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  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 day, 20 hours ago

    @mrs-d I know absolutely zilch about book publishing or writing but I am certain that if your publisher thinks you can, then you probably can.
    And if you can’t, well, there’s always an extension right?
    Either way, I am sure that you will either release something you are happy with or renegotiate your delivery date.
    You are in control of this x

  • Gojo posted a new activity comment 1 day, 21 hours ago

    Yes you can!! Good call to post! And the end result will be fantastic @mrs-d 📚

    • @mrs-d I know absolutely zilch about book publishing or writing but I am certain that if your publisher thinks you can, then you probably can.
      And if you can’t, well, there’s always an extension right?
      Either way, I am sure that you will either release something you are happy with or renegotiate your delivery date.
      You are in control of this x

  • MāoriGirlSober posted a new activity comment 2 days, 3 hours ago

    Mōrena @mrs-d you are always welcome to use all and any of my posts ❤️ I wouldn’t be at 80 days without this initiative 🙏🏾

  • Ladyhawke posted a new activity comment 3 days ago

    Thanks @mrs-d – will do that.

  • Mac007 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 1 hour ago

    Congratulations @Hetiheti …… I owe you and @Marylourocks a great deal, you both were lamp lighters to many and I know you were only 8 days a head of me but back then that felt like years!! Thank you xo………back in the day when we first joined here there were only around 600 members and we all supported each other hugely! We knew we would kick the others arse if we slipped up and this was a good incentive not too!! Lol…We would have been hunted down and bashed…haha..however we all kept giving each other the support we needed and together we did it… If anyone slipped off along the way the other were there to help….it is very very hard to stop doing something you loved doing ,that is so bad for you but once you do and you start seeing the rewards and ditch the romantic whispers that sweep past your ear every now and again, you realise that all that drinking was ‘bullshit’! Five years on and life is so different now for all of us….I look back and I know that I would not be the person I am now if I continued on drinking… so thank you again Hetti for your choice to stop drinking and being there for many of us…..I think your saying way back then was the 3 D’s ….Distraction, ? , and drink water …forgot one, sorry..Oh Well I will add @mrs-d 🙂 Lotta you must be overjoyed to see all these years of no drinking stacking up for members? All because of you my dear! xox

    • Haha i had forgotten about my 3d’s …
      Drink lots of water
      Distract by coming onto the site here … and no idea whst the third one was either … and i went on and on about it … lmao

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 5 days, 20 hours ago

    Sounds like a dream come true and I’m so happy you are living it and being such an inspiration @mrs-d. I’m an empty nester now so a 9 year old sounds so nice to have around again. I am sure you are enjoying it.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 5 days, 20 hours ago

    PS I’m enjoying seeing you on Twitter & Instagram @mrs-d. 😉

  • morgan posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    So true! I have been thinking about how emotionally addicted I was; so hooked on numbing and avoiding anxiety. Five years on on the 22nd, it seems ridiculous how I feared the loss of my poisonous, destructive ‘friend’ who stole my pride, health, energy, far too much mental space … so so not worth it. So amazingly positive to stop despite having to face everything head on. Thanks @mrs-d, the gratitude goes on, and on

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  • suzkep posted an update 1 week, 3 days ago

    Onto WK 4 – Something has lifted today. I’m starting to feel myself again – my good self that is. My head isnt doing weird stuff – its being sensible. I’m going to put it down to the alcohol being out of my system, and thanking me for it. I’m haulin’ my carb and sugar eating back to where it usually is. My rings are falling off my fingers but I darent try on my jeans lol. Funny – alcohol goes to my fingers – carbs to my waist. Happy and grateful to @mrs-d and evryone else on here for listening and supporting me since 21st July – lets hope the week continues in this positive vain. Good luck with your own endeavours this week 🙂

  • robynb posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    This is a first, I am logging in from my laptop. Thought it would go quicker as want to recreate my earlier post that was lost. I had a foray out into the world in the last two days and it made me appreciate @mrs-D and this site so much! First, a friend, who is also a licensed substance abuse counselor said to me “I hate to say it, but I think she needs to get drunk..I noticed and other people noticed that about every three months she would go on a bender, and then she’d be okay for awhile”. I was…speechless. All I could manage to say later on in the conversation was, “it sounds like she has some emotional problems that need addressing”. Then later, a very kind woman said to me about her Airbnb guest, (she had a bad experience with), she didn’t even check out, and she showed up after she was to check out at 3 a.m. and wanted in, she caused a big commotion and then she went to the bathroom in my yard. And she was a kindergarten teacher in the bush (rural Alaska). I felt bad for my fellow host, but man oh man, I felt compassion for that teacher. Wherever you are out there lady, I hope you find a group like this and start your sober journey. Wow, I might have to log on from my laptop more often, spell check happens and no predictive text! Love all of you. Keep on keeping on, you never know who is watching.

    • I have noticed that being sober has given me far more compassion for others. I can’t believe that in my alcoholic blur I didn’t have as much compassion, considering how much trouble I myself was in. Now, from the outside, I am slowly learning the damage being judgmental causes not just to others but to my own mental wellbeing. That is very sad that a kindergarten teacher behaved in that manner – what must she be struggling with and how shame filled did she probably feel the next day? 🙁

    • With counsellors like that no wonder the population is drinking increasing amounts – lord. I bet she has a binge issue herself, for sure. She should be struck off.
      Damn the lost post thing continuing 🙁

      • Likely something I did, @morgan, re: lost post. Re: counselor, she is a woman In friends with, whom I have noticed has her own issues, not drinking but enabling. She is a child of an alcoholic and her husband also was alcoholic. She says things to me like, ‘ you aren’t an alcoholic’ which is true, I don’t identify as an alcoholic, but I also cannot drink! I have so few friends in this area, I dare not give anyone up, but I do wish to invite some healthier ones into my sphere! And it goes to show, There is more to health than simp!y not drinking to excess.

  • Winner posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    Wow! I had on my calendar tomorrow is my soberversary ! Not so! Checked the sober counter ! Today is day 365!!!!! It’s today!!!! Yippeeeeeeee one year!!!!! Thankyou all of you awesome souls for your love and support! @mmskinny congrats ! @jocord sober Xmas in August !@mrs-d god if I hadn’t discovered your books and this site who knows where I would be! Ooh and @ Janus2 guess what’s next?? Yep! ❤️❤️❤️❤️😂😂😂😂😂🐱🐱🐱🐱🐾🐾😲😲🤗🤗🤗😉😉😉😚😚😚😍😍😍💄💄💄👠👠👠👠🚗🚗🚗⭐️⭐️⭐️🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻👠👠👠👠👠👠👠🌻🌻🌻🌻😎😎😎👠👠

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  • Lydia727 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    So glad to be part of this Tribe you have created @mrs-d!! I was just downstairs sorting out my craft room and den – making it nice and cozy and it is almost 9:00 pm on a Friday night. If I were drinking, I would have been drunk by 7:00 and already almost passed out, after posting something stupid on social media, buying something I could not afford online, or calling someone and committing to something I would regret. Whoo Hoo for SOBER FRIDAYS!! Have a wonderful rest of your weekend!

    • Ha! It’s like we lived the same life @Lydia727. Woo hoo, alright, for us soberites ? love love love going to bed genuinely tired from a genuine life. Happy rest of your weekend ya’ll

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    good morning, @mrs-d. I love living sober 2. it never get old being able to drive at night.

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    You have a great sober day too @Mrs-D and you have earned every single ounce of happiness and pride that you feel. You have started a REVOLUTION! And we are all part of it. Power to ya xoxo

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    wow, eight years, what a great accomplishment, @mrs-d. hate that sugar hangover too, have had quite a few this last year. be well.

  • Winner posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Super congrats @mrs-d! Love being sober too! ❤️

  • Ro posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Well if it wasn’t for you I wouldn’t be here today so thank you @mrs-d and it is nice to be a part of something so bloody positive and actually helpful 🙂

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Beautiful, raw, honest, real. Here is a woman who has learned to love herself enough to really become the self she was always meant to be. Congratulations on your 62 days. I think you would enjoy reading some posts we did way back in 2014 on @Mrs-D ‘s blog. They are about our sobriety being like a fragile egg at first and about protecting it. Perhaps Lotta could post a link for you? I would if I knew how! Go well and just Hold On no matter what. You have a beautiful life ahead that just gets better and better xxx

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  • Ro posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    • thanks for the heads up @ro, can’t see that @kinexmedia is here in an individual capacity to examine their personal relationship with alcohol, not with the bio being all about tech info.. so bye bye 🤗

  • morgan posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Hey there XXXX hi! Read @Prudence‘s last post, so to speak – this could be a 5 year craziness. Any ideas @mrs-d?
    I am so busy in a new role + some old ones, that it hasn’t hit me – I simply know I could not keep up at all if wine was in the mix. I really don’t fancy a craving or 10 though … heck 🙁
    How much screaming???

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Yes I hear you @DaveH only the trouble with me is I am never an incoherent puking mess (may have been a few times in my younger years) and I am able to be a happy sociable person when out drinking or when at home drinking with friends or alone. But still it had a hell of a hold on me and I knew I was on the slope! I didn’t ever have a rock bottom, I managed my life rather well. There lies the problem, and the pull towards it when I am struggling with other stuff. I just decided to stop and the benefits are amazing, I’d never thought of giving it up completely until I saw @Mrs-D do it, it simply had never occurred to me. I did give it up for a year once, with the full knowledge that it was for one year and then I’d drink again. Had some big things to achieve. You are right, I am just a bit off course in the present moment. I will not give in to the stupid pesky dumb boring cop out idea of having a drink to solve my issues. “No thank you. I don’t drink”

  • JR posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    @daveh – thank you for taking the time to read this – so spot on! I saved this post and also love your public message on this group, it describes the insiduous progressive nature of alcohol so well. You should be a spot writer – @mrs-d 🙂

  • 👋🏼
    Hello you lovely lot.
    Just popped in to say hello and I’m still here. Still sober. And still plodding along.
    Nowt grand to report. Just life. Summer playscheme have started here in the UK, my busiest time at work. 1 week down and 5 to go.
    Little miss is 3 on the 6th August. It’s bonkers how fast it has gone. She’s desperate for a “big girl bike with pedals” for her birthday but she’s still a bit little 😂
    Love @mrs-d ‘s comments on self care.
    It’s something I must remember to do more often. But it’s finding the time. How on earth did I used to find all the time to drink every night is now completely beyond me. Now life is full of everything but.
    Anyways. Enough random waffle from me.
    Have a fantabulous weekend all.
    All my love.
    Brummie xxx

  • Gojo posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    Hugs to ya @mrs-d !! Sisters are the best (well most of the time..)

  • SteveF posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Thanks @mrs-d. That means a lot coming from you. I couldn’t have done it without you and this wonderful community you created. ❤️

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    One benefit: you will start to have confidence and trust in yourself to be there for yourself. When we drink we numb everything – growth, opportunities, joy etc. When we remove the booze, we become strong.
    You are not the problem.
    Booze is the problem.
    Booze has got to go – a quote from our @mrs-d that is oh so true. Xo

  • Gojo posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Hi Lee@ it’s here – from 12 minutes ago. @mrs-D ?

    • Lee@ replied 1 month ago

      Hi. @gojo That’s just the one saying that they went missing or is there something there that I cannot see. I’m not drunk but am beginning to feel like I am. Lost one yesterday as well. This could be a sign. Not sure what. Just felt like saying that.

  • Winner posted an update 1 month ago

    Hi lovely souls! Day 345 af ! Count down last twenty days to one year soberversary! Yipppeeee! Have a fab rest of the week! Shoutouts! Howdy @jocord, @tom4500, @malibustacey,@mmskinny,@mrs-d, @prudence,@ro,@ladyhawke, oooh sooo many more!!! Always love and thoughts to you. Thankyou always for the love and support. This site rocks and so do all its members. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🐱🐱🐱🐾🐾🌻🌻🌻😉😉😉💄💄💄💋💋💋👠👠👠⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️👗👗🌷🌷🌷🎈🎈🎈🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🚗🚗🚗🌸🌸💄💄👠

    • So exciting eh? Right behind ya @Winner – Day 333 for me 🙂

    • Fantastic @winner! So happy for you.

    • wow! super exciting! CONGRATS @Winner ! xoxo

    • Man you guys are really rocking it to the one year mark awesome inspiration.

    • JM replied 1 month ago

      Beautiful @Winner! All of your emojis and day 345! xo

    • Ro replied 1 month ago

      Not long to go! SO well done you 🙂

    • Aw, hi @Winner! Now you are the Legend! Only 20 more days, I’m putting it on my calendar because I KNOW you will make it. No looking back, only forward. And by the way, how long until Christmas? 💝💝💝🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻👒👒🏋🏋🏋🏋🏋👍💋💄🎈💐💐💐🙋🙋

    • Congratulations and love the emoji’s!

    • Nearly there @Winner. It’s the stuff of heroes! One year is a H U G E milestone. You’re a winner alright! xoxo

    • And I’m glad you’re making a 20 day celebration of it, because it is a big milestone. And you’re not just celebrating one year sober, you’re celebrating being sober.

  • k1W1 posted an update 1 month ago

    @mrs-d this was my question. See below but found out using haveibeenpwned t was from a year ago when MyFitnessPal got hacked totally forgot as it was a year ago and had changed the password as soon as they said to. But it was the same password as here. But is this site secure …just wondering. Question was has the site been compromised? I just got one of those horrid emails that say they know your password. And yes it had my password for here. I do not see it any where else. I will go and change it just in case. Good reminder to keep changing our passwords on all accounts so many to remember…

    • not as far as I know @k1w1 but will check x

    • @k1W1 if you change your password here to something you don’t use elsewhere, you should be fine. Also – try out a password manager, like LastPass (lastpass.com), you can then save all your passwords in a secure vault (uses goverment level encryption) and you only need to remember the one password to get into that vault where all your other passwords will be stored. I would be lost without it. Hope this helps! (I’m a System Administrator, lol)

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    that means a lot coming from you, @mrs-d. thank you for all of you do for all of us.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Morning @Mrs-d as usual you have wise and wonderful words and sentiments, thankyou so much for your inspiration xx.

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Thanks so much for your lovely words @Mrs-D and for being you. You mean the world to all of us. Legend xoxo

    • @dorothyparker sorry having trouble with posts and had to delete the one below. Great to hear you’re keen! Please email me at soberinas at gmail dot com 😊👍🏼

    • Ohh @enzedgirl that would be awesome I’m trying to decide when & where my presents Christmas holiday should be so Please include me lol, I just LOVE those get togethers. Can you let me know asap on dates so I can arrange it at work lol. So so exciting. Anyone not been to one they are gold XXX

    • Hey @enzedgirl. Please include me in the list for info re the Spring break. Hopefully I’ll finally make and get to meet some of you lovely lot! 😊 thanks so much!

  • enzedgirl posted an update 1 month ago

    Kia ora New Zealanders and Australians!

    @agent99 and I are organising a Spring gathering in the North Island. Soooooo exciting!!!

    We haven’t pinned any details down at all yet, but just wanted to float the idea and get some discussion going about it (although Waiheke Island has been mentioned…)

    So far there have been about four or five (more?) gatherings with people from all over the country (and Aussie 😀). We have gathered in Wellington, Christchurch, Banks Peninsula, Whangamata.

    What I get out of the gatherings is a little break from life, hanging out with people who also choose to be AF (gold), lots of laughs, listening to great music, shared stories, yummy food, walks, talks, more yummy food ….

    I remember my first gathering, it was at @prudence ‘s in Christchurch ❤️❤️❤️ The lovely @kerris contacted me and said “I’m going to Christchurch for this get together, will you come with me?”

    I nearly shat myself but I said yes! I was about 50 days in at the time and I really believe it was the making of me being AF. I thought shit! I’m going to meet all these AF people, I can’t drink now!!! And then the lovely experience of being there with all those like minded people ….

    If you’re keen and haven’t been before, please understand that these gatherings are entirely informal, and entirely organised between us LS members. There’s no registration, no fees, and no bag carriers 😊

    If you’re keen comment here AND email me at soberinas at gmail dot com – please include your LS username in your email.

    Lots of love,

    enzedgirl xxx

    Now I’m bound to forget someone as I’m doing this off the top of my head, please don’t be upset with me or offended …

    @redredwinegoestomyhead @temperance @prudence @morgan @normaleelucid @begoodtomyself @emjaycee @mrs-d @mrwtf @mullycatnz @soberstylist @oceania @rise2015 @mtedenmummy @marmite @treehugger @ange @liberty @wildchild @trace @janus2 @kerris @dennyd @flourishing @saoirse @ladyhawke @timidwarrior

    Yes please – Love to meet you all 🙂

  • I’m keen 😊

  • Sounds like a great idea @enzedgirl!!! Count me in

  • Liberty posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    @kitten, you are my hero. Truly. Such a moving real post. Congratulations with all my heart. Got something in my eye…
    I particularly love this quiet, delicious wisdom:
    “My dogs are my best friends and that is ok. My family does NOT really know me as well as I wish they did and that is ok. I do not like my job and that is ok. I do get lonely sometimes and that is ok. However, I have found I am not as lonely or bored as I thought I was. I may NOT be on the cusp on something big, I mean this may be all there is and that is ok. It is just my life without alcohol. I would wish it upon all of you.”
    Money cannot buy that; that’s hard-won, pain and grit, hurts-to-breathe, deep-as-a-mountain wisdom. Yes, welcome to the rest of your life. You know what? I reckon it will be okay.
    Maybe even more than okay. xxx
    @Mrs-D, check out kitten’s incredible one-year post.

    • Congratulations @kitten
      I love your post. Thank you for sharing ⚡️

    • @liberty – your praise is so effusive, i love it. thank you. I was taking a walk talking to my mother on the phone today, i said, i know you do not think it is much of an accomplishment, but this is my date of a year ago that I quit drinking and she said, oh, ok. so not much encouragement there. thank you again for reading my post and hearing me. be well.

  • Prudence posted an update 1 month ago

    Hello team, howzit going? Holy Heck it’s 5 years tomorrow Saturday 20th July for me. And a wee shout here out to my day buddy @Normaleelucid, it’s been great travelling alongside you and getting to become “old friends”. Hahaa old friends who are going to Bali to celebrate in style, along with @Mac007, also coming up 5 years and her partner coming with us too, in September. We shall have a chef come into our villa to cook for us some nights, people to come in and massage us, we have an infinity pool and plenty of luxury. Haha Yee Haa!! Through not drinking all this time I’ve saved (very conservatively) $26,057 so I think I deserve this extra wee holiday. I was only back 2 days from my Italy France holiday when this idea came up. I say Yes to everything within reason these days, and I love it. Because I can. Never worried about how booze might effect the situation “what if I don’t feel like it when the time comes”? Always feel like doing good interesting stuff, and especially with treasured friends.
    I have come home from Europe to what feels like a world full of hurt. Friends struggling deeply with big life incidents, death of a Mum by hospital misadventure, broken hearts, and some deep struggling within my own family as well. I am SO GLAD I am full of calmness and clarity, and can help support my friends and family as best I can. This last five years has been both a long time and a short time. There have been many changes, mainly all positive. I struggled with the changes in my friendships in the beginning, I’d been a laughing drinking fun party girl all my adult life. I missed that part of who I am, and I missed the fun and stupidity and humour I had with my friends. I am happy to say that all of the important friends are still here in my life. A few I have let go of. Many more I have made right here through LS, friendships that are now up to five years old and that I know will last forever. They are made out of being real, raw and true honest versio…[Read more]

    • Oh that is amazing!!! Yes I’m holding on!! Congratulations on 5 years that is incredible, thanks for sprinkling so magic around and your holiday sounds like heavenly bliss, hope you all have a beyond wonderful time xxx

    • What a great idea to celebrate together, love it. 🙂 xx
      Sorry about all the struggles around you. At the same time I know all those around you and struggling will be lifted by your presence in their lives. You are glorious xx

    • Absolutely beautiful, blissful and glorious all rolled into one joyous life affirming post. Happy happy you!

    • So inspirational. Thank you so much for your words and for sharing your journey. This fills me with so much hope and a desire to stay on course. I agree with @Noodle71 – thank you for sprinkling some magic!!!

    • Thanks for sharing Your post is great as always. Congrats on five years. My one year is on Saturday. Love the July 20 date. I just need to get up and click my heels like u r doing. Have fun in Bali.

      • Oh cool! I will think if you tomorrow @Kitten. The one year is a huge important milestone. Be wary of possibly feeling a little flat in the weeks after. I did. A kind of anticlimax like “is this it?!!”……but dont worry it passes and you feel all strong and solid again…and happy as xx

        • I second @Prudence, @kitten. First of all congrats in advance, woohoo! And @daveh advised me that I was moving from learning how to be sober to learning how to live sober when I felt a bit flat after my one year. That helped.

        • Thanks @prudence and @jocord. I will keep that in mind. I have been thinking about that — learning how to be sober to learning how to live sober. always wise that daveh.

    • Congratulations on 5 years! Your celebration sounds amazing and well deserved!

    • Gojo replied 1 month ago

      Great post as always @prudence ! The 5 year celebration sounds like a great plan.

    • Ro replied 1 month ago

      International jet setter! Why not? Wish I was carrying your bags-I’d never leave that Picasso museum. I told Mum to go there, she is in Paris now. They sent me a ton of pics from the Arc today lol. Wonder how they’ll find the French? Sent me pics of some delicious cheese also. MMmmm cheese. Yeah I’d never leave ha ha
      Congrats on 5 years tomorrow 🙂

      • Thanks @Ro, I didn’t put every pic up on fb from Picasso museum. Happy to PM you the lot if you want? Yes the Arc was fascinating, I enjoyed going right up inside it and having a look around. The best food in France was on the last day when I had those profriteroles with the real French vanilla home made icecream inside them, and swimming in chocolate sauce. So sinful. It was almost as good as a big snort of coke!! Baahahaaaa xox

        • OMG I am on my way there soon 🙂 🙂 !!! It IS the same as a snort of coke apparently, powerful brain rush – I sure notice it big time since keto and almost freeing myself of the white death.
          Great post btw and congrats – today!!!!!!! How about a couple of your amazing inspirations put up for the new ones – the goat track comes to mind, and a couple of you make-the-bloody-decision-and -stick-to-it ones – was just thinking about you the other day, the total commitment with smoking too – such power.

    • Very big congrats on 5 years, July 20 and thanks for stopping by to keep us abreast of your wonderful, raw life!

    • Congratulations and thanks so much for the inspiration

    • FIvE yEaRs !$&@*#%£€#?!

      So amazing ❤️❤️❤️

      LOVE the shared celebration plan! What a fantastic idea 😊😊😊

    • Welcome back home @prudence. So lovely to hear from you as always. Your trip sounds amazing. Congratulations on your 5years and be sure to live it up in Bali. Much love to you and your family.❤️💐

    • Oh congratulations @prudence, bloody fantastic.
      What a lovely idea re the trip to Bali, well deserved I reckon.. lap up the luxury!! Sorry to hear about your friends and families troubles xx

    • Why didnt you tell me thats awesome @prudence. Its going to be full of laughs xo

    • jo14 replied 1 month ago

      Congrats on your soon to be 5-years of sobriety milestone! Yay, you! Traveling is way better than drinking. 💕

    • @prudence congrats on 5 years and a HUGE thank you for your presence on this site … your leadership and wise counsel have set the course for many of us. I’ll be 3 years in September and your shining example is a big reason for that. You are a gem! ❤️😊

      • Oh thank you so much @freedom1025 for your kind words, and huge congrats for your 3 years coming up, that’s epic. Man time flies doesn’t it! Keep up the great work xoxo

    • First, big congratulations on 5 years, so happy for you and the great life you have cultivated! Also it shows us that being AF can be done but your life can flourish being sober!
      Two big concerns when we try to get sober, I can’t do this forever and my life will be boring. You show us that not only can you do it, you will want to continue because your life is anything but boring! Thanks for being such a positive influence!

      • Yes you are right about that @Hammer123, all it takes is a bit of time, and determination to continue, it really does get better and better. “Getting so much better all the time” old Beatles song just came to me. What I really love is the clear headed motivation to do things, and the massive amount of money saved making it possible to acheive what you want. xox

    • JM replied 1 month ago

      Hi @Prudence! Always a treat to hear from you. I’m sorry about the world of hurt in your world right now, your family + your friend’s Mum.
      Ooh your Bali trip sounds so delicious. You’ll have to tell us about that one too. xoxo

      • Hi @JM I’ll try and write ya’s a post while we are all there having fun and humour.
        The hurty stuff is settling down now, thanks for always being so caring of me and others xo

    • Love our sunrise chats when all is quiet in the world ( apart from my hungry cats). Who would have thought that 5 years ago!! Love ya mate and can’t wait too see you again xox

      • Yeah me too @Normaleelucid. Today I’m lying in bed at Glorias house in Lyttelton after a shit hot party last night, plus a day shopping with dear lil daughter! Let’s have another chat int he morning xoxo
        September gonna roll around real fast

    • Prudence, massive congratulations on 5 years of sobriety!!!!!
      You are a legend. Nothing short of that, in fact.

      I loved your updates from the day I signed in, and it is people like you who “shine back the light” and let those early on the path know it is worth it to keep on going.
      You go spoil yourself, girl. So deserved. All of it, and then some.


      • Oh why thank you ‘mam! Your kind words warm my heart @Mari135, and yes, we are all SO looking forward to our trip to Bali, it’s oging to be wonderful to be away with these special ladies. I’m thinking one day we should all do a gathering there. A well planned one with luxury houses (cheap as!) close by each other. We ciould make it 2 years away or so, to enable people to start saving for it. This way some from near and far really could meet up. xx

    • Congratulations on 5 years sober @ Prudence! I always appreciated your posts and Kiwi sayings like Give the Piss a Miss and find your Bliss. I’ve just wanted to let you know that I’ve really enjoyed reading your posts. You really have a way with words. Have a wonderful Bali celebration. It sounds delightful.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    I love that @mrs-d so easy to be stuck in the negative but this will be a great tool for me xx

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    @mrs-d – a friend and i were just talking about the concept of I am right where I need to be today and tomorrow will take care of itself. She is less of a believer in that concept than i. If you are working hard and not just doing not much of anything, I think it works.
    But right now, I get to do the dishes, i was just fortunate enough to get to walk two dogs each separately just a few seconds ago.

  • Seizetheday posted an update 1 month ago

    Sheesh a friend just text and congratulated me on 5 years sober. It’s today and I forgot haha. What a beautiful friend she is always remembering. She saw me at my worst and stuck by me. I honestly could not even fathom 5 weeks let alone 5 years when I sat down on day 1.
    So thanks @mrs-d and everyone of you souls on here that kept me going and showed me it was possible. Bunch of hero’s you all are!

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Yes it’s pretty tough, once out of the bubble, a fair bit of comfort eating going on here. Thanks @mrs-d xx

  • Watergirl posted an update 1 month ago

    Good afternoon all.
    I hope you are all doing ok.
    As some of you will know my 74 year old previously fit and healthy Mum had stage 4 bowel cancer.
    Sadly she passed away two weeks ago and we had her funeral this time last week in North Canterbury.
    I spent the month prior to her death with her and my family and father, providing hospice care for her at my parents home. It was lovely having that time with her. (As we all live away, overseas etc).
    Surprisingly not once have I wanted to drink, that is until I got home to my own home back in the North Island. I seriously considered buying a couple of bottle or two of wine last night… I didn’t thank goodness, played it forward, thought how shit I would have felt for the next ten days or so, the anxiety, emotional roller coaster and how I would feel going back to work after being away for a month.
    Although I am not on the site often these days, I am forever grateful for this site, @mrs-d, and the people whom I met through here. Without this support I would never known the life of being alcohol free.
    Thanks everyone.. remember “one day at a time” . Lots of love to you all xx

    • So sorry for your loss @watergirl. Yes, drinking wouldn’t change anything except make you feel worse in the morning, and regret losing your sober days. Good decision. Be kind to yourself xx

    • Sorry to hear about your mum watergirl xxx nice to see you here xxx glad you resisted the booze xxx

    • Sounds exactly like what we went through just a couple of months ago with Mr D’s mum. So hard and sad and I am totally with you about things getting tough after all the intensity when we finally got back home. I fell into baaaaad food habits that I’m still struggling to shift. Hugs to you x

      • Yes it’s pretty tough, once out of the bubble, a fair bit of comfort eating going on here. Thanks @mrs-d xx

    • Oh @watergirl I’m so sorry, your darling Mum.
      Well done surfing that urge. xx

    • So sorry for the loss of your mum but so proud of you resisting the urge to pick up the bottle again. You’ve got this

    • So sorry for your loss watergirl. I didn’t drink when my mum was in her last days of life and I’m forever grateful to have had those moments of purity with her before she passed. Good on you for your strength throughout🙏

    • Thanks for letting us know, it’s always nice to see ones like you still troopering on, even through the sad hard stuff. It’s understandable you wanted some relief! Well done strong girl, and I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Big hugs to you, keep on going xo

    • Sorry for your loss @watergirl and well done on staying focused on the sober life.

    • Frog replied 1 month ago

      I’m so sorry about your mother and am so happy for you that you were able to spend quality time with her before she passed.

    • I am very sorry for your loss.
      Lots of love and energy your way as you walk through that grief that follows losing a close loved one.

      And like others said regarding the booze-
      Well done you!!!!

    • So very very sorry to hear of your loss. Hugs.

    • Sorry to hear about your mother, glad you had some quality sober time with her. @watergirl. always a pleasure to read your posts when you stop by.

  • NathanB posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @noodle71thanks for this. I checked the link, and you are quite right. The email address (site.support@livingsober.org.nz) was not stated correctly. I have fixed this. Thank you for raising it, and apologies for the annoyance factor there. @seizetheday @mrs-d.

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @womackm – Kia ora, nau mai haere mai / hello and welcome 🙂 You have come to a safe and supportive place! There was a great post written to those on their day one, was it you @Mrs-d that wrote it? Maybe do a search of “day one” and see if you can find it? A very worthwhile read x

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @mrs-d I emailed support twice yesterday and it also bounced back saying address doesn’t exist. I was having problems with my login but it turned out to be user error😳

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