• Juliana posted a new activity comment 5 days, 7 hours ago

    I tried drinking moderately for years, but it never worked for me. Not only was I often drinking heavily, I was always exhausted from making rules for myself and arguing with my rules. It is just better for me not to drink at all. Now I’m not tempted anymore either. You’ll figure out what is best for yourself. Well done thinking it through!

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 5 days, 7 hours ago

    Eating was a super tool for me too. Actually, it still helps a lot after nearly 2 years. I was worried about gaining weight, but I’ve lost about 10 pounds little by little. We have to make giving up alcohol the top priority until we feel secure in the change.

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 5 days, 7 hours ago

    I had to face up to the fact that I didn’t really have triggers when I finally gave up drinking, I just drank a lot of wine in the evening every day. The addiction had taken hold to be it’s own problem, even though it got started as a way to cope with stress. Early evening was the trigger and that was hell. I’m so grateful that is behind me.

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 5 days, 7 hours ago

    @savtadon’tdrinknomore For lots of us, coming on here when we have thoughts of drinking later has stopped us from drinking. There’s nothing phony about it! I have found helpful inspiration for staying sober and also a good distraction for stalling, because people’s messages are so interesting. Reading aloud is a great idea! I’m a reading…[Read more]

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 5 days, 20 hours ago

    Forest walking sounds nice! Maybe I’ll get outside tomorrow for a long walk some place pretty. Thanks for the inspiration. Congratulations on Day 102.

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 5 days, 20 hours ago

    Good news about your Mom’s MRI. Supporting during medical experiences always used to tempt me to drink. Do you do any craft? Knitting is really helpful to me. Open up your soda and think of your next step. TV with your Mom? Board games? Crossword? Cooking? Chocolate? You’ll be so happy tomorrow you didn’t give in.

    • Thankyou @morgan & @Juliana
      I feel like a phony even writing on here because in the back of my mind I am ‘plotting’ to have wine tonight.
      The only thing holding me back is needing to be alert in case there is any issue with my mother.
      That’s a pretty big reason not to.
      But thoughts are: I won’t have that much.
      The truth is I was never a heavy…[Read more]

      • Shutting computer now before Shabbat.
        See you all later.

      • @savtadon’tdrinknomore For lots of us, coming on here when we have thoughts of drinking later has stopped us from drinking. There’s nothing phony about it! I have found helpful inspiration for staying sober and also a good distraction for stalling, because people’s messages are so interesting. Reading aloud is a great idea! I’m a reading…[Read more]

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 5 days, 20 hours ago

    Welcome @MrsFinallyFree. There is a lot of kindness and support here.

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hang on to that thread! Then you can feel really proud of yourself.

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Happy 35th @Mari135!

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    I always read and enjoy your posts @Prudence. I’ve noticed that when I’m in the middle of a really horrible situation, I promise myself I will never be bothered again by medium or small problems, but that feeling doesn’t last. When the crisis has been over for a while, that perspective changes. You do always seem grateful for what’s good in…[Read more]

    • Yeah same @Juliana, on the one hand I know I should just embrace my curves. But on the other hand I know how much happier I would feel if the tummy one was gone!! Oh well those raspberries cream and zilch iceream I just had were damn fine…haha

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    The support and friendship on this site made all the difference for me when I joined almost 2 years ago. I’m not really sure why it helped so much, but because of it, I have given up drinking completely.

    • Hi @gglover, like Juliana this site made all the difference for me too, coming up for one year and absolutely loving it… now… it’s not so great at the start but it does get better… joining here stopped that alone feeling, hope your appt goes well tomorrow! Take care 🙂

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    I’ve only ever told my husband and an old friend because his daughter is having a big struggle with alcohol. I figure as long as I tell myself, that’s most important! The support here is critical for me though. If anyone asks, you could just say you notice drinking isn’t agreeing with you or makes you feel tired. That’s advice I read from…[Read more]

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    First of all, you seem very likeable in your message! I’m sure you are likeable in person too. Many of us have tried to drink moderately without success. It certainly didn’t work for me. I feel such relief to have put that struggle behind me for good! I don’t go to many social events either, just because I don’t enjoy them much. I like…[Read more]

    • Thank you @juliana these social events are concerts! I’m am absolutely sure if I said to my friends they would be ok with it – I just don’t feel ready to tell them that I have a problem with alcohol! X

      • I’ve only ever told my husband and an old friend because his daughter is having a big struggle with alcohol. I figure as long as I tell myself, that’s most important! The support here is critical for me though. If anyone asks, you could just say you notice drinking isn’t agreeing with you or makes you feel tired. That’s advice I read from…[Read more]

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Yep, we do what we have to when we need distraction. Enjoy ebay!

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    What a creative idea about the trunk show @robynb. It sounds like a lot of work, but fun also.

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Go @Bobby! I love the way you get plans in place!

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    I’m thinking of you brave @janus2. You have such good insights into life, encouraging us all with humor and compassion. About 2 years ago, you helped me learn to make pavlova and I started to swim again, because you are so enthusiastic about it. You are a wonderful friend.

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    I’m glad you’re back! Our LS community helps me every day and not only in my commitment to stay alcohol free. The kindness and positivity helps me stay realistic about other challenges too.

    • No matter how, busy or stressed it is important to be part of a community that supports sobriety. Many challenges the last 5 months, I forgot about my time and giving back. I can’t do this alone, this helps me so much. Prayers and peace.

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    I just read the post I think you are referring to and it seemed just fine to me. You were sharing your experiences honestly and encouraging others not to make the same mistakes you did. Thanks for being so open.

  • Juliana posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    You are doing really well@Bobby! Your dinner for tomorrow night sounds delicious too.

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