• k1W1 posted a new activity comment 6 hours, 59 minutes ago

    Yeah it’s so cool you use linseed oil and paint the effect is amazing

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 7 hours ago

    Send hugs just by thinking about it, imagine her in front of you and you hugging her and sending her lots of love, you could even say in your mind I ask that you accept this love I send you today.

  • k1W1 posted an update 9 hours, 24 minutes ago

    Day two of art class completed. I now have another three amazing pieces. One called the sharing, I started it then each student got to spend 10 minutes on it and then the teacher put his special touch. It’s sooo beautiful. Think I just found myself a new hobby but what do you do with all the art? I really want to try a dirty painting too. Next pay I might have to spend some money at the art shop. Just watching MKR who knew about pealing that tough outa part of broad beans, not me lol My mum used to make me eat them and they were tough. Might have to buy some and try it. Got to say being sober I enjoy food more

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 9 hours, 33 minutes ago

    It’s great when you find a good councillors, how awesome you BF is totally supportive 💕

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 9 hours, 35 minutes ago

    Any event were we don’t drink, no matter how many days sober is an achievement. 👍

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 9 hours, 38 minutes ago

    Know that at that time you did the best you could with the information you had available. It’s now time for you to support her, how cool that you are dealing with this sober. It was going to come up for her, gosh imagine if she was going through this and you were drinking. I hope she has a good therapist. Be patient send her hugs – imagine yourself hugging her. This too shall pass

    • She wont even let me send her hugs at the moment so its very raw for us both. Thanks for the reply, I really appreciate it.

      • k1W1 replied 7 hours ago

        Send hugs just by thinking about it, imagine her in front of you and you hugging her and sending her lots of love, you could even say in your mind I ask that you accept this love I send you today.

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 9 hours ago

    How lovely, I haven’t ventured into dating land. Had some really bad experience with last lot when I was drinking I was attracting some dickheads lol.. Good on you. Good luck with the interview

    • I was the same, I was attracting the wrong type of guys when I was drinking, I also didn’t like myself so thought I didn’t deserve any better. But I have been working on it a lot in therapy and feel like I am ready to get back out there and date with a sober mind!!!

  • k1W1 posted an update 1 day, 9 hours ago

    1st day if art class today. Did two canvases using oils learnt how to do different effects as well as layering and shading. A fun day. The old vice of your not good enough did pop up a couple of times, but I ignored it. I did think there was going to be a more spiritual aspect to it by the way it was advertised. But it’s still good. But gosh there is a composting toilet at the venue. Tell ya you wouldn’t want to be short, you would need a ladder. And yes they do smell. Good day to be sober

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 18 hours ago

    Some have them, I think it’s just the way of the brain working through things, nothing negative. It’s good to protect your sobriety

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 18 hours ago

    I would like to challenge you on your statement relapses are inevitable. I don’t think that is a true statement, and I feel like a statement like that lets the brain say their okay. Not just will power, being prepared for all situations because sometimes after a long hard week will power stumbles. You have come to day 27 you can add a day at a time. Do small goals maybe aim for day 50 then 75 then 100. You can do this

    • I hope you are right, it’s sunday afternoon and I’ve had a great day but I’ll turn to my cup of tea instead of wine!! I’ll aim small for sure, and now at nearly a month I’m pretty happy to get through this far!!!

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 18 hours ago

    Good on you, you have some wonderful insights there

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 7 hours ago

    How sad, but nit worth drinking for as it does nothing to honour her death or memory. I truly feel for her family

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 7 hours ago

    What does the support look like to you?

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 7 hours ago

    Well done, an awesome outcome for you, and yes how lovely it would be if your brother decided to stop drinking.

  • k1W1 posted an update 2 days, 21 hours ago

    Food wise, back to day one, ate a packet of marshmallow Easter eggs last night and when I got home some mixed nuts. Wasn’t hungry but ate anyway. I had gone 30 days without binging on chocolate or sweets. Feeling anxious about a few things. So needed to make some further changes. Progress is progress no matter what 1952 days sober.

    • Oh dear, me too – sugar, have resisted so easily whilst on keto, but the winter, exhaustion, a nasty bully at work – resolve fades away.
      Back to planning. A lovely keto treat with me today, so hopefully avoid all the temptations of colleagues baking wonderful Friday morning teas. Crazy habit in some workplaces. Reveals our culture of bad fatty sugar laden highly processed carbs uggghhh, but love 🙁 🙁 🙁

    • Those freakin marshmallow Easter eggs, always a devastating sugar binge trigger!! 1952 days is pretty awesome; in 110 days I’ll be at half your number. It’s nice having another 100 be a given, when that first couple of hundred seemed like such a dream. Day 921.

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 8 hours ago

    Hi and welcome

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 8 hours ago

    Re the pain I think from memory it’s because alcohol is inflammatory. Lovely to hear your laughing more

    • Really.? I didn’t know the whole inflammatory thing. I’m going through crazy joint pain. Actually thought I was catching a bug yesterday

      • Highly inflammatory hence the big cancer, dementia and god knows what else risk. For some, the damage is long term and diet change is also needed to reduce symptoms – no sugar! high healthy fats and low carb is also often transformative – check out keto.
        Age is not our friend though 🙁 but I have had no back trouble since being A/F, though way more yoga so that is a big help. Do you have a high carb diet @getclear? Sugar?
        Of course it could be viral too …

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 8 hours ago

    This will stop, on wards to day 3. Naked mind is a great book too

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 11 hours ago

    Seems good now @aprilsfool

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 11 hours ago

    Seems good now 👍

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 11 hours ago

    We will look forward to seeing you To, and don’t think to much about days ahead to except maybe have plans on how to avoid drinking

  • k1W1 posted an update 3 days, 11 hours ago

    Woo hoo I have my post update button back. Nervous, going on an art retreat Saturday and Sunday. Really don’t know what to expect. By the end I will have 4 canvas painted with something. Talking with a lady at work today her hubby plays seniors rugby. I was horrified to hear at half time they do shots and player of the day has to drink a concoction of alcohol that’s put together and they usually end up drink as. I wa slime how is that good for the kids to see at half time. Maybe that’s why not many wives and kids go and watch! Hope that’s not common in Nz ruby clubs. I know lots of boys/men go drinking in pubs and clubs after their games. Worst culture ever I think 🤔

    • Drinking culture in many sports is not good at all. What a lovely way to recuperate, shame you can’t post your canvases would love to see them. It will be a liberating weekend.

    • I wonder if the injuries go up or down after the shots???!!!
      Art retreat sounds very exciting indeed. A full report would be much appreciated please. I was going to puppet making over a few weekends, but life is just too pressured, have to take care with new job that is very challenging for me.

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 15 hours ago

    How lovely you are going to go and inspire people to embrace sobriety. 450 is a nice number

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 19 hours ago

    My mother said never discuss politics or religion at the dinner table 🙂 With both each party thinks they have the right answer lol. Well done on looking after yourself and protecting your sobriety

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 2 hours ago

    Well done another day sober is a good day

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 2 hours ago

    Yip HALT is real. I think ups and downs are normal but social media has convinced us it’s not. Too much lalla and prettyness posted up. As long as we have more up days life is mighty fine

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 2 hours ago

    I don’t know it’s frustrating for me it’s okay on a desk top and iPhone but iPad I’m having problems as in no post button and peoples profile pictures don’t load. I feel your frustration

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 2 hours ago

    I’m
    Nope still have no post button on iPad did notice that up top on the address bar it says unsecure in red. Have a post button on my iPhone but when I went to comment on @tipsytoegal for some reason on my iPhone it went to her profile page rather than staying in members feed area.

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 2 hours ago

    Great I hope lawyer had some answers for you. Site is acting all strange I have no post button on my ipad from phone I can buy it took me to your profile page when I hit comment in members feed. On a desk top at work it seemed to run okay. Anyway good luck with lawyer

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 16 hours ago

    Impersonation seems likely as its strange he wasnt more upfront and professional – can you ring back the number from your phone to see if goes to the office or just a random person. Or use an excuse to ring the office and see if he rang you.

    • I thought of doing that but based on how effed up this nutter is, I thought I’d just wait till I talk to my atty on Thur. The guy who called said he’d give me “a week” to reply. I’ll let atty call it. BUT…. I do know the number itself to DHS in oregon is legit as is the name the person gave me.
      Doesn’t mean he is the ACTUAL person who called me though. But if he wasn’t… ohhhhh I’m gonna nail this nutter’s ass.

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 16 hours ago

    Yes I from Ipads (tried 2 different one, one at home and work one) I dont have a post button and peoples profile pictures dont show. When I log in on a desk top its the same until I refresh the page, but on ipad refresh doesnt work @mrs-d

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 19 hours ago

    I like your short story, says a lot in one sentence – brave, sober, achievement, consistent 🙂

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 19 hours ago

    Sounds like an interesting book. That Quote is very true. Have a happy day x

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 19 hours ago

    It one thing I loved about the Intervention TV program, the before and afters. Afters – the skin glows the hair shines and they look sooo much better and thats just physical!

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 19 hours ago

    Ahh but why should they work on their problems? Maybe they dont think they have a problem. All we can do is make sure we have set our own boundaries. Good on you for being assertive in such a horrible situation.

    • Thank you – no, I’m sure she believes she has no problem. She is ‘RIGHT’ about everything. Obnoxious. Horrible, both aggro and passive aggressive. Slippery. I will not engage, but I think as my boss has seen her in action, I will ask her to act – the old nip it in the bud.
      Thanks for your comments on pump classes too. Life is speeding by and I am not keeping up 🙁 I need to get my sessions in before another gym membership year begins. I am so slack on my own

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 19 hours ago

    How right you are.NZ on all is a great place to live.Travel and education is enlightening.
    I went to University as an adult and one thing I learnt is that we live our day to day lives in a bubble. There is so much going on we dont read about or think about (eg Female Gentile Mutilation). Ethics was a great paper too – do we kill one to save 100? There is starvation, wars, rapes murders but we worry about whats in our bubble, maybe its the brains safety control?

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 7 hours ago

    @janus2 from memory I think you took it Antabuse did you have any reactions

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 7 hours ago

    We’re are all sober stars 🌟

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 7 hours ago

    Well done, overwhelmed- what do you need, can you give it to yourself

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 7 hours ago

    Greetings welcome to the site 🦋

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 7 hours ago

    We all want approval, it’s learning that we can disagree and have divers but still like each other

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 10 hours ago

    They turn to their sober self and give themselves a hug and say you have come so far and done so well, thank goodness we are sober. Sounds like there is some deep healing and releasing happening for you. Lots of hugs to you, you will come out stronger 💖

    • Thanks so much for this! oxxooxxoxo I do hope I come out of that stronger. And yes…thank goodness we are sober. I can’t even imagine what if I had kept on boozing those last two plus years. At least now there is room and space to heal all of this for once.

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 10 hours ago

    Keto rocks. I’m 6 months ahead of you all, it’s lovely to see members in here from the early days racking up the years. Imagine when lots of members have 30 20 10 years sober. Mind you even one day is cool

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 10 hours ago

    I recon the first few weeks cravings/habits arise quite a bit. Change up your routine, delay distract. And yes one day will come where you realise you haven’t thought about drinking

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 10 hours ago

    Greetings and welcome🌺

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 10 hours ago

    The word secret tells the whole story really doesn’t it. Onwards to day 7

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 10 hours ago

    I remember when ladies didn’t really drink. My nana has a wee glass of sherry, wine was only for special occasions. Mind you dad made the most of the 6 o’clock swirl and half gs of beer

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 16 hours ago

    Woo hoo double digits, yes it’s awesomw seeing a stable bank balance

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 16 hours ago

    Ain’t that the truth sober life is best life, and the wise voice is gold

  • k1W1 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 16 hours ago

    @morgan Did you do a pump/ weights class? They are loud, the other way is pay for one trainer session and get the trainer to give you a basic program and show you how to do them correctly. When bored or weights have gone up significantly make another appointment. I love weights, my sister hates them, she’s a walker which I find boring. Ps music isn’t normally as loud in the weights rooms, in classes I have seen People use Ear plugs

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