I used to be a boozy housewife guzzling wine like it was going out of fashion and now I'm quite the opposite - very happily sober! What a turnaround. My sobriety date is September 6, 2011. I set up this site in August, 2014 in conjunction with 2 NZ Govt Agencies .. and with their ongoing support we are fortunate that this site remains free and safe for all. I manage all the content here (writing blog posts, Sober Stories, mocktail recipes etc) and supervise our team of volunteer Community Moderators. You can get hold of me any time by notifying me in the feed (@mrs-d) or emailing me at email@example.com
I'm also active on Facebook (Mrs D Is Going Without), Twitter (@mrsdalcoholfree) and Instagram (@mrs_d_alcoholfree) and I have two books out about my recovery. 'Mrs D Is Going Without' tells the story of how I quit and 'Mrs D Is Going Within' tells the story of how I developed lasting tools to help me live sober long term. I also write a sober blog called Mrs D Is Going Without which you can find at (www.livingwithoutalcohol.blogspot.com).
Day 70! I’m feeling great, but this afternoon my husband said he might be traveling next week, and my brain said, “you can go out and drink while he’s not here. It’ll be easy to pretend it never happened.” LIE. I only have to play it through to see the bs in that thought. Not worth it. I’m annoyed I thought it though. I don’t want to drink. on a…[Read more]
congrats, honestjoy. Being alone was always a great time for me to drink, until … that was all I did. It is weird to smell alcohol on inappropriate times. As our smell gets better, may smell in more often. Thank you for the post. Be well.
I have those old trigger thoughts sometimes, too. The weatherman said to buckle down for severe weather and I immediately thought, Great! I get to drink!. That was an old leftover thought but I think it was the first time the weather was that bad since I quit. I’ve been through 3 seasons, one more to go to get all those thought triggers out of…[Read more]
Oh @Jocord I so hear you. I too when I know Im going to be on my own,think—‘well noone will know if I have a drink,Ill turn the phone off, or make the phonecalls early on in the drinking evening’ OMG the lies I tell myself!!! Shameful!! Its like Im trying to get away with it—but very seldom ever do. I know you will understand this dribble.
70 days…now that’s the number of a winner!!! oxoxox
Lots of compassion in your post there, honestjoy. I’d feel the same way about a colleague if one showed up drunk/hungover/reeking of alcohol…been there and done that myself.
Life is easier on the sober side….it really is.
And I can relate to seeing hubby being gone as a drinking…[Read more]
“Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and awful it’s ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it’s breathtakingly b…[Read more]
I’ve been thinking about this for a while.
It’s a thought for anyone whos on this jourbey, you may be struggling or having issues with the wine bitch, or you may be in early says or you may be absolutely fine. It’s just a little exercise.
Write yourself a letter. It’s to you from your future self. It’s your future self telling you about how…[Read more]
Morning Lizi……I remember seeing @Bossman on something like 388 days when I was on a hundred odd and I just thought that was an unbelievable/unobtainable number….. he said something like: we’re all on the same bus going around the same daily route, I’ve just ridden it a few more times… I thought that was very well put because it…[Read more]
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