In August 2014, I thought it was time to clear the toxins out of my life and focus on what really matters: health, clarity, loving my family & friends with nothing to get in the way.
Using alcohol too often to cope with a decade of chronic stress, earthquakes, sadness, and disappointment was frighteningly failing to help. Moderating was tiring and depressing.
Life is not easier now, but I realise that without alcohol I am calmer, happier, far more able to face change and sadness, & have increased confidence in my abilities. No going back.
'We can let the circumstances of our lives harden
us so that we become increasing resentful &
afraid, or we can let them soften us, & make us
You always have the choice.'
I second Liberty, 11 days +++++ how many???? Let us celebrate the total with you!
Is there a different fram to put around ” riddled with so many addictions”?
Like, try, Tim is a sensitive, hard working man who struggles at times to be his best, healthy self as his family is not the best support, and friends…?
However, over the past … Year?…[Read more]
And you are amazing for doing this! For you, and for your children. It keeps getting better & better. Even 4 1/2 years free I often think, this is soooo good. And imagining where it could have ended, even if only a quietly compromised, deadened life… Shudder
Are the Scottish Drs lacking in up to date training??!!! They need to check the World Health Org recommendations – cancer, dementia, a host of other life screwing health impacts – and all from MODERATE drinking 🙁 🙁 🙁 Read up on breast cancer and you will stop any unhelpful drinking-encouragers in their tracks.
Your thoughts/intuition/unease is…[Read more]
May your day improve dramatically – even if it is only your pride rising up as you manage to get through without a crutch – a crutch that actually debilitates and wrecks your family anyway.
Take care hon XXX
A great place to be! I did the same. I was not an extreme drinker by any means, however emotionally addicted for 6 or so years, and the danger signs were increasing. Now I dread the thought of the haziness I so sought, and the lack of clarity, not to mention the vile ethanol taste that underlies.
That sounds life changing and truly wonderful.
I think Dave is right about returning to Step 3 (forgiveness?) – forgiveness is an ongoing state of being, seldom a miraculous moment of occurring then all symptoms of the damage disappearing forever. Of course it can be that – I had such a moment about my grandmother, but then, she had not damaged me…[Read more]
Thanks @morgan , step 3 is ” Made the decision to turn out our will and our lives over to the care of God ( higher power ) as we understood him . The serenity prayer also in step 3 is really good if you want to look it up xxx
I could not reply to you below @underthegreenoak, so here it is – re your AA members who are not real and say Yum all the time:
Yum?! That sounds weird … maybe another meeting would be more interesting/ beneficial/informative/real do you think?
Have you listened to Tara Brach at all? A psychologist and meditation teacher. She is good on…[Read more]
What a beautiful sight it must have been, but such a heart rending memory. So sorry you have such grief to bear.
Good that hubby is pulling his weight in the cooking department. I hope it was excellent
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