I used to be a boozy housewife guzzling wine like it was going out of fashion and now I'm quite the opposite - very happily sober! What a turnaround. My sobriety date is September 6, 2011. I set up this site in August, 2014 in conjunction with 2 NZ Govt Agencies .. and with their ongoing support we are fortunate that this site remains free and safe for all. I manage all the content here (writing blog posts, Sober Stories, mocktail recipes etc) and supervise our team of volunteer Community Moderators. You can get hold of me any time by notifying me in the feed (@mrs-d) or emailing me at email@example.com
I'm also active on Facebook (Mrs D Is Going Without), Twitter (@mrsdalcoholfree) and Instagram (@mrs_d_alcoholfree) and I have two books out about my recovery. 'Mrs D Is Going Without' tells the story of how I quit and 'Mrs D Is Going Within' tells the story of how I developed lasting tools to help me live sober long term. I also write a sober blog called Mrs D Is Going Without which you can find at (www.livingwithoutalcohol.blogspot.com). Great to have you here with us!
Great observations @Seni and you did real good. Its very interesting being on the other side of it all and looking with clarity. The people I was out with last night, my friends girlfriend who I’m only just starting to know, changed so noticeably as the night went on, but was oblivious to this fact. I cringe to think of all the sober (or less…[Read more]
Thank you @prudence. It’s encouraging to read, that you can understand my experiences and feelings. On that party yesterday I also thought “OMG, how often did other people watch me stagger or hear me talking rubbish with a – as we say in German – heavy tongue?” One of the guests was the mother of a former pupil of mine. I was very glad, that she…[Read more]
It’s wunderful to be in community with you and the others. It’s evening meanwhile and still I’m feeling so inspired, happy and thankful. I got the feeling, that the party was a kind of sobriety-exam and I passed it. Have a wonderful day!
Indeed I feel like growing up in these times, like finally becoming a real adult person. Not a childish, insecure woman who fears someone could recognize that she is not able to do her job or to raise her children. In the past I asked myself a hundred times, why I still felt like a 15-year-old-girl in the body of a woman. How did all the others…[Read more]
I think I have got some muddled parts of my brain back! Writing up my year for registration, it was as if I was back in the flow of my best university days. It was even enjoyable, and I could synthesise concepts, ideas/ theories and link them to my practice and progress.
I feared I would look the next day and find it was a false dream, there…[Read more]
so bloody awesome @morgan! I’m definitely needing to get over my ‘foggy’ brain. I guess my poor brain has been like a sponge, marinating in sauvignon blanc, for far too long. Going to take a while to ‘wring it out’ I guess! I think the sugar thing helps too, you’ve inspired me, must go back to my healthy eating habits! xoxo
@mrs-d in 2012 my mum wanted me to read a poem at my Dad’s funeral. Didnt want to.. but ypu know, so like.. this is how i know my dad.. my choice of poem.. my choice of going out music, my dad stipulated that, funny now you say, think my sisters gutted by his express wishes for me to contribute. Love to your fabulous husband at this time. Xo
You are so amazing @mrs-d such an awesome example of what can happen when we get sober. Being there for your husband and family and still making the time to go speak at an event about recovery when you are going through a hard time. Such an inspiration. Thanks for all you do. Prayers for the upcoming week. My heart hurts for you, Mr. D and fam.
You are such an inspiration. I have been thinking of sharing my sober story with colleagues in social work. You are setting the stage, @mrs-d. Our thoughts and warm regard are with your family at this tough time💙
Good morning team. After a very busy few weeks with all the house sale problems and research into a new project and the big gathering weekend catching up with my sober soul sisters and one brother, then getting all the end of year financial stuff completed and off to the accountant, things are rather calm and slow now. It was good for a couple of…[Read more]
I know what you mean, I think…. I live out in the suburbs and it can feel a little quiet and isolating at times… been thinking of moving closer into the city where you can walk out your door and there’s life amd things going on…. day and night.
No, I’m out in suburbia…. highland park…. endless residential streets and the only place open at night to congregate is the local Carls Junior….. not true actually, there are a couple of bars and Chinese restaurants…. feels like the suburbs is for families and retired people…. I miss the buzz of living in a city…..
I had the opposite, a busy social weekend, practice at dinner hosting again, one notably with the close friend who politely pushes wine – just a small one? and posts endless wine FB photos; cannot be a holiday without it.
Wonderful to have a peaceful start to the day before a little work and then a minor volunteering mission. My best way to work,…[Read more]
Thanks for the offer @Morgan I’ll text you if I’m going to take you up on that……and yes, I have been known to have a quiet chat amongst myself!!! hahaha There have been some nice properties out Tai Tapu way, Georgia is often looking but they are way over their budget. Have a happy day xox
I’m so sorry, she was one of life’s special ones Lotta @mrs-d. She touched so many children’s lives, she brought fun, humour, music and love into the classroom. She will be greatly missed by our little community. She was one of our most favourite teachers ever. The tributes to her have already begun on our Facebook page. No one forgot being taught…[Read more]
I’m so sorry to hear your sad news @mrs-d. She sounds so lovely and although no longer physically present it’s always a comfort to know they are at peace but still watching over all their loved ones. Lots of love and thoughts to you and your family.…[Read more]
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