Start date 8/2/2014 At any stage I can choose to drink, but with that choice comes choosing all that come with it, so for today I choose not to drink. Nobody regretted ever being sober. 🙂
"...It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that. In the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore. ~Rev. Safire Rose. :
It’s great that you want to protect your sobriety. I am going to Ireland later this year with my daughter for a wedding. I just found out that we will be staying for part of it above a pub 😳 I am prepping myself now reading Naked Mind and I will talk to her about when I need time out I think being prepared is key
I’m away at my sisters holiday home with her and her husband. She and him all year round drink wine at night and when socially (they entertain most weekends) They drink wine at lunch and then start at 5 until they eat tea while here at the holiday home )She said on my first night her life is to short I love my wine. This was after my b…[Read more]
That would nearly have me convinced, too @K1W1…..ahh, the grapes of life, blah blah blah…clink! Take the wine out of the equation just for a day, no, one measly morning, afternoon, mid avo or evening, then watch their dreamboat sink. We are talking about the true art of living, are we not?
Wow that’s a tough one! When people say that like YOLO and stuff. Hard to argue. But wait, is it hard to argue? How amazing are your mornings after a good sleep? Zero regret or anxiety about drinking. Unburdened. That my friend is what the good life is. You should go sit on the foot of their bed early the next morning after that dinner a…[Read more]
yeah that’s tough. I’ve been in that sort of situation many a time. All I keep coming back to though is my truth. I know my truth.. that for me it wasn’t a ‘you only live once, life is short’ sort of thing with booze. In fact.. I feel that way about sobriety! My drinking was awful, deadening, disconnecting, sloppy, yukky. Being sober I’ve got more…[Read more]
That’s a good warning for all of us, k1W1, as we’re all sure to face something like that at some point. Well done on holding on to what you know is right for you. Wouldn’t you think that “peer pressure” was just a kid’s thing? It’s not.
Oof that’s hard @k1w1, I’d be disorientated too. But yes, what Mrs D said about her truth. If my truth was that I could be trolleyed all day and have a great time and great relationships etc etc, then life might be too short not to jam that experience in. Not my reality. My truth is a moment’s buzz now and then (not even every time) with a whole…[Read more]
I can really relate. I’m only on day 22, but have been thinking about this lately. I completely agree life is short and very fragile – too short I have decided to waste drinking. It is fun letting go and getting together with friends, but we can all do this without alcohol.
“You know, some people say life is short and that you could get hit by a bus at any moment and that you have to live each day like it’s your last. Bullshit. Life is long. You’re probably not gonna get hit by a bus. And you’re gonna have to live with the choices you make for the next fifty years.”
Sweet 30 day 👍 I am reading Naked Mind on kindle and it clearly debunks all the myths around alcohol and the marketing of it. Yes it’s clearly poison. As she said take away the added sugar and flavours and would you drink it? Have a great sober day
Found a wonderful app in apple store called Breathe, you can take a breathe, check in with how your feeling, choose the feelings and then it gives you a meditation. Going to use it to help me pause and to reset. I am off to Port Underwood tomorrow and feeling very anxious. It’s the first time going since mum died. Rather than driving I am taking t…[Read more]
Lots of interesting things going on and offered as usual Kiwi. Happy travelling – love to always have a bag strapped to me (bad teens in my roles 🙁 ). trains are awesome. I hope you have a special time with Mum, memories, or … who knows, perhaps she will travel with you.
Must look into Breathe.
Can you tell him how you feel, eg hey hon it’s 38 years today we have been married to me it’s a special day and I feel a bit (sad, upset, hurt…..) that you seem to have forgotten. Shall we …… to celebrate? Would that work?
Okay if you really need help now and are in NZ use these numbers Alcohol Drug Helpline on
0800 787 797 (24 hrs) or LifeLine 0800 543 345 (24 hrs) to speak directly to someone who can assist. Both are very good. Doesn’t matter if you have had a few it’s someone to talk things through with. Small steps toward being sober sometimes it’s just asking for help
Hi @sara1988 – definitely don’t know your whole story so of course you will do what is right for you. I’ve just been in HR for so long it’s like I couldn’t help but say something. I know that no matter what you will end up exactly where you are meant to be in a great role you enjoy!
Reading The Naked Mind, it’s interesting, I’m also applying the marketing techniques they talk about to chocolate. 😁 First day if morning routine and it was easy although The kundalini meditation feels weird when doing it. Have a great day everyone
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