I was the same way @4wards, go long stretches then convince myself I can moderate. It never worked for me and was exhausting. Nice playing it forward to feeling great in the morning, that helps me so much too. Lets keep going!
@ladycrow This has been the hardest for me as well, so I can totally relate. We’ve had many discussions but the bottom line is I had to do it for me. It still can be tricky but the reality of drinking together is not the relaxing fun time anymore. I have told him sometimes it’s fine and I make sure I have a yummy snack and club soda drink for…[Read more]
@dreamer88 glad you’re here, it doesn’t erase all the time you had and all the learning. It can be a push forward to continue, lots of day ones here too. You’ve got this, sometimes we have to try to moderate to remind ourselves it really doesn’t work. What can you do to be kind to yourself today?
@daisy maybe make a long list of all the things you will do instead, treats, sober toolbox etc I found having it to look at helps you remember other ideas when you’re feeling you want to drink. Walking while listening to podcasts is really helpful for me, I try to find things I can relate to in any story and there is always something. Also every…[Read more]
Shout out to @mari135, going through “stuff” with college age daughter and your comment to @jr about her daughter was the first thing I read. It was meant for me to read I am sure and really helped me deal with situation in a understanding and compassionate way! Spot on advice our kids are dealing with so much and I thank God I can be a present…[Read more]
@mari135@krisb – agree! These “things” in life is what we thought we need to numb because they were hard, furstrating and/or scary. When in fact, this is the path call life. The good, the bad …..and thankful that NO amount of numbing makes it better, it only can make it seemingly feel like it went away for a bit, but just there again when our…[Read more]
I can relate to this for sure @jr ! I’ve noticed any uncomfortable feeling, especially confrontation brings a big trigger moment for me. Anxiety over kids, big trigger too, so good you worked through it! It always feels better and we are learning so much about ourselves, good stuff! Refreshed mornings never get old!
I’m with you @maryb , I figured out my count one day it was a lot with a handful of one day slips. I call that amazing progress. I don’t like it anymore either which is crazy but also feel like I should be able to say never had a drop. My mindset has completely changed from the day I first logged on, still here mostly lurking too, most helpful…[Read more]
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