24.03.2016 It's been a long and checkered relationship with alcohol and I want to leave this relationship.
I want to find out who I am when I'm not thinking about alcohol, when I'm not drinking just a bit too much too often. I want to know what life feels like without it. Alcohol kept life small. I needed that for a long time but I'm ready for something else now.
I want freedom.
11 days is (and all the days before that are) great @tim.
Great you are taking time for you.
I hope this is not intrusive…I just want to say I find the language you’re using about yourself has my heart a bit sad and I want to stand up for you. You’re not riddled, as if you’re full of diseases or something. You’re just a person whose nervous…[Read more]
I second @Liberty, @tim. You are so sensitive and caring. You strive to live healthily. You put yourself out there which is more than many do! I love the idea there are undiscovered levels on Tim-ness. Onward! xo
It’s confusing isn’t it @sweetmummy3 as drinking is normalised everywhere and we occupy this kind of double-think, where experts talk about the limits people should stick to for a week, and hundreds, thousands of us ignore those and regularly drink much more, and that’s what’s seen as normal drinking. So unfortunately if others think our drinking…[Read more]
I love what your sponsor said and it sounds like you have a bit more space with it all for now, as well as that whole process triggering another. Such amazing stuff isn’t it. When we blunt our systems we blunt all this too.
Huge congratulations on a year out of rehab @missfreedom 🙂 xxx
This is my third time attempting to post this – wonder if it will take this time?
I hope it doesn’t sound flippant if I say I find your post very beautiful @missfreedom ; I certainly see and feel the pain in it too. There is your heart’s voice speaking its needs. I remember one of my teachers once saying: ‘needs are a bit of a bugger’. It’s so…[Read more]
Such a powerful place to be. The point where we really KNOW that we just can’t repeat the same old worn-out tactics anymore, we really know we can’t even kid ourselves anymore. We might not know the way ahead but we just know we can’t keep doing what we’ve done for so long. Yes there’s a kind of peace in it and strength, as well as trepidation. xxx
Yes please don’t sabotage yourself now by worrying about carbs. I ate a lot of sugary stuff at first; turns out the withdrawal from sugar was not as easy as it was from booze. That’s ok, one thing at a time. I can tackle that now. So you’re going great. 🙂
Oh my goodness, my moggy disappeared today and that was it, day turned into an unravelling ball of dread and I couldn’t concentrate on anything else. They’re family. Fingers crossed for your wee one @lars.
PS: Mine came home finally and my heart was let out of prison. xxx
I’d hope your agency would appreciate that the way to support everyone would be to address all these things and tell staff what’s going on and what they’re going to do. Because so many of us have had these kinds of triggers. Safety is not maintained with secrets.
Look after yourself today @robynb. xx
Hi @SteveF, do you know, I just got up from a nap and was thinking about what a lonely time Easter can be. For me I have family still alive but we’re not really close, so Easter has a way of reminding me of that painful emptiness. I think it can be a time when we anticipate togetherness and that doesn’t happen. People seem to retreat over Easter,…[Read more]
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