• LauraLi posted a new activity comment 20 hours, 17 minutes ago

    @tom4500 I had not put that thought together, fully yet. The selfishness of drinking. It was incredibly selfish of me. I can see that now.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 20 hours, 41 minutes ago

    Thanks for stopping in to share with all of us. I can see how after some time has passed one may not feel the need to be here very often. But it sure is good to hear about your journey and experience. Hey, congrats on 16 months! On DAY 16, I’m am very thoughtful not to try and rush the process, as I would love to be at 16 months, but I know I need to learn, feel, experience and pay the tolls to get there, so I can continue to stay free from my alcohol addiction. Hope you have a wonderful sober Friday night with your family.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 21 hours, 56 minutes ago

    For me, non-alcohol beer is a big fat no way. I was a daily 12 pack drinker, and/or some liqueur. So the fake beer would be a trigger for me. I have had some fun with mock-tails here and there. I also want to stay away from too many sugary or carbonated drinks. I had dinner out last week and ordered tonic water with a splash of cran and pineapple with an orange garnish. Just a little sweet and really enjoyed sipping on it. Hope you have fun, not sure I could do an all nighter either… maybe some chewing gum to help keep your mouth busy w/o having to really keep drinking anything necessarily. As a former drinker, I was drinking all evening long, but since I am AF, it’s easier to have a drink and sip on it and not need to guzzle so much anymore.
    Sorry, I can’t help you with the stocking’s thing, maybe 20 years ago.. LOL.

    • Have you tried leg makeup, it colours your legs and makes them look like you have stockings or tights but none of the problems😺

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 day, 17 hours ago

    @SandyB YAY for your day five! Keep up the great work!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 day, 19 hours ago

    Welcome @lou39 Glad you are here. Lots of good support to be found. Keep up the good work, you are worth it!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 day, 19 hours ago

    Welcome @KathyD Lots of good support for you. Glad you found us here!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 day, 19 hours ago

    Congrats on day 70 @Lucy
    Absorbing all that beauty with a clear head… it is a beautiful thing, isn’t it! I often think that there is a lot to the “habit” thinking alcohol brain of ours. A pipe broke in the concrete slab of our foundation and it will be days of chiseling concrete to repair the broken pipe. In my “habit” brain I think, pick up a bottle and watch the hubby work it out. But my new sober brain is “Read a few chapters in the book I’m currently reading, “Stumbling into Sobriety” by Tracy Collins and I’m gonna try my hand at a latch hook project” (conjuring up more of my childhood happy places, before booze)
    Hope you have a super awesome sober day!

    • Thank you lovely. Hope your day is good to.. definitely life changing this sober lark.good stuff x

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 day, 22 hours ago

    Congratulations on 50 wonderful days sober! Have fun with your new grand baby, such joy!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 day, 23 hours ago

    Oh, @lilydog I’m so sorry you are struggling with trying to moderate. I have been in your shoes, but only taking one or two days off, and then it’s like my addiction is trying to make up for lost time and I’m drinking even more and more. And waking up with the regret of the night before and the misery of the hangover that inevitably follows the morning after. And the guilt of being less of the mother I wish I was being. You really can only manage one day at a time in choosing not to drink, but choosing to be sober for a lifetime does take some commitment, or it did for me. I know that if I pick up, it will have spiraling consequence in my life. I know that moderation is only the sneaky self-destructive voice in my head telling me I can have couple and it’ll all be good. But it will not! It will be the same as it has been for most of my adult life. There are a lot of ways you can distract yourself to keep busy and keep on the sober path you are looking for, like making an evening routine that is somewhat busy, playing with your kiddos, reading about alcohol addiction and as it relates to others and their stories, take a warm bath, relax, have some hot chocolate, walk outside if you can, breath in the fresh air. Do whatever it takes today to not pick up that drink. Skip tomorrow’s beer-fest if you can, that is not a good plan to stay sober. I can tell you one thing, for sure, that sadly, I did wake up one day, about 15 days ago and my kids are almost all grown up and I missed nearly all of it at the bottom of a bottle…
    Chin up, you can do this! Believe in yourself!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    A good nights rest and waking up just as sober as you fell asleep is enlightening, isn’t it!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    Welcome @Wendyowen glad you found us here.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    Welcome @stopstumbling lots of good stuff here. You’re in the right place.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    What a difficult situation to be in. But choosing your sobriety and your own peace should probably be #1 for you. Maybe the rest of your friends will also notice her aggressive behavior and lean towards spending time with you without her.

    • I am going to bed for a good cry. Tomorrow will spend time hiking with my dog and my daughter. Fuck booze and idiots. My dog, family and Netflix will be good companions for the time being.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 2 days, 11 hours ago

    Congratulations on 60! Running in the rain..nice sober afternoon for you.

    • Thanks! I love the rainforest with all the moss, giant trees and ferns with a soft rain filtering through. It’s so restorative, you can really feel the energy.

  • LauraLi posted an update 3 days ago

    2 Weeks this morning. And happier than I’ve been in so many years. I’m going to ride this happy wave as long as it lasts. Don’t get me wrong, I have triggers hitting all day long. It’s the simple everyday routines and tasks, where I think, “oh, good, I can stop and get a pint or a 12 pack and have one on my way home, since this road does not have a lot of traffic to see me drinking” and then remember, I don’t drink anymore. I still haven’t told anyone but my husband, who dismissed me and has not offered any support whatsoever. But this is my journey to my freedom. Thank you all for your stories, the good ones, the hard ones and the sad ones. I appreciate all of your support. I will not drink today. May you all have a blessed alcohol free day!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 4 days, 2 hours ago

    Welcome @MsMn glad you found Living Sober. We’re all here to support you.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 4 days, 2 hours ago

    Welcome @karriebee
    So much here to support and encourage you. Glad you joined us.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 4 days, 2 hours ago

    @buckeyeone I pledge to be alcohol free today. You got this! Day 13 ✌

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 4 days, 2 hours ago

    Welcome @Janis. Lots of love and support here. Good reads and information too.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 4 days, 18 hours ago

    @TimetobeSober exactly what I was thinking. Now that I’m getting my life in order, the actual possibilities of traveling again are not out of reach. More benefits of a new sober life and more reason to keep it that way!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 4 days, 18 hours ago

    @MissBennet wow! That is gorgeous! It reminds me a bit of Morro Bay, CA, where my Uncle lives. Smaller town, but one big rock 🙂
    I wonder how I’ve missed this on my radar. Not that I’m a world traveler, but been around a little, and love geography. Thanks for sharing.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 4 days, 21 hours ago

    I’m in Florida. My BFF from childhood lives in AK, lovely place, was in the Eagle Rivera area, one of the most beautiful places I’ve visited @robynb. Never been to the UK, but lived in New England for many years, so many fond trips to Mass @wakingowl. Because of this, I’ve been reading a bit on NZ, just for fun, I do not known much at all about the country. What an absolutely breathtakingly beautiful place. So amazing!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 4 days, 23 hours ago

    Nice you were able to treat your wife and co-workers, I’m sure that put a big smile on her face. I’m in my early days sober, just 12 days so far, but also enjoying the little things like ice cream. I had a very similar experience with my son asking to get some ice cream at Dairy Queen after dinner this weekend. It was amazing to be able to just say yes. Not only did I have the money, not spending every last available monies on booze, but I wasn’t drunk and unable to drive him. JOY!

  • LauraLi posted an update 4 days, 23 hours ago

    I, just this morning, realized that when I searched Google for help with my addiction, I somehow landed on Living Sober for New Zealand. This explains why I see so many of you reference things and places in NZ, I was a little confused by so many folks from one county, LOL! Umph.. well, I’m here now and I’m so happy to be here, to share with all of you. And to learn from all of you. I hope you’re Ok with a lowly American on your site 🙂

    • I’m in the UK @laurali.. wish I was in New Zealand though lol. x

    • Another American here @Laurali, I am in Massachusetts, where are you?

    • Several of us from the state’s @Laurali, I’m in Alaska.

      • @robyn, my sister and I have discussed Alaska as our next possible trip together.

      • I’m in Florida. My BFF from childhood lives in AK, lovely place, was in the Eagle Rivera area, one of the most beautiful places I’ve visited @robynb. Never been to the UK, but lived in New England for many years, so many fond trips to Mass @wakingowl. Because of this, I’ve been reading a bit on NZ, just for fun, I do not known much at all about the country. What an absolutely breathtakingly beautiful place. So amazing!

    • I’m a kiwi. Check out Mount Maunganui. You will all wonder why someone from there would drink lol. Well I don’t! I walk the beautiful beach and walk (read ‘die’) up the Mount. And we have salt water hot pools – natural. Winter is good. Wish I was rich and could look at the water each morning rain, hail or shine. Nice to meet you’all (tee bee).

      • @MissBennet wow! That is gorgeous! It reminds me a bit of Morro Bay, CA, where my Uncle lives. Smaller town, but one big rock 🙂
        I wonder how I’ve missed this on my radar. Not that I’m a world traveler, but been around a little, and love geography. Thanks for sharing.

    • @laurali, I am German, living in Spain and would love to visit New Zealand and the States! These countries have been on my must-see travel list for a long time and now that I know some fantastic people through this site it is even more of an incentive to visit…and since I am not drinking and sorting my life out there is a even chance that I will achieve this dream.

      • @TimetobeSober exactly what I was thinking. Now that I’m getting my life in order, the actual possibilities of traveling again are not out of reach. More benefits of a new sober life and more reason to keep it that way!

    • I am American too and didn’t realize at first I had found a .nz website, lol! @WakingOwl I didn’t realize you live so close by to me (When I’m not in Japan, lol)! My mum’s family is from MA and we are frequently there.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 5 days, 2 hours ago

    1000 days. That is something to really be proud of. I’m afraid of needles, I’m with @Memarg that’s for the young and the brave. Maybe you would make it your profile pic when its done and all healed up so we can see what you chose? Congratulations on 1000 days of Freedom!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 5 days, 2 hours ago

    Wa-hooey! ✌💚😃

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 5 days, 2 hours ago

    Sounds like sober you has all the confidence you need to tackle changes at work. Go girl!

  • LauraLi posted an update 5 days, 2 hours ago

    Day 12
    I slept. Hallelujah! Finally on night 11 I got some good sleep, almost 8 hours.
    For those of you on your first handful of days, hold on it will come. You will get to sleep like you did before the booze. No wee morning wakeup with the sweats and thirst you cannot quench.
    What a joy it is to be sober.
    Happy Monday to ya’ll!

    • Congratulations on your good night’s sleep!

    • Good for you, nothing like a decent nights sleep. I have been a lifelong insomniac and getting sober finally made me take it in hand with a sleep routine etc. I now have no alarm clock in my room and wake up naturally every morning after sleeping an average of seven sold hours.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 6 days, 12 hours ago

    I’m sorry about your dad, we are never fully prepared for letting go our dads. Be proud of your giving heart, I’m sure he was.
    *** sorry the weather is gloomy, happy Sunday, still Saturday here in FLA USA, rainy here too. But for me, the rain brings me comfort and peace.
    Keep on keeping on!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 6 days, 12 hours ago

    Nice for you, enjoying fun times sober! It’s so amazing isn’t it?! Congratulations on 2 big months.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 6 days, 12 hours ago

    CONGRATULATIONS! May the countdown to your one year celebration of sobriety commence.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Dinner was delicious. I ordered my drink first, tonic w a splash of cranberry and pineapple w an orange garnish. Gotta say it was very good and satisfying. With the new eating plan I’ve been on for 3 months, I dont drunk sweet drinks, so it was really treat outside of my new normal of hot cocoa every evening. Hot chocolate has magical powers!
    Was funny, he mentioned coming back to the bar area of the restaurant for apps and a couple of drinks. I asked him, “did you not notice I quit drinking” he said ” what, for a couple of days?” I said 9 days and I haven’t been so ER for that long since I was pregnant 15 years ago. Ug…he asked if I was pregnant. Oh well. He’ll figure it out when hes ready. I’m so on board with my new sober life and haven’t been this whole happy is so so long.
    Thanks @maryb @prudence @saoirse @Lucy
    Prudence, ya almost made me shed a little tear..thanks for being my support friends!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    @craftygirl Don’t give up on yourself. Day one again means you care about your future and your health and your happiness. It’ll happen for you. Just keep on giving it your all. Stop in and talk to us often, we’ll support you however we can! <3

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Thanks, @bluesmum You are right! I know I’m the only one who’s going to make me happy. And sober is happy for me now and forward. Maybe he’s in it, maybe he’s not, won’t matter if I got my own back. 🙂

  • LauraLi posted an update 1 week ago

    I was looking forward to date night, dinner out with my husband. We have skipped date night for the last two weeks, so I was pretty pumped. I was all ready for my “happy happy joy joy” mocktails and getting all dolled up for him, Actually, getting all up and looking my best is for me, not him. But after my husband coming home with a 12 pack last night, I’m not nearly as excited as I was. I guess this means he will for sure be ordering a drink tonight. I just kinda stayed clear of him last night. My problem is not his problem. I feel a little like he doesn’t really care or expect me to be successful staying sober. He hasn’t said one word about the fact that I’m not drinking alcohol, and I was a heavy daily drinker. Maybe he just thinks I’ll be back at it soon enough. Not that its on him to think that. I haven’t had a week sober in over 14 years. Ug! I don’t know what he thinks, maybe a little conversation would help that, eh? UG!! This is when I gotta really hold on to my good choices and my good future, right now I just wanna cry and drowned it in a hundred drinks!!

    • You sound really frustrated and rightly so. I’m here to say..well done to you…it’s important what you have done and although it would be nice to get support elsewhere, be you’re biggest cheerleader!..my own sister asked me tonight how long this non drinking thing was going to go on for…..🤦🏼‍♀️ So BACK YOURSELF..cos others don’t always have the insight….lecture over😉

      • Thanks, @bluesmum You are right! I know I’m the only one who’s going to make me happy. And sober is happy for me now and forward. Maybe he’s in it, maybe he’s not, won’t matter if I got my own back. 🙂

    • This will change and you will eventually have his respect and understanding. For now, (and always) we are your support. Try to understand that he is experiencing change too. You are changing, and that leaves him without his main drinking buddy amd enabler, and throws a spotlight on his own drinking. He is probably uncomfortable and a bit defiant. SHOW him daily who you are, this new cool clear lovely kind tolerant non drinking you. Xxx

    • Hi @laurali I totally get your frustration even having been single for 9years and not currently living with anyone but in a relationship. I think I would have found being AF much more difficult with someone in my face all the time!!! The thing I found though is the more you get into the habit of backing yourself the easier it gets. It’s not so much that you cut him off from your journey more this is what I am doing for me, you’re welcome to be part of it but I am doing it regardless because it makes me feel good.😊

      • MaryB replied 1 week ago

        In an ideal world we get all our support and everything else we need from those closest to us but we don’t live in an ideal world and sometimes those closest to us cannot give us what we need. I agree with @prudence he may be finding this difficult. The 12 pack sounds a bit like a small rebellion. Keep your own council talk to friends you feel will be able to help you and come here often.

    • Dinner was delicious. I ordered my drink first, tonic w a splash of cranberry and pineapple w an orange garnish. Gotta say it was very good and satisfying. With the new eating plan I’ve been on for 3 months, I dont drunk sweet drinks, so it was really treat outside of my new normal of hot cocoa every evening. Hot chocolate has magical powers!
      Was funny, he mentioned coming back to the bar area of the restaurant for apps and a couple of drinks. I asked him, “did you not notice I quit drinking” he said ” what, for a couple of days?” I said 9 days and I haven’t been so ER for that long since I was pregnant 15 years ago. Ug…he asked if I was pregnant. Oh well. He’ll figure it out when hes ready. I’m so on board with my new sober life and haven’t been this whole happy is so so long.
      Thanks @maryb @prudence @saoirse @Lucy
      Prudence, ya almost made me shed a little tear..thanks for being my support friends!

    • Is it possible he is “not noticing” because maybe if he notices he’ll be forced to think about his own drinking habits..? Maybe off base, but I know my husband said nothing at first, and the first weekend I was sober he passed out early in the night both nights from drinking too much whiskey. Since then, he has slowly been drinking less and less because he’s around someone who is no longer encouraging all kinds of booze buying/consuming. He’s really happy about it. He didn’t have a single drink this weekend, even! Or, if your husband doesn’t have a bad relationship with booze, maybe it’s more that he doesn’t want to face having to be careful around you? Maybe he doesn’t want to consider the extra effort of taking care of someone that is trying to break up with booze. On the other hand, he could just be oblivious! Either way, talk to him. It took several short, casual conversations for me to explain to my husband why I wasn’t drinking anymore. We never had one long drawn out deep conversation about it. Just a few words here and there, and eventually he came to see why I needed to give up booze for good. Hope you and your hubby can reach that point too.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    I’m sorry your mum is struggling <3
    Sounds like a great evening planned. I felt the same way going home from work yesterday. I used to be in such a hurry to get home for a drink, so much so, sometimes I'd get one for the ride home! (its a 15 minute commute, but would need to stop at the store sometimes, delaying my arrival home)
    Yesterday on my merry way home, I stopped to have the oil changed in my car, totally relaxed and happy to be having it done.
    Well done on 64 days! Keep on reaching for the stars @lucy

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    @lydia727 hope you have a successful day at work with your beautiful sober smiling face!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hi @kaydee glad to hear you are still going strong.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    I made it and it was pretty straight forward easy. I dont want to drink, so I didn’t. Ya me.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    @kate1975 hope you took some of your savings and got yourself some nice treats along your way. Lots to be proud of!

  • LauraLi posted an update 1 week, 1 day ago

    And in walked a 12 pack of Amber Ale in the arms of my husband. It will take him days to drink all 9f that. Could’ve just got a 6…Oh well. My first test of will. Got this!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    What a seller feeling, no cravings for alcohol for you tonight! Big win!
    I’m sorry your little girl is not feeling well. I’ll say a prayer that He heals her soon. <3

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    @joesdad Ya, less pressure would be nice! I do wonder if my husband will think this is all a bag of lies. That I’ll just go back to the drunk I’ve always been… that’s what’s got me all worked up. That he’ll have little faith in me. On the upside of that though, he has not brought any alcohol home since I quit. Not that hes a real big drinker, but would have a couple a few nights a week. So I guess there’s hope in him for me.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Thank you, @Noodle71 Thank you for sharing your experience with coming clean with the ones you love. And thank you for your encouragement. 💚

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Thanks @Maryb. He will notice if I do not order alcohol. I was a serious drinker. From the time I got home from work until bed, pretty much every single day. But I’ll order a “fun drink” mocktail and be happy about it! I was thinking water, but I think I’ll let him “buy me a drink” anyway. And ya know what, I am gonna glam it up! Full makeup and all. One of the many things I let go of when the booze became my whole world. Thank you for the reminder of the good things I can take back for myself now!

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Hi Hi @stants123
    Welcome.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Hi, welcome! @momcgrew79
    Lots of good people here to help however we can.

  • LauraLi posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Sweet cherry pie!
    Well done @phoenix0407

  • LauraLi posted an update 1 week, 2 days ago

    I’m so stinking tired! No matter what I try I cannot fall asleep at night. Lay awake until nearly or sometimes past midnight. And my day starts about 5:45 when my husband’s alarm sounds off. Although I dont wake up in the wee hours of the morning anymore, im not getting enough sleep and im exhausted.
    When will this sleep (like you never have before) I keep reading about begin?
    Date night with my hubby tomorrow has me all stressed out too. I know he can see that I’ve quit, even though I have pointed out the elephant standing right next to me. I suggested we go early to beat the rush and he said “Right, we can catch happy hour, 2 4 1 drinks”
    Wow!! I guess I’ll need to say something outloud to him about my current place in life w booze. Bugger. Saying to him makes it difficult or permanent or now I have to, I dont know, just a lot of nervousness about having to talk to anyone i know about my decision not to drink. Day 8!

    • @laurali I know what you mean about “announcing” it. It’s hard enough without having to deal with all the stuff that declaring it stirs up, even to those closest to you. I worry that my wife will believe I’ll be no fun if she thinks I’ve stopped altogether (although that’s an assumption). But I’ve also found that, for me, the ideal result is people not taking the permanence of my decision too seriously, in that they will go along with it (convenient) but not fixate on it (less pressure). It’s a tricky one. Good luck!

      • @joesdad Ya, less pressure would be nice! I do wonder if my husband will think this is all a bag of lies. That I’ll just go back to the drunk I’ve always been… that’s what’s got me all worked up. That he’ll have little faith in me. On the upside of that though, he has not brought any alcohol home since I quit. Not that hes a real big drinker, but would have a couple a few nights a week. So I guess there’s hope in him for me.

    • I never actually told my hubbs that I’d stopped. It was a long time before he worked out that the tonic did not have gin in it cos I did not want his comments adding to my stress levels. When he did say something I just said I had decided to cut back as I was concerned about my weight. I think he was pleased with the idea of getting a streamed line wife back and now he just accepts that I’ll order a soft drink in fact knowing my man he probably thinks it was his idea! We have not really had any in depth conversation about it thank god so I can have those here in safety. Happy hour sounds great. 2 nice mocktails or J2O’s for the price of one, you can make it up with the nicest nibbles the place has and don’t forget to put the money you save aside for some lovely treat for yourself. Glam your self up. I find that a pretty deep v neck top and leaning towards him a lot all work wonders even after 25 years and he will not notice your lack of alcohol after all this is a date. As regards sleep if you are stressed you will not sleep easily, look at doing some things for you before you fall into bed, a nice warm bath and get into bed before him and read a good book for a bit all this helps for me. Well done on day 8 these are early days and you are still finding out about your sober self. You are doing great and this is tough stuff.😸

      • Thanks @Maryb. He will notice if I do not order alcohol. I was a serious drinker. From the time I got home from work until bed, pretty much every single day. But I’ll order a “fun drink” mocktail and be happy about it! I was thinking water, but I think I’ll let him “buy me a drink” anyway. And ya know what, I am gonna glam it up! Full makeup and all. One of the many things I let go of when the booze became my whole world. Thank you for the reminder of the good things I can take back for myself now!

    • Hi Hun, sleep evades me too and I’m on day 48. When it does come it’s deeper but still not enough and bloody erratic. To be honest though it always has been, too much going on in my brain, so stopping drinking isn’t gonna give me a personality transplant. I am walking a good distance everyday with pooch, have started yoga (which this couch potato loves, who knew?!) and lurve my herbal sleepy tea in bed with a book or checking in here, all this definately helps. As for sharing your new status, I definitely can relate there. I mulled it over for two days and after confiding in a friend whom I’d found out had won this battle a few years ago, she gave me the confidence to face up to it and own it, otherwise you can’t solve it. It was far far from easy though. I talked to my close family and said “there’s no easy way of putting this. As you very well know and it’s blatantly obvious I drink far too much. Well in reality I drink far more, and now I feel it’s out of control, I’m out if control. I have to stop, right now and I need you to help me. Will you help me? “. It’s no easy conversation, it should of been simple but I felt my heart was gonna bound out my chest, I literally shook. It was the scariest thing I have ever done. I think the truth is was from that moment on it was out the bag. No longer could I pass off empty bottles, hangovers, no money and being an all out nightmare, as my quirky personality. From that point I’d labelled myself, I’d no longer have free reign over what or when I drank. They were gonna be on my backs because they loved me and they knew full well I was on a downward spiral, but now I’d handed to them total permission to prevent me from doing my absolute favourite thing, getting pissed everyday of the week. As horrible as it was it was a game changer. I hope you have lively supportive people in your life. Because the truly make all the difference. Own it and destroy it would be my advice. It’s the Only thing…[Read more]

      • Thank you, @Noodle71 Thank you for sharing your experience with coming clean with the ones you love. And thank you for your encouragement. 💚

    • I was a chronic insomniac and when I quit drinking I decided to deal with it and now have a sleep hygeine routine and am sleeping between six and seven hours a night consistently, even took the alarm clock out of my room. If possible avoiding device screentime for a few hours before bed is important, that spectrum is known to affect your natural circadian rhythms, no caffiene after late morning and a magnesium glycinate supplement to help regulate adrenal hormones all make a big difference. Going to bed at about the same time every night is also a good thing.

    • Great work! You are doing so well.
      It is amazing how tied up in knots we can get over telling people. Can you flip the whole thing and try a light “I need a break, sick of the effects” or some such light thing. Or a heavy medical type comment like, “I’m too scared of the cancer risks to go on with alcohol” – you know him, and how to get him on board. If you need to lose any weight, that is a great way to go as alcohol is full of sugars and stops our livers dealing with fats well.
      Happy happy hour – i hope they make delicious mocktails. Notice how different you feel as you hydrate with lovely drink rather than poison 😉 Report back please 🙂 🙂

  • LauraLi posted an update 1 week, 3 days ago

    Waking up on morning 7, again without a hangover. I’ve dubbed it Waffle Wednesday for my boys. Feeling grateful, as I’d have not been up to making breakfast three days in a row for them when I was drinking. it would have been a bagel or cold cereal to compensate for my lack of energy.
    Keep up the good work my friends. I’m gaining so much by reading so many of ya’lls trials and successes.

    • Congrats on day 7 @laurali!! A full week! That is so fun that you are spending quality time with your kiddos xoxo

    • A whole week.. well done you.. your getting stronger. x

    • Love it!

    • I hear you, LauraLi. I have been up early every morning since I got sober, making proper breakfast for my children…bacon, hotcakes, bagels, baked beans, scrambled eggs, waffles….they don’t know what’s hit them. Usually a bit of toast plonked in front of them in my drunken, hungover haze would be the best they got. It feels great to be able to look after them properly and feel like a good mum again. Keep up the great work, LauraLI 🙂

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