So lovely to see new members joining our community.. just starting out on this mission of sobriety. Such a scary time.. I totally get it.. facing down a life with no booze.. like WHAAATTTT????!!! Who does that? Who lives without touching alcohol ever? The prospect of living the rest of your life with no wine or beer or whiskey or gin or bubbles or whatever. Every single event that comes up.. every Friday night.. party.. BBQ… no alcohol..how can I possibly do that? It’s scary and shocking and new and foreign and vulnerable-making and terrifying. But it’s also quietly exciting and energetic. There is a whisper of hope that things could maybe be difficult. Others are waving from across the bridge saying “I get it! I’ve been where you are! I promise it’s not that bad! It’s actually quite bloody good!” .. so you forge ahead, you trust that it will work out ok, you remind yourself constantly why you are quitting in the first place, you push out of your mind all the romantic thoughts of booze that try to get you to pick up again, you remind youself again and again and again what your truth is.. why you are quitting, you trust those who have been there before that it’s all going to work out ok. You tell yourself “Just for today”, “just for today”, “just for today” over and over and over… and eventually.. slowly… gently… messily…dramatically..in fits and starts… your life shifts and adjusts and settles and your new ‘normal’ becomes a reality. A new sober you. Grounded, settled, truthful, raw, brave, vulnerable and real. Trust me.. sobriety is SO worth the hard work. So welcome all of you.. gird your loins and get ready for a bumpy ride at first. Stay close to us here.. and KNOW that a new, better future awaits. Booze sucks, it lies and steals us from ourselves. And all the cool people are sober nowadays anyway. x
@mrs-d fab post! Love it. One of the best things I read when I first joined was the idea of me swimming to the island where all the sober people were who were cheering me on. It has worked for me so far. I love the support on LS and yes, all the cool people are sober anyway. It is also quietly exciting and energizing. 🙂
Thanks @Mrs D. I finished your book yesterday – I had heard you speak on the radio years ago so sought it out when I decided to stop drinking. So glad I did. Loved reading your story – thanks so much for having made the decision to share it. You also opened up a whole world of other stories for me to dive into. I’m half way through “The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober” by Catherine Gray (blimey – her drinking story is rough – but amazing to hear her come out the other side) and nearly finished “Kick the Drink… Easily!” by Jason Vale. I’m finding this book incredibly helpful and would recommend reading it to anyone else at the start (or thinking about it). Completely flipped my perception of drinking. Wow.
Thanks for the warm welcome. Glad to be joining the cool people!
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