I used to be a boozy housewife guzzling wine like it was going out of fashion and now I'm quite the opposite - very happily sober! What a turnaround. My sobriety date is September 6, 2011. I set up this site in August, 2014 in conjunction with 2 NZ Govt Agencies .. and with their ongoing support we are fortunate that this site remains free and safe for all. I manage all the content here (writing blog posts, Sober Stories, mocktail recipes etc) and supervise our team of volunteer Community Moderators. You can get hold of me any time by notifying me in the feed (@mrs-d) or emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I'm also active on Facebook (Mrs D Is Going Without), Twitter (@mrsdalcoholfree) and Instagram (@mrs_d_alcoholfree) and I have two books out about my recovery. 'Mrs D Is Going Without' tells the story of how I quit and 'Mrs D Is Going Within' tells the story of how I developed lasting tools to help me live sober long term. I also write a sober blog called Mrs D Is Going Without which you can find at (www.livingwithoutalcohol.blogspot.com). Great to have you here with us!
Thanks everyone for your lovely messages yesterday on my sad news. It was so lovely to see the notifications trickle in all day. What a special community this is, such a simple concept.. putting people together and fostering kindness and non-judgemental support as we learn how to live without numbing ourselves. So very special and I thank each and every one of you for being here. @marmite I forgot of course you knew about my MIL from her work in Lyttelton! She taught new entrants there for over 20 years so will be well known in the community. Such a fantastically warm, wise, loving and giving woman. Off to pick up Mr D from the airport this morning.. he’s coming home to rest for a few days then we’ll all head back down to CHCH for the funeral at the end of the week. I cannot wait to see him. My mum is also having a hip operation this week and will be in hospital also in CHCH so it really is a time for honouring and giving back to our parents. I often think that this phase of life – our 40’s and thereabouts – is such a busy time with kids becoming teenagers, parents ageing, our careers being busy, our own health being important. Just busy busy busy and tired tired tired and what a fantastic time to be sober!!!! I’d like to say a huge THANK YOU to the me of 7 1/2 years ago that decided to kick shit booze to the curb. What a fantastic decision!!! Anyone who works to get sober is a bloody legend and that means all of you so lets all give ourselves virtual high fives and keep striving to live our best lives. Hugs to all xxx
Morning Lotta…. well done for being present for yourself and your family at this sad time. For being available to them and supportive…..and for processing it all authentically and naturally. It’s a sad time but also a chance to reflect and celebrate her life.
Sure is a great time to be sober, wish I was smart enough to do it in my forties, but all the same I’ll thank the me that thought better late than never nearly 5 years ago. And I’ll thank you too for giving me the idea and the community in which to do it. You will be strong and amazing this week. That is how you roll. Let your tears flow. Power to ya xoxo
Just saw the news, my sympathy to you and your family for your loss. Not sure I could decide to go home and accept. Many say they would, then when the time comes, it’s too hard. She must have been a strong and brave woman. Helen Keller once said something like “all that we once loved we can can never lose, because everything we love becomes part of us” or something like that. And I believe that, I think our loved ones continue to influence us, even after they cross over that line between this world and the next.