I am a wife and mother of a developmentally delayed son. I was never taught how to savor a drink. The sole purpose was to get drunk. That is how I approached drinking from my middle 20s until I learned that is not how normal people drink. By then it was too late. I've quit and moderated over the years. Since August 2017 I've really examined my reasons to drink and decided there is no good reason. I want to be finished for life. August 2018, 4 months AF and feeling at peace. February 2019, 10 months AF through 3 1/2 seasons and the big holiday season! I don't regret this decision at all. Relationships are better and my health is much, much better. I love knowing that others can count on me anytime, day or night, and I will be clear headed and present.
Congrats on living the sober life! I get the nature thing. I was alone and relaxed walking next to a pond on a beautiful autumn day and thought no one would know if I had a bottle of wine. I didn’t but hit a meeting first thing the next morning and shared that. They all nodded knowingly. Just another experience to get through sober and next…[Read more]
Congrats on day 3! Lots of people make lists about reasons not to drink, there are so many reasons! I found it helpful at witching hour to try to find one good reason TO drink. All the reasons to not drink couldn’t stop me from drinking but trying to find one good reason to drink stopped me in the moment. There is nothing a drink makes better!
We do deserve forgiveness! If I was not forgiven for misguided actions and stands I have taken in my life, I would be a miserable person indeed. We may struggle with forgiveness, but as long as we work towards it, we are inviting peace and rejecting that which holds us in turmoil.
Congrats on 11 months, buddy! And on finishing 30 days of Yoga. I got to day 21 and had to stop because of nerve pain. Now I’m working on that. I saw a take “I” out of mental illness and insert “we” and you get mental wellness. This site is your “we”. Go well my friend!
Thanks @jocord, so glad we are on this path together! Like you say the path may be different or maybe the same path that splits and takes on slightly different journeys. At the end I’m sure we will end up at the same place, a place I like to call happiness!
What @Lee said but if it’s in your face because of others in the house, excuse yourself and go to bed. You just need a few days before your mind clears and you gain momentum. Sometimes you have to put a literal physical barrier between yourself and alcohol. Literally shut the door on it!
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