Hello. Just a quick update for those that remember me. I want to share that I made it to 9months. Today is day 279. It is amazing and I am so grateful. After so many day ones I finally worked the 12 steps which worked for me. I found my strengh in God, my higher power. My days are not shadowed by cravings, FOMO, self hatred, self pitty, and all the other negative thought patterens that hindered my recovery in the past. I now feel that I am living my best life. I am a better, happier and awesome me. Sometimes I need to remind myself to stay focussed and to keep remind myself that I need to take it one day at a time and know that I can relapse if I don, t look out and practise my sobriety tools and lifeskills every day. Whereever you are on this rocky journey, keep going, one day at a time, sometimes on second or minte a time. It is so worth it for you and your loved ones. Thank you Living Sober for all the encouragement and support. Xxx
Hello all. I have lurked a lot lately, but just want to check in and say I am doing great. Will be six months on the 6th of Feb – 174 days. Apart from saying hi to all the familiar names, I also want to salute all the newcomers. So worth it. Keep on going. Don’t give up. Xx
Hello all. I have been quiet. Did lurk at times😁. Reading your posts on this site always makes me feel positive and hopeful. We are here and we are trying to better ourselves. I celebrated 5months yesterday. Spend a typical day wigh my family. Cooked a nice meal. Sundays were my worsts days. I drank the whole day and passed out at 18h00. Sad because I missed spending the last weekend night with my children. Mondays were even worst… Woke up sick and with terrible anxiety. I celebrated last night by watching a movie with my sons and smothered them in huggs and kisses. I celebrated Monday morning by waking u happy, loved and content. I am so greatful. Stay strong and love yourselves. You are awesome.
Congrats on 5 moths awesome. It’s scary what we missed out on with our kids while drinking. Great to know we are now present and especially for me clam and predictable for the kids no longer a roller coaster mama.
Hi @kjpeche I was also on this site for nearly 3 and a half years with many many day 1s before I managed to get my counter rolling. Today I am 116 days. Never think that any of us will start to get irritated with a member starting at day one again. We are just so grateful that you keep returning. You are trying and admit that you want to change. We are here to support you. Remember we have all been there. We know how hard and devastating it is. Keep trying. Never give up. Your children need their mom. All the best.xxx
Hi @rt2long. I tried it, but it made me feel terribly sick. I could not sleep or eat. I took it with my anti depressant though. I read a lot about it and came to the conclusion that a lot of people who used the sinclare method found it worked for them. I was prescriped a daily dose. Read up on the sinclaire method for additional info.
Just a quick question. Does the name come up automatically when you reply to a post. Sometimes when I reply and start typing the @…I get a dropbox to select from and mostly not. Is it a setting or am I doing something wrong. Some of you picked weird names and I have to scroll up and down to double check the spelling☺. I always use my android phone and not my laptop. Just wondered.
Hi @Lize, that happens to me all the time too. I think that is one of the things that will be fixed with the new site. I use my iPad so I guess it could be that, I don’t think you are doing anything wrong.
I think the drop-down box suggesting member names that you might like to use only works when you are writing a new update @lize and not when you are commenting/replying to an update. I’m pretty sure this is going to be the same on the new site but will check with the techies whether they could add the feature to comments/replies
Just a short post to share with you that I made it to tripple digits. 100 days today. It took me a while. 4 years of day 1s and many many stops and starts. Well in the end I gained a lot of knowledge and got to know myself quite well. The positives are still mindblowing and I like myself a lot better today than a 101 days ago. I feel comfortable in my skin. Contempt and happy. Anxiety levels and sleep patterns are much better. My life and that of my family’s improved beyond my expectations. I am focussed and got rid of a lot of the selfish thoughts of destruction. Was it difficult? YES!! Is it worth it? YES YES YES. Never ever give up. I am not going to. One day at a time. I still need to do thousands of days, but it certainly helps to get some under my belt. Practice makes perfect and God is good…always good.
@Brummiebird I had quite a few of these dreams. They were so real I woke up in exactly the same state of anxiety as when I were drinking. Woke up rushing to my phone and checked the kitchen for empties…the relief is so great after I realized what happened that I laughed out load and even danced in the kitchen one Sunday morning. Yes, it is normal, but also a great reminder of how it was and what the consequenses are.
Today the counter says 90 days. So grateful. Many day 1s. All woth it. In thend I could not do this on my own. I needed God. I want to encourage all of you where ever you are on your journey to never give uo. This gets easier. Yet it is a cunning disease and I will keep on to walk this path of sobriety one day at a time and some days hour by hour. Point is I don,t care. I want to be sober and I will keep at it. I am healthier, happier, less scared, loveable and content. I did not feel like this 91 days ago.
Just a quick update. Day 76. I have not felt so good in 10 years. At peace with myself. My anxiety levels are definitely way better. I love the fact that I feel like a live in the light…nothing to hide. We still face everyday life and its struggles but it sure helps a lot to at least not add to our difficulties with guilt trips, hangovers, fears of what we said or did and self hatred on top of it all. I still believe in taking it one day at a time, but slowly but surely I find ways to enjoy this journey. At the start I used to dread wine-o-clock and wished that I could go to bed and sleep so that time passes. I now find that my days are filling up with meaningful things, conversations, tasks and losts of mentally stimilating reading. I know this is worth it. I even thought ysterday that addiction is a positive thing in my life…I am getting so much closer to the Lord and it is awesome. May you feel strong and loved this coming week. We can do this.
Congrats on 76! Wonderful post. I, too, have thought addiction and the process of becoming sober is a gift. I find myself more empathetic, tolerant, kind, welcoming, and open. I feel grown up and mature!
Hello all my sober friends. I just want to update you. I feel fantastic and grateful. Day 64. I do not crave wine anymore and finally enjoy sobriety. I lost 2 kg, even though I enjoyed dark chocolate and cake for the first time in years without being consumed by guilt. I know you all know this, but it is wonderful to wake up feeling rested and without worries about the night before…
I love spending time with my sons and husband and can feel and see they appreciate me being back in their lives. I know that I need to keep guard and that I need to place my sobriety first. Luckily we never had a busy social life living on a remote farm, but I survived family dinners and weekend where they still drank, but I enjoyed the conversations and general mood while sipping some de- alcoholised red wine (not a trigger for me) or soda. I have a long way to go, but feel that I injured my Goliah enough to stay away for at least more time for me to grow even stronger. I know that we all have different ways to approach this journey. For me it worked to book into rehab for 21 days and to follow the 12 steps. I cannot go to regular meetings due to where I live, but I use this stes and read as much as possible. Online meetings podcasts videos all work wonders. I finally read This Naked Mind by Annie Grace and wish I read it 3 years ago..who knows I might have a few less day 1s…THis is worth all our efgorts. Never give up. I feel awesome and can smile at myself when I look in a mirror again. My confidance improved and I am there for my family every minute of the day when they need me.
Hello all. I am so grateful to post that it is Friday evening 20 past 7 and I am sober and looking forward to the weekend. It definitely gets easier. My 7th sober weekend. My sons are having a ball playning music and laughing. I want to remember every minute. Time fly and before we know they will be off to varsity and away from home. We love rugby and look forward to the Springbok vs Australia test match tomorrow. May the best team win…..xxxx. stay sober and be happy.
7 sober weekends is awesome. Its just enough time to really feel what you will be missing if you pick up alcohol again. No going back now. You have done the hard yards and you have got there. Well done x