2nd try at living sober. Managed 132 days and then thought I could moderate and we all know how that works . Has taken me awhile to come back on this site as I was so embarrassed and angry for failing. It is so much harder the 2nd time around . because I know what the first few months are like. Well after 30 days I have found it easier the 2nd time around. Maybe because I did the most insane thing and ditched coffee and sugar as well as the wine. I think I missed the sugar the most and that was my focus. I discovered soda and Lime which is just heaven. I am in wonder of the sense of calm that I have. I keep waiting for the black cloud to descend but until then happy living life with the odd blah day thrown in.
600 days. This is what it means to me. It's the sense of calm that I am no longer consumed about wine, how much I have drunk, worrying about if I have enough, or do I have to pop to the bottle store got more supplies before I get too drunk. Am I slurring, do I look pissed. I now have choices, I get to choose what I want to do. It's 6am and bouncing out of bed on a Sunday morning and sipping warm green tea and nibbling on toast and peanut butter and watching the sun come up, enjoying the stillness and quiet. It's getting a call from my mother in law at 2am crying because she is not feeling well and then jumping in the car, picking her up and taking her to the hospital. It's taking my 4yr old Granddaughter to her dance class at 9am on a Saturday beaming from ear to ear as she runs over to me in the middle of the class and gives me a big hug. It's being able to negotiate difficult conversation calmly. Its being more present for my Husband and handling his illness, it's being more patient and understanding. Talking more about how I feel and being kinder. Its putting on 3 layers of clothes and walking the dog in the wind between showers and enjoying it. It's discovering that I love yoga and how balanced and straight and tall I feel after a session with Adrienne in the comfort of my home. It's being apart of this LS community, putting myself out there and meeting some strong amazing wonderful people that I now call friends. It's Freedom and it's great.
Oh lovely lady, I can so relate. I too am very insular since not drinking. I have to really make an effort to get out. You have such a wonderful home. It is filled with love and laughter and is in a magical setting. I loved the time I spent there and anyone would. Big *hugs* xx
Love it when the sun is shining. Just finished a 20 min meditation on my ferry ride to work and opened my eyes to the sun shining on the water. So grateful to have this way to commute to work. Have a great Monday people 💕
Beautiful morning, my grandchildren had a sleepover last night so much fun. A breakfast of bacon and eggs and hot cakes. I am dropping them home on the way to lunch with a beautiful bunch of LS members. Can’t wait to catch up it has been too long. Have an awesome day people xx
Ohhh I would sure love some of that breakfast with you and and your lovely grandkids! oxoxoxoxo The memories they are making with you this morning are a powerful legacy. I loved every second of waking up at my grandma’s as a kid.
Hi @Kerris, some good sober muscles indeed, it’s funny when I stopped drinking 6 months ago it was with the Christmas Holidays in mind … I gave myself a rather generous lead in because it’s my 40th next month and last year I had thought I’d do no wine 39… well that lasted all of not long! So now with 6months under my belt I’m so looking forward to my Wine Free 40’s!!!! And I am super excited about sober holidays and NO Hangovers!
Morning such glorious sunshine this morning after a wet weekend. Love the clean refreshing smell after a few days of rain. Hubby and I went to a mindfulness for relationships workshop on Saturday was so much fun. We even did 2 guided meditations. One of the activities we did was to gaze into each other’s eyes for 3 mins. Hubby and I did so well for about 40 seconds then got uncontrollable giggles. It was hilarious . We also found out we are on the same thought pattern when it came to the values we think the other adds. Was an uplifting afternoon. Have a fantabulous day people 🤡
So sorry you have a sad heart @morgan. I have been thinking of you often as you will never believe who I listen to just about daily now Tara Brach!! I just could not listen to her in my first few years of sobriety. However I have been getting into more meditation and I find her brilliant. 2 years ago her voice grated me and now so soothing and inspiring and so funny. So put those trainers on and go for a walk in nature and listen to your friend Tara. I always think of you when I listen to her. Xx
I am glad to be remembered in such a way. Sometimes Tara makes me laugh out loud on my walks, but more often groan. However, she has reshaped my thinking over the last few years. I had read and begun to absorb this thinking/ way of being for many years, but I think the almost daily walks listening, then the night sleep- meditation routine, has meant it begins to really embed. + having to live through things raw and sober of course. I think my heart is broken now, my future vision could be over ( what, again?!!!) however I have caught myself thinking, I am grown up, at long last, I can manage this. Took some risks, they were worth it, the answers will come soon, don’t push Morgan, wait as @prudence said, don’t freak out that time is NOT on my side, simply live. Grateful, so bloody great ful for my health and the love in my life. That got rammed home hearing bad news yesterday. Wow, pulled me together rapidly. I like the story about the novice monks being sent to meditate in the graveyard ( among cadavers?) Xxxx have you adjusted to being home from the glories of Italy?
Very cool site @mrs-d great job Dan. Anyone have tips on how I fine the calendar and orange box. It’s probably very easy but having tried everywhere and getting frustrated I thought I would ask lol. I did manage to get a cover pic and new profile pic so not a total epic fail 😄
Morning there is a cool number in my orange box this morning 1111. I am a sucker for 11:11 and know I will always have a great day when I see it. Off to have brunch with a friend I haven’t seen in ages and swap holiday stories. Had takeaways last night and hubby asked me to grab him some ciders, which I did. Doesn’t phase me going into bottle stores. They even stock AF wine now but I find them far to sweet. Can’t beat a soda and lime for a refreshing drink. I also quiet like the ginger and lime Kambucha very low in sugar. Have a beautiful day people xxx
Sugar detox is going OK thanks @morgan. It’s helped that I have a stinking heavy head cold, so I can’t tell if I feel crap because of the detox or it’s the cold hahaha. Love the sound of your outfit and the over the knee boots! Bet you look very cool. Loving the sound of your Sunday you have inspired me to get out of my dressing gown and go shower and do something with the day. xxx
Back in good ol NZ, Happy to be home and the animals are both good. We had house sitters and apart from the washing machine crapping out beyond repair all is OK. Started the sugar detox so not sure if it’s that or Jetlag that’s sucked the energy out of me but I’m glad I took the rest of the week off work. Sober holidays are the only way to go. I could never have packed in everything we did if I had daily hangovers. Life is so much better without alcohol having the control.
Hello gorgeous. Home safe and sound xxxx adored the photos too, when I wasn’t ill with envy. Hey, I am week 11 no sugar no grains – can barely believe I have done it. We know how to give things up, right?
Buongiorno, I am currently sitting on a train travelling from Venice to Milan. 4 days to go until we head home from our wonderful trip. Hubby had his 50th birthday in Venice. We finished our tour and Milan will be just hubby and me. We have toured Italy with 40 people and by golly were there some drinkers! There were 5 men all in there 60’s that drank like fish every day and night. They all started drinking at lunch time and headed to the bar as soon as we got to our hotels. They were all pissed by dinner. So glad that’s not me anymore and today is day 1095. 3 years! Greece was much more AF friendly than Italy but I have got rather partial to Virgin Mojitos, very refreshing. Unfortunately I have fallen off the no sugar wagon and have been having daily Gelato and evening desserts. Will have to detox when I get home. Have eaten bucket loads of Pasta as well. The food has been amazing!
My response vanished before my eyes!!! After it had successfully sat here for some time while I answered some others. Bloody hell. Anyway, Hi gorgeous. Let me know if you get my ramble in your notifications or emails please. Weird
3 YEARS! Very nice. I’m jealous of your European trip…..I suspect many others have done it AF, as you have…..we do notice the drinkers now. I don’t begrudge them their fun, I’m a guy age 65 myself. But drinking and me don’t mix. It stopped being fun, that’s why I’m here. But again, big congrats on three years, and I hope you and your husband have a great time in Milan!
How amazing @Kerris! Happy birthday to your husband + congrats on 3 years!! I’m going to Milan + Venice in the summer after the Alps for my 50th next summer, inspired by a trip taken by our own Lizzie here and her family. Have a great rest of the trip! x
Hi Kerris, I was happy to read this after meeting you last summer – what a buzz and so good that you and yr man could make that trip together and make his 50th something pretty special…..might even get to Europe myself one day, maybe for my man,s 70th or my 65th. Guess I,d better stop talking about it and make it happen! Have another gelato and a swim for me, till then. Congratulations on 3 years of freedom from moderation!
Kalispera everyone (Goodafternoon in Greek) we are back in Athens today after a 12 day tour of Greece and the Greek islands. My highlight has been Olympia and the site of the Olympic Games and the Island of Rhodes. I was disappointed in Mykonos and Santorini as I had been expecting it to be like my romantic notions I have had from seeing these places in the movies. There was too many bloody tourist lol. Hubby and I are having an amazing time and I must say the variety of AF drinks is so good. I have been having Virgin Mojitos and AF beer. On the 4 days cruise they even had a sugar free dessert option! Tomorrow we have a 4:15am wake up call to go to the airport for our flight to Italy and the next stage of our trip. We are having the most amazing time and staying AF is easy peasy cause I don’t dink.
Sitting Waiting to get on a plane with hubby heading to Greece and then Italy. Checking in as although I won’t drink I get very nervous on flights with free champagne as was always my go to drink and having it shoved in your face can be off putting. Posting to everyone will keep me and my 1069 days in check. I am so fricken excited hubby and I can’t believe the day had finally arrived. Will post updates xx