• Kimbo posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Great post, very motivating

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Yayyyyyyy for day 3, love your positivity!! Well done 👍

  • Kimbo posted an update 3 months ago

    Nearly the end of day two! Thank god for that!! Bloody hard, but I did it!

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Thank you @sober4real, will do x

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Yes @Annie I have done it before too and it worked, I dont mind the food it’s just so expensive! That’s why I’ve got to give it everything. Thanks for replying x

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    So nice to have someone else on day one too! We can do this @tamsil

  • Kimbo posted an update 3 months ago

    Day one again! Not sure how I feel. I’ve started a new diet yesterday Jenny Graig, so there’s no room in there for wine! Fingers crossed 🤞

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi yah @Ro, I’m doing fine thanks. Always good to read your posts! Thanks for the shoutout. One day at a time 💜

    • That’s awesome to hear @kimbo 🙂 Yep doesn’t pay to think too far ahead, sometimes it can unravel . Take care 🙂

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    She might not be able to see the comments, could you email her @Mrs-d?

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    So very sad @Prudence sending love x

  • Kimbo posted an update 6 months ago

    How are you @Ro ??

    • Ditto from me @ro I have been thinking of you and wondering where you are. Hope I made you laugh by posting 2 nearly identical replies to you about Christmas several weeks apart! Duh!

    • @ro, was looking through past posts, missed your 600 day AF. Congrats!!!! Amazing accomplishment.

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Sending big hugs your way @Timidwarrior (( ))

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    I asked my son how he had done and he replied “ok” !! Is it a boy thing??

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    👍

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    It’s lovely getting a reply from @mrs-d isn’t it. Makes you feel all good inside x

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    That’s ok, we’ve all been at this stage. We can be a support network for you. We’re here for you when you need us 💜

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    So sorry your struggling @sarah38. Well done for sharing! Is there anything you can do like have a bath? Keep posting, has anything happened to make you feel this way? Sending hugs (( ))

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    My day quite @Ro, thanks for asking. I’m doing ok 👍 congratulations on 600 💐

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Have a lovely day @Ro

    • Ro replied 6 months ago

      Hey there @kimbo start of the working week for me. Never really like the first day back, but today was ok. Finished at 2.30 p.m. Having a coffee then going to mow the lawn. How’s your day? You doing ok?

      • My day quite @Ro, thanks for asking. I’m doing ok 👍 congratulations on 600 💐

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Thank you so much @Liberty 💜

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Hi @Liberty I’m in the Bay of Plenty. Auckland is a bit far to go. A hug would have been lovely!! Wish you was here too @Sober4real 💜

    • I can think of two members in the BoP @kimbo but neither are on the site much anymore. I feel sure there will be other active members in your area. If you feel up to it, you could put out a feeler to see if anyone wants to meet up? But I know when I feel down, going out on a limb to organise something with new people is the last thing i have capacity for. I’ll have to settle for sending a giant virtual bear hug. We’re here! Even when you can’t see our posts, we can see yours.

    • Thank you so much @Liberty 💜

    • Hey, @bondi , @treehugger and …?

    • Hi @Kimbo, I have been away and not checking in here. I am eastern BOP and would love to meet up if you feel up to it. Big hugs xoxo

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    I’m 49 this year @Sober4real and I think I may be separating from my husband soon (the love of my life) he can barely talk to me anymore. I don’t think I’ll get through that! Coffee and a honest chat with girlfriends sounds perfect, if only! Sending hugs x

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    I seem to behaving all sorts of problems, maybe it’s because I use my phone @Sober4real. I haven’t been too good, I sometimes fill I need a mental health group to talk too!! I’m 15 days AF which is good. Life can be so bloody hard sometimes! How are you?

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Thank you @Sober4real I got a bit stuck there for a while! X

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Anybody there?

    • @kimbo I’m here….I see you.

      • Thank you @Sober4real I got a bit stuck there for a while! X

      • @kimbo glad you are back! How are you doing? Things going okay? I haven’t been stuck as I primarily use my laptop here at home.

      • I seem to behaving all sorts of problems, maybe it’s because I use my phone @Sober4real. I haven’t been too good, I sometimes fill I need a mental health group to talk too!! I’m 15 days AF which is good. Life can be so bloody hard sometimes! How are you?

      • @kimbo I remember you and all your stories. 15 days is FANTASTIC! Hold on to that. Life is hard. I’m 50 and can’t believe I’ll be 51 soon. I divorced from the love of my life…..it was the hardest thing I ever went through in my life. I miss my grown kids, have the empty nest syndrome now. Wish I had some nice girlfriends to meet for coffee and be myself around. Big hugs. I know what you are going through. Keep posting! Don’t go anywhere. xxox (PS counseling can be a good thing if you find the right fit for you. I’ve had some of them I didn’t agree with their philosophies so nowadays I interview them before I hire them, maybe you can get a good referral from the group).

      • I’m 49 this year @Sober4real and I think I may be separating from my husband soon (the love of my life) he can barely talk to me anymore. I don’t think I’ll get through that! Coffee and a honest chat with girlfriends sounds perfect, if only! Sending hugs x

    • @kimbo well my heart goes out to you. I do not wish that for you. It’s been 12 years for me and I’m still alone but I got through it and so will you. Maybe you making some serious changes will then change the dynamics. Awakenings are known to happen. Focus on you first and see what happens as a result. Believe in yourself. You are all you have….you are worth it. I so wish the coffee and chats could happen. Sending hugs and don’t make any serious decisions until you are firmly grounded being AF. That’s most important! xoxoxoxox (I’m so excited to see many of us on here in my age group. Makes me so happy!)

  • Kimbo posted an update 6 months ago

    Just checking, my feed seems to be stuck now?

    • Anybody there?

      • @kimbo I’m here….I see you.

        • Thank you @Sober4real I got a bit stuck there for a while! X

        • @kimbo glad you are back! How are you doing? Things going okay? I haven’t been stuck as I primarily use my laptop here at home.

        • I seem to behaving all sorts of problems, maybe it’s because I use my phone @Sober4real. I haven’t been too good, I sometimes fill I need a mental health group to talk too!! I’m 15 days AF which is good. Life can be so bloody hard sometimes! How are you?

        • @kimbo I remember you and all your stories. 15 days is FANTASTIC! Hold on to that. Life is hard. I’m 50 and can’t believe I’ll be 51 soon. I divorced from the love of my life…..it was the hardest thing I ever went through in my life. I miss my grown kids, have the empty nest syndrome now. Wish I had some nice girlfriends to meet for coffee and be myself around. Big hugs. I know what you are going through. Keep posting! Don’t go anywhere. xxox (PS counseling can be a good thing if you find the right fit for you. I’ve had some of them I didn’t agree with their philosophies so nowadays I interview them before I hire them, maybe you can get a good referral from the group).

        • I’m 49 this year @Sober4real and I think I may be separating from my husband soon (the love of my life) he can barely talk to me anymore. I don’t think I’ll get through that! Coffee and a honest chat with girlfriends sounds perfect, if only! Sending hugs x

      • @kimbo well my heart goes out to you. I do not wish that for you. It’s been 12 years for me and I’m still alone but I got through it and so will you. Maybe you making some serious changes will then change the dynamics. Awakenings are known to happen. Focus on you first and see what happens as a result. Believe in yourself. You are all you have….you are worth it. I so wish the coffee and chats could happen. Sending hugs and don’t make any serious decisions until you are firmly grounded being AF. That’s most important! xoxoxoxox (I’m so excited to see many of us on here in my age group. Makes me so happy!)

    • Hi @kimbo, I see you too. I wish I could have a cuppa with you and offer a hug, that’s rough.
      Are you in NZ? There’s a get-together in Auckland coming up soon i believe.

      • I wish I was in NZ!!! 🙂

      • Hi @Liberty I’m in the Bay of Plenty. Auckland is a bit far to go. A hug would have been lovely!! Wish you was here too @Sober4real 💜

        • I can think of two members in the BoP @kimbo but neither are on the site much anymore. I feel sure there will be other active members in your area. If you feel up to it, you could put out a feeler to see if anyone wants to meet up? But I know when I feel down, going out on a limb to organise something with new people is the last thing i have capacity for. I’ll have to settle for sending a giant virtual bear hug. We’re here! Even when you can’t see our posts, we can see yours.

        • Thank you so much @Liberty 💜

        • Hey, @bondi , @treehugger and …?

        • Hi @Kimbo, I have been away and not checking in here. I am eastern BOP and would love to meet up if you feel up to it. Big hugs xoxo

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    🤣

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    That’s what I did @robynb, finished the ice cream last night and I’m not buying anymore!

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    That’s really interesting @68notout I wish I had seen it. Well done on 731 x

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Thanks @Mrs-d found it 👍

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Sorry @Mrs-d I’m a bit thick and I can’t find where you mean! I still can’t see the feed at all unless I go to the “showbox” and alternate between update and everything.

    • What device are you on @kimbo? (laptop or phone etc?).. at the top of the page if you are on a laptop or computer there is a circle with your profile picture in it… next to that there is a little down arrow, click that and you’ll see a menu, one of those says ‘Site Support’. If you are on your phone or a tablet or some such there is a menu at the top of the page which is three lines on top of each other.. push that then down on the left you’ll see a circle with your profile photo in it.. on the right of that there is a small plus (+) in a circle, hit that and you’ll see ‘site support’

  • Kimbo posted an update 6 months ago

    😔

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 1 week ago

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 1 week ago

    Hi @winner, yes I’m having problems too. Mrs D is on to it x

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    20,000 steps! That’s good! My kids are 16 and 13 and I couldn’t put them through a break up. We’ve been together 16+ years and I really love him but the old him. He is so grumpy now, he has said about 5 words to me today. It all changed about a year ago when I went into hospital with depression. He couldn’t handle it and I got no support from him and he’s been the same ever since. Part of me wants a split but I can’t afford to live on my wages I’m only part time (I work in a school) but at least I wouldn’t be treading on egg shells any more. He use to make me laugh so much, that’s gone too 😢

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi @Ro, your ring sure does sound lovely and glad that your sleeping better phew! I’m still lurking!! I feel better than I did last time I posted. I’m on day 4 and have brought some fitness into my life which makes you feel better about yourself. Still not looking forward to work which starts in about 4 weeks and marriage still seems doomed but right now I’m ok. Thanks for the shoutout 💜

    • I’m glad you’re feeling better @kimbo gees you get a decent amount of time off- sweet! And good on you for doing some exercise- I’m so easily distracted from most forms of actual exercise other than walking. According to my pedometer I’ve done over 20,000 steps today. Not getting my heart rate up though lol. I’m not completely sedentary that’s the main thing I suppose. So what do you want to happen with your husband matey? Do you want to stay with him? Whats going on? How old are your kids? How long have yous been together? What’s changed? You don’t have to answer any of those questions if you think it’s over the line me asking. Why do you think it’s doomed? That’s a heavy way to put it. I don’t think you want it to be that way. Not drinking has to be a great place to start. Just for your own health and well being first and foremost. Everything is harder with the piss in you or coming off it. And it makes you feel shabby- totally sucks. Have you got a plan for the weekend? Do something nice for yourself eh?

      • 20,000 steps! That’s good! My kids are 16 and 13 and I couldn’t put them through a break up. We’ve been together 16+ years and I really love him but the old him. He is so grumpy now, he has said about 5 words to me today. It all changed about a year ago when I went into hospital with depression. He couldn’t handle it and I got no support from him and he’s been the same ever since. Part of me wants a split but I can’t afford to live on my wages I’m only part time (I work in a school) but at least I wouldn’t be treading on egg shells any more. He use to make me laugh so much, that’s gone too 😢

      • Sorry about the late reply @kimbo
        So he couldn’t handle that you had depression, or that he had to do extra shit because you were in hospital? Piss poor really isn’t it? I thought the vows went something along the lines of ‘ in sickness and in health…’? Could you try having a heart to heart with him? You would get financial assistance if you decided you did want to make a go of it on your own, although it sounds like you guys have just lost your way somewhat, and that it would be worth trying to iron out the problems. Don’t be afraid to try and rectify your relationship- it surely would be better to have tried and failed to work it out, than living like you are at the moment just going through the motions. Do it for yourself and your children-who will know you are unhappy, they aren’t dumb.

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    💜

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you @Ro, @Sober4real,@Winner,@Annie I don’t feel so alone 💜

  • Kimbo posted an update 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Not looking forward to 2019. I will go back to a job I don’t like and I feel my marriage is just hanging on by a thread. Tomorrow (1st) will be my day one. I’m not drunk but I am having a drink! Sorry to be so glum, but that’s what’s going on for me. Wish I could cry on my husband shoulder but he really couldn’t care a less.

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Wow, 365 days….so happy for you what a massive achievement 💜

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    @timbi don’t know if you can see this but if you can the box to the right just below “post updates” change the setting to update then next time change it to everything then you will be able to see everyone’s post. @Mrs-d is on to it. Peace x

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thank you @enzedgirl that’s the only thing that allows me to see anything x

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Welcome back @LibbyB. X

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thank you everyone 💜

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @Ro, I just feel so low and can’t seem to shift it. I drank over Christmas and the self hate that goes with it. I’m back on track now though. Just wish I could motivate myself to feel better! How are you?

    • Well we know it’s a vicious cycle that happens when you drink piss- feel good for awhile then back to reality and you feel like shit eh. A few days off the sauce and you’ll start to feel better matey. What’s happening with hubs? you guys hanging in there? Were you drinking together? How does that go for you? My guy and I were nearly coming to blows right before we stopped drinking. It was a shit yarn really. Not living well at all. Might be about time to take shit in hand and get down to business @kimbo you know what to do-it’s just a matter of doing it – for you and no one else. My cuz died in his sleep at 51 two weeks ago. Life is too unpredictable to fuck around on bullshit- he still had so much to do. That’s my two cents worth today 😉

  • Kimbo posted an update 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Day 2 again, when will this low feeling ever go away?

    • Hey there @kimbo what’s been happening?

      • Hi @Ro, I just feel so low and can’t seem to shift it. I drank over Christmas and the self hate that goes with it. I’m back on track now though. Just wish I could motivate myself to feel better! How are you?

        • Well we know it’s a vicious cycle that happens when you drink piss- feel good for awhile then back to reality and you feel like shit eh. A few days off the sauce and you’ll start to feel better matey. What’s happening with hubs? you guys hanging in there? Were you drinking together? How does that go for you? My guy and I were nearly coming to blows right before we stopped drinking. It was a shit yarn really. Not living well at all. Might be about time to take shit in hand and get down to business @kimbo you know what to do-it’s just a matter of doing it – for you and no one else. My cuz died in his sleep at 51 two weeks ago. Life is too unpredictable to fuck around on bullshit- he still had so much to do. That’s my two cents worth today 😉

    • @kimbo yes, it will…….it takes time, just be good to yourself like you are recovering from pneumonia – after all drinking can be seen as a serious illness. That’s how I had to treat myself the first few months.

    • Lots of love your way, Kimbo.
      I found that my depression and anxiety flared way up in early sobriety, and things took time to feel more stable and balanced. For now, be extra kind and gentle and nurturing with yourself. Even if it may not feel like “you deserve it” because “it is only day 2 and I keep lapsing”, please know you DO deserve it….and ESPECIALLY on those hard feelings days.

      xoxoxoxo

      May tomorrow be already a bit lighter after some sleep and a good meal. Maybe a bubble bath before bed.

    • Thank you everyone 💜

    • Yes it will. Dont give up 🙂

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Your not alone @kjpeche, keep posting, sending a big hug your way.

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yes @Tim happening to me too. Mrs-d is on to it.

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks @Mrs-d

  • Kimbo posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    I’m on Safari, the blue bell doesn’t seem to make any difference. I can’t see however the comments people have made to me (sure there was one from you @Mrs-D) it’s all very weird and only started yesterday!

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