I am a wife and mother of a developmentally delayed son. I was never taught how to savor a drink. The sole purpose was to get drunk. That is how I approached drinking from my middle 20s until I learned that is not how normal people drink. By then it was too late. I've quit and moderated over the years. Since August 2017 I've really examined my reasons to drink and decided there is no good reason. I want to be finished for life. August 2018, 4 months AF and feeling at peace. February 2019, 10 months AF through 3 1/2 seasons and the big holiday season! I don't regret this decision at all. Relationships are better and my health is much, much better. I love knowing that others can count on me anytime, day or night, and I will be clear headed and present. Easter, 4-21-19 and one year sober!
Good morning, tribe. I noticed @Mari135 is back on. Nice! I was just thinking about her. I also noticed a few people struggling with the daily “grind” of not drinking. I got an email this morning about “I’ve been sober long enough”. This is really dangerous thinking along with “I deserve a drink”. Dangerous because we are here because we are addicted to a substance ruining our life. If we give in and partake again because that addicted voice is siren sweet, we begin the whole cycle over again. Who wants to go through another day 1? As for being sober long enough, has it been as long as our drinking years? If not, I think in all fairness to a life well-lived, we should remain AF at least as long as we drank and then rethink the question. I promise after a period of sobriety that the constant thinking about drinking dramatically decreases, triggers become few and far between, and the “grind” turns into a daily peace. It’s so reassuring to count on waking up hangover free everyday even after a crummy night’s sleep. Be well today, my friends and don’t drink!
Great post @jocord and very timely for me. I have been starting to have a few “has it been long enough” thoughts….of course it hasn’t been long enough but I can hear that little niggle starting. I never want to go through that day 1 again. Thanks for your post
Thanks for this – I am definitely one who has been experiencing the daily grind of just remaining sober, and it’s a good reminder to think about how many nights in my life I have spent under the influence compared to how many I have spent sober. I’ve got a bit of catching up to do still!!!
Great post @jocord. I particularly agree with the thoughts on how long you have been AF versus drinking years. A normie said to me the other day, why don’t you just have one drink? Like she does. I said, well, you can have fun with that, but I have had way more than my quota in the last few years, so I don’t need anymore.
@jocord I have gone down that road with those excuses after 1, 2, 3 and 5 years of sobriety. It will be jumping back on the hellish hamster wheel and the thing people forget is that it gets worse – it’s progressive. It always gets worse in ways that many of us do not count on – I got a DUI. I never thought that would happen to me. Cost me $20,000, stress of court costs and 2 years of treatment plus a breathalyzer in my car. It was humiliating. So, IF YOU think you can moderate hats off to you but most of us are here because we cannot. I know people who have accidentally killed others in DUI accidents and are in jail for manslaughter. It’s no joke the ugly places we can end up because of the dumb decisions we make when under the influence. Thanks for this reminder my friend!