• enzedgirl posted a new activity comment 1 day, 7 hours ago

    Reckon @k1w1 😊👍🏼❤️

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 3 days, 19 hours ago

    Good point @k1W1 I will need that plan.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 days, 22 hours ago

    @k1w1 so well put sadly. That black hole is hell. So sad. Feel bad for all involved.

  • kjpeche posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Thank you @k1W1

  • Gojo posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Love that gem @k1w1! Old fashioned wisdom.

  • newstart100 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Thank you @k1w1, that makes a lot of sense to me. I wasn’t sure where this sadness was coming from, I was hoping to feel joy at my accomplishment and decision to face the situation head on. But your connecting the dots about my sadness of the relationships changing really struck a cord with me. I needed help making that leap, thank you xoxo

  • morgan posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    hahaha yes – be careful @K1w1 who knows what you will do next! Art works could take a new turn.
    I sometimes get protein powder or ‘stuff’ but my system does not seem to like it much, although Bs and tumeric lift me up. Had a look – it does look pretty amazing. Maybe for my girl at exam time – and me when stupidly working weekends-that-go-wrong as this one has. Bloody teens

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    sounds good, what is it? @k1w1

    • It’s a powder drink with the ingredients I mentioned. Theanine is good for chilling you out the others are antioxidants. I had it again yesterday and it helped a lot as in cravings for chocolate went and I felt mentally better, so well keep having it all week and see if the benefit continues especially fridays which at work I am by myself for 9.5 hours except for customers. I struggle being alone for the whole day, and then if it gets busy I have to cope. Hate fridays 😒 hopefully they will employ someone within the next month to be there as well. Last Friday I ate so much junk food the day just stresses me out. Bored or super busy no in between

  • Lee@ posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    That sounds amazing @k1w1. send me a kilo.

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    wonderful, @k1w1 – love it.

  • Lee@ posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Painting is one of those things that we tend to do better when we stop worrying about it @k1W1. Painting with music sounds nice!

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    @k1w1 – no one regretted being sober.

  • Lee@ posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    @k1w1 I’ve been doing it all wrong. Chopping at the choppy water. Nearly laughable at this point, how much shit has entered my world. Not drowning though. Can’t when there’s not a drop of the lethal liquid around. I’ll manage to swim through the other shit somehow.

  • DaisyM posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    @k1W1 He didn’t face up to it – I caught him out . He lied when I first confronted him. I am angry that (a) he lied when I first confronted him (b) he chose a drunken night away with his “mates” over a weekend away from his family , (c) that instead of not drinking (as we discussed), he chose to get drunk to the point where he made bad decisions and (d) that he ended up in a disgusting strip bar looking at naked women when he is supposed to be mature, decent man, married and loyal to me and his family – I view it as a disgusting betrayal. Oh and (e) that I looked after our children all weekend, giving them a great time away, I was exhausted, particularly as we have a child with pretty severe special needs and a disability, while he went for his little drunken trip. Those are all my reasons….thanks for asking, it helps writing down my reasons for my anger!

  • LeslieLily posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    @k1W1 if you change your password here to something you don’t use elsewhere, you should be fine. Also – try out a password manager, like LastPass (lastpass.com), you can then save all your passwords in a secure vault (uses goverment level encryption) and you only need to remember the one password to get into that vault where all your other passwords will be stored. I would be lost without it. Hope this helps! (I’m a System Administrator, lol)

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    not as far as I know @k1w1 but will check x

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Oh yes @K1W1 when are you heading off? Can’t remember now if you are going alone or with your daughter?

    • With my daughter, in November for 6 weeks Scotland, a wedding in Ireland through Europe and the a couple days in New York and then LA

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    @k1w1 no I’ve never been able to do it either, and I’m pretty good with puzzles, I think my brain just says Nah numbers 😫

  • AndIan posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    @k1w1 look at the lines of numbers, horizontal and vertical. Remember each line has the numbers 1-9 as does each square. That normally helps. Good luck it’s great fun.

  • Gojo posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Alcohol Free problems @k1W1 😉 They sure beat alcohol induced problems!

  • Gigi47 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    @k1w1 Thank you, this really helps. I guess I just need to put things in to perspective. I am big on soul searching and having lovely talks with myself so I guess I need to take some time to do that.

  • Jaxisdry posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    I totally feel you @k1W1 it’s everywhere booze, booze and more booze. Got an invite for my step daughters hen’s party and it’s a bloody stay over with wine tastings! It feels like every event is centered around the bloody stuff.

  • Day 431
    6:34am

    Today’s thought from my big comfy chair: “Thank you for the support”

    I was scrolling through the profiles this morning when it dawned on me how many people on this site have touched me in some way. A comment on my post or something that they posted that resonated with me, something that made me laugh or sometimes cry. What a wonderful supportive, safe place this has become for me. So I will leave you with this Bruce Springsteen lyric that has been running through my mind over the last couple of days. From the song “Into The Fire”

    May your strength give us strength
    May your hope give us hope
    May your faith give us faith
    May your love give us love

    Thank you to the following people and sorry to anyone I may have missed.
    @stevef, @jm, @liberty, @morgan, @ro, @winner, @malibustacey, @happyness, @kitten, @mari135, @timidwarrior, @robynb, @freedom1025, @k1w1, @chasingthedandelion, @kit, @jocord, @mrs-d, @daveh, @danthedev, @agirl, @enzedgirl, @prudence, @soberstylist,@rise2015, @missfreedom, @tom4500, @trace, @wildchild, @ylang-ylang, @janus2, @iowadawn

    • I echo the thanks!! I’m grateful to the folks further along in the journey who take the time to turn around and extend their hand and show us the way. So glad you’re here @hammer123!

    • Thanks for the mention @hammer123. We are all in this together and the support we give one another is truly a blessing. Each one of us has a different story as to how we went off the rails and started abusing alcohol. We are not bad people we just got addicted. This is what we all share and deal with on this journey to live an AF life. We are all very fortunate to have stumbled on to this wonderful community that @Mrs-D started at the beginning of her journey. Thanks to everyone of you for being here! May you all have a great AF day!

    • Nicely said and widely shared @hammer123. I too am extremely grateful for this place and for all the warm, supportive, non-judgemental, empathetic (I could go on…) people here. To know that there are people just like me, all over the world, struggling with the same issue and experiencing the same emotions – and willing to reach out to help others along has been quite a humbling, yet empowering experience. Sending out sincere thanks to all – and wishing everyone a peaceful AF day.

    • I totally agree! This has been tough but also at times easier than I imagined and I think that has a lot to do with this community. It is my touch stone first thing in the morning and last thing at night and it reminds me what I am doing and why. So grateful x.@hammer123

    • 🤗

    • Xxx

    • It’s a wonderful thing we have here @hammer123. Very very precious to me. Thank you for your support too. 🌹🌹🌹

    • Love that song 💚

    • Hey @hammer123 !!! You have inspired me too . 🌻

    • thanks @hammer123 – and back at ya 🙂 xx

  • AprilsFool posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thanks for sharing that @k1W1. I’m going to check it out. Sounds very interesting.

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    No @K1W1 but I bought another cool pair on the K Rd in Auckland, second hand, soft leather, love them

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Sounds like a fun, @k1W1, all of it, eating, painting, shopping, connecting with others. be well.

  • Jocord posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    I’m with @k1w1, it doesn’t have to be inevitable. I also don’t think willpower is enough. We know we have incredibly strong wills. We’ve managed to keep jobs and power through days hungover. Asking for help before you drink is a great way to stay on track! xo

    • You are right it’s not just will power, it’s how much I want other things!! I do feel better than I did 28 days ago, that is for sure!!

  • Mrs D posted an update 2 months, 1 week ago

    Hi guys, am hearing from quite a few of you that you are having some trouble on here today.. we are looking into it. Will report back asap! @winner @k1w1 @getclear @tipsytoegal

    • I think this has been resolved 🙂

      • I’m
        Nope still have no post button on iPad did notice that up top on the address bar it says unsecure in red. Have a post button on my iPhone but when I went to comment on @tipsytoegal for some reason on my iPhone it went to her profile page rather than staying in members feed area.

  • getclear posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    YES!!! And I could not reply directly to your posts @k1w1 Or @Winner….I’m on my lap top now but was unable to get anywhere on Ipad. Completely lost my longish update…showed in my activity for a moment but would not post and now just vanished. @mrs-d

  • MrsFinallyFree posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Well done @k1w1 thanks for your response

  • getclear posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Yes me too on the gaining weight. You’d think that if you don’t suck down a bottle a night you’d lose but…I’ve gained too. But I ageee with @k1w1 with saying it’s better than alcohol. Someone here assured me in my first week it would level out itself so that’s what I’m counting on.

    • Fingers crossed that my body comes into balance once I’ve mastered the art of treating alcohol with the contempt (for me, anyway) that it deserves. Evil stuff.

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    thank you, @k1w1!!!

  • newstart100 posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi @k1w1! Some of my favorites are: Mrs. D, Gabby Bernstein, sober revolution, peaceful_barb (not necessarily sobriety focused, but really good stuff), #alcoholfree, the temper, #sobriety, sobersaturdayz, positivelypresent, asobergirlsguide, glennen doyle, thisnakedmind, laura mckowen, sobermomtribe xo

  • Agirl posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks so much for your replies @saoirse, @timidwarrior, @kitten, @morgan, @k1w1, @shez, @jm. So much wisdom. I went and had bloods done- we’ll see if there’s anything to be done there. I need to get this sorted, I feel I can’t face another winter like this. You know it’s getting bad when existence seems pointless and there is no joy in anything…
    I’ve definitely got a bad case of (in Tara’s words) “something is missing, something is wrong”. I’m so glad to be able to separate myself from it to a degree and not buy into it as reality, well not completely anyway.
    Hope you guys are all well! xxxxxxx And thank you.

    • Well done, if they all come back normal then find a really good naturopath, I have just added in B12 and it seems to be making a difference

    • That is no good at all. You will have to keep exploring. Hopefully just lacking in something vital. Iron ok?
      I am a great believer in check all physical options b4 any psychological delving as our chemistry can do us in big time. Mine does. Then the crazy, depressive stories my mind makes up- ridiculous, but so real and overwhelming

    • One day at a time @agirl!! Do not do anything irrational, take a deep breath or 10 to ground yourself!! X

      • I certainly won’t do anything silly @shez. My (adult) children are my reason for being. I wouldn’t do anything to upset them. Thank you xx

    • I am not saying it is or isnt anything – we are such complex beings. As the saying so truly goes, the more I learn, the less i know.
      Just watching Heal, a doco on Netflix. Very interesting. Have you seen it? Not too ott

  • morgan posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    I think Tara, along with St Johns wort and a few other helpful supplements (Tumeric!) has really helped rebuild my neural pathways into more constructive peaceful ones – yes @k1w1, D is essential and for so much of our healthy functioning, and iron. Did the Dr not give you the one-a-month all winter one?
    Stephen Pinker has also helped my horror at the injustice and crap in the world – and I have sort of dealt with my guilt that I am not doing enough … we can really bring ourselves dooowwwn that is for sure, and so can our chemistry 🙁

  • Bridgett posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    @k1W1 Thank you!

  • Jocord posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Nice @K1w1, I agree the path is about accepting but also one of discovery. As I travel down this sober road I find I am discovering how much the alcohol lifestyle distorted the real me.

  • JM posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @K1W1! Love it. I feel like that sobriety helps with – removing all of the masks and layers, revealing our true selves more + more. x

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Who you going with @K1W1? Sounds amazing

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Oh @K1W1 I am a fiend for clothes. I have to have at least a dozen choices. My biggest worry is if I do any shopping I wouldnt fit more than a hanky in my pack haha. The only sensible thing I did was get quite a small pack…..to keep myself in line. Where are you going? Xx

    • Going to a wedding in Ireland then doing Scotland london through Europe then on way home New York and LA

  • DanTheDev posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hey @k1w1 thanks I am aware of that pain. Unfortunately wats happening there is that the site is paginating via making a request of the server for more data. So it’s not so much seeing the rest of the page as seeing the next page. I have a couple of fixes for this that I am looking at implementing. Once I have sorted out the emerald speed issue i’ll see about improving this.

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks @k1w1, film was great Rocketman, but something said in the film resonated with me so now got to process those thoughts/feelings!

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    sounds like a great sober day. enjoy, @k1w1

  • getclear posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    @k1w1 it’s true that no hangovers are great. ..and watching the drunk people makes me embarrassed for them. Imagine…..there was I not too long ago

  • AprilsFool posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Thanks @Agirl, @k1W1, and @freedom1025. Good counsel as always. I’ll try not to dwell and just breathe through it. I’ll take the advice and begin planning something nice for this weekend. Going to be alone (again). Maybe take me shopping for something special. Thanks for the support. So good to know I’m not alone in this. Xox

  • freedom1025 posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Congrats on D86. Could be a bit of PAWS (post acute withdrawal syndrome). Or just life in general now that you’re living it without the numbing effect of alcohol. I agree with @k1w1 … accept it and breathe. It will pass. 😊

  • kissingmyrainbow posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    @k1w1 you don’t know what you missed it but as great and @wakingowl I have seen that was so funny

  • Iowadawn posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Yes…that is true @k1w1.

  • sobere posted a new activity comment 3 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @k1W1

  • Thank you @ro, @k1w1, @saoirse, @mari135 and @freedom1025 for replying to my post. You helped me a lot.

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