• MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 55 minutes ago

    Wow – hope your sale went well – cool. Hey, love the sound of the new job prospect – wud love to know more as it comes about? Yeaaah…spring is nearly here-still a bit wild. I’ve been pretty busy with a Crohn’s flare, so…pretty full-on. (One of those mystery diseases ya just dnt bother explaining) ahhh yup. As far as alcohol goes – I don’t look back much these days –

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 18 hours, 7 minutes ago

    @adamodea, man…that DESPERATION is a vile force…..it’s all created by yours truly, alcohol. Stuff you already know. Glad you’re here to formulate a plan to sort it out.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 18 hours, 13 minutes ago

    Hi @jonnyhanlon. @davdfs is right about this site. Its done the trick for (me). Part of the magic is the free interaction you’ll have with people who totally ‘get it’.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 18 hours, 19 minutes ago

    Hiya @steveow. What do you think about the new web lay-out?

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 18 hours, 20 minutes ago

    Welcome here @mgnstarkey.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 18 hours, 21 minutes ago

    Gotta agree, life is a work in progress @lee@. Gawd help us all if we spend all our time looking for a finish-line. And, all the cliches are true. Ha. How’s your new work routine panning out so far??

    • I didn’t take the last job @malibustacey. I threw it back in. Still fishing. I’ve been purging unwanted or things I don’t need for the last 2 days and am having a sale today. This is work, my friend. I have an interview with a really good company tomorrow. Will see how that goes. How’s things on your end? Has spring sprung yet? Should be getting close I imagine.

      • Wow – hope your sale went well – cool. Hey, love the sound of the new job prospect – wud love to know more as it comes about? Yeaaah…spring is nearly here-still a bit wild. I’ve been pretty busy with a Crohn’s flare, so…pretty full-on. (One of those mystery diseases ya just dnt bother explaining) ahhh yup. As far as alcohol goes – I don’t look back much these days –

      • The sale went ok @malibustacey, considering it was only for a few hours and on a Sunday. I’ll be adding things this week and have another go at it this coming Saturday if I’m not working that is. Have 2 interviews scheduled for tomorrow, both at good places, there’s a chance that I’ll get one or the other. I need to get back to work. Take care of yourself, I know a little about Crohn’s and it’s nothing nice at all. You manage to get through all of this sober though and that is pretty damn inspiring. Nothin but respect from here!

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 day, 16 hours ago

    I’m proud of ya! Aww noo…yer wifi blocked the site. Ah man. That was a newsy catchup post @beccajane. Are you able to take care of that little ear infection ok?? 153 days looks like one of those solid chunky numbers to me…the floating-gin-palace-la-la-land adventure holiday must have been somethin’ else. You sure sound busy busy.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 day, 16 hours ago

    You’re a winner, @Ladyhawke.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 day, 16 hours ago

    @Wakingowl makes a fair point, “any strategy’ that works!! I ‘reckon shifting into ‘manual’ gear to over-ride that ‘automatic’ response to alcohol is what drives us out’a the bog.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 day, 17 hours ago

    Seven weeks sounds like some pretty good training, @missyC! Cool you’re back on yer bike and at day2!

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 day, 17 hours ago

    Makes me recall a favorite, “I approve of myself”, by Louise Hay…(RIP). A good one to have on hand. Brilliant day count 🙂

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 day, 17 hours ago

    Fair enough, @preparedtochange. I remember feeling that way too, but relieved to eventually discover, it was actually the alcohol’s effect on my overall mental health eating me up. Oh the clear perspective you’ll gain without booze in the equation ~ the issues you (we) may need to address become incredibly more manageable. If it’s just one hour at a time “actively not drinking”, go hard. And, keep going hard. There’s a gigantic pile of material in this website for us. So cool you’re posting. We’re on your side.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 2 days, 19 hours ago

    (Hiya @enzedgirl) Thank you for asking…I’m pretty full-time negotiating a patch of increased activity in my Crohns. It’s a full time farkin job. I’m still branching into different avenues of my real profession(s)..as I’ve always seemed to manage. It’s the zig-zag career path approach, akin to the “Dark Horse Project”.Anything to do with alcohol just doesn’t cross my mind anymore, glad to say. The complexities with having a chronic illness is big enough. So…life continues to be interesting in pretty fascinating ways. blah blah blah blah..ha

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 2 days, 19 hours ago

    Maaaavelous, @Cascadeclimber. How’dya be?

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 2 days, 19 hours ago

    Hiya @stillsober72. (Makes me wanna ask if this means you’ve been sober for nearly 50 yrs?) Dunno. Hello.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 2 days, 19 hours ago

    You’re body needs healthy glycogen stores, so turning to natural glucose like we find in our natural foods, ie fruit, honey, etc. stuff like that, you already know. And, good point you make about the ‘sneaking’ buzz ~ it’s one thing to ‘treasure’ something in solitude vs ‘hiding’ a behavior…perhaps it’s worth some investigation, that ‘thing’?

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 2 days, 19 hours ago

    Well, that sure sounds like some performance today, @WakingOwl. Thank Gawd you’re dealing with this clear-headed. And, still in this time of tenderness w/ your mother ~ lots’a love.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 4 days, 14 hours ago

    Pretty special way to celebrate, @dorothyparker. Happy birthday.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 4 days, 15 hours ago

    Yeah, kp it simple a few more seasons – it’s an art, so they ‘reckon. Hiya princess-head.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 4 days, 15 hours ago

    You’re up & going again, @elaise.☺(I can’t really recall anyone here mention they were able to moderate any considerable length of time. Matter of fact, their drinking often becomes worse than ever) Big BACKFIRE – yuck

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 4 days, 15 hours ago

    Sounds as though you’ve learned a lot about yourself in the past 9months, @narley.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 4 days, 15 hours ago

    Goin well @sandyb. You’re right, that bottle in the house would just call your name. Hell no to having poison in the house it is then.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 4 days, 15 hours ago

    Hiya @Mamoo.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 4 days, 15 hours ago

    Aw @enzedgirl!!! Snappy number! Happy-shnappy. And, farout, those are some miles. Xo

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 5 days ago

    Heya @jaxisdry. Heyy, nearly 5mos. So so cool. Crohns is complex enuf without having to add the weirdness of alcohol addiction on top, aye. Screw that. Wow, you sound gud, m’friend.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 6 days, 16 hours ago

    Would love seeing some of your lyrics, @Sober4real. Continued prayers of mending and protection for your beautiful heart.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    What a relief, @newstart100. Those a fair few days you’ve achieved. What a life changer 🙂

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    We’re on your side, @fridaymay92014. (I) now think (my) cat & mouse “attempts” were more torture than actually punching through the first few grueling months of really stopping. The chemical roller-coaster ride stopping/starting/stopping doesn’t actually stop until you do. Something you already know.

    • I actually visualized being able to day Day 60 or Day 90 and I thought about what months those would be. I have never looked that far out. I have only been able to get through the thought of today. I allowed myself to believe it can be longer, forever. Yep I said it.
      I love your description of the cat and mouse “attempts,” yes torture, and at the same time teaching me how to do this and why. I am stubborn even with myself apparently. Have to keep proving to myself that I really do not like drinking and I really cannot stop at one.

  • MalibuStacey posted an update 1 week ago

    It might be winter in the s. hemisphere, a prime-time to get all inward, listless, restless & flat, but at least I don’t feel like shit on top of a ten-tier shit sandwich all saturated in the booze-game, anymore. Ahh, there’s that…” at least I’m not drinking” thought which sometimes might be the only seemingly stable thought we’re welcome to use, anytime, anywhere. (Especially during those early months of the ‘change’). Voila la…zzzzzzzzz. Hiya…clockin’ in at…something…just shy of 15 consecutive months w/out a drop. Yup ~ Just don’t need that mental illness.

    • That’s awesome! And “a ten-tier shit sandwich all saturated in the booze-game” is the best expression I’ve heard all week! 😂😂😂

    • hahahaha ten-tier shit sandwich! Yes, as always I went from being bummed with a headache to laughing because of you! You are rocking it so wonderfully! I appreciate you so much. Keep on with your bad self sistah!!! xoxoxoxoxxo

    • So true!!! Getting a bit over winter myself but I have thought many times in the last couple of weeks ‘at least I’m not drinking’.

    • @malibustacey, winter time blue there, end of summer expectation of fall here, still inside with the heat, introspection, mid 90s, take the shoes off, walk the sidewalks to make sure they are ok for dog walks. it is so true, so much more time after decades of drinking, where that was just what we did. Be well, and well, wow, on 15 months without a drop.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Your new reward system sounds like it’s paying off, @hikermom. What flavor ice-cream you into this week?

    • Chocolate peanut butter. Always chocolate peanut butter!!! 👌

      • @hikermom, believe me if there had been real ice cream I would have gone for it! It’s kind of funny but the only way I do not like chocolate is chocolate ice cream, chunks of chocolate in other flavors like peanut butter or some such I love.

      • @WakingOwl My husband is the same with chocolate ice cream. It’s so funny. I am stocked with ice cream and herbal tea now like I used to be stocked with wine. And if either are low in stock, I’m heading to the store!

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Heya, @Sober4real…you got the postpartum blues or somethin’, lil Princess? Oh, and of course that asshole alcohol pops in like a night in f*kn shining armor. Any chance of crankin’ up some music & goin’ about yer business for the next couple hours? xo

    • Hey @malibustacey @suzkep and @bluesmum I actually FELL asleep as I realized I was angry, lonely and tired and turns out I’m getting sick! Just like a sinus infection or something. Terrible headache but thank you all……that asshole alcohol @malibustacey likes to promise to make things better but we know BETTER! Big hugs all of you. Thanks for your support. You are all awesome!

      • yep i get that and have felt the same last few days for diff reasons, more like same hard feelings hitting me, dragging me to that’old ‘place and so wanted to numb it… Avoided drink, had some quiet time……but still there… It will pass, we have to remind ourselves , it will pass. Go gently

      • Oh yes @lynnelowe I know it will but I don’t get it like I did today often so I just had to say something here on LS to take the power out of it. It was the very first time in 10 months I thought about actually going to the store in a split second. Definitely going gently and it’s 10:23 p.m. so that’s good news.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    43 days is a solid start to your resolve, @wiser4it. I ‘reckon you can expect to keep surfing the giant kaleidoscope of “moods” as you force yourself away from THE ILLUSION that alcohol created in the first place. (Of course it’ll calm down, the longer you stick to your guns ) Kind’a helps to remember your chemistry is recalibrating itself. I’ll bet this is a massive change for you and perhaps even those close to you who might respectfully be giving you some breathing space?

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Bet you’re incredibly pleased with your night out, @SoberBrightongirl. Bold move and you nailed it on a few levels…is how ya do it:)

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Pretty sure we just read the beginnings of a most beautiful memorial tribute to your wonderful mother, @wakingowl. Heartfelt condolences to you, family & friends during this tender time.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Holy sit @jocord..roll on 500. Speshial alrighty. Xo

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    A farkin salad complaint from an inebriated shrinking violet with a sober dinner guest ~ how the hell can you stand being around that boozy environment….dunnnnooooo.I know, it’s driving you nuts. How’s your Cajun French? I picture you getting snapped-up by the most exclusive restaurant in La’s French Triangle, in the meantime. x

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    Plan yer work, work your plan, @Lee. You’ll be doing well to have survived summer in the deep south. Yuck, done a few, myself. Any short-term trips up north somewhere near a lake or river before summers over? A short reprieve for now?

    • I’ve decided to extend my preparation time to 6 months before I leave this place @malibustacey. I was able to cut the lease on my place to that instead of a year and then it will be month to month. It’s nice that they are working with me on that, as the fear of being stuck here for a whole year was weighing heavy on me. Freedom bells will ring. The “Clampit family” comment that you made earlier still has me laughing and I thank you dearly for that. Just another big sharp rock in my shoe as I move steadily forward. I could go on and on about that part but what’s the use and I will likely face more of the same as long as I am here. Hurricane season will be heavily upon us soon and I’ll have to deal with that but at least the weather will become nicer soon enough. In the meantime I’ve tossed out that rock, will polish my shoes and see what’s next. Job hunting feels like it’s become a sport, too bad I can’t get paid for it. When and where were you down south? There are so many survival techniques here that will not be missed. Drinking is top of the list.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    Prayers for continued renewal, @Sober4real.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    @Lee…s’pose it has been a while. It’s 2:30am & I’m prowling around the house having a hot drink, doin some deep diagnostics on one of my computers, listening to Nat’l radio & it all feels quite illegal to be acting like I’m too much awake. My degenerating disk situation took about 3 wks to come right’ish. Years of extreme sports, mostly water skiing/barefootin’ heavy-duty, comes back to bite every once in a while. Moderation is not my middle name….yeah, surprise surprise. I think I know you know what i mean. Been keeping an eye on you. You’re going beautifully. Oh yes you are. xo (Will stay-tuned about the Clampits and their swamp food. Still curious which dish your diners found below-par that late evening). They might well be more suited finding a new chef? Ha. Hmm…best you take over the world again, I’m headin’ back to bed.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Knowing you, you’ll already have that plan B in motion. S’pose the right thing to do is have a lil frank discussion with the farktards to sort it out, first?? Ah @lee@. (Go to their competition) . Xoox

    • Oh, and there you are goddess! I think that my brain may have shrunk enough to fit back into my shoes, so I’ll do just that. Much love to you madam! How’s your back feeling @malibustacey? xo

      • @Lee…s’pose it has been a while. It’s 2:30am & I’m prowling around the house having a hot drink, doin some deep diagnostics on one of my computers, listening to Nat’l radio & it all feels quite illegal to be acting like I’m too much awake. My degenerating disk situation took about 3 wks to come right’ish. Years of extreme sports, mostly water skiing/barefootin’ heavy-duty, comes back to bite every once in a while. Moderation is not my middle name….yeah, surprise surprise. I think I know you know what i mean. Been keeping an eye on you. You’re going beautifully. Oh yes you are. xo (Will stay-tuned about the Clampits and their swamp food. Still curious which dish your diners found below-par that late evening). They might well be more suited finding a new chef? Ha. Hmm…best you take over the world again, I’m headin’ back to bed.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Forging ahead in leaps & bounds, @CascadeClimber. Bravo. You’ve really put your mind to this, it shows. 🙂

    • Thank you! Years ago I quit tobacco and never looked back, booze has been harder walk away from. I can see now, that at least for me, tobacco and alcohol are equal evils and my resolve to quit alcohol needs to be as strong.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Bless your heart, @dennyd. @WakingOwl‘s comment pretty well sums it up. Boy, you’ve done beautifully through this tender event clean & sober.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Way to go, @DaisyM…it’s a ‘sign’ reaffirming your WISE choice to quit the shit. That was a gift! Look at you go at 28 days…what a solid achievement 🙂

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    What a number @scared (what a typo, too. Heh) you’re soo so right about the loss of that crushing anxiety. What a Mum to kp up w those boys!

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    That’s a giant leap, @kitten. Can’t wait to hear how it goes. Either way, getting picked for that position is really a fine promotion, in so many ways. A brilliant choice when you reminded your ‘reward’ system with nourishing goodness instead of…the ..otha… You sound really cool. xo

    • thanks, @malibustacey, felt this really cool excited feeling come over me later in day yesterday, when i remember back to the anxiety when I almost just decided not to even go to the interview . .. would never have had that decision. off to see one of my kid clients graduate hs. so freaking excited for him. first in his family, foster kid, everything in his way, but here he is. have a great day!

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    I think you win today’s prize @craftygirl. BEST CHOICE AWARD!!!!

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    And, what a brilliant writer, from one word to the next @DaveH. You’re a long, cool drink of water ~

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    You little treasure, @Lee@. xoox

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    Oh…that grunt-work can be excruciating…hour by hour @leslielily. You’ll make it to your clean-sheets by the end of the day ~ is all that matters right now. Sending love.

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