• Emjaycee posted a new activity comment 1 day, 13 hours ago

    @mrs-d Of course!

  • Prudence posted an update 2 days, 2 hours ago

    Hello team. I’ve been a bit awol while tearing around southern Italy at a fast pace, not much downtime between activities. What an amazing time I’ve been having. My heart is full. I walked the Path of the Gods from just above Amalfi to Positano. It is a long walk, about 3 or 4 hours, quite a rugged and rocky track, and of the utmost beauty, high in the hills looking over the Mediterranian and beautiful rocky cliffs and as you get towards the end you see Positano looking so amazing and beautiful, and then to reach it you walk down 1700 ancient stone steps. My legs are sore but I’m so happy to have that memory. There were shepherds with goats who stayed in the hills in old stone huts. Had to stop and let the goats go past. It’s been the most beautiful time learning about the ancient history of many of the places I’ve visited. I arrived in France yesterday and I’m sitting up in bed in my most gorgeously French apartment my firends have got ready for me above their house. It is so cool, and pink and absolutley charming and overlooking the beautiful countryside, and it has a lovely big sunny and light bathroom that even has a bath. Unfortunately my friend Steves’s partner Michelle has had to fly back to Australia as her Dad is dying. We had hoped to do Paris together and she didn’t know it but I’d planned to drag her off to the Riveria for a few days, so now things are a bit different and I will adapt. I will chill out here and catch up on business and correspendence and have a good rest, then figure it all out as I go. Soon I’ll have a bath then I’m going to try to pump up the tires on a ricketly old pushbike and bike into the quaint little ancient village. In Italy I was around tables every night being the only one not drinking, the last night they really cut loose (lightweights!!!) jeez! I could have showed them a thing or two about how to drink!! Hahaha but No booze is good news for me. Fresh as little daisy in the mornings, and looking forward to my virgin…[Read more]

    • Ro replied 2 days ago

      That coastline-wow 😍 and the history huh. We got a tsunami warning but then that was cancelled. Ooh food from France now! Cheese mmmmm and pate mmmmm and pastries aaarrrgghh yummm. Enjoy it all @prudence 🇨🇵🇨🇵🇨🇵

    • Mrs D replied 2 days ago

      oh get you gal trippin around Europe all sober and fabulous, love it! x

    • Sounds amazing! I’m so proud of you making this happen. Creating clear and truly present memories. Big hugs xo

    • Oh it all sounds like a gorgeous book, views, quaint little places to stay and the fabulous heroine lapping it all up!!!! Go you girl, enjoy every moment. Much love❤️

    • What a great read. Sounds absolutely perfect. So very happy for you.

    • I can just imagine you biking around the village 😁 Have you brought yourself any cowboy boots? So glad your having an amazing time

    • you sound absolutely full of life, @prudence, keep on. best.

    • Sounds like going to heaven – hey, maybe it is how it will be, but no sore legs

  • RineyLou posted an update 4 days, 7 hours ago

    @mrs-d I just watched your documentary that is posted on this site . I resonated with lots of things in your story . A few weeks ago I recognised I am the boozy housewife/ the obnoxious friend/ my inability to keep secrets/ the selfish girl looking for the next drink/ the mystery account spender/ the miserable hungover wench the next day/ the reason we’ve cancelled our plans because I’m too sick and hungover .

    I’m surprised I still have a family and a marriage.

    My drinking I believe has always been a problem, but until I was ready to face it, no one talked about it.

    Two weeks ago I decided that would be my last hangover.

    The biggest thing is I feel hopeful for the future. Today I looked at all of the photos in our house and I had a moment of upset because I couldn’t find one photo where I wasn’t drunk, or had no drink in my hand, or was on my way to drinking. Moving forward this is something I would like to change. I want to have photos with my kids without a drop of alcohol in my system. Photos where I am refreshed and feeling the world around me. Thank you for creating this community. 13 days sober today.

  • getclear posted an update 5 days, 5 hours ago

    Shout out to @DantheDev and @mrs-d for dealing with all these trouble spots…good to be back to smooth sailing now! I’m reading many success stories and happy people stories today….that’s encouraging to us beginners!

  • For some reason, I can’t reply directly in my earlier conversation thread but a huge thanks for your comments and kind words to @jocord @mari135 @jm @elsa1202 @claloula @buckeyeone @happyness @lee@ @mrs-d @tom4500 !! Thank you so much. Ironically enough my D1,000 was pretty crappy haha! Just general life stuff … Mr 16 is being difficult, stressful deadlines at work, feeling disconnected from hubby … but I’m so glad I’m sober through it all!! The best gift I’ve ever given myself. 😊 Carry on sober warriors.

    • Oh, I must have missed it! 1000 days?! Wow! And thank you too @freedom1025 for the encouragement you’ve given me since I’ve joined this community. Wishing you a wonderful day.

    • Congrats freedom1025. Thank you for posting. It is just life that happens. Gotta take the bitter with the better.

    • Even the bad days aren’t quite as rotten! By far, the best decision I’ve ever made as well!!! Xo

  • getclear posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    YES!!! And I could not reply directly to your posts @k1w1 Or @Winner….I’m on my lap top now but was unable to get anywhere on Ipad. Completely lost my longish update…showed in my activity for a moment but would not post and now just vanished. @mrs-d

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Yes I from Ipads (tried 2 different one, one at home and work one) I dont have a post button and peoples profile pictures dont show. When I log in on a desk top its the same until I refresh the page, but on ipad refresh doesnt work @mrs-d

  • Winner posted an update 1 week ago

    Is anyone else having trouble today @mrs-d ? Can’t read more on threads so can only read part of posts. Also when I
    Tap the following feature it’s just coming up as error 404 page cannot be found???❤️

  • Winner posted an update 1 week ago

    Is anyone else having trouble today @mrs-d ? Can’t read more on threads so can only read part of posts. Also when I
    Tap the following feature it’s just coming up as error 404 page cannot be found???❤️

  • Winner posted an update 1 week ago

    Is anyone else having trouble today @mrs-d ? Can’t read more on threads so can only read part of posts. Also when I
    Tap the following feature it’s just coming up as error 404 page cannot be found???❤️

    • OOh god why are there 3 of this 😂😲😂

    • k1W1 replied 1 week ago

      Yes I from Ipads (tried 2 different one, one at home and work one) I dont have a post button and peoples profile pictures dont show. When I log in on a desk top its the same until I refresh the page, but on ipad refresh doesnt work @mrs-d

    • YES!!! And I could not reply directly to your posts @k1w1 Or @Winner….I’m on my lap top now but was unable to get anywhere on Ipad. Completely lost my longish update…showed in my activity for a moment but would not post and now just vanished. @mrs-d

    • Same issues, must be a site-wide thing. oxooxx

  • morgan posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    NOOOO! I was just thinking last night that this had not been mentioned for ages, @Mrs-d ?
    Did you tag anyone? hey will have it in email or notifications and can repost. Back to remembering to tag, save as go if long – or even if short and precious, as every post is XXX

    • I’ve seen posts that it has still been happening. A couple times to me as well. I should have copy/pasted!

  • Liberty posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Yes, you’re on the shelves @Mrs-D!

  • morgan posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Hari is a good writer and speaker for sure. And we are fortunate to have our own special inspiration @Mrs-d (with a hyphen 🙂 )
    Happy wandering. Hope your knee behaves. I can remember being so inspired by Paris, many many years ago, that I walked, and walked and walked until my ankle couldn’t cope any more. Scary when there was so much more to see! Hope your feet and lega are holding up @Prudence

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    I decided I was an idiot when I drink. I decided I was dependant on alcohol. I was not my best self when drinking. I could run business and home and family but there was a deep part in me that knew I could be so much more than I was being. I decided that I would give the piss a miss and find my bliss. I drank for heaps for 40 years, from 18 to 58. I saw @Mrs-D on the TV and in that moment I knew I would stop, I knew then that I could and that I would, and so I did.
    Deciding is actually the key to success. It takes all the angst out of it. There’s no will I or won’t I. It is not negotiable. “No thank you, I don’t drink”. Go well. Be wise. Be brave. You will never look back.

  • Jocord posted an update 2 weeks ago

    Good morning sober tribe! I just want to say…8292 members!!! That’s 3000 more than when I joined a year ago. This is proof we are not alone folks. Well done @Mrs-D, NathanB, and DantheDev!

    • Ohhh…so exciting and also slightly terrifying, lol. Let’s hope they don’t all read here, haha.
      oxoxxxoox

    • It’s good not being alone in this journey!

  • Jesss posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    @mrs-d & @danthedev just wanted u to know i recieved notifications of ppl following me. So it doesn’t seem to be private on that end. (Unless it was a kink that got worked out). It showed up as a blue notification on the bell. (Not complaining! Just want u guys to know). I am SO GLAD u did not change the site to a popularity contest with followers, friends and likes. And im happy u didnt seperate us with private groups and such. I think “following” is a great feature. I’ve heard many members saying they missed posts from ppl so i think that is the perfect solution without turning us into the typical social media site. I think that’s part of what makes this place so special. It’s not like the other sites. This place is almost “old school” and i LOVE it! So thank u both so much for all u do!🌸

    • Yes like Jesss your notification shows that someone is following and when you click it you can see who it is. Do you just mean others can’t see how many followers you have? So the followers are private to you and that takes the popularity contest out of it. Funny question but once you follow can you unfollow too…. just in case you want to follow someone about a thing and then not carry on?

      • Just answered my own question about unfollow as it comes up once you follow, so ignore that.

  • Shez posted an update 2 weeks ago

    Day 16 – so much going on at work, and although I’m a little short with people I can process things a lot easier…. the fog is slowly but surely lifting….

    Oh and well done @mrs-d on the podcast, very good, I’m going to listen to more of Janey Lee Grace

  • Winner posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Sounds fab @mrs-d will make such a difference for catch ups with the overseas crew. ❤️❤️

  • DanTheDev posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    thanks for everything you do @mrs-d 🙏🏼

    • Thanks to both of you for all you do. This sounds like a great idea. I reckon you should call it Favourites.

      • haha oh no anything but favourites – favourites already exists in the system. Its the star just under a persons image (I need to move it and make it bigger). Unfortunately it will be to much work to repurpose the word through the codebase. Soz!

  • JM posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Hi @Mrs-D! I like the idea of you taking the time to chill + lounge. Happy Sunday! x

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Yep got a sarong @Mrs-D wouldn’t travel without one xox

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Yes @Mrs-D it was so bad. My web guys telling me my site needs to be uploaded to a new server because its being decommissioned on 20th June, at which time I will be away. And need things working seamlessly so I can operate from over there. I got so stressed I broke out in a rash and then my gmail stopped working. That turned out to be I’d run out of storage so phew…just bought more. In the end after 35 hours of worrying and trying to find new hosts and having complicated conversations, I made my current web guys promise to wait till I’m back in July before moving my website. Calm again now but was just awful for a day and a half, no sleep either. All good now though. And yes I’ll be checking in while I’m away to tell you of my adventures xx

  • Hey you guys, it’s been forever. Loving my not drinking life, lost track but must be about 4 years now.
    I have zero desire to drink, this is from someone who had their fair share of restarts. I guess it was a process for me.
    Hey @mrs-d was thinking of you re Real Housewives of New York, so good they are addressing the booze issue, did have to cringe at last nights show tho, geez, thank goodness I am no longer doing stuff like that in the name of a good time.
    Love me a nice quiet early night with a cup of tea and some Netflix snuggling my doggy. Also feel like I literally couldn’t get away with that lifestyle any more with crazy work schedule at my age, mid 50’s.
    Have a wonderful day out there xoxo

    • Hey! Was that Sonya? I think we’re a week behind here, I watched last night and at the end saw her falling off a chair in the promo for the next episode. Interesting watching Luanne deal with not drinking as well.. knowing that in real life she’s recently fallen off the wagon. Booze always plays a big part in those Real Housewives shows.. which I’m always interested to see. Watching women getting boozed in a real sense on those shows sure is a great way to reinforce how happy I am for being sober! Great to hear you’re doing so well! x

      • sadly I purchased the series so get to see it via Amazon. We’re settled in Welly now which I am loving. Didn’t know Luanne fell off wagon in real life, guess what I’m googling now

  • The new post on the main screen is really great @mrs-d about switching our thinking! I really needed to read that today, thank you. For anyone who is feeling a bit stuck about the socializing aspect of sobriety, this is a great post to read.

    Also, Mrs. D’s books are wonderful and have really helped me. If you are looking for great resources ‘Mrs. D is Going Without’ and ‘Mrs. D is Going Within’ are staples on my bookshelf! Have a great sober day everyone!! xoxo

    • I will try to read them now, I hesitated because English is not my first language. But I read other books yet, that were really helpful, too: Catherine Gray, Amy Liptrot, Claire Pooley (the German translations) and some German authors. I love to read about those experiences, all those wise thoughts by strong and conscious people are so very enlightening!

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    @mrs-d might be able to help. I put the date in my profile so I never loose it

  • Winner posted an update 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Having to sign in more than usual @mrs-d despite ticking remember me box! Any ideas ?❤️

  • Winner posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    Absolutely love this post @jesss! Legend. I also have the epic fail moderation t shirt. Moderation really blows. It doesn’t work at all. @mrs-d this awesome post is so fantastic for anyone that thinks maybe moderation might work? So well said @jesss❤️❤️❤️

  • Winner posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    Yep @mrs-d ! Loving those warm autumn days but chilly in welly this evening . I don’t miss wine at all but god some days I wish I could block out and broccoli and Brussel sprout salad doesn’t cut it! Exercise is the new stress release block out tool I’ve decided .❤️❤️

  • Liberty posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Guest post @Mrs-D?
    So well said behind-the-sofa.

  • morgan posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    @mrs-d two to link in please. Soon Justine. Will be great to meet you both

  • mindfuljo posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    I will msg @Mrs-D for your email @Morgan. Would love to arrange a coffee catch up too!

  • morgan posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    Looking at a lifestyle block that seems a better price than favourite ones – taking sister and meeting friend there, then visiting a depressed friend who is in pain, may lose her home, hates her job with a passion, has endless family issues etc etc.
    I am quietly doing washing, sorting winter/summer clothes (trying to throw out… such a clinger to might-be-useful things ARRGGHHHH) – quietly and slowly as the horrible vertigo thing is creeping back so I fear the swing into craziness, falling sideways, nausea is hovering – sympathies @Mrs-d – may you never have a major attack again, minor is bad enough.
    Fabulous day here!! Loving it
    Can’t wait to try the brussel sprouts like that – YUM!

  • morgan posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    Lovely sounding drink! Maybe we need it for our winter @Mrs-D ?
    I am thinking of opening my liquorice tea when I want a sweet hit. Have you tried it?

    • Not yet, sounds interesting. It’s not easy to find good tea here, I have to look online…

  • morgan posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    We do get together, though far too rarely. Now we have to, to meet you 🙂 !!! @Mrs-D will give you my email and I will link you in. Time for a Winter soup gathering perhaps @Prudence (to farewell you?) @marmite, @mullycatnz, @begoodtomyself, @MsLsober, @Oceania, who am I missing?
    I hope you get better very soon and have a good nurse to care for you?

  • Day 393
    7:10am
    Today’s thought from my big comfy chair: Start here, start today!
    This one is self explanatory, no one ever wished they put off getting sober not even one day! If you are here you have a problem of some sort with alcohol.
    Start here start today! @mrs-d started this community for people just like you and me! People who have finally realised that poisoning yourself had to stop! People who needed help and support, there is lots of that available on this site!
    The biggest thing that impacted me on this site is reading everyone’s personal stories. I could relate to them I wasn’t alone, I could lose the shame! All of these people had at least 3 years sobriety, so I new it was possible!
    Start here, start today! You are strong enough, you deserve it, your life will be better! You will be free of the chains of alcohol and the world will open up! You can be your authentic self, get in shape, be successful at work, rekindle your love life, enjoy your kids and grandchildren!
    It starts here, start today!

    • There’s no better time than right now! There’s worse times if we put it off, for sure. Thanks sober buddy, on to day 400 for us!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    Yay for beautiful pink clouds, I remember reading that in @mrs-d book!!!

  • pooks45 posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    Thank you @mrs-d for being our inspiration. I’m 11 days in and find it hard to believe that I will one day say it’s been 7 years! One day at a time. Xx

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    This made me tear up @mrs-d, such a beautiful space you made for us here! It’s nice to hear a “bravo” every once in a while, yeah us!

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Hi @Mrs-D, yes please do give yourself all of those things and more. You will get through this because you always do, but I want you to remember that it is okay to say no to people too. You juggle a hell of a lot all of the time, and it is a hard thing to learn that sometimes disappointing someone else by saying no, is vital to looking after yourself. Hugs xoxo

  • Winner posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Awesome inspiration ! Go you! Hope things settle to a more even keel soon. Ooh I miss not having a bath! On my list! A nice big deep bath with lots of bath bombs containing rose petals and essential oils @mrs-d! Heaven! ❤️

  • Jocord posted an update 1 month ago

    Good lovely morning, my friends! Here is a reminder to myself and others. 2 nights ago I really wanted a beer but managed to talk myself out of it. See my previous post if you’d like. When I logged on here I experienced an instant relaxation when I saw @mrs-d‘s face. I had a physical reminder in my body that I can’t stay AF on my own and if I don’t check in regularly I put myself at risk for relapse. I beat back that ‘ol wine witch on my own that time but maybe not the next without constant reminders I don’t drink. It’s something we all know but often let lapse. Stay connected and stay sober. Thanks for your support, lovely crew!

    • Lee@ replied 1 month ago

      Like you, I need these constant reminders @jocord! It’s way to easy to forget the reasons why and the purpose of it all without them! So grateful that we have this and each other to lean on!! Makes the world of difference!

    • JM replied 1 month ago

      Hi @Jocord! You powered through, well done! And that’s how I feel – if I were ever tempted, I’d like to think I’d check in here. The fact of this site, having to reset my number, keeps me going. Happy day/evening! xo

    • Seni replied 1 month ago

      I agree!!! Being here means filling up the power tank. It makes sense to come here constantly, not only when we are “in danger”. It’s similar to eating healthy food. You should do it every day, it will work and protect your health. You shouldn’t wait until you feel powerless or ill. Happy to meet you all every day (I really try…) 🙂

    • read you post about really wanting a very large beer. it is amazing how quickly that thought can come and go. you were in a place to act on it in a moment and you said no. these sober muscle building events. … there are certainly a few of them. congrats for the hell no and reasoning it out and having a good day the next day. ( love seeing mrs d’s face when i sign on, too. 🙂 )

    • I have been confronted by 4 open bottles all week, and countless others lying around. The family show no interest in their ‘wasted’ expensive bottles… I cooked with some… Normies, beats me… but so glad I am free of the stuff. Work and travel schedule needs full on clarity!!!!

    • bird replied 1 month ago

      Good morning!!! You nailed it on the head. I too need to come back to this site to ground me again. I’ve started thinking drinking again and those thoughts are my mind trying to trick me. So thank god I haven’t been tempted again and came on here this morning to reaffirm that sobriety is living !!

    • @jocord so weird you posted this because I thought about the same thing yesterday to the point where I might go to a meeting just to get some face to face time with other sober peeps. Glad we are friends!! xoxoxox

    • Connection is so so important! ❤️

    • Couldn’t agree more @jocord. I think it’s the combination of support along with some sense of holding yourself accountable.

      I started to hanker for a wine tonight, so I threw on my PJs, jumped into bed and logged in here. Phew!

  • janus2 posted an update 1 month, 1 week ago

    @mrs-d has your vertigo gone yet ? How ya doing after the death in your family? Xo

  • JR posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @danthedev – awesome! When that function is developed, will you give me a shoutout. I will save this post to share with these lovely sober rockstars. Thank you! @daveh @mrs-d @winner @mari135 @prudence @morgan @r51 @agirl @ro @liberty

  • JR posted an update 1 month, 1 week ago

    Is there an easy way to go back and read the first month if I have been here nearly two years without “loading more” each page? I believe I can request an export, but no need. Just wondering….Think good to go back and read the desperation I felt back then to keep it solidified to NEVER want to be there again. @mrs-d

  • Liberty posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

  • Jesss posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Glad u are feeling better @Mrs-D! That walk sounds so cool!!! 🚶

  • Winner posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Great you are feeling better @mrs-d. Love Megan and harry. Wasn’t he super cute talking to the press ! Love him! ❤️❤️

  • Gojo posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Well put @liberty! Healing thoughts winging their way to you both @janus2 and @mrs-d ☄☄💐💐💝💝

  • Liberty posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    @mrs-D and @janus2 you both have all my sympathy, bloody health issues. Yes yay for sister, yay for having someone to look out for us. Thanks for the update janus and I hope rest helps both of you feel better soon, xx

  • janus2 posted an update 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks all for your posts to me, so appreciated them. Still feel very blah..wont go on as will end in tears before bedtime lol. Post when i kniw whats going to happen. With sister, yikes, but thank fuck for her aye. Peace out. @mrs-d has your vertigo gone? Its shit aye that. Xo

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