I used to be a boozy housewife guzzling wine like it was going out of fashion and now I'm quite the opposite - very happily sober! What a turnaround. My sobriety date is September 6, 2011. I set up this site in August, 2014 in conjunction with 2 NZ Govt Agencies .. and with their ongoing support we are fortunate that this site remains free and safe for all. I manage all the content here (writing blog posts, Sober Stories, mocktail recipes etc) and supervise our team of volunteer Community Moderators. You can get hold of me any time by notifying me in the feed (@mrs-d) or emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I'm also active on Facebook (Mrs D Is Going Without), Twitter (@mrsdalcoholfree) and Instagram (@mrs_d_alcoholfree) and I have two books out about my recovery. 'Mrs D Is Going Without' tells the story of how I quit and 'Mrs D Is Going Within' tells the story of how I developed lasting tools to help me live sober long term. I also write a sober blog called Mrs D Is Going Without which you can find at (www.livingwithoutalcohol.blogspot.com).
Hi @mrs-d thank you for that. I have just done both the things that you said but it hasn’t changed. Also when I begin to type in the comment space it kind of jumps and I have to painstakingly scroll to find where I am again. It is a pity becuase this device is so comfortabe and easy for in bed or on the big orange chair, that’s why I like it so…[Read more]
Hey @prudence it’s good you’ve got another device to use but I would seriously consider getting a techie person to look at your tablet in person because there is obviously something wrong there. I’m 99% confident that it’s a localised issue to you because no other member has mentioned such a problem and they haven’t chimed in when you bring it…[Read more]
Perhaps I will do again what you said, maybe I didn’t do it right, although your instructions were perfect and very easy to follow. When I hit clear cache, nothing really happened to show me it was being cleared. But hey, thanks for your concern. For now I’ve got a feather pillow on my lap so the new one sits more comfortably. Those techie people…[Read more]
Yes that will be why @mrs-d I didn’t see it at all. I saw the related articles but did not think to scroll to below them because it is not logical. It will be good if he can change it because I think it is really great for the people who write things, incuding you, to get the feedback they deserve. Dan was going to look into why the site does not…[Read more]
Thank you for reposting that @mrs-d and thank YOU @sunshinestace for sharing your story. Although some of the details are different (eg I am not a parent) there are a lot of similarities. I sometimes think “I wasnt that bad” and people often say “You didnt drink that much” … but they dont know the truth. I too hid wine bottles in the bin so…[Read more]
Omg! I feel like laughing and crying all at once – I was exactly the same re bottles in the bin! Used to keep old boxes and newspapers so that I could conceal them in the bin and not so much ‘cluncking and smashing’ noise when the bin was emptied – otherwise what would the neighbours think???!!!! That’s a classic flashback – we sure learnt how t…[Read more]
Hi @mrs-d Just wanted to say that I read both your Mrs D books back to back and found my way here. Loved them and read them over two days. Just what I needed. 15 days.
Love the sober treats idea and I have just listened to both sides of a Miles Davis record.
Hello @Camelia01 (I wonder who you were before and if I know you) but anyway, I’ve just read a little article that @Mrs-D has written for Sanford House, it will be very helpful for you. It is all about exactly what you are saying, so please scroll down a little to Mrs-D’s post below (not very far down) and press READ MORE and you will be able to…[Read more]
Thankyou @Prudence I think the article is uncomfortably true. I cant deny that there is a stubborn strong part of me that for whatever reason wants to cling on to the belief that drinking is OK, despite the evidence. I dont know what else to do but accept that its there for now and connect to my desire for freedom from all the negative…[Read more]
Does anyone else not get more when paging down to the load more option? I think I lost a post from earlier today and can’t see posts from earlier today. Also, I have to go to different pages to find the Home button? I can see it briefly under the header at the top, then the header covers it up. @mrs-d?
YES – ever since we moved to the new site, whenever I “load more” I only get one more post. So annoying when I want to go back and send a reply to someone. I finished your letter sweet Jocord and I’m posting it on Monday with a little present. Xxx
I know what u mean. There is such a stigma surrounding alcohol addiction. People like @mrs-d really inspire me. Have u read any memoirs or read any sober blogs? That really helped me a lot in the beginning. It still does, but to a different extent.
That’s what happens when you not numb/ hungover/ passed out anymore @01oceanbreeze. And with the feelings come the strategies on how to manage them. They are, after all, absolutely normal. They were always there just buried. For me I found I had to go looking for advice on how to deal with feelings, because it hadn’t been part of my life for so…[Read more]
Thanks @agirl great advice – I’ve had my head buried in mrs ds blogs and lots of tools in this site so far. I’ve spent a lifetime reading all sorts of self help books and self analysis books and studied to be a counsellor. With all that said this area I’m living in now (going sober) I haven’t had to deal with before. There’s so much info on the in…[Read more]
I hear ya @mrs-d. We have very poor AF choices in Florida too. It drives me nuts! As a popular beach community we get a lot of college aged kids on Spring Break and tourists so it would be nice to have a variety of AF choices besides water and sweet sickly soda. Ugh!
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