or should I rephrase that too a really good drinking friend. We just don’t have anything in common anymore. 🙁 She also really doesn’t get it – and I have so many friends like that still – just can’t see what the problem is with drinking and why I can’t have ‘just one’. Probably why I’ve become a bit of a recluse – so fed up of trying to justify why I don’t drink lol

    • Hey I read recently that 30% of 18-25 year olds don’t drink alcohol. We’re ahead of our time, on trend and down with the kids 😂. Booze schmooze!! Who needs it? Pah!

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    I totally get that – I think we are very good at looking normal and covering up our drink problem!

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    oh yes – a week on Sunday 🙂

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted an update 6 months ago

    Coming up to a year on March 3rd and can’t quite believe I’ve got here. I’m not going to lie and say it’s easy as many of you know it’s probably the single hardest thing you will ever do, to quit drinking. But for me the rewards definitely out shine the alcohol: to be at peace knowing I’m fully in control of my actions, not feeling guilty all the time, not feeling anxious when I’ve not had a drink, not shaking anymore, feeling more confident, not feeling angry (so much) more able to rationalise difficult situations, able to stay calm more easily when people around me wind me up, losing weight, my skin glows, I don’t have big dark circles under my eyes, I’m not constantly dehydrated, I eat better, to name a few. But I still find those awkward, stressful situations difficult to handle and for that I have to tell myself that after a good night’s sleep it won’t seem so bad the next day and then I go and watch netflix or read a book to take my mind off it. Sometimes I still lie awake at night and can’t sleep due to not being totally blind drunk. Sometimes I still mess up really badly, feel bad and have to deal with those feelings which is so hard when you haven’t got a drink inside of you. I’ve also lost friends and have good friends I still can’t socialise with due to their excessive drinking habits. I’ve probably become more of a recluse but I know that one day I’ll be able to get over those anxious social thoughts and enjoy life to it’s full (I hope) Don’t give up, keep going – a sober path in my opinion is the right one and definitely outshines the drunk one. Enjoy a lovely sober day everyone.

    • Congrats on almost a year! That is an awesome achievement! I like your style … focusing on the benefits of sobriety v what we think we are missing out on is huge. I know that when I finally surrendered any notion of being able to drink again or try to moderate, it was like this huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. Sobriety is the way to go! We get our life back. Well done!

    • Congratulations on almost one year! You have described living without alcohol just perfectly. Life is still messy sometimes but a whole lot less messy than while drinking. xoxo

    • Almost one year….massive accomplishment!!Go you! And thanks for sharing your thoughts, I really enjoyed reading your post and it made me feel less alone. Especially the part about dealing with feelings (anger) and people and life. I sometimes forget others are out there and have similar human experiences. We’re not alone. oxoxoxo Now we also better get onto finding some awesome sober treats for your big 365!

    • Really inspirational post @mrsnomoreguilt . I have to say I’m worried about some of my drinking friends – will we have enough in common when I’m not joining in and getting shitfaced? Time will tell I guess.

      • @englishmum yes, sadly I lost a really good friend – or should I rephrase that too a really good drinking friend. We just don’t have anything in common anymore. 🙁 She also really doesn’t get it – and I have so many friends like that still – just can’t see what the problem is with drinking and why I can’t have ‘just one’. Probably why I’ve become a bit of a recluse – so fed up of trying to justify why I don’t drink lol

        • Hey I read recently that 30% of 18-25 year olds don’t drink alcohol. We’re ahead of our time, on trend and down with the kids 😂. Booze schmooze!! Who needs it? Pah!

    • So true! ❤️❤️

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Hi I’m also in the UK and have found this site so amazingly supportive. Hope you are well this lovely sunny day in the UK

    • Hi @mrsnomoreguilt. Lovely to meet you. We’ve been on l lovely family dog walk today and are just settling down to watch the rugby. Hope you’ve had a great day too. X

  • Day 244 and apparently I’ve saved over £1500 but that’s probably not true as I think I wasn’t totally accurate on the amount I drank when I first filled this in! Starting to get worried already about my first sober Christmas. Looked at a bottle of Baileys yesterday with fond memories – but they aren’t really fond memories. Drinking always ended up with me arguing with my husband, shouting, blacking out and then never remembering what else I said or did. Don’t miss those mornings waking up feeling shit, panic setting in, fear, anxiousness, dread and shame as I try to recall what happened the night before. However hard this sober journey is, it is so much better than my days drinking.

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    Yes – similar for me – so many ups and downs in the first 100 days, but after that it does calm down a little. I just ate lots of doughnuts!!!

  • Can’t quite get my head around the fact that after 7 months sober, I get some bad news re my health and HELLO to the WINE WITCH who’s come back with a vengeance. Is there no end to the torment of this horrific disease. Hate it 🙁 Still sober – just!!

    • I’m sorry to hear re your health. Is it fixable? Alcohol won’t help and u are a true legend seven months is too amazing to turn back now. Remember alcohol will destroy your health further no matter what the problem is.

    • Hi @mrsnomoreguilt sorry to hear you had some bad news about your health… I hope you are doing OK. It is quite normal for extreme emotions to make you think about drinking… after all, if you’re anything like me, it was your coping mechanism for a long time. The good news is that as time goes on and you learn and use new coping strategies you will think about drinking less and less. At just over two years sober I hardly ever think about it, and when I do the thoughts don’t have any power or emergency, they are just thoughts. Stick with it. And wishing you well. xx

    • 7 months is such a massive accomplishment!! oxoxox And you have my compassion about the health news. Please feel welcome to share your concerns here, if that feels comfortable. When I was about 6 months sober they found a tumor on my pituitary gland at the base of my brain…..and it turned my world upside down…You will see quite a few of us handled health news whilst sober…..and I am so grateful I ended up sharing what was going on with me at that time here…..As always, the members here made me feel less alone, and others with similar experiences gave me hope and energy to stay sober throughout all of the scary tests and the tense waiting for results…..etc….etc.

      oxoxoxox

      Hang in there. You are going to be ok.
      And I promise you that once the initial fear and shock and panic subsides, you will be so very glad you didn’t add alcohol to the mix.

    • Aw massive hugs ! Yes there is an end the wine witch will become a tiny wine itch that you will not even feel so there will be no need to scratch it xxx

    • 7 months to rewire how many years of drinking? How much volume of brainwashing from our booze drenched culture?
      This is not the instant gratification route, it’s the long game.
      Give yourself a break, and LOADS of time as you consciously work on neural pathways to see you through for life.
      Hope the health thing is easily curable, best wishes.

    • Awe hang in there @mrsnomoreguilt. 7 months is fantastic!! I’m sorry 2 hear you’ve had bad news re: your health. U need 2 be strong, clear headed & ready for the fight ahead whatever that may be. Alcohol is no ones friend. Taking it easy & lots of self care is a must! Good luck. Thoughts are with u xxx

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Yes I hate it too – the fact that we as ladies in the UK are supposed to drink and that if we don’t there is something very wrong with us. I especially hate all those memes on facebook about wine o clock, mums deserving a drink etc . The alcohol industry have got very good at brainwashing ladies into drinking. It’s so wrong….

    • @MrsNomoreguilt. It’s the same here. I am from and back living in New Orleans. Major drinking culture as well as all of the tourist that come here just to get drunk. Not all but most do. We have a lot of 24 hr pubs and drinking is allowed in the streets. It’s an alkies dream come true. The streets reek of rotten beer and urine early in the morning in certain areas. I am so happy not to be one still sitting in the pub at 7 am while the sun rises and begins to evaporate the stench. Done with that. There’s strong recovery here as well. Much needed!

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted an update 11 months ago

    Day 203 but had a really horrible alcohol related dream last night which saw me with a glass of wine in hand and people around me egging me to have that ‘just one drink’ ‘it won’t do any harm’ ‘you’ve done so well you obviously don’t have a problem anymore’ and then I took a drink!! It was pure hell and a reminder to me that the battle with this addiction is never over. Take care today all of you on your sober journey.

    • @MrsNomoreguilt, sometimes battles are won, but the war will continue for a lifetime. Carry on with your sword in hand!

    • Ugh. Drinking dreams are the worst. Glad it was only a dream!

    • Hate those dreams, but they are good reminders of how it feels to drink. Waking up feeling sad because you don’t want to drink is actually encouraging because it shows you how YOU really feel about alcohol…you hate it. Have a great day, enjoy your sober day!

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Yes saw that on breakfast news this morning – looks really good and his interview was amazing. It was so good he was trying to look at what an ‘alcoholic’ is and the stigma attached to the word and how we all get away with drinking our 2 bottles of wine a day because we justify it by saying we aren’t an alcoholic because we aren’t on a park bench or drinking in the morning. It’s what is so desperately needed – more people to wipe away the stigma and be honest about their drinking and what the different faces of alcoholism look like. Really looking forward to it. Maybe people can watch it on bbc i player if they have access to it

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted an update 1 year ago

    Day 170 and still not very good at telling friends I’ve quit drinking. Went for dinner with some really good friends last night and started eating a fruit salad that tasted a little funny when my host commented with a laugh how much alcohol was in it! I’d already eaten around 4 spoonfuls and nearly died on the spot. My evil addict self came out of hibernation telling me I’d blown it but thank goodness for day 170. There is strength in each day we don’t drink. I managed to calmly put my spoon down, stopped eating it and drank lots of water to rinse away what was if I’m honest a horrible taste. It really did taste like poison. I know I wouldn’t have been able to do that in the past so I’m so grateful for this long journey that I’m on and day 170. Please keep going if you are finding it hard as time is a great healer as they say. Blessings to you all today….

    • Wow. Day 170, strength. Yuck on the horrible poison.

      • Someone “accidentally” put vodka in my soda and juice once: it tasted like poison and I figured it out after a few sips too. I think of alcohol as a downer now. I have no desire to dampen my spirit! I think it should be perfectly “normal” for people to choose AF drinks; I don’t think people need some sort of “disclosure” from me, whenever I express my choice to be AF. “Be the change you want to see in the world”…D290 here

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  • MrsNomoreguilt posted an update 1 year ago

    Day 161 and I never thought in the last 10 years or so of trying to give up alcohol that I would reach this point but sooo grateful that I have. My quality of life, relationships, bank balance and emotions are all so much better for being AF. If you are struggling today or having a wobble, I can only say keep going and don’t give up. Life is, without any doubt whatsoever, better without alcohol.

    • Yay!!!! What a great post – good for you xxx

    • Good to hear, congrats on D161.

    • Love this – well done!

    • JR replied 1 year ago

      @mrsnomoreguilt – and love the name! That is so spot on how living this sobriety journey has me not feeling guilty or shameful for my wine-hazed behavior, emotions and reactions. xo

    • 161….you legend you!!! oxoxox Keep up the amazing self-care….I can promise you it does get better. Even if (maybe) some days or moments suck donkeyballs, it will continue to get better and better…I never thought that would be true and brushed it off as “sure, for SOME people that MAY be…but not me.”

      Well, my thoughts and beliefs were false. It is possible, and it feels amazing….

      oxoxoxxo

      Exciting things waiting for you along this path.
      Can’t wait to hear all about them!!!

    • You are absolutely right! Everything is so much better without alcohol!

    • R51 replied 1 year ago

      You are such an inspiration. Keep dancing the sobriety jig!

    • Really happy for you.have a great sober day

    • I agree life is so much better without alcohol, and it will only get better. Onward and upwards.

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Everyone has there own thoughts on AF free drinks but I really think that whatever works for you is the most important thing. I’ve tried giving up so many times in the past 14 years and failed and always felt that AF drinks would make things worse. This time though I was so desperate to give up drinking that when the cravings got unbearable I tried an AF beer and it was really what saved me from picking up an alcoholic drink again. I had a couple and had no desire at all to pick up a real beer. I enjoyed the taste of the beer but without the alcohol in the drink there was no addiction there – I simply enjoyed the taste and that was it. They really have been a life saver for me and I’m now approaching 6 months AF. But this is only my story and I wouldn’t disagree at all with other folk on here that they might not work for them. It has to be all about you and what you think will work and only you know that.

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    You CAN DO IT! We have all been where you are and many folk on here have managed not to drink for long periods so it can be done. But there is no denying it is hard. Not drinking is the hardest single thing I do on a daily basis. The addict voice will always try and convince you otherwise with a million different reasons why but don’t listen to it. Take one day at a time and give yourself goals. My first goal was to get to day 100 and that was a real turning point for me but it will be different for each one us. But the truth is your life and quality of life will be so much better without alcohol. Just never give up trying – even if you don’t manage it this time one day your day 1 will turn into so much more.

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted an update 1 year ago

    Day 143 and still going…just. The wine witch is still active but not shouting anymore, becoming more of a distant voice but still there none the less. ODAAT with some days still easier than others. Learning to face my emotions without alcohol is still the most difficult thing I find, but facing up to them sober I know is the only way forward. Blessings to you all today wherever you are on this difficult journey of sobriety and I hope today is a good day for you.

    • Day 143….beautiful self-care and self-respect wrapped up in that number…every single day.
      oxoxox

      And…did I read….”emotions”?….Oh boy….yeah….I am in therapy and have been for 4 years and they STILL catch me off-guard at times…it is real and you’re not alone with this. Keep on keeping on! It does get SO much easier…..

  • day 111 and the wine witch made a huge comeback yesterday when I went to the doctors and told I’d got to go to hospital for further tests. Really hadn’t thought about alcohol for a while and there she was shouting in my ear – ‘look what good not drinking has done you’ ‘you might as well drink now as you don’t know how long you have to live’ etc Anyway praise God for Becks Blue – I’m finding alcohol free lager a lifesaver when the wine witch bands loudly on my door. It just takes the edge off and helps me to calm down and tell the witch to go do one.

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 2 months ago

    amazing, so pleased for you

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 2 months ago

    me too – celebrating 100 days with you as i’m not sure anyone else in my life really gets it!

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 2 months ago

    Don’t do it – just get to the end of the day and sleep sober. You will be so grateful tomorrow you did. You can do it. Tell that wine witch to bugger off and leave you alone. You are in charge, not your addict other self.

  • Day 100 – the day I was aiming for at the start. Sharing it with you lovely people as you all will know how difficult the path has been so far and how hard it is to get here. So thank you to everyone for your kind words, encouragement and wisdom you have shared with me on my journey so far.

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 2 months ago

    Absolutely and I love her vulnerability and honesty. It was a lesson to me to be more courageous. I’m still telling people i’ve quit the drink because of x y and z and not because I have a problem. I wish I had her strength to be so open. i’m hoping it will come.

    • I love this video by Clare Pooley. Especially flipping our thinking around regarding recovery. I no longer think of myself as a recovering alcoholic which to me is very negative. I prefer to think of myself as alcohol free or a sober warrior. Thanks for posting it.

      • Absolutely and I love her vulnerability and honesty. It was a lesson to me to be more courageous. I’m still telling people i’ve quit the drink because of x y and z and not because I have a problem. I wish I had her strength to be so open. i’m hoping it will come.

    • I love Clare Pooley, and this talk she did is so awesome. Very cool

    • This is great, thanks for sharing

    • Thank you for posting Clare’s talk. Inspirational.

    • Love this. Thank you. 🙂

  • Really enjoying reading the sober diaries by clare pooley. Would recommend it if you are in need of a good giggle. Very honest book from her blog http://mummywasasecretdrinker.blogspot.com/ about giving up alcohol after being a very heavy drinker for most of her adult life and a fantastic chapter on the endless day 1’s that happen to so many of us. I’ve had so many day 1’s over the past 12 years I really have lost count but today I’m celebrating day 97 so please, never give up giving up as one day your day 1 will turn into something more.

    • I’ll have to check out that link. But first, your post made me think of those countless mornings over several years, where you wake up with a booming hangover, worried about what you emailed the night before, or said to somebody…..and thought “I have got to stop drinking”. Then of course, you’re feeling better by early afternoon and drinking again at 5. Is that a day 1 ? If it is, then maybe we should only count the day 2’s. Just a thought. More importantly, I want to pass along early congrats on your approaching day 100, a favorite milestone of mine. I would bet my boots that you’re going to make it, and isn’t it great?

    • Enjoy her very much. Congrats!

    • Thanks for the link, will def check her out….sounds kinda like my life. or, my old life i should say. happy sober day, friend!

    • @mrsnomoreguilt Sober Mummy was one of the first blogs I found when I started my sober journey. It gave me so much hope, I loved her style. The Bubble Hour Podcast was also another goodie and then of course I found this site. They’re all great tools. Stay close. Congrats on almost D100. You’re doing awesome!!

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 2 months ago

    fantastic – enjoy the feeling

  • Day 91, 3 months and I can honestly say I didn’t think I’d make it but thanks to all of you for your encouragement and wise words, here I am. If you are struggling in those early days – please don’t give up. I never really believed it when people said it gets easier but it really does. I’ve had so many failed attempts for over 15 years and this could be another one of them, but today I’m celebrating not feeling guilty because I got drunk again and can’t remember what I said, not beating myself up for being a complete failure and loser, not feeling like this torment will never end, not craving every piece of sugar I can get my hands on, not feeling so depressed I want to spend the day in bed crying, not feeling like this disease has taken over my life. If you are struggling today – I can only say it is worth it and here I am taking one day at a time as I know how vulnerable I can be around alcohol. Happy sober Sunday everyone… sending a big hug to those of you that need one today.

    • Hooray @Mrsnomoreguilt!!! Congrats on 91 days of awesomeness! I can relate to your post so much. I’m so glad to be on this journey with you and the others here at LS, it really has helped tremendously. Have a wonderful day!!! xox

    • You are amazing. Congrats on 91 days and thank you for this post today. I’m so thankful that we don’t have to live like that anymore. xo

    • I love Sober Sundays! Congratulations to you:)

    • Congratulations on 91 days! Thank you for your post, it’s great to have a reminder of the benefits of sobriety. I certainly don’t miss the horrible feelings tormenting, and the constant struggle of trying to get through the day only to not be able to sleep properly. Gee the things we put ourselves and loves ones through.

      I hope you have a wonderful day 🙂

    • 91 days….amazing!!!! Way to go!!!
      oxoxox

    • Ah, so great to hear. Big congrats on hard won sobriety.

    • Huge congrats on 3 months!!! You are doing so great!

  • Day 89, and have discovered Becks Blue – with a bit of lemonade I’m enjoying AF beer. Takes the edge off a hot day if you know what I mean. Starting to find that since giving up the booze there are so many more emotions that must have been numbed over the years and starting to work through these is proving challenging. It feels like my whole personality has been exposed to the public and I’m not sure whether that’s a good thing.

    • Day 89…so so close to triple digits!!!!
      oxxoxoxox

      And those feelings…man….I found it especially hard between a few weeks in and 6 months as so MUCH came up and it’s full on. No hiding spot. You face those storms over and over again, without numbing anything. It does get sooooo much easier and the way out, is through. It’s also ok to involve professional help, if you would feel more comfortable with that. I needed a therapist there for a while and only now, 4 years later, I am slowly feeling like a functional complete adult, who is capable of feeling it all and not breaking down and going into flight, fight, freeze or fawn. (or two bottles of Pinot Noir…..)

      You got this.
      It will be ok.
      Keep up the good self-care there!! It is key….so is self-compassion.

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    but on the flip side – eating chocolate, cakes and my favourite – doughnuts is a great way to spend time and forget about drinking . Literally I have stuffed my face full of sweet things for the last 76 days and enjoyed every moment of it.

    • My early days AF my sugar cravings were so bad I constantly ate peanut butter out the jar! I had no idea I would be so bad without the sugar from the wine. I eventually switched to dark chocolate which I had to wean myself off of because I would eat a whole bag every night. Now thankfully I only crave sugar once in a while, it took me a few months also for the cravings to subside @MrsNomoreguilt

  • Day 77 and finally the sugar cravings are beginning to subside and I’m finally losing weight – Well 1 pound but it’s a start. Still feeling anxious about failing and the last couple of days my addict voice has reared it’s oh so subtle head saying – well now you must be cured – you’ve gone this long – so one drink won’t hurt – WHAT a LIE – so trying to stay strong and still living ODAAT…blessings to you all out there today struggling with the demon alcohol and the ‘wine witch’ . Never give up giving up,

    • 77 days for the sugar cravings to start going?? Shoot me now, I am on day 18

      • but on the flip side – eating chocolate, cakes and my favourite – doughnuts is a great way to spend time and forget about drinking . Literally I have stuffed my face full of sweet things for the last 76 days and enjoyed every moment of it.

        • My early days AF my sugar cravings were so bad I constantly ate peanut butter out the jar! I had no idea I would be so bad without the sugar from the wine. I eventually switched to dark chocolate which I had to wean myself off of because I would eat a whole bag every night. Now thankfully I only crave sugar once in a while, it took me a few months also for the cravings to subside @MrsNomoreguilt

    • Yay @Gigi47!!!! I’m not the only person who heads for the peanut butter jar!!! Still, it’s cheaper and healthier than alcohol 🙂

    • Amazing – 77 days!!! And yes, booze is a lie!! ODAAT. oxxo

    • Definitely @jo14 whatever works 🙂

    • 77 days is amazing…..you go!!! oxoxoxo
      It will all be ok, because you have time to get to where you want to be. Whether it is weight loss, or fitness level, sobriety brings so much opportunity with it. And it keeps on getting better, I can promise you that.

      oxxoxo

      Keep up the good self-care!

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Amen to that – yes I’m in the uk – gorgeous and sunny, up early without a hangover and ready to write an assignment – have a great day…

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Yesssss – me – I’m day 67 too and it doesn’t get any easier. Recently felt sooo grumpy that I wanted to cave in to stop feeling so shit – but kept reminding myself of all the good things about not drinking but it was so hard. Feeling your pain….

  • Day 67 – Been a while since I’ve posted but wanted to say hi and I hope everyone is OK. Still having really good days and really bad days – and the bad days just come out of the blue. Resigned myself to the fact I will always crave a drink for the rest of my life but not having that first one is the most important thought to keep hold of.

    • Wow! Two day 67s! Congrats@Clare41 and @MrsNomoreguilt! I’m so proud of you both.

    • yes!!! Stay the course, play the tape forward, nothing and i mean nothing ever good will come from drinking. Well done on 67 days! Amazing!

    • Great work @mrsnomoreguilt!!! 67 days!! Over two months!! Sorry there are still cravings. I try to remember that even a bad day sober is still better than a Day 1 after an alcohol binge. xox

    • Well done on day 67 – we should be pretty proud right?! I read somewhere (the sober diaries?) that the good days can start to outnumber the bad at around 3 months. In the mean time I’m cheering myself up by eating Nutella out of the jar…

    • Hey, here’s the good news: Keep working on yourself – your mental, physical and spiritual health – and you WON’T crave a drink for the rest of your life. One day you’ll wake up and realise it’s just gone, that you haven’t thought about it in, you don’t know how long, weeks?

      Congrats on 67. Wonderful achievement.

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    I’m so with you – all of those are triggers and I’m uk time and 5 o clock is wine oclock….I’ve got into box sets – really try to look forward to them and they take my mind off drinking at those points where i’d be pouring a bottle of wine down my throat before planning the next one – try netflix and prime -I’m so sad I have both now ;0

  • Day 46 in the UK and the hottest day of the year, blue skies all round. It’s funny how some days are so much easier than others and it’s so easy to forget how difficult it is when you have a good day and then – wham –it comes out of nowhere and it’s a bad day – so for all of you out there having a difficult day – hang in there as tomorrow could be a fantastic day and as someone said on here – a difficult sober day is worth way more than a happy drunk day…love you all xxx

    • We are doing “life” together….hard days are challenging and good days are beautiful. That is the normal. Do not reach for alcohol, cause it ain’t fixing anything. Enjoy your lov day.

    • It certainly has been the most beautiful day here @MrsNomoreguilt . Been a long time coming! Now settling down for a golden sunset….perfect end to the day. Thank you for the quote, I love that & missed it first time round! Happy drunk days most often crash into something unpleasant to deal with! So Who needs them! Congrats on day 46, that is brilliant. Well done you! Xxx

    • I agree @MrsNomoreguilt. My last drinking year anyway did not have happy drinking days. My relationship with wine went sour….I just need to remind myself of that every time my Goliah visits and try to engulf me.

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    I so sympathise – my son plays that game non stop but the headphones are a life saver. I would always have a glass or 3 of wine by 5 oclock which would always take the edge off the day – but now I have to live through the pain

    • @mrsnomoreguilt I’ve bought a few headsets, they all seem to pack in after a while. I guess that might be my carrot to drag them out the house tomorrow…. shopping for new headsets lol

  • Day 40 today and I’m so grateful to everyone on here for all your support and kind words. Just knowing I’m not alone in this makes such a difference. There is no short cut to this terrible addiction and the longer I go on I am so aware that each moment sober is a step in the right direction. I love Russell Brand’s wisdom from his book about addiction: You don’t have to not drink for twenty years today. You don’t have to give up white bread for all eternity, right now. This “one day at a time” cliché when taken plainly is no less profound than any “be in the moment” Eastern wisdom I’ve since encountered. Today is all I have.’

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    yes I totally agree – I’ve become obsessed with box sets

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    Amazing – enjoy our lovely uk weather – pouring with rain where I am – so glad you are OK and day 37 for me too 🙂

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    If you can get through this time you can truly get through anything – you make my problems insignificant – lets hang in there together

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    That is truly awful – I am so sorry and no one can understand the pain you are going through. I would be hitting the bottle so I have true admiration for you keeping sober – just one second at a time is all it takes – sending lots of love your way

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    yes I had some terrible headaches – one so bad I thought I was having a stroke as I couldn’t see out of one eye properly – but they seemed to have passed now thank goodness

  • Day 35 and it was such a difficult weekend and so nearly gave in but didn’t – and that’s all that matters….

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    yes I feel exactly the same today, day 35. I feel like I could burst into tears today for no reason and yesterday I was up there with the best of them. Still struggling with these lows as all I want to do is drown them out, but I know they will come back screaming even louder. Like you, taking one day at a time and 1 minute at a time. Hang in there….

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    fantastic – thank you

  • Day 32 and have a very stressful weekend to negotiate so dreading it if I’m honest, but keeping it one day at a time and it’s only wednesday!!

    • You’ve got this! As hard as it is try to focus on today. If you keep going to the weekend, indulge the thoughts by thinking of ways to squeeze in breathers and self care. Even something small is helpful. Like, can you fit a stop for a favorite coffee or treat? Can you sneak away for 20 minutes by yourself to sit and regroup?
      Good luck!!

    • oxoxxox

      32 days is amazing self-care summed up in that first full month done and dusted…….way to go!!!! Difficult phases suck, but luckily you only have to do them moment by moment. Maybe schedule something you can look forward to for next week…..something to get you through triggers. Like a massage, a dinner with a friend….

    • Keep it in the day my friend…..don’t worry about the weekend yet….it causes unnecessary anxiety. Keep posting over the weekend if you feel yourself slipping. We are here for you…you got this!! 32 days is amazing and nothing will be worth a slip.

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    Never give up trying – and don’t let your guilt and failures weigh you down. Day 1 is a fantastic place to start because you have so much to look forward to – a new sober you

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    I know – I’m actually not wearing any make up at the moment which is a first for a long time in front of people – where are you in the uk

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    hi @rosepetal098 i’m in the uk and day 29 for me and yes I’m so glad too that I’ve woken up today with no hangover. My hubby drank last night and he looks soooo tired today – I don’t miss those big dark circles under my eyes – happy bank holiday

  • MrsNomoreguilt posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    I’ve found this site so amazingly supportive – so I echo what everyone else has said – you are definitely not alone…..so much encouragement here with so many people having such honest stories to tell

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