• Lovelife posted a new activity comment 3 days, 14 hours ago

    Oh wow! So wonderful to hear from you @Tom4500 .. thank you for your wonderful cheerleading and wise words. I went to a meeting today at Lunch time – a different one to the ones I’ve been attending over the last 2 weeks – and am feeling really sad right now as I don’t want to be “labelled” like the peeps that attended this meeting today. Their rock bottom was so much lower than mine, most of those who shared were in their 20’s and had come from rehab to attend, had lost their kids and were made to attend. As I write this I shouldn’t be sad, rather so very glad that I have admitted my problem before I got to the stage where I couldn’t and was forced to do something. Glad that I have a beautiful family and husband who is supporting me and so very grateful that I was able to have lunch after my meeting with a best friend and then go back to a wonderful job. A bumpy ride yes .. but looking forward to the other side. I have just got home and thought I’d lie in the couch and read some of Mrs D’s going without book – I’m up to Her realisation (Chpt 22) and how her blog has been helping her – which made me draw myself to this page. Thank you so very much I will definitely reach out to @newstart100 I hope you are doing well too .. you are an inspiration x

    • Hi @lovelife! So glad you have joined this community and made the decision to quit alcohol. Thank you @tom4500 for putting love life in touch with me. I also have a 10 year old and a 12 year old and our stories are very similar. You are taking great steps and your life will be so much better without the booze!! The best times are being able to play games with my kids before they go to bed without worrying about when I can get my drinks in. I don’t worry about being home by 4:30 so that I can start drinking. I can always drive the carpool without worry. I can take them to birthday parties and sporting events on weekend evenings. Life is so much better without the alcohol!! xo

    • Had much the same experiences at AA meetings, went to four of them at about the 15 month mark. Mostly I was looking for like-minded people, but it wasn’t to my liking. A few of them were court-ordered, the meeting was fairly well scripted, there was a lack of replies to people’s “stories”. And I rebel a little when somebody says “this is the way you HAVE to do it”. I’m not against AA, it’s helped a lot of people. It just wasn’t for me.

  • Lovelife posted a new activity comment 4 days, 2 hours ago

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  • Lovelife became a registered member 1 week, 2 days ago

    • Great screen name! Welcome!

    • Just came across your story as I was reading responses to Mrs D’s latest blog post, and it hit home. So many say “you can’t quit for other people, you have to quit for yourself”, but I don’t believe that. I think it can be a combination. It’s my grandchildren that are 12 and 10; I also have one 7 and one 15 months. It’s that youngest who will be the only member of my family to never smell alcohol on me. One of my favorite alcohol quotes is that bottom isn’t skid row, it’s whatever level you’re at when you stop digging and start climbing. I won’t detail all of what led up to my quitting, but it was years; and that morning when I said “that’s it, no more” was 31 months ago. Statistically, about 10% who quit never relapse, so that means it can be done. Our own Mrs D was that way, too. You have so many important moments ahead of you with those girls, as they grow into women. Put out a message to @newstart100; she’s a Mom with about 2 and a half years sobriety, with daughters about the same age as yours. Your sobriety is so important. You are so important. Young Moms, I think, are the most important people on the planet…with young Dads a close second. When I started out, two and a half years sounded like light years away. But it isn’t. They say the ride is bumpy, and that’s true, but most of it is good. Hope to see your name pop up here now and again.

      • Oh wow! So wonderful to hear from you @Tom4500 .. thank you for your wonderful cheerleading and wise words. I went to a meeting today at Lunch time – a different one to the ones I’ve been attending over the last 2 weeks – and am feeling really sad right now as I don’t want to be “labelled” like the peeps that attended this meeting today. Their rock bottom was so much lower than mine, most of those who shared were in their 20’s and had come from rehab to attend, had lost their kids and were made to attend. As I write this I shouldn’t be sad, rather so very glad that I have admitted my problem before I got to the stage where I couldn’t and was forced to do something. Glad that I have a beautiful family and husband who is supporting me and so very grateful that I was able to have lunch after my meeting with a best friend and then go back to a wonderful job. A bumpy ride yes .. but looking forward to the other side. I have just got home and thought I’d lie in the couch and read some of Mrs D’s going without book – I’m up to Her realisation (Chpt 22) and how her blog has been helping her – which made me draw myself to this page. Thank you so very much I will definitely reach out to @newstart100 I hope you are doing well too .. you are an inspiration x

        • Hi @lovelife! So glad you have joined this community and made the decision to quit alcohol. Thank you @tom4500 for putting love life in touch with me. I also have a 10 year old and a 12 year old and our stories are very similar. You are taking great steps and your life will be so much better without the booze!! The best times are being able to play games with my kids before they go to bed without worrying about when I can get my drinks in. I don’t worry about being home by 4:30 so that I can start drinking. I can always drive the carpool without worry. I can take them to birthday parties and sporting events on weekend evenings. Life is so much better without the alcohol!! xo

        • Had much the same experiences at AA meetings, went to four of them at about the 15 month mark. Mostly I was looking for like-minded people, but it wasn’t to my liking. A few of them were court-ordered, the meeting was fairly well scripted, there was a lack of replies to people’s “stories”. And I rebel a little when somebody says “this is the way you HAVE to do it”. I’m not against AA, it’s helped a lot of people. It just wasn’t for me.