• Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    Love this @lucy, listening to our bodies and not people pleasing, just another lesson/gift of sobriety! Have a great weekend!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Sounds like beautiful new things happening @rineylou ! Love this!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Awesome double digits! Have a great day @bisok !

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    So true @gigi47! Husband stuff can be so tricky but this for you! I won’t drink with you, have a great day!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    @dylan-john see ya later day 2 onwards and upwards to day 3 ! Trust that it gets so much better, you deserve that! Peace to you too!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    This makes me so happy @newstart100! that kind of event would be hard for me and to have it go so well is awesome! Thanks for sharing love it all!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Happy Father’s Day @tom4500 ! enjoy those grandkids, they are so lucky to have you!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Hey @kjpeche , I’m sorry you’re going through this. He may not be able to give you the support you would like but we are here and I think you are killing it! You should be very proud of all your hard work! He may be jealous that you are making these positive changes and he’s not, keep doing your thing! I’d also have a talk when he’s not drinking to let him know how you feel. 77 is awesome!!!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    I love this @mkusch and thank you for sharing. I’m not a writer and have been here for over a year and lurk mostly so I get it. Share whatever is on your mind, this place has gotten me through quite a few times when I was very tempted, so much support and inspiration. Your reasons sound very familiar. Have an idea of what you can say tonight in case it comes up, I find it usually isn’t half as big of a deal to others as I think it will be. You’ve got this, glad you’re here!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    This is so lovely @robynb, so happy for you.

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    I’m so sorry @ro

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    So glad you’re back @lucy! I’ve thought of you often, you were one the first ones to welcome me here and always so supportive. You still have all your sober days and you can do this! Don’t let that nasty voice get you down we are all here for you!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Welcome!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Thanks for sharing @teazy, sounds like me too! Loving all the benefits too, it seems like small things but have such a big impact ! Simple pleasures are the best!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Annoying and kind of sad that it’s like this, like middle school peer pressure! I kind of feel like a rebel sometimes and I like that!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Exactly right! @newstart100 , I think it’s easy to forget the shifts in our lives since becoming alcohol free, it’s the little stuff that’s really the big stuff! Always good to have reminders love the freedom!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    This is so good @hammer123 and something I have struggled with as well. I am still a work in progress too but realizing my journey will not be perfect has helped me get so much farther. And yes I think this is being kind to ourselves, really good thanks for sharing. Have a great day!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Congratulations @aprilsfool !!!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Love this @jm , don’t miss that crazy cycle that I could have written, great reminders!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    I’m in the US too, welcome!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    This made me tear up @mrs-d, such a beautiful space you made for us here! It’s nice to hear a “bravo” every once in a while, yeah us!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    I just love this @soberdaisy , I got so sick of letting myself down and giving in, you should be very proud! I think all of these challenges just make us stronger in our decision. Nice!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    I was the same way @4wards, go long stretches then convince myself I can moderate. It never worked for me and was exhausting. Nice playing it forward to feeling great in the morning, that helps me so much too. Lets keep going!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @kaydee , sounds so very familiar ! I have found the support of this site a huge help. Many day 1’s here too, stay close, lots of great advice and just people who get it.

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    @ladycrow This has been the hardest for me as well, so I can totally relate. We’ve had many discussions but the bottom line is I had to do it for me. It still can be tricky but the reality of drinking together is not the relaxing fun time anymore. I have told him sometimes it’s fine and I make sure I have a yummy snack and club soda drink for myself and other times I can’t be with him and I go do my own thing, read, pamper myself etc It’s still a work in progress we’ve been together over 20 years but I’m feeling really hopeful, the alternative is not an option for me. I read and article by Megan Peters in the Temper about stopping while your spouse still drinks, it was helpful.

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    @dreamer88 glad you’re here, it doesn’t erase all the time you had and all the learning. It can be a push forward to continue, lots of day ones here too. You’ve got this, sometimes we have to try to moderate to remind ourselves it really doesn’t work. What can you do to be kind to yourself today?

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Me too!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Welcome @soberwifenewlife ! Your story sounds like mine, such a great place here. Has been such a help for me.

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    Love this @aprilsfool! I’m upstate too and enjoying this gorgeous sunshine finally! Yoga in the sunroom sounds lovely! Such a gift to have sober mornings, never gets old, have a great weekend!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    @daisy maybe make a long list of all the things you will do instead, treats, sober toolbox etc I found having it to look at helps you remember other ideas when you’re feeling you want to drink. Walking while listening to podcasts is really helpful for me, I try to find things I can relate to in any story and there is always something. Also every day is a fresh start, be kind to yourself!! that was hard for me but essential. Glad you’re here

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    That sounds lovely @buggles !

  • Krisb posted an update 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    Shout out to @mari135, going through “stuff” with college age daughter and your comment to @jr about her daughter was the first thing I read. It was meant for me to read I am sure and really helped me deal with situation in a understanding and compassionate way! Spot on advice our kids are dealing with so much and I thank God I can be a present mom for them now. Was once again so thankful I wasn’t drinking last night! This place is amazing! Thanks for sharing @jr, the advice you got helped me a ton too! Have a great day!

    • @mari135 @krisb – agree! These “things” in life is what we thought we need to numb because they were hard, furstrating and/or scary. When in fact, this is the path call life. The good, the bad …..and thankful that NO amount of numbing makes it better, it only can make it seemingly feel like it went away for a bit, but just there again when our booze haze is gone and much time it is worse off because we did just pushed off what we should have done. Like a conversation, or just being present for someone.
      LOVED your advice to us @mari135

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Sadness is so hard to sit with, sending prayers to you @girl.

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    I can relate to this for sure @jr ! I’ve noticed any uncomfortable feeling, especially confrontation brings a big trigger moment for me. Anxiety over kids, big trigger too, so good you worked through it! It always feels better and we are learning so much about ourselves, good stuff! Refreshed mornings never get old!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thank you @daveh this is a keeper for sure!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Beautiful @hammer123 !! Thank you for the reminders, I’ll do the same and be grateful for this time I have been given! Have a great day!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    @mrsd I also couldn’t sign in ,it wouldn’t accept my normal password and asked for a captcha but there wasn’t one. I went to site support and signed in there and that worked

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Congratulations @missfreedom !! you must feel so proud.

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    I’m with you @maryb , I figured out my count one day it was a lot with a handful of one day slips. I call that amazing progress. I don’t like it anymore either which is crazy but also feel like I should be able to say never had a drop. My mindset has completely changed from the day I first logged on, still here mostly lurking too, most helpful thing for me. Thanks for sharing, always good to know someone feels the same. Have a great weekend!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Thank you so much for sharing this today @lars, I’m struggling too. good advice above, I’m thinking I need to talk to someone as well. Maybe take things really slow and have hope

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks you and back to you!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    I’m so grateful I don’t drink, I have family stuff going on and adding alcohol anxiety to it would be brutal. I’m thankful for all of you and my sweet pups who know when we need a snuggle! and TGIF ! and getting warmer here too!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    I thank god too @jr, have a beautiful day!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Very cool @tipsytoegal ! something like that that makes you excited, go for it! Look at you go, you’ll have a compassion and understanding with all you’ve been through too

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Beautiful @morgan thanks for sharing and thanks for the laughs @daveh !

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Glad you’re here @messageinabottle , this place has been so amazing for me and you’ve already taken a brave step coming on. I remember my first day and it was so scary, nothing but love and support!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Beautiful! Thank you @ecd66 for sharing!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Oh this is so helpful, I have teens and working on giving them their space but still be here to guide, so so hard. Great advice @sober4real , saving this one!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hope you’re feeling better today @stevef, holidays can be so hard. Maybe you can start new traditions next year, something different to look forward to. So glad we don’t drink, up or down always good to see you! Have a good day!

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    You are heading in the right direction, keep going @bobby. It really does get better

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