• k1W1 posted a new activity comment 19 hours, 53 minutes ago

    Holly from Hip Sobriety and Tempest has just written a book which is being released in the next few months, she got really stressed to and she doesn’t have kids, just sounds like writing a book is up there in the stress list. Wonder if it’s because you mind is doubting like who will read it, will they like it, am I on the right track.

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 19 hours, 58 minutes ago

    Well done on 10 weeks, could be old habits haunting you, use the old delay distract if they come too strong, and remind yourself often of how you want life as a sober person to be

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 17 hours ago

    Glad you have a debrief hope they offer someone for you to talk to if you need it

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 17 hours ago

    Hope your okay. The mental argument does my head in, I’m 5.5 years sober and I do it width junk food. So I am learning at the moment to just name the thoughts and let them go eg ah there’s that thought again about eating chocolate, oh hello thought ohh I’m being hard on myself. That’s helping me I got it from the book Happiness Trap

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 17 hours ago

    Change it to a cafe or don’t go Mind you if they are good mates you could explain why

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 18 hours ago

    👍😁🦋

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 18 hours ago

    Hello and welcome 🌸

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 3 hours ago

    Wanting to change for future generations and my future is my motivation Don’t drag the last with you. Make the decision, imagine often how you want your future to be with out alcohol, find some good role models

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 3 hours ago

    You know the demons so what’s your battle plan?

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 3 hours ago

    When in the black hole thoughts can appear real, and people follow them to the end. So feel for his family and friends. Make sure you look after you as you support them. 💖🌸

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 3 hours ago

    Wonder if she remembers… you not drinking obviously has big triggers for her and how she sees herself and how she is judging herself such a shame she took it out on you. Alcohol does not bring out the best in people

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 20 hours ago

    Alcohol in food is fine for me it doesn’t trigger me so I don’t worry about it

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 20 hours ago

    Hello and welcome

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 17 hours ago

    Welcome🌺

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Preparing is key, sounds like you are doing well 👍

  • k1W1 posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    Read a post on Instagram it was about recovery but in a different field but loved it. Here’s a wee bit that resonates with me. “when I wake up it starts with me. I am not going to sabotage Future me with my actions today. I am aware and I allow myself the power to take control.I am fully in charge of my current actions” and of course my fave No one regrets being sober. 🦋

    • Thanks for sharing. ✌💜😊

    • One of my greatest weapons against booze is remembering the last day I spent on the couch feeling like total shit while my kids were bored and wondering what was wrong with mommy. I wasn’t a good parent or even a good person that day because I had chosen to drink way too much the night before, wasting not only that evening but the entire day that followed. I NEVER regret waking up sober and in control. Thank you for sharing this quote!

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    You think you have a problem then you do, just say thanks for your words but this is my choice as I feel drinking doesn’t work for me and at this time I am choosing not to drink. Or something along those lines but keep it short and closed to further discussion. It’s coming from them being uncomfortable so leave it with them.

    • Thanks – I agree with closing it to further discussion, I don’t want to debate it, I just want to shut it down.

      • @queenme so many people that love us don’t want us to stop drinking.
        The reasons are many and varied.
        Mostly they come from a place of love.
        Sometimes they don’t.
        But they are generally more about the person giving the advice than the one receiving it.
        For example, perhaps your husband loves having a drink with you in the evening as a way to rewind and catch up after a long day, and doesn’t like the idea of you having a problem. Or your parents don’t want to think of you being unhappy and giving up drinking might indicate that you are or have been.
        In any case, culturally our society treats drinking differently that other potentially harmful behavior.
        We’ve discussed this quite a bit on this site.
        Imagine if you said, I’ve got a problem with smoking and so I’ve decided to give it up. Everyone would applaud you (even if they still smoked themselves).
        You’d have plenty of support.
        Even if you said, I’m no longer eating gluten as if bloats me. No one would bat an eyelid.
        It’s all quite strange when you look at it.
        I think the cultural tide is shifting in this regard though.
        I think in 10 years time, being sober will be much more “normal”

      • That is so true about the smoking and gluten 😂

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Well done, and yes you have got this 🦋

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    I don’t know about your laws but sending you love and hope someone can offer advice

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    It resets of you clear your history and or cookies otherwise should be there 8 think

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    😁👍🌸

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    What was your driver for giving up smoking? What’s your driver for giving up drinking? Also early days be kind to yourself rest and nutrition plus water

    • Thank you everyone. The witching hour eh? You’ve pulled me back on track …. I’ve started a list (thank you Robynb), managed to get myself to the lounge (thank you ro), realised that maybe this isn’t as daunting as it sometimes seems (thank you scared) and recognised that my drivers are key (thank you k1w1) …. I’ve got this!

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Very normal as your body was getting sugar from the Alchymist seeks to replace it, and it’s soothing for the brain. Lots on the internet about nutrition and being newly sober. Plenty if veg. Protein and healthy fats plus lots of water and a good multi

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Love it and the 583 days sober

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Hello there, welcome 🌻

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Greetings and welcome 🌸

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Hello and welcome 👋

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Well done on having a coping plan in place. Yeah 5he gym is my happy place 💚🏋️‍♀️

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    I had a sip of my daughters wine last month was surprised by hide awful it tasted helped me realise that I wasn’t missing out and how my brain tricked me into thinking it tasted good

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Well done and how right you are addiction is exhausting

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Would love to

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    You are blessed to have the room to make such a decision. Redcliffs and Sumner areas are beautiful that’s where mum used to live. I loved it there wonderful quaint shops, good cafes, and lovley picture theatre

    • I know @Kiwi and I’m very grateful. I bought the wee Redcliffs place last year as is where is. Was a real dump. Worse place best street. Did it all up and got it insured. I know I am lucky, but I’ve taken huge risks to get to this position. You’ll have to come visit xx

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Sounds like sober life is treating you well, how awesome you both have your tribes

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Lurking is just as good as posting, glad your feeling good 🌻

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    45 years ago a friends father was diagnosed with depression- his doctor told him to go to bed and rest which he did for months. He got better too. A day or two of rest is good for the soul that’s why retreats work they slow us down

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    If you clear your cookies and or history etc the counter goes back to zero, sounds like your doing really well

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Sounds like a pretty picture, no snow in Canterbury 😞

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    after years of searching I kinda now be,Evie we don’t need the answer we just need to do it. One day builds on the next. Getting back in the saddle is awesome doesn’t matter if it’s a bit wobbly, my split leg lunge was wobbly at the beginning but practise has made the stable

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Sadness from The loss you are experiencing is normal, as that part of your life changes. Sounds like you handled it very well 🌺

    • Thank you @k1w1, that makes a lot of sense to me. I wasn’t sure where this sadness was coming from, I was hoping to feel joy at my accomplishment and decision to face the situation head on. But your connecting the dots about my sadness of the relationships changing really struck a cord with me. I needed help making that leap, thank you xoxo

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    It’s a powder drink with the ingredients I mentioned. Theanine is good for chilling you out the others are antioxidants. I had it again yesterday and it helped a lot as in cravings for chocolate went and I felt mentally better, so well keep having it all week and see if the benefit continues especially fridays which at work I am by myself for 9.5 hours except for customers. I struggle being alone for the whole day, and then if it gets busy I have to cope. Hate fridays 😒 hopefully they will employ someone within the next month to be there as well. Last Friday I ate so much junk food the day just stresses me out. Bored or super busy no in between

  • k1W1 posted an update 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Anybody tried ArepaNootropic Powder? I was over at tower junction Raewood Fresh and saw it so brought on impulse. Had some when I got home and then went for a walk, wow by my mood lifted that’s for sure. Knew the Theanine wouldn’t help chill me out but wasn’t sure about enzogenol and the berry powder. Will continue to take and see how I go.

    • That sounds amazing @k1w1. send me a kilo.

    • sounds good, what is it? @k1w1

      • It’s a powder drink with the ingredients I mentioned. Theanine is good for chilling you out the others are antioxidants. I had it again yesterday and it helped a lot as in cravings for chocolate went and I felt mentally better, so well keep having it all week and see if the benefit continues especially fridays which at work I am by myself for 9.5 hours except for customers. I struggle being alone for the whole day, and then if it gets busy I have to cope. Hate fridays 😒 hopefully they will employ someone within the next month to be there as well. Last Friday I ate so much junk food the day just stresses me out. Bored or super busy no in between

    • It sounds like something out of a Margaret Atwood novel!

      • hahaha yes – be careful @K1w1 who knows what you will do next! Art works could take a new turn.
        I sometimes get protein powder or ‘stuff’ but my system does not seem to like it much, although Bs and tumeric lift me up. Had a look – it does look pretty amazing. Maybe for my girl at exam time – and me when stupidly working weekends-that-go-wrong as this one has. Bloody teens

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    6 months ✅ on to the next 6 well done

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Good on you for not giving your power away. What was the movie?

    • It was a docu… For My Fathers Kingdom, about a Tongan family… … It was very moving indeed, quite a brave movie for the father to be in. He was there and spoke at the end. His daughter made the movie…… Tonga is a place I love.

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Hope you get to rest and relax over the weekend

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Good insights there, well done

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Good on you, self care is essential

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    How right you are, we all find our own way to become and stay sober

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Come home from work walk into chaos, want to sit down to one drink is that actually you want to sit down and relax before dealing with family? Instead of course tea time is a busy time in a house .. cooking tea, bathing kids, getting kids to eat. So what do you need? 5 minutes to have a quick shower and change of clothing before helping? I could be wrong but is it a case of talking with your partner and balancing her needs and your needs so it’s a win for you both at that time?

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Hi and welcome 🌸

  • k1W1 posted an update 3 weeks ago

    Signed up for another art class, and this time the musician Jeff Clarkson will be there playing his music so we can channel a painting, now that could be interesting 😳😁 Not sure how I will go, still learning. Practising painting till then, did a lovely one yesterday. Better than drinking evenings away. New hobbies 👍

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