• jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 day, 4 hours ago

    Getting out in nature is so healthy in so many ways. πŸ™‚ I’m doing well today. Thanks for asking! Have a wonderful weekend!!

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 day, 12 hours ago

    It certainly came at a good time. πŸ™‚ Hugs to you. @jocord

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 day, 12 hours ago

    πŸ™‚ I’m working on meeting up with others in my area. I can see how important it is now! Hugs! @kitten

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 day, 12 hours ago

    I’m in Boulder, Colorado. Mountains are my happy place, so it’s a good fit. πŸ™‚ How are you doing today? @lucy

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 day, 23 hours ago

    @jm Crested Butte is another gorgeous mountain town in CO. If you go mid-late July the wildflowers are incredible! And I hadn’t noticed that our screen names are so similar! j is for my first name and mtn is short for mountain. πŸ™‚ Hugs!

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 5 hours ago

    Hang in there. @connilynn I like that you’re trying to be more present, kind and patient with him. Maybe I need to do that, too. Also, I like what @morgan suggested: “dwelling on what attracted you in the first place, and the good times you have had.” I will implement that, too. Thank you both.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 6 hours ago

    I relate to all of that! @hikermom On the outside, my doc thought I was in good shape because of hiking, yoga, running and cycling. Good point though…I hadn’t heard of people being diagnosed with cirrhosis years later after stopping drinking. I understood that it would stop in its tracks if drinking stopped. I’ll look into that more. At this point, the best we can do is be as healthy as we can be and be the best parent we can be. Worrying can’t help us. I have to ask you something because my husband was recently diagnosed with anxiety…have you seen a therapist about anxiety? I hope you don’t mind me asking. I wonder if it could help you calm the worried part of your brain down? Just a thought to throw out there! Hugs from Colorado!

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 6 hours ago

    You rock! 447!!! Thank you for the encouragement and confirmation about how things just keep getting better. I’m only on Day 31 and it helps to hear that. Keep it up! xo @sal07

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 6 hours ago

    Hang in there! @lucy No fun at all. Just imagine how unhappy that asshole must be to do that…nothing better going on in his life, so he’s got to make others’ feel shitty? You’re doing so well! Day 35!!! keep it up. Nothing is worth drinking for, *especially* that guy!
    BTW, I sound like such a boring American after reading your guys’ posts! Haha. πŸ˜‰ @ro Kia Kaha!

    • Your not boring lol far from it.. yes that arsehole drinks cider every night lives with his landlady and does fuck all with his life.. so your right about jealousy.. thanks for replying to me , much love.. where abouts in America are you @jmtn? Xx

      • I’m in Boulder, Colorado. Mountains are my happy place, so it’s a good fit. πŸ™‚ How are you doing today? @lucy

    • Wow sounds like an amazing beautiful place to live… I love getting out in nature to, connects me to me and grounds me, can think clearly when out in the fresh air.. I’m better today thank you.. so glad it’s Friday and no work till Tuesday .. how you doing today? x

      • Getting out in nature is so healthy in so many ways. πŸ™‚ I’m doing well today. Thanks for asking! Have a wonderful weekend!!

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 6 hours ago

    Yes! I’m right there with you. I’m on Day 31 and just started to realize exactly what you said in my own marriage this last week. It makes me wonder why I wanted to drink so much in the first place. What was I really trying to numb? Luckily my husband, who can drink moderately, is abstaining right now, too and we’re both going to therapy on our own (started recently). Him for depression and anxiety, me originally for alcohol, but who knows what else now that I’m not drinking? We’re both good at communicating and hope to figure it out. Thoughts on how you want to start to figure it out? @connilynn

    • it’s a second marriage for both of us, so when the romance wore off I think I resorted to drinking to numb my irritation and just get through . We went to couples counseling about a year ago, which didn’t really help much. Somehow the counselor just allowed the discussion to stay on the surface and a lot of blame was tossed, which inflamed things more. I think he really believed if I would just stop drinking all would be cured, though I was drinking no more than I ever had. When he started counting bottles and keeping track I rebelled and started sneaking it, which resulted in me drinking much, much more. (It’s hard to hide 3/4 of a wine bottle, so I’d drink the whole thing and toss it). Also I started truly drinking alone, after he went to bed, so there was no one to talk to, no one to notice how drunk I was getting. So when I finally was honest with myself about how much I was drinking, it was 3 or 4 times over the amount recommended. I watched the UK doc, β€œDrinkers Like Me”, and learned about the sober curious movement. I decided to stop for 6 months and see how I feel. In answer to your question, I’m trying to be more present, more kind, and more patient with him. I see a therapist and would love if he did to work on adult child of alcoholic issues, but I’m not sure he sees the need. I don’t want to divorce and I don’t have to have a lusty relationship to be happy, but I want to like him and enjoy his company. And most important, I want to feel like I can grow with him.

      • Couples counselling is very difficult. I had heaps of counselling with my husband (my ex changed each time they got onto his behaviour), supposedly the best in the city, but now I know a bit more, I realise they had no idea what to do, and if anything, made things worse.
        A good EFT counsellor (Emotionally Focussed Therapy) knows exactly what to do and goes to the heart of the matter as quickly as a couple are able to allow it. The process would address the past, but with a present focus. It never allows/enables blame or much time on issues – the issues are just a springboard to the inner world of each person. A very beautiful thing to experience or watch. Where in the world are you? In NZ we used to be able to get 6 counselling sessions with the Family Court, but I think that is over now.

        Great work with stopping drinking – the greatest gift you can give yourself. And give time to your marriage, particularly dwelling on what attracted you in the first place, and the good times you have had. I did that for at least a year with my partner once I stopped. Gave him every chance to revive our good times. It failed, but the parting was very calm and thoughtful – loving in fact, and I have no regrets. (If I had been drinking it would probably have been a horrible, vicious nightmare as there were so many other stresses in the mix)

      • Hang in there. @connilynn I like that you’re trying to be more present, kind and patient with him. Maybe I need to do that, too. Also, I like what @morgan suggested: “dwelling on what attracted you in the first place, and the good times you have had.” I will implement that, too. Thank you both.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 6 hours ago

    Good sleep is so amazing!!! So glad it’s finally happening to you. I felt like it took 3 weeks for me to start having it. So needed! Cheers! πŸ™‚

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 7 hours ago

    Well done on 4 days and trying to get on top of this now before it sucks you in more, which is all it can do. I’m a mom of 2 kids and had started to slip down the slope much further than you. Like binge drinking to point of blackout multiple times a week after the kids were in bed and worse… I’m 31 days AF now and in addition to interacting/posting on this site I also have been helped a ton by listening to different podcasts episodes that were relevant to me at the time, reading books, blogs and sober stories on the topic, and tracking how I feel and why. The key is retraining your brain to see alcohol for the addictive poison it is. It takes time, but you’re already 4 days in. Stay strong. It’s so worth it. It’s great your wife is supportive, too.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 7 hours ago

    Well done on 320 days!! I finally stopped drinking 31 days ago, I’m 44, I binge drank and blacked out often. I’m not too worried about liver failure because if I have stopped, my understanding from what I have read is that the body will start to heal once we abstain. If you haven’t been diagnosed with it yet, it should only get healthier now. Have you asked your doctor about that? I have health concerns, but mostly about how my brain has been affected long term and cancer. I hope others can help you feel less alone. It helps to hear similar stories. I hope you’re feeling physically well and can start to find joy in sobriety, too. I just had an amazing hike yesterday and was so thankful to be able to fully enjoy the beauty around me and the health I felt. I’ve gone on way too many hikes with a hangover…so nice to not have that any more! xoxo @hikermom

    • Thanks @jmtn. Congrats on 31 days! I haven’t asked my doctor much more than for bloodwork and ultrasound. As it was, she thought I was overreacting since my body is in good shape from hiking and yoga (externally). But my insides? She cant see that! She had no idea I ever had a problem. I am likely going overboard but I’ve read stories about people who gave up alcohol getting diagnosed years later with cirrhosis. I relate to your fear about cancer and brain damage, but especially to the joy of hiking without having to sweat it out for the first few miles! Hangover hiking was a norm for me! Mountains are still my favorite place to be, but so much better clear headed!

      • I relate to all of that! @hikermom On the outside, my doc thought I was in good shape because of hiking, yoga, running and cycling. Good point though…I hadn’t heard of people being diagnosed with cirrhosis years later after stopping drinking. I understood that it would stop in its tracks if drinking stopped. I’ll look into that more. At this point, the best we can do is be as healthy as we can be and be the best parent we can be. Worrying can’t help us. I have to ask you something because my husband was recently diagnosed with anxiety…have you seen a therapist about anxiety? I hope you don’t mind me asking. I wonder if it could help you calm the worried part of your brain down? Just a thought to throw out there! Hugs from Colorado!

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 8 hours ago

    @kitten Yep, the flat irons and the other one is Mohawk Lake. I haven’t been to St. Mary’s Glacier yet, but I’ll put it on the list! My husband and I are headed up to the Alma area to do some 14ers this weekend. Maybe we’ll check it out on way home. πŸ™‚ Enjoy your massage and relaxation. Sounds like a great plan!

  • jmtn posted an update 2 days, 9 hours ago

    Wow. I just had a big, positive moment in my recovery. Background first: I called the behavioral health department of our medical company we use to ask about getting in touch with the Chemical Dependency department. Now that I have reached the 30 day mark, I want to start focusing on a few related things like addressing how my drinking may have affected my family and making sure I’m consuming the right amount of certain vitamins. Just a general check in to see what else I can do in addition to what I already am (interacting here, reading books, listening to podcasts, etc.). The big moment was that after the representative had helped me get all the work parts done, he wanted to say something to me on a personal level. Then he proceeded to tell me that he’s been in recovery for 15 years and that he thought it was great that I was having the courage to do what I was doing. It made me get happy, appreciative tears in my eyes and we had a great, short conversation. We ended with air hugs. πŸ™‚ I realized that it was the first time I’ve verbally spoken to someone that understands this craziness we all have been through and I appreciated hearing a little of his story. I appreciate you all so much. Community is so huge for all of us. Virtual hugs to you all.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 9 hours ago

    Thanks @kitten πŸ™‚ I just checked out your story. You hit a year SOON! That is so awesome. Any fun plans to celebrate?

    • yes, love that i am hitting a year soon. I plan on just a massage and some relaxation, calm, peace and a long walk. the photo on your profile looks like the flat irons. The other one looks like st mary’s glacier. i used to live in boulder some time ago. enjoy your mountains. they never get old.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 9 hours ago

    I know…I get it! @wakingowl It’s frustrating, isn’t it? Let’s keep retraining our brains to look forward to that drink we’re having in place of it. Hugs.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 9 hours ago

    Thanks for sharing @lucy. It’s hard to retrain those old habits, isn’t it? Great job working hard on it though. What did you chose to do yesterday afternoon instead? It is beautiful here. Cutting out booze has allowed me to enjoy the gorgeous outdoors even more than I had been the last 5 or so years. And the high I get from a run along a mountain river or a hike surrounded by high altitude wildflowers is million times better than a dulled out alcohol buzz…and lasts a hell of a lot longer! xox

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 9 hours ago

    Haha. I like “beat the hell out of it” … that’s what I need right now. πŸ˜‰ Thanks for your continued support and encouragement! Hugs! @freedom1025

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 days, 9 hours ago

    @jm “swat away like a pesky fly” πŸ™‚ I like that. Awesome about 4+ years sober! Well done. I appreciate you sharing your perspective. I live in the Boulder area and love it. This week I “had to” go to Steamboat Springs for work. I stayed an extra night to hike and relax in the mountain air. So gorgeous up there right now! Let me know if you ever get to Colorado…I’m happy to give tips or meet up! Where are you located?

    • Hi again @jmtn! Lucky you, living in Boulder. I’m going to google images of Steamboat Springs right now – wow, what a paradise. I live in Toronto. We’re having a hot, beautiful summer. That’d be fun to meet, if I make it there next summer. I like that our screen names are so similar. : )

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 3 days, 11 hours ago

    Thanks! @soberheart I like how you said “refrain from romanticizing the drink” …that’s exactly what I keep occasionally doing. I’ll keep working on it! As a funny note, when I was at a big work dinner event recently (where they gave out FOUR drink tickets per person for one evening!) I ordered club soda in a wine glass. A lady behind me excitedly asked the bar tender “oo, what is THAT?!” thinking it was some fancy alcoholic drink. When he told her it was club soda she looked deflated. πŸ˜‰ It made me giggle that my drink could look so romantic and enticing!

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 3 days, 11 hours ago

    I’m so happy for you, too! @tgrim I just happened to have finished This Naked Mind last night! Alcohol Explained was helpful for me, too. They both helped me shift my mindset. Hugs.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 3 days, 12 hours ago

    That’s so great! πŸ™‚

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 3 days, 12 hours ago

    Congrats! That’s awesome. πŸ˜€

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 3 days, 12 hours ago

    I think it’s great that you see it as a new Day 1. πŸ™‚ Don’t beat yourself up or feel regret. See it as a learning experience and a part of your journey. Analyze it…why did you chose to drink, how did you feel after, etc. Well done on getting to 76 days! Keep checking in here and look into adding other things to your “sober toolbox”. What other supports, outlets, etc. could you add? Listen to a podcast on the topic of relapse maybe? To gain better understanding. Hang in there! Hugs.

  • jmtn posted an update 3 days, 12 hours ago

    DAY 30! It’s the first milestone of many and the longest I have gone without alcohol in a many years. I am so much happier, healthier and more knowledgeable than 30 days ago. I am so thankful my mind has finally (mostly…) clicked over from “I’m missing out” to “I’m free”. πŸ™‚ Thank you @freedom1025 for helping me begin to see it. I can say that I still have moments of feeling like I’m missing out, though. Just brief moments. In the moment…for just a moment, like a moment I had last night, for example…that slight sad feeling that I’m not allowing myself to enjoy a cold sauvignon blanc on a warm summer night while eating a nice dinner next to a river in a gorgeous Colorado mountain town. I can easily play it forward, how I’ll feel mentally and physically, even after one glass – that tired, bogged down feeling. I can objectively play it forward to that feeling and realizing “what was the point of that” with even one glass of something…yet stupid society has me trained still that it’s what I am supposed to sip on when enjoying a nice moment of any sort. Of course I chose to have a fun, cold bubbly drink with lime, and I enjoyed it…it’s just that annoyed moment at the beginning. Does anyone have any thoughts or comments based on your experience? From all that I have read it seems that it will fade over time, and I’ll keep reading to help that subconscious programmed part of me relearn how to perceive this topic. Hugs to all, no matter where you are on your journey!

    • I actually am feeling this exact same way. You nailed it! I’ve finally clicked over to “I’m free” too! Never in a million years when I started 21 days ago would I have EVER thought this was possible. The never ending “I’m missing out” conversation that I was having with myself was real and constant. What has 100% helped me is this site and also the book This Naked Mind.I’m so happy for you!

      • I’m so happy for you, too! @tgrim I just happened to have finished This Naked Mind last night! Alcohol Explained was helpful for me, too. They both helped me shift my mindset. Hugs.

    • Congrats on 30 days! That is fantastic! I think in time the acceptance that drinking is not something we can do, even just 1, will become more ingrained and natural. Continuing to play it forward and refrain from romanticizing the drink is the best thing you can do to build sober muscles and teach your brain that alcohol is a poison not a treat.
      Keep on going! You are doing great!

      • Thanks! @soberheart I like how you said “refrain from romanticizing the drink” …that’s exactly what I keep occasionally doing. I’ll keep working on it! As a funny note, when I was at a big work dinner event recently (where they gave out FOUR drink tickets per person for one evening!) I ordered club soda in a wine glass. A lady behind me excitedly asked the bar tender “oo, what is THAT?!” thinking it was some fancy alcoholic drink. When he told her it was club soda she looked deflated. πŸ˜‰ It made me giggle that my drink could look so romantic and enticing!

    • Hi @jmtn! Congrats on 30 days! Lucky you, being in Colorado for the summer – do you live there or are you visiting? I’ve been sober for more than 4 years, and I still have those thoughts once in a while. But it’s easier to swat away like a pesky fly. I know that one would become 1000, and I would have deep regrets. Fantastic work on one month sober!! xo

      • @jm “swat away like a pesky fly” πŸ™‚ I like that. Awesome about 4+ years sober! Well done. I appreciate you sharing your perspective. I live in the Boulder area and love it. This week I “had to” go to Steamboat Springs for work. I stayed an extra night to hike and relax in the mountain air. So gorgeous up there right now! Let me know if you ever get to Colorado…I’m happy to give tips or meet up! Where are you located?

        • Hi again @jmtn! Lucky you, living in Boulder. I’m going to google images of Steamboat Springs right now – wow, what a paradise. I live in Toronto. We’re having a hot, beautiful summer. That’d be fun to meet, if I make it there next summer. I like that our screen names are so similar. : )

    • Congrats on D30!!! Doing a happy dance for you. That missing out feeling is so normal and pops up quite frequently in the beginning. But as you grow your sober muscles and see through the lies alcohol tells us, it diminishes in strength. I will occasionally have that feeling crop up now but to use an analogy of @Prudence I take a fly swatter and beat the hell out of it. Haha I think she says she shoos it away. Well done!! 😊

      • Haha. I like “beat the hell out of it” … that’s what I need right now. πŸ˜‰ Thanks for your continued support and encouragement! Hugs! @freedom1025

    • Yes those thoughts creep in for me to @jmtn.. I had a thought today that its Wednesday and a later start tomorrow so i could drink and get pissed.. my always thought on a Wednesday afternoon.. but I’m retraining my brain to shut it out.. sound beautiful where you are though who needs booze ! X

      • Thanks for sharing @lucy. It’s hard to retrain those old habits, isn’t it? Great job working hard on it though. What did you chose to do yesterday afternoon instead? It is beautiful here. Cutting out booze has allowed me to enjoy the gorgeous outdoors even more than I had been the last 5 or so years. And the high I get from a run along a mountain river or a hike surrounded by high altitude wildflowers is million times better than a dulled out alcohol buzz…and lasts a hell of a lot longer! xox

    • It’s Summer here and I see people sipping Summer cocktails and feel a bit of a pang…there are so many memories tied up with those flavors.

      • I know…I get it! @wakingowl It’s frustrating, isn’t it? Let’s keep retraining our brains to look forward to that drink we’re having in place of it. Hugs.

    • congrats, @jmtn.

      • Thanks @kitten πŸ™‚ I just checked out your story. You hit a year SOON! That is so awesome. Any fun plans to celebrate?

        • yes, love that i am hitting a year soon. I plan on just a massage and some relaxation, calm, peace and a long walk. the photo on your profile looks like the flat irons. The other one looks like st mary’s glacier. i used to live in boulder some time ago. enjoy your mountains. they never get old.

    • @kitten Yep, the flat irons and the other one is Mohawk Lake. I haven’t been to St. Mary’s Glacier yet, but I’ll put it on the list! My husband and I are headed up to the Alma area to do some 14ers this weekend. Maybe we’ll check it out on way home. πŸ™‚ Enjoy your massage and relaxation. Sounds like a great plan!

    • @jm Crested Butte is another gorgeous mountain town in CO. If you go mid-late July the wildflowers are incredible! And I hadn’t noticed that our screen names are so similar! j is for my first name and mtn is short for mountain. πŸ™‚ Hugs!

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 3 days, 12 hours ago

    Heck yeah! πŸ˜€

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 5 days, 11 hours ago

    @gola01 I just realized that I didn’t answer your question. You asked “do I just have to ride through it and for how long do the cravings last.” Cravings come and go. I hear they get way less frequent as time goes on. I just had one over the weekend. The biggest thing you can do when you get one is to play it forward, good and bad. If you choose to drink the next time you crave, how will you feel the next day? Probably full of regret, remorse and probably having a hangover. If you choose NOT to drink, how will you feel the next day? Proud, happy, relieved and physically great. The next time you get a craving, tell us here! Reach out, write about it, read a sober blog, listen to a sober podcast, go for a walk/run/hike, crawl in bed, go to a movie, eat a sweet treat that you love. Anything to ride that wave of a craving, which usually doesn’t last too long. You will be so happy you did it the next morning. And one of the many things I learned recently is that each time you manage your way through it, even if it’s super hard, you’ve strengthened your sober muscles. I know it sounds cheezy! but it’s so true. It makes it easier and easier to play it forward each time. I was surrounded by drinking friends during camping this last weekend…I was the only one not drinking, so I was tempted to, but I played it forward and the next morning I was so happy I hadn’t given in. You can do this. It can be hard at times, but how great you begin to feel mentally and physically pays off. xx

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 5 days, 12 hours ago

    Well done @gola01 on reaching out and just being here! And know that you are not alone going through that cycle. The good news is that you can break out of it. It’s about utilizing more and different tools to help you. I’m only on Day 28, but this time is so incredibly different than any other of my attempts to try to stop in the past. The way I think has shifted. I was letting my spouse and kids down, repeatedly. I kept trying to stop, because I knew it was the right thing to do for them and my health. But I just couldn’t. What finally switched me from knowing that I needed to, to honestly feeling that I wanted to was listening to podcasts that were on the topic that I needed to hear, reading books that gave me a better understanding of what the poison alcohol really does to us, and reaching out daily to this amazing community. There are so many people here that are in all stages of stopping drinking and we all help each other out. Give it a try…you honestly will feel so much better. Reach out to share you successes, vent your frustrations, and ask for support when you’re craving. Here are some podcasts and books that I’ve read that have helped me so far: podcast that helped a ton in the beginning was Alcohol Free Life by Janey Lee Grace, podcast the Bubble Hour, books Alcohol Explained and This Naked Mind. Hang in there.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 6 days, 6 hours ago

    Thanks @aprilsfool @freedom1025 @jocord @lucy @leslielily Hang in there @lucy! Keep checking in.
    Yesterday was another challenging day for me, too. I went camping for one night with a friend group and I was the only adult not drinking. Others ranged from just having one to having many. I was more frustrated and annoyed at myself for getting stuck in the alcohol trap in the first place, but at the same time I didn’t want the effects of alcohol and couldn’t see the point in even having one. I’m happy with my change, but annoyed our society is so obsessed with it. Definitely using this learning experience of mine to educate my kids so they make more educated decisions on this topic as they get older.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    That’s so great @cascadeclimber. πŸ™‚ Thanks for sharing!

  • jmtn posted an update 1 week ago

    I had my first huge urge to drink last night, on the 25th day of making this change once and for all. I played it forward and knew today would be horrible if I did, so I chose to take my kids to a movie and enjoy high fat and sugary foods. πŸ˜‰ My tummy hurt for a while and my weight had a little spike today, but it’s a hell of a lot better than a hangover and major remorse. Now to burn off those calories! Will definitely get some solo time in to reset when husband gets back in town from work travel.

    • Way to play it @jmtn! 25 days and you knocked it down! Good for you!

    • Building huge sober muscles! Brilliant!

    • Super job!! Yep, you have to go through each one to build those new neural pathways. Not fun but doable. Next time will be much easier.

    • Lucy replied 1 week ago

      I hear you @jmtn.. yesterday and today have been the worst so far..lets keep posting because we need all the support we can get at this stage.. and we will not drink!! Love to you.. xx

    • @jmtn Well done!! I have found that one my very worst days so far, treating myself to something delicious has been a marvelous cure. So glad for you, congrats on day 25!!

    • Thanks @aprilsfool @freedom1025 @jocord @lucy @leslielily Hang in there @lucy! Keep checking in.
      Yesterday was another challenging day for me, too. I went camping for one night with a friend group and I was the only adult not drinking. Others ranged from just having one to having many. I was more frustrated and annoyed at myself for getting stuck in the alcohol trap in the first place, but at the same time I didn’t want the effects of alcohol and couldn’t see the point in even having one. I’m happy with my change, but annoyed our society is so obsessed with it. Definitely using this learning experience of mine to educate my kids so they make more educated decisions on this topic as they get older.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Well done on a second sober Friday! And that is so great about the support your husband is giving you. My husband is doing similar with me and it is helping me so much. And enjoying all the little things with the kids is so much better now, too isn’t it? πŸ™‚ My 7 year old daughter and I stopped to watch a beautiful lightening storm on the way home last night. I appreciated just enjoying the moment with her, not feeling numbed from alcohol in my system or nursing a hangover or caring about getting home to have a drink. Life is so much better without alcohol. Enjoy your sober weekend!!! Hugs.

    • @jmtn I was actively involved with my kids while drinking, but I was living with this CONSTANT feeling of guilt when I would be doing projects with them while chugging back malt beverages and always making sure not to get “too” drunk before my husband came home. Same when my husband would travel for work – I would be just responsible enough to not be “too drunk” while being the lone parent in the house at night, and then would have intense guilt the next day for drinking at all while caring for them, knowing that at some point they would be old enough to catch on. What a huge relief to know that I am 100% in control and competent and can enjoy time with them and know they are always safe and secure with me. Definitely one of my biggest motivators.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Wow, 951 days! That’s awesome. Hope the sad feeling passes soon and you can enjoy the outdoors. xo

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    @angiex Congrats on 100 days!!! That’s my first big goal. It’s encouraging to hear how well you feel at 100 days. πŸ™‚ I read some of your blog, too. Thank you for sharing your experience. Day 24 here. Staying close to this lovely Living Sober community has been a massive contribution to these first few weeks for sure.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Welcome! πŸ™‚

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Well done! Awesome that you’re feeling better. Keep it up!

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Congrats!!! That is so awesome.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Sounds like a fun trip! Great job on staying strong. Enjoy your holiday! I’ve had a few camping trips AF now, but not a true holiday. I can imagine the challenges, but there are so many benefits!!! xo

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Welcome! This is a great community. It’s helped me a lot.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    @jr It really stuck with me, too. I’m thankful we have so many helpful books to refer to right now.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    @jr I just read that chapter of This Naked Mind with the chart in it last night. I totally agree. @freedom1025 Great Oz analogy. @dixiemama Thanks for sharing that passage. πŸ™‚ Happy day to you all! Feeling content with the gorgeous Colorado weather today. πŸ™‚

    • @jmtn – power visual for me and stuck with me. Even though I am now “reading” it again through audio, I am glad I saw that visual with the hard copy book.

      • @jr It really stuck with me, too. I’m thankful we have so many helpful books to refer to right now.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    @aprilsfool Good point on the potassium! Alcohol totally messes us up in so many ways…I’ve been learning so much through the books I’ve been reading. I’m trying to have a healthy diet, too, but it just wasn’t cutting it.
    @leslielily Nothing wrong with early bedtime! Keeps me out of trouble, too. Weirdly enough, I have enough energy to crank on some needed chores tonight. First time I’ve been able to stay up and be productive in quite a while!

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Thanks @jocord πŸ™‚ I do feel a turn beginning. That’s encouraging that you said that.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    @ginny @megs @leslielily @lee-2 @aprilsfool @mandles I just realized that I should share with you all…I started taking multivitamins a few days ago, and focusing on vitamin Bs. I have had a lot more energy during the day. I still get tired at night and want to go to bed early, but it has helped. All that alcohol intake was preventing our bodies from absorbing certain vitamins, so that might be a part of the fatigue. Thought I’d share in case it helps you, too! I’m going to ask a doctor about recommended doses for me soon.

    • Thats very good information @jmtn! In my case with the leg pains, it occurred to me that I was drinking extraordinary amounts of water – and therefore peeing all the time. One of the first signs of low potassium is leg cramps … duh! I immediately began upping my potassium via my diet. I’m sure that did the trick. Just as I’m sure the B will help your fatigue. Damn! Alcohol sure wrecks havoc! So glad you found that out. It will make being sober even happier.

    • @jmtn Ah! I didn’t even think of that! Good recommendation, thank you! (I also am always wanting to go to bed early at night but I don’t see that as a bad thing, tbh – keeps me out of trouble!)

      • @aprilsfool Good point on the potassium! Alcohol totally messes us up in so many ways…I’ve been learning so much through the books I’ve been reading. I’m trying to have a healthy diet, too, but it just wasn’t cutting it.
        @leslielily Nothing wrong with early bedtime! Keeps me out of trouble, too. Weirdly enough, I have enough energy to crank on some needed chores tonight. First time I’ve been able to stay up and be productive in quite a while!

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    I was trying to make “bust” work with August, too. Haha. @ginny @yeswecan

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Well done on Day 16 @mandles! I appreciate you all sharing your experience of feeling tired. At Day 21 I’m still experiencing feeling super tired, too. Here’s one more reason to add to the pile of why we don’t want to revisit these early sobriety days ever again! πŸ˜‰ Have a wonderful day everyone. @ginny @megs @leslielily @lee-2 @aprilsfool

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Thank you @aprilsfool! It’s great to hear that it keeps getting better. I appreciate it! Have a wonderful day, too!

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Thank you! πŸ™‚ @mandles @ginny @JM Also, a big thanks to @freedom1025 <3 I hope this finds you all well.

  • jmtn posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    @michael6 How are you doing today? Just wanted to check in.

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