• Lucy posted a new activity comment 11 hours, 44 minutes ago

    Lol yes it stems from Worcestershire… great ain’t it.. I put on my cheese and potato pie before I bake it.. bloody lovely xx fish and chips from the chippy is one if my favs.. hate fish otherwise.. try and enjoy work my love and don’t throat punch anyone haha xxx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 12 hours, 53 minutes ago

    Thank you lovely. Hope your day is good to.. definitely life changing this sober lark.good stuff x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 12 hours, 56 minutes ago

    My God yes was so easy to pick 2 bottles up after my shift every day.. cheaper now to as I only buy tonic water.

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 14 hours, 19 minutes ago

    Really good @David, I work in a supermarket and those bloody isles talk to me… your doing great.. congrats day 7, remember how well you feel and when the “gremlin” appears again tell it to get stuffed!! x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 14 hours, 25 minutes ago

    Thank you very much @Happy2019.. hope your good today.. lets keep going. x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 14 hours, 49 minutes ago

    thank you @DavidFS. x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 14 hours, 49 minutes ago

    You will @sobermommy1013.. taken me 9 relapses to get there.. thank you for commenting and your pic is lovely by the way. xxx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 15 hours, 19 minutes ago

    Oh bless her I bet she looks gorgeous today, I get flash backs even though my boy is 15 now when he was little i used to slur my way through bed time stories.. just horrible thoughts come back and bad ones of me and his dad arguing.. ( we are best friends really)… great your noticing all this @leslielily.. it means your healing.. xxx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 15 hours, 25 minutes ago

    Hello @KathyD and welcome..

  • “Wouldn’t you like that lovely, warm, relaxing buzz you get from the first couple of sips of a glass of wine”, “your tired it’s been a long week and wine will sort you out”.. This is my alcoholic boozy brain rattling at me this afternoon, thing is I don’t crave any booze today, it’s just the thoughts popped into my head out of no where.. weather it’s habit I don’t know!! All I’m looking forward to is Ham, Egg and Chips, shower , Tv and a good book.. Day 70 and feeling ok, driving to work this morning I was present, not hung over and still full of wine and vodka had beautiful scenery to look at and just nature that I used to whizz past and not notice.. mumbling to myself how I hated myself, hated booze, hated my life.. I’m so hard done by!! even after bouts of sobriety before I’ve never been this grateful to be sober.. Mentally now I’m not scared of anything, fear was a big part of my drinking now it’s all calm and nothing seems to faze me much.. anyway one proud momma my boy got B grade in his child development exam…. A Happy Day Today… support to you all with love.. xx

    • @lucy – this is such a great post!!! Congrats on 70 days!! I love how you say that you aren’t scared of anything….I can’t wait to feel that way. You are inspiring to me.

    • 70 days wow. Well done @Lucy

    • Hey @Lucy, seems you’re much farther than those old voices in your brain – great! That’s just an old program sometimes popping on but you have saved the new, better, highly topical version of the sober program very successfully 🙂

    • Congrats on day 70 @Lucy
      Absorbing all that beauty with a clear head… it is a beautiful thing, isn’t it! I often think that there is a lot to the “habit” thinking alcohol brain of ours. A pipe broke in the concrete slab of our foundation and it will be days of chiseling concrete to repair the broken pipe. In my “habit” brain I think, pick up a bottle and watch the hubby work it out. But my new sober brain is “Read a few chapters in the book I’m currently reading, “Stumbling into Sobriety” by Tracy Collins and I’m gonna try my hand at a latch hook project” (conjuring up more of my childhood happy places, before booze)
      Hope you have a super awesome sober day!

    • Hey you in Droitwich Spa 😉 omg you know what I barely remembered that and googled it to check – Worcestershire! I’m thinking sauce! Mmm lol is that where Lea and Perrins comes from round there @lucy such good black sauce. We had fish and chips last night. Down under here. I’m off to work. Have a good night 😁

      • Lol yes it stems from Worcestershire… great ain’t it.. I put on my cheese and potato pie before I bake it.. bloody lovely xx fish and chips from the chippy is one if my favs.. hate fish otherwise.. try and enjoy work my love and don’t throat punch anyone haha xxx

    • Congrats on 70 days, that’s amazing

    • So happy to hear this!! You are knocking it out of the park, Lucy! Well done.

    • What a lovely happy post @Lucy. Just keep kicking those sober days Dow the road. Such a great feeling being sober and not beating yourself up, isn’t it? Xox

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 15 hours, 38 minutes ago

    I completely get all of this @foofers, stay with us here all day/night if you need to.. keep posting how your getting on .. the first few days can be tough but once your through them your mind will start to clear…. take it easy with yourself. xx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 15 hours, 47 minutes ago

    Sounds like my story @lilydog, I functioned drunk and hid it well.. only my closest family and friends could see how much of a problem I had. Just to say 70 days in (again) and so much has changed, I know I struggle some days but it’s getting easier.. feeling well when I wake up in the mornings not hung over and feeling like death. Struggling through the day until my alcoholic brain tells me “I’m ok and a drink is a reward”… take good care of yourself and don’t go to the beer fest… x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 15 hours, 56 minutes ago

    You can do it @Sobermommy1013, enjoy the gym class you’ll feel great after lol .. lots more positive. hang in there. x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 1 day, 11 hours ago

    @LeslieLily, 1st let me say your pic is beautiful and 2nd how brave and sober are you now… massive well done to you.. you did not pick up a drink through all that went on. You are changing everyday your posts prove that. I do hope you get a good sleep and wake up tomorrow feeling clear and refreshed… loads of love and sober support coming to you. xx

    • @Lucy Thank you!! When I first joined, I was so ashamed of myself and scared of the journey and of anyone I knew finding out… I used a random name for my username and wouldn’t share my face. Now – I have so much more confidence in this battle and so much less shamed. I’m no longer scared to admit the problem I had with alcohol, so I wanted to change my picture to my actual face. <3

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 1 day, 11 hours ago

    A brilliant positive post @freedom1025, made my day and made me feel happy thank you x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 1 day, 11 hours ago

    Your doing this @laurali and doing this well, keep going freedom from the booze YES. x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 1 day, 11 hours ago

    Sounds wonderful @newstart100 I’d give my right arm for a day like this.. tonight everyone’s talking AT me and I crave silence.. lovely post. xx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 1 day, 12 hours ago

    Don’t give up @michael6 it’s just a learning curve and I should know I’ve had loads.. find your sober tools and keep using them and don’t give yourself a hard time this happens weather your 2 days sober or 2 years.. alcohol is very cunning. x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 1 day, 12 hours ago

    I love this post @sobermommy1013, I also believe alcoholism is a disease and one I will be fighting for ever!! I’ve relapsed far too many times not to… you see my husband is very supportive (now) he wasn’t because he was waiting for my “fuck it” button to go. I think in time your husband will really help you, just be kind to you.. with the mood swings my husband now knows when I need space and time to try and get my head around how I’m changing, and for the better.. xx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 1 day, 12 hours ago

    One of my drinking triggers was boredom @TipseyToeGal, that my life should have been faster.. Holidays abroad, going out all the time buying clothes.. more excitement.. rush, rush, drink, drink. Because everyone lives like this.. No they don’t just me and my addiction did!! Just learning now that a slower drama free life is better and slower, staying sober is heavenly now… great post thank you. xx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 1 day, 12 hours ago

    You are doing well @helsmi, ignore that voice it tells you lies. xx keep going, I keep banging on about self care but this is very important,, please look after yourself.. xx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    Hey lovely to hear from you.. xxx so good your ok and doing well.

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 10 hours ago

    @Mandles you to.. how are you getting on? We aren’t going back are we.. x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    Hope you sleep well tonight, day 3 well done and lots of self care for you.. x

  • Lucy posted an update 2 days, 11 hours ago

    Hi .. Just checking in to say hello and I’m thinking of you all tonight. Been a long day but a good one as I didn’t wake up with a massive hang over.. Reading in a book about writing down 3 things I’m grateful for, so here goes.. 1 grateful for this supportive, fab site and all of you.. 2 My job (as sometimes I’m negative about this) 3 My spiritual life ( I help myself and guide a lot of people with this).. day 68 and proud.. xx loads of love Lucy.

    • Way to go Lucy, Day 68 is amazing. Gratitude is one of the best way forward to clear the mind I should really start… I am grateful for friendships and love. Have a great day tomorrow xx

    • Woo Hoo 68 days!! Doing good @Lucy. It is a real delight to see how much of a difference this sobriety is making in your family. Such a win win for everyone, but most of all for you. For you to see the happiness in your family and know it is because of your courage, your changes, you. Well done xoxo

    • Day 68!! Hooray for you! 😀 Any day not waking up with a massive hangover is amazing, isn’t it? Thinking about the feeling of a hangover at this point is such great motivation to me to never ever drink again. <3

    • Thanks so much for your sweet shoutout the other day, Lucy!!! oxoxox I had a big fat smile on my face at work when I got the notification email. I am still so excited you’re back here since you’re one of the very few people left from when I first signed up. Makes me feel at home and comfortable to see your name pop up in here.
      68 days. Boom.

      oxoxoxox

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    Thinking of you @Lee, hope you get that Job.. Some days I don’t want to be shiny either, people think I’m bubbly all the time.. I was when I was still full of booze.. or hiding my pain very well. You take it easy and enjoy your quiet time xx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    Mrs D’s books are my go to, definitely my story and I keep reading them, so honest and true.. day 2, very well done.. look after yourself well.. lots of water keep hydrated x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    Hi @bellbird, good work on day 11, stick with it life gets better and much happier, and I’m eating chocolate like mad .. it certainly helps xx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    Hi and Good Evening from the UK, hope your day has been good, I’m off to bed soon, sober and ready for a relaxing nights sleep.. no 2am wake up, shakes, sweats and raging thirst.. No awful feeling of guilt either.. great stuff. x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    You whine away @Deester lol, we just need to keep telling ourselves this too will pass. take care. x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    Good to read your doing ok @AprilsFool, I was a bit worried about you.. It’s the letting go of the past that has taken me years (still am to). But learning to forgive, even ourselves is hard work, we will get there though.. drink won’t help will it? Just make us worse.. Lots of love Lucy. x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    My poor husband gets an ear bashing to @AndieT.. my pink cloud blew away to, but still focusing on staying sober. It will come back soon I’m sure. Yesterday I was irritable but just plain moody today.. early night I think for me.. does the trick tomorrow will look better. xx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 12 hours ago

    Hey I remember you from before @Buckeyeone.. I’m back also.. 68 days for me, good to see your back, keep going. xx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 12 hours ago

    Hi and welcome to living sober, lots of non judgemental support here .

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 12 hours ago

    I agree @Noodle71, I feel as though I’ve finally found “My Tribe” here (as they say).. This is my big must everyday to check in here. I’ve been to AA, NA (even though I never took Illegal drugs, just wanted to go) and help from a therapist.. this is the place for me. I can fully trust each and everyone on here with my posts and I’ve never met any of you.. that means the world to me.. day 53/now 54… well done to you. x sleep well

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 12 hours ago

    Hi @erica375 I always wake up starving to.. and I love my food so much now. When I was drinking I wasn’t really that bothered.. took up to much booze time. Plus exercising more and burning off calories … I eat loads of cake and ice cream now.. good you had a great time yesterday x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 12 hours ago

    Hello and welcome to you.

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 12 hours ago

    Hi and welcome.

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 13 hours ago

    I’m smoking far too much @jennah but its keeping my kind of sane in my early sobriety.. well done to you and congrats on 40 days x

    • Thanks @lucy. I don’t have much choice about it….well….that’s not totally true. The choice is how long do I want to live??? My answer is… a lot longer than if I am smoking and drinking. I got a big wake-up call on July 13 of this year. I am lucky to be here 🙂

  • Lucy posted an update 3 days, 14 hours ago

    @leslielily I know you’ll be asleep now or just getting up but just to say your doing so well.. read your posts, great your doing something new sobriety is definitely working for you xx

    • @Lucy You are doing so well too!! I love catching up with your posts and seems like we are both in such a good mental space right now. I’m treading cautiously though as I know it doesn’t always last and there are still some big issues in my life I need to face sooner rather than later. <3

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 16 hours ago

    What a wonderful adventure @Aria. Sounds absolutely wonderful. x

  • Lucy posted an update 3 days, 16 hours ago

    Not sure how I’m feeling today, can’t put my finger on but feel edgy and a bag of nerves. Yesterday I was high on a pink cloud that didn’t last long. I hope there will be more though, really enjoying the book ” the unexpected joys of being sober” … very funny and helpful, I love being sober and not craving a drink at all but I think it’s just life pissing me off. The school holidays are dragging now and I need my Mondays back for me time.. Husband is still off work after he shoulder op and getting under my feet ( bless him). We all went swimming early this morning and grateful for this because if still on the booze it would never have happened, I’d be up and feeling like death warmed up!! Willing the clock round so’s I could get a wine and feel better.. thing is I never felt better just back in that vicious circle of illness, mentally and physically.. I’m now having a diet coke and cooking a roast dinner (loving my food).. will have an easy night with self care number one In my priority.. keep going everyone.. oh and @aprilsfool how are you today?? xx

    • @Lucy, I remember the challenges of keeping my daughter busy for two months every year, it can be exhausting. A family swim sounds wonderful. I am always grateful my mother insisted we all learn to swim well. Swimming can be an absolute joy!

    • @lucy another pink cloudish day will come soon. I have been hit with anxiety the last couple of days too, totally out of the blue and I don’t know why. So strange. Hope you had some good self care😀

    • The pink cloud can be so fleeting, can’t it!! I have days where I’m on edge and cannot for the life of me figure out why. I used to lash out during these times but now I’m trying my very hardest to let my husband know that I feel this way and I’m not sure why, and to think before I open my big mouth (this is extremely difficult for me, lol). It HAS gotten easier, but these types of feelings/days have certainly not gone away.. I’m just no longer drowning them in booze and feeling even worse the next morning. Sending love, hope you feel less anxious soon. <3

    • Me too Lucy. I’ve been feeling very, very blue and sad and purposeless. However, not an urge to drink. So, I get up, go to my BORING job, take care of the dogs, some yoga, swim in the pool. Distract myself with a good book and journal. Ok – I will now stop whining…..

    • Oh @Lucy. Seems we’re both struggling at the same place here my friend. Pink clouds one day, thunderstorms the next. But isn’t it humbling to stop and think about how very deeply we can now enjoy something so small and everyday – like a morning swim? – to the point that it makes us stop and really feel it?? To become cognizant of how blissful it feels to be sober in that moment and appreciate it all the more? I know what you mean about life kind of pissing you off – me too!! But the easy night and the self care and the roast dinner are the rewards for slugging through the tough stuff. Thank you for thinking of me today and for your kind words and love yesterday. I really don’t know how I (or lots of others like me) would be able to get this done without the support and love of people like you. Xx

      • Good to read your doing ok @AprilsFool, I was a bit worried about you.. It’s the letting go of the past that has taken me years (still am to). But learning to forgive, even ourselves is hard work, we will get there though.. drink won’t help will it? Just make us worse.. Lots of love Lucy. x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 16 hours ago

    Your mom would be very proud of you @wakingowl, what a beautiful tribute..” finding your own healing journey” I love this to in fact I’m going to write this down and put it on my fridge… still going to google Three Sisters Sanctuary .. when I get chance.. take care and keep standing up for yourself. xx

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 16 hours ago

    I personally don’t touch zero booze at all, I have done in the past but it took me back to drinking.. thought it would help the cravings but my mind told me different.. also cooking with alcohol is a no no.. at the moment ( only 2 months in).. I’m over careful at the moment because I don’t want to go back.. I did AA but it wasn’t for me but fantastic for others.. I read lots of sober books, and then I re read them.. a huge well done for a year sobriety… fab x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 16 hours ago

    congrats to you. x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 16 hours ago

    Stay feeling positive @michael6, there is nothing in this world that a drink will fix.. your doing good.

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 16 hours ago

    Hello @brisbane-kiwi and welcome.. Lots of times I’ve drank again after really bad drunken times. I’d stop for a while then the addictive brain kicks in. The last time I thought enough is enough.. Hope you stay here and post often, the support is outstanding.. and I agree with the others see a doctor to..

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 17 hours ago

    Well done a huge change isn’t it being sober. When I had trouble with a work person he drinks every evening and put awful things on FB… everyone knew he was drunk but I just ignored it and stayed calm… not the case if I’d have been drinking.x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 17 hours ago

    I’m in the UK @laurali.. wish I was in New Zealand though lol. x

  • Lucy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 17 hours ago

    Hello and welcome to Living Sober.

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