I'm a 53 year old female who has come to the realisation that I need to stop drinking for my health, mental stability and my family. I have always regarded myself as someone who had control of my drinking but in the past few years I've realised through some pretty bad experiences that alcohol was controlling me and i've had enough!! Looking forward to connecting with others along this journey.
Congrats for being so strong. Does your partner know you’re giving up alcohol and if so, could you suggest they don’t bring home alcohol while you’re trying to get passed the cravings? I know that might be hard for them, but hopefully they’ll support you?
Yes, he does know. He doesn’t seem ready to stop, though knows he should. I am trying to channel Jason Vale, that it is my gig and to not be a whingy ex drinker but yes, it would be a lot easier if he would do it with me.
Congrats on taking that step – it takes courage to do what we’re doing. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise. First things first, alcohol is not your friend – it’s your worst fricken enemy – it’s incidious and only you can kick it to the kerb. We honestly wouldn’t take this abuse from any person, why do we let alcohol do this to ourselves? Because it’s addictive and the more we have the more we need, so giving it up altogether is going to take a while to get your head around, but you can do this. Keep strong, keep posting here and we’ve got your back 🙂
Day 323 and edging closer to 1 year AF. Just sitting thinking, yes, i’ve still got to finish unpacking and hanging up clothes, emptying boxes in the garage so i can get the car in, but you know what, i don’t want to right now and i’ll do it when i feel like it. Love the fact that I alone make my decisions and don’t have to answer to anyone anymore. Happy AF weekend everyone – do what YOU want to do, when YOU want to do it!!
Dry July must be catching – so many new members – welcome 🙂 Just thinking about how I would have normally celebrated moving into my new home with a bucket load of red – don’t get me wrong, it did cross my mind but then it just went back out again. So really proud of my son too, since his GF become pregnant and now his son is here, he might have had a couple of drinks but nothing like he used to. Wishing everyone a happy Sunday night/morning and to all the newbies – welcome and just believe that you’ve done the best thing ever and stick with it no matter what. It is really hard at the beginning there’s no denying that but it’s so worth it, not having to worry about drinking again, not feeling that guilt, remorse or embarrassment that alcohol put you through. Just tell alcohol to Frick off!!
Well, I finally moved into my own home today with my son, his partner and my gorgeous wee grandson who is now 6 weeks old today. There’s no way in hell I would have ever had the courage to leave my husband and start a new life if it wasn’t for stopping drinking. Thank you to everyone here for all your wonderful support and encouragement. This is truly a wonderful place to be and keep being sober xxx
Wahoo!! 300 days AF – I simply can’t believe I haven’t had an alcoholic drink in 300 days. It just blows my mind. Don’t really think about alcohol to be honest. It’s just not something I do anymore. If I go out and there’s alcohol around, I don’t even want to drink it. I’m so happy that I’m very satisfied with a non-alcoholic drink. I’d just like to give a shout out to this amazing site and the amazing people here that have inspired me along the way. I don’t post often but I do lurk and am so thankful that this is one place i know anyone who wants to try and give up alcohol can come and post and not feel judged. For anyone starting out, dig deep and do what you need to do to not drink coz it’s so worth it. I no longer have those horrible battles in my head about should i drink, how much should i drink, can i get away with just having another glass of wine and then what happens if i run out, have i had too much and will i get picked up if i go out driving to buy more. Oh thank god, all that shit’s behind me. No more guilt, shame, disappointed looks from family, not knowing what i did or said the night before. It is pure FREEDOM. Bring on day 365 and beyond 🙂
Clap clap clap clappity clap clap!! BRAVO!!! 300 alcohol free days!! BIG accomplishment! Congratulation. Not drinking today in your honor (and everyone else’s in the amazing community!) love to you all – and a big hug to you @ladyhawke.
Day 297 – feeling very chuffed with myself – put offer in on house last Tuesday, and went unconditional on Friday, so I’m now the proud owner of my own house – well, bank owns quite a bit of it, think i might own the front door lol. But getting my shit together, and will be moving out 5th July with son, his partner and my beautiful grandson. Can’t believe I’m finally getting it all together – there’s NO ficken way this would have happened if I had have still be drinking. It’s a beautiful cold day here, but went for a walk on the beach as won’t be close to the beach in new house, but don’t care – will be free!!
You have come to the right place to be found, @Maxy. You are among some beautiful, caring and supportive people who have all been or are where you are. Sounds like you’re ready to give booze the flick, which is awesome. Stick here, post often, read as much as you can about giving up alcohol – The Naked Mind, The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober and there’s a heap of online blogs and sites to check out too and all the posts from the lovely folk here.
Wow, the numbers are sure cranking up – Day 285 – and sitting at work waiting to go to quiz night at pub. Don’t even think about drinking alcohol when get there. I know I’ll go up to the bar and order a lemon, lime and bitters and really enjoy it or as it’s a bit colder tonight, I might even have a coffee. Yum and can go home and hopefully my grandson will be awake and I can give him a cuddle, without stinking of booze – love it!!
24 must be a thing for me. I stopped drinking on 24th August, I gave hubbie the flick on 24th Jan and my beautiful grandson was born on 24th May 🙂 Happy weekend everyone and an extra happy long weekend to all the Kiwis out there 🙂