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  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Still pretty stressed but hydrated 😀 and a clear head to think straight. It sounds a bit strange but I’m really noticing the vibrancy of colours – the blue sky, the trees, plants etc. my world has come alive 😃

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Thank you so much!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    It sure does! Incredible journey-loving it

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Thank you!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Thank you!

  • Day 82 sober . . . and I’ve just had a oooohhhhh! moment where I’ve realised in the last 82 days I haven’t had a suicide thought! Wow! I would have these thoughts fairly regularly, normally at 3 am when I would beat myself up swearing that I would not drink the next night but then would. If anyone is thinking about giving up alcohol I thoroughly recommend this journey. This week I have been notified by my employer that my job is ending due to sale of business so stress levels are high and I haven’t been sleeping well but given this stress I am still able to keep positive, enjoy nature and look forward to spring. Life is so much better without alcohol. I never thought this journey could be so positive but it is. Give it a go! 🙂

    • Now that’s an inspiration – thank you 😊

    • It surely is so much better and you are probably handling the stress of having to find new work better sober than hungover. I am really looking forward to spring as well it really makes me feel more at ease, something about the birds singing and the weather being nicer.

      • Still pretty stressed but hydrated 😀 and a clear head to think straight. It sounds a bit strange but I’m really noticing the vibrancy of colours – the blue sky, the trees, plants etc. my world has come alive 😃

    • Wow – an impactful change. Very well done!

    • Brilliant love it, Yup sober living makes us better people x

    • Great work! Sorry to hear about your job. But at least you’re in.a good place to deal with it with a clear head. A door closes – a window opens. Good luck.

    • Hello Mrs. Finally Free. Congrats on the 82 days. I will be interested to read what door opens for you since the current employment is closing. Keep us posted.

    • That is really wonderful news about your mood and thoughts. May you get a job that suits you well too.

  • Just returned from holiday and unpacking. I read the book This Naked Mind by Annie Grace while being away and my 17 year old son asked if he could read it as I was popping it on to the book shelf! He said “Mum, I’ve been invited to an after ball with the ball season coming up and I want to know more about alcohol”. I am trying to contain myself with excitement! I’m so proud that he is curious for the right reasons. He said the other day that he’s pleased that Dad and I have given up alcohol. We’ve been off it for 2 months and life is getting better and better. 😃

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Nearly 100 days! That’s amazing! I’m just returning from a Thailand holiday where drinks are so cheap. I was really anxious about my holiday and me caving into drinking but I didn’t and I’m so proud. You can too! While I was away I read the book “this naked mind” by Annie Grace. This kept me grounded. Well worth reading! Enjoy your holiday and someone on this site gave me the advice to order the most expensive mock tail! Love it!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks @marie2, yes when I’m tired I worry too much. Isn’t going out for dinner now so much cheaper! I’m starting to learn about what my preferred non alcoholic drinks are when we go out. Really appreciate your reply, thank you

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks so much @maryb for your honesty. You’re absolutely right about focusing on all the lovely things that a holiday provides. Changing the way I think is my challenge but you’ve helped me here so thank you. Enjoy your holiday!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks @morgan for the encouragement with reading, I feel like that will help and of course the brain switch is key with everything. I really appreciate your reply

  • Hi everyone, I’m struggling with stress big time at the moment. I have developed a stomach ulcer so cannot even enjoy my daily coffee. Had a situation at work on Thursday . . . I’m in a front line role at a GP practice, patient come in three times throughout the day high on meth and drunk on alcohol, he’s completely out of it, aggressive, demanding and has homicidal thoughts! OMG! Phoned the Police and Mental Health, neither of whom were going to turned up unless the other had. That’s really helpful, NOT! 3 female staff managing safety of other patients and hoping this guy doesn’t trash the nurses office too much as we hear banging and crashing. My husband turns up thank goodness, followed by a policeman shortly after. Anyway my work have given me wine to chill out over weekend – really nice of them but none of them know that I’m now AF for 7 weeks and hope to continue on this very hard road. Also my workmates caught up last night over drinks which I couldn’t attend due to travelling with my son looking at a University for his study next year (huge day!). But last night I was seriously thinking should I give this hard AF thing the flick?? I knew I had wine given to me waiting for me when I got home. And to top it off we are heading on a family holiday this week to the cheapest cocktail capital of the world! Today I’m going to be ordering some hard core books to read while I sip on mocktails by the pool in a weeks time. Feeling low and emotional. Any tips to get through a first holiday AF would be greatly appreciated! Thanks peeps for hearing me vent xx

    • The reading idea is great, and maybe committing to posting here at least twice a day.
      Everything depends on the brain switch – instead of dreading missing out, can you begin or continue to celebrate the health, the mental clarity, living fully for every moment rather than hazing out and wrecking your body with a toxic carcinogen?

    • I failed abysmally on holiday a few weeks ago. I don’t fly well, my IBS is bad on planes so I don’t eat or drink on flying days. That evening I hit the restaurant dehydrated and starving, for some reason I started on G&T it didn’t take many. I’d forgotten what hangovers feel like!! That was a bad one but I learnt more from that one than any of the others. We go away again in a couple of months and this time I’m concentrating on the lovely weather, reading material (yes I’ve got some stuff put away that I don’t get time for at home) I’m taking my journal and I’m going to write and spend some time with “me”. I’m going to have some lovely coffees, some gorgeous cakes and lots of beautiful food I don’t have to shop for or cook for. I can’t enjoy any of this when I’m drunk and you know what its not worth it. I ruined the first 2 days of my last holiday. So silly. Enjoy your holiday (free of troublesome patients) and pick the most expensive mocktails you can find and have a lovey time you deserve it.

      • Thanks so much @maryb for your honesty. You’re absolutely right about focusing on all the lovely things that a holiday provides. Changing the way I think is my challenge but you’ve helped me here so thank you. Enjoy your holiday!

    • Sorry you have had such a stress time of it x. I was worried about my first mini-break away AF as it was a place I love and usually a very boozy break. I just did all the same things (including lunch at a winery) but ordered non-alcoholic drinks and took some of my special fruit tea away with me. It was fine and I had a great time! I think I had built the worry up too much by focusing about what I couldn’t do vs everything I still could (plus cheaper! plus felt amazing and not hung over! ).

      • Thanks @marie2, yes when I’m tired I worry too much. Isn’t going out for dinner now so much cheaper! I’m starting to learn about what my preferred non alcoholic drinks are when we go out. Really appreciate your reply, thank you

  • Just got my blood test results back after over 6 weeks off alcohol. I’ve always had low iron levels until this result. My iron levels are now well in the mid healthy range (no supplements taken). It’s got me asking the question “Does alcohol change the iron levels in your body?” Maybe it’s common knowledge – I don’t know. Fascinating journey! Have a great day everyone 🙂

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Well Done @dennyd day 9! Its so good!

  • Just hopped online after a busy few days and have been reading a few posts here. I’d like to say you are all amazing! Keep going with your goals. We are all in this together and I’m so grateful to be part of this blog. I’m 40 days AF today and I’m a bit shocked that I’ve come this far after 18 years or so on the wine. I’m feeling great generally, a few ups and downs but that’s life and alcohol makes life so much harder. Thank you everyone for sharing. Be strong 💪 Keep going AF! It’s so great!! 😀

  • MrsFinallyFree posted an update 2 months ago

    After reading Mrs D’s post on bravery this morning and reaching 5 weeks AF I was inspired to grow some balls and tell my two closest friends whom I used to binge drink with. I told them this morning and it was scary as I worry about what they will think. They surprised me, one has invited us out for dinner and the other said that that’s wonderful that I’m looking after myself. I’m glad that I’ve told them as I have been really worried. Big day but yay I can now continue to learn more about whom I am and enjoy the benefits of being AF. Phew!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thanks heaps!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thank you!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted an update 2 months ago

    5 weeks free from alcohol today. So glad to support from this site as I don’t think I’d have got this far without it and feeling strong in maintaining this new way of life. I just don’t want to put that nasty toxin in my body. Have a great weekend everyone 🙂

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Fantastic planning! You are doing so well. Enjoy your night!

  • Yay day 27! Feeling upbeat today after a stressful week with one of our teenagers, husband away and stress at work. Learning to treat myself so in one hour I’m off to have reflexology! The old days would have seen me trying to drown all those things with wine – not now!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    @mrs d 26 days for me and going pretty well. Am reading your first book at the moment and loving it. Loving this website also. I’m so very grateful to access this kind of support as I really don’t think I could be this strong without it. Thank you! By the way my husband has joined me with being AF even though he’s never thought he had an issue with booze until the other day when he said maybe he does. That was a WOW moment for me! Very grateful x

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    @prudence You are Amazing and Inspiring!!!!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    @deester Yes I’m very thankful for this blog too

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Thank you! @tom4500

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Well done @k1w1 thanks for your response

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Thank you! @agirl

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you @ro – love the 3 month goal idea! Will definitely put into practice. Thanks 😊

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks @getclear for your response. I’ve been evaluating the triggers for my drinking, when it really started as a nightly habit etc. most of it has to do with allowing toxic people in my life and giving them too much power. Understanding this has been really helpful as I chose now who to spend my time with. Even though I feel vulnerable right now my husband tells me that I’m a different person already – for the better. Hang in there! Im determined to continue and I’m sure you can too. One step at a time.

  • 21 days today and you’d think I’d be overjoyed with my achievement but to be honest I’m a little anxious about being AF FOREVER! It seems big. One day at a time. I cannot go back! Way too many benefits with being AF. No more eczema, asthma, a lot more energy, focus and blissful sleep all night long. I cannot go back. Just going to take time adjusting to my new life and the new me. In the last week I’ve had an honest revelation that I actually do have an addiction issue. In my prideful state I would’ve never admitted to addiction. Far out brussel sprout it’s incredible that I’m actually typing this. Whoa, times are changing, I’m changing, crickey who knows who I am. It’s scary and hard but exciting all in one.

    • @mrsfinallyfree ….I hear you! Made it to day 23 and lost my footing again! I think it gets worse for me every time I have to restart. Do you think discovering our new personalities without booze scares us? Sometimes I think that’s it for me

      • Thanks @getclear for your response. I’ve been evaluating the triggers for my drinking, when it really started as a nightly habit etc. most of it has to do with allowing toxic people in my life and giving them too much power. Understanding this has been really helpful as I chose now who to spend my time with. Even though I feel vulnerable right now my husband tells me that I’m a different person already – for the better. Hang in there! Im determined to continue and I’m sure you can too. One step at a time.

    • You should be stoked on yourself 21 days is great! Why don’t you set yourself a 3 month goal to start with instead of labels like ‘forever’ and it might not feel quite so extreme. Get to 3 months and re-evaluate from there. Well done you 😊

    • It sounds like your body is really enjoying being AF. Scary and hard and exciting- so true. Also doable. You can do this, and it’s worth it. Sounds like you are also getting to know “you”? Massive congrats on day 21!

    • I was 5 years sober in February which was my goal. I still don’t say forever, just for today I am sober. My goal is 10 years then I will reevaluate. Maybe then a new goal of 15 years, knowing the benefits and living regret free is the best

    • I have to smile reading your post, it is exciting and scary all in one. And, it’s very good for you. Push on, great things await.

    • Congrats MrsFinallyFree. I am waking up at day 40. I too had to realize I have a problem with alcohol. And coincidentally, it was this week that I was that honest with myself. There have been a few days here and there that I went to ‘forever’ and remembered what Belle recommended – avoid overwhelm. I am so glad we have this blog.

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you so much for your encouragement. This website is a massive help!

  • Isn’t waking up AF each morning the best thing in the world?! Loving it!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    I loved it too! 😄

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you! Yes a little anxiety in the lead up but I managed and actually enjoyed it in the end

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you! Yes he made comment several times. In fact my daughter and him said they’ll see how long I’ll last with being sober. That was like a knife in the heart. Gathered myself pretty quickly which was unusual but great! He felt uncomfortable when I started dancing round the room at breakfast to our favorite childhood disco song. He said …. and your sober?! He felt too uncomfortable to join in without his lubricator. Pretty cool 😎

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Yes my brother normally carries around champagne rather than a water bottle and doesn’t know sober in social situations. Very ab fab!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Big thanks!!!

  • Day 16 and a night this weekend with my brother whom I normally drink with, actually I’d drink with everybody. Anyway did a whole 24 hours with him and I was sober. It was hard as lots of emotions reared their ugly heads but boy instead of using wine to cope, I faced them. I realize I have heaps of sorting out to do with my emotions. It was great to become aware of them as ugly as they are. My world is opening up. It’s raw and scary but I know it’s so good! Roll on the three week milestone 🙂

    • Wow Finallyfree that’s huge. Well done you.

    • That is so great, well done you

    • Aren’t all those situations where we would ‘normally drink’ soo noticeable now, @MrsFinallyFree?! Uncomfortable, even. It’s like the white elephant in the room and we’re the only ones seeing it. Our brains chemistry does heal over time, as long as we don’t put alcohol into our system. Your day count is climbing so well. Your brother will have noticed a cool change in you, for sure. Powerful stuff.

      • Thank you! Yes he made comment several times. In fact my daughter and him said they’ll see how long I’ll last with being sober. That was like a knife in the heart. Gathered myself pretty quickly which was unusual but great! He felt uncomfortable when I started dancing round the room at breakfast to our favorite childhood disco song. He said …. and your sober?! He felt too uncomfortable to join in without his lubricator. Pretty cool 😎

    • Sober time spent with your brother! If he’s anything like mine, I’d say that’s an epic achievement. Congrats on 3 weeks. It’s definitely scary – but once you go through it one time sober, you know what you’re dealing with and can take it on rationally. Way to go!

      • Yes my brother normally carries around champagne rather than a water bottle and doesn’t know sober in social situations. Very ab fab!

    • Big accomplishment right there! Your sober muscles got stronger through that. oxoxox

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Well done! Congrats on 60 days! I can relate to what you are saying. 2 weeks for me today and feel so different. Can’t wait to reach 60 days. Go you!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks for this. I’ve just about finished her sober diaries book which I was given for mother’s day. Thanks to her book this is why I’ve changed my ways. I feel so blessed. I’m 12 days in.

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    This is so helpful, thank you. Great job getting to 4 months. I can’t wait! Keep going!

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thank you! It’s horrible to think what we were doing to our bodies. I had no idea.

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks so much Juliana. With some understanding of what’s happening will make it slightly easier to go with the flow. Have a great day

  • Needing some advice … day 12 for me and up to 2 days ago have been feeling great however now waking at 3am, feeling irritable, grumpy and a bit emotional. Doesn’t help feeling so tired. I wonder if these are withdrawal symptoms? I didn’t think I’d get them thinking that drinking 2.5 drinks most days for many years would be enough to have these symptoms. I’ve been proven wrong many times though. Any thoughts would be really appreciated. I feel bad for my family as I’m not my lovely self. Thank you

    • I had trouble sleeping for the first several weeks and then slept a lot for 3 or 4 months. Someone here suggested looking up PAWS (post acute withdrawal syndrome, I think). I think my sleep problems and later tiredness were probably PAWS symptoms. After about 6 months I felt fine again.

      • Thanks so much Juliana. With some understanding of what’s happening will make it slightly easier to go with the flow. Have a great day

    • I went up and down for about 4-5 months, @Mrsfinallyfree. Deep, wonderful sleep one night and 2 hours the next. It’ll take some time for your brain to adjust. But it’s worth it!

    • Yes. That happened to me to. I’m just finally getting into being able to sleep through the whole night. My emotions were very much up and down as well. Most days okay, but then suddenly blue and teary. It will pass. It keeps getting better. I agree with you that it’s very very help to hear how others have felt as they’ve journeyed down this road. I’m in my 4th month. I don’t know what to expect going forwards.

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    Huge congratulations to you! Well done😄

  • MrsFinallyFree posted an update 3 months ago

    I’ve just completed 7 days AF!!!!!! I’ve never done 7 days. The last time would’ve been when I was pregnant 14 years ago! Which leads me to ask why could I give up alcohol without a second thought when pregnant but I struggle to give it up for myself?! The benefits this week have been endless. I feel so good. But still one day at a time as the wine witch is still present with nasty suggestions and pressure. This is my new life now. I am determined to break this habit.

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Welcome! This place is so helpful

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