• JM posted a new activity comment 1 hour, 50 minutes ago

    Hi @Treehugger! Congrats on a huge milestone! I love Holly Whittaker’s (hipsobriety.com, The Temper) tattoo: nqtd – which stands for Never Question The Decision. Love it. : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 21 hours, 46 minutes ago

    Well done on day 3! Keep posting, keep close to the site if you’re feeling ‘wobbly’. You can do this! : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 22 hours, 36 minutes ago

    Hi @kitten! That must be such a relief, getting everything wrapped up. Maybe some mixed feelings.? Congrats on 395 days + your new job! I know that burnt out feeling, rest easy, everything’s falling into place. Also can relate to the bored feelings. But so grateful I don’t drink! Like you! xoxo

    • hey, @jm, no mixed feelings. i was either going to go to school, until i decided to get a job, so self employment was done, too much paper, too many hours. yes, grateful i don’t drink like you!!!!

  • JM posted a new activity comment 22 hours, 38 minutes ago

    Hi! Welcome! : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 day ago

    Very true! I like that, have felt a little weepy, lazy + useless this week. But that’s okay, 2 weeks more of holidays. : ) Thanks for your post @Happy2019!

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 day, 10 hours ago

    Congrats on 350 days @hikermom!! You deserve lots of ice cream. : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 day, 15 hours ago

    Fantastic @Mandles!!! Congrats on 60 days!

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 day, 15 hours ago

    Oh that guilty feeling the next day. It’s likely she did not mean what she said, and it was just that ugly poison speaking. But words have consequences. This could be a wake up call for her, or one of many. x

    • I agree with you here totally! I’ve made those tentative phone calls too full of regret over something said that I can’t quite remember the full details, purely because I was drunk. It’s true we hav ed to own our words and actions but I know for sure there’s so much I’ve said and done would never ever of happened had I been sober. And now I too have the regular pleasure of verbal abuse and tedious events putting up with dick head behaviour fuelled by drink. I just focus on how it does make people act like an arse and so glad I’m not the most uncool person in the room anymore.

    • I agree with you here totally! I’ve made those tentative phone calls too full of regret over something said that I can’t quite remember the full details, purely because I was drunk. It’s true we have to own our words and actions but I know for sure there’s so much I’ve said and done drunk I would never ever said had I been sober. And now I too have the regular pleasure of verbal abuse and tedious events putting up with dick head behaviour from people fuelled by drink. I just focus on how it does make people act like an arse and so glad I’m not the most uncool person in the room anymore.

  • JM posted a new activity comment 2 days, 12 hours ago

    I love this so much @Morgan!! xo

  • JM posted a new activity comment 3 days, 17 hours ago

    Hi @Lucy! Well done on 62 days!! It’s amazing how life opens up in sobriety. I bet your stepdaughter really appreciated that. xo

  • JM posted a new activity comment 3 days, 21 hours ago

    I hope your little girl feels better very soon @LeslieLily! Congrats on 50 days! x

  • JM posted a new activity comment 4 days, 3 hours ago

    I am so sorry @WakingOwl. What an amazing woman. xx

  • JM posted a new activity comment 4 days, 16 hours ago

    Hi @whynot! I don’t enjoy being in boozy restaurants.. often opt to eat at home, going out for lunch is easier. Happy day/evening! : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 4 days, 16 hours ago

    Hi, welcome! : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 4 days, 16 hours ago

    Love it! : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 5 days, 22 hours ago

    Hi, welcome! : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 5 days, 22 hours ago

    That is so hard. I’m very sorry @Kirst. Big hugs. xo

  • JM posted a new activity comment 5 days, 23 hours ago

    Hi @Aprilsfool! I know everyone’s ‘journey’ is different, but also similar – I remember between days 160 + 200 just feeling like a slog, a desert, sobriety felt a bit meaningless + then things shifted after that, new benefits emerged – I found it so interesting. xo

    • Thank you @JM. You’ve kind of hit it right on the head for me. Feeling meaningless overall. Not necessarily the sobriety part, but kind of like – ‘where the hell am I going with this?’ Of course the changes in my health have been extraordinary in terms of feeling human again on a consistent basis. But I guess I’m looking for those new benefits you refer to. Thanks so much for sharing your experience. It’s been incredibly helpful to learn about other’s experiences. It’s true that the journey is different for everyone, but I do think, we share a certain similarity in how we get there. I appreciate your help.

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Fantastic! : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Hiya @Mari135, hope you feel better soon! I think that’s a gift that comes with sobriety – being able to make a negative situation more positive, through gratitude. Throughout my trip, when something challenging came up (mean girls in the group, hard days of walking, blisters…), I would think of how I could learn from it. I think that’s the thing – we’re stuck when we’re drinking, and we’re able to grow and change now that we’re not. I love how you talk about your kind therapist – I’m giving therapy another go! Meeting a new one this Wednesday, I have a good feeling. 5th one is the charm! Beautiful week ahead, rest easy, xoxoxox

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Happiest birthday @Mrschurchill! 60 is a powerful age. And congrats on 5 weeks!!

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Congrats on day 50 @DennyD! Great milestone, love your attitude. : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    You’re a total winner @Winner!!! Huge congrats on 1 year! You rock!! : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    @kjpeche, what a terrible situation, I’m so sorry, huge hugs. I’m not in the States, and the above advice is great. Just want you to know I care, and 120 days is so amazing, and pls stay sober, keep checking in xoxoxox

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Congrats on week 4 @suzkep!! Lots of water is an excellent plan. I remain a bit obsessed with dark chocolate, keep some in the freezer as a go to. You’ve got this. : )

    • Thanks @JM I do believe I have 🙂 Chocolate in he freezer is a good idea – feeling better today already for removing the ridiculous carbs and sugar intake programme I have been on 🙂

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hi Libby! Well done on day 3. It’s so hard at the beginning, and you’ve started which is great. Hopefully AA is helpful for you, but know that there a TON of online sober resources – brand new world of recovery now. Here are some of my favourites – thesoberschool.com, lauramckowen.com, unpickledblog.com, hipsobriety.com, tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com. Sober audios are also good – lots of podcasts including The Bubble Hour. Also – Annie Grace’s book The Naked Mind is great, and her youtube videos are fantastic – I especially love the one she made about why moderation doesn’t work. Hang in there, you can do this!! xx

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hi @Treehugger! Fantastic that you’re on it – knowing that you have to stay vigilant. I feel like people put on this show about how great boozing it up is, like everyone buys in to the lie and doesn’t talk about debilitating hangovers + stupidass regrettable behaviour. I find people put on a big act when it comes to alcohol. Even in my 20s, when I was having fun, I knew I needed to stop. By my 40s, I knew it would kill me if I kept going. That ‘oh it’s so much fun’ seems like it’s very performative. Congrats on being close to 1000 days, amazing!!!

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hiya! Welcome! : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hi @Sober4real! I’m sorry you’ve been unwell, hope the dizziness goes away asap. How great you’re thinking of helping other people struggling w addiction, in person. It’s getting cooler here in Toronto too, mixed feelings about that. : ) xo

    • Hey @jm it’s been a strange summer here! I’m good with fall though- my favorite time of year. Thanks on the dizzy – it SUCKS! I hate it. Making me crazy but hope they get me figured out. Much better than I was a week ago. Yes, helping people in person is so rewarding – there are so many people that need help. Our stories can make such a difference. Thanks you are so sweet! xoxoxoxoxox

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hi @Scared! Tips on having a pup or sobriety? Sounds like you’re doing great on both counts. xo

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hi @Lucy! Do you have Netflix? I like Russell Brand’s doc called From Addiction to Recovery. Hang in there, you’re doing so well. xoxo

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    A new puppy! How great! Congrats on 787 days @Scared! xo

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Hi @Maorigirlsober! I was just reading your update – congrats on 70 days!! : ) And I found this whole thing is about growing up, very interesting.. Have a beautiful day!

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Hi @JR! In early days, when I was just thinking about quitting, I would look up celebrities who don’t drink. Often they look amazing for their age. Sobriety is the ultimate vanity tool. : ) x

    • JR replied 1 week ago

      @JM @freedom1025 and I just learned one more, although she does drink on occasion, her mojo really is from good food and sleep over alcohol any day – Charlize Theron. She has a very sad story growing up about an abusive, alcoholic father and her mom shot him to death in self-defense. She said her fear was never knowing what her day would be like as a little girl as it was dictated by whether her dad drank or not.
      ….and to think alcohol is marketed as make life all great and happy. Such lies!

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Amazing! Huge congrats @mmskinny! : )

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Hiya @Mari135! Always enjoy reading your eloquent and relatable posts. That’s how I feel – being sober allows me to protect my time, myself. Thanks for your kind replies yesterday! My European adventure ends tomorrow. Xoxo 🏄

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Hi @Freedom1025! Oh I love that, cozy well-worn sweatshirt sobriety. Sounds like a great week. Xo

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    I am so sorry @Jesss! That is so hard. Keep checking in. Day 6 is great. Xo

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Hi, she has the website tiredof thinkingabout drinking.com. She helped me with accountability. I like your screen name. 😃

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Hiya, welcome!

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Happy birthday @Lucy!!! Xo

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Hi! I also found this site through Belle, an interview she did with Mrs D. Congrats on almost 300 days! 😃

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Hi! Welcome!

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    How annoying! I like your sense of humour. 😉 Could you take it into a repair shop, hopefully an easy fix?

    • @JM I’ve removed google chrome – using a different browser has the consequence of having to log in and put passwords into my sites, and get use to a new interface – anyway here’s hoping 😀

  • JM posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Great, great post @Jocord! Xo

  • JM posted an update 1 week, 5 days ago

    Hello all! I’m finished my 6 day trek through the Alps. Lovely Lizzy from this site gave me the idea when she wrote that was how she and her husband were celebrating his 50th birthday. It was harder than I expected, but also more beautiful. We were with an organized tour which was really trying at times, for a few reasons. I was up for socializing w water some nights, other nights, I eyed glasses of wine not quite longingly, but as a quick escape from my discomfort. But I don’t drink anymore! Day 1550. Yippee. Home on Friday, a few more loungey days here in Chamonix. Hope you’re all doing well. Xxx

  • JM posted an update 1 week, 5 days ago

    Hello all! I’m finished my 6 day trek through the Alps. Lovely Lizzy from this site gave me the idea when she wrote that was how she and her husband were celebrating his 50th birthday. It was harder than I expected, but also more beautiful. We were with an organized tour which was really trying at times, for a few reasons. I was up for socializing w water some nights, other nights, I eyed glasses of wine not quite longingly, but as a quick escape from my discomfort. But I don’t drink anymore! Day 1550. Yippee. Home on Friday, a few more loungey days here in Chamonix. Hope you’re all doing well. Xxx

  • JM posted an update 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Hello all! Hope you’re all doing well out there. I am in the Italian town Courmayeur, in the Alps. This is the trip to celebrate a big milestone birthday, and one that could only happen because I’m sober. It’s been pretty phenomenal, hiking for 9 hours a day for 2 days, scenery is beyond my high expectations. We are with a lovely group, an organized tour, but almost all drinkers. Last night was a celebratory one coming here for 2 nights and a rest day, I was too exhausted, but I felt a bit left out, knowing I needed to pass on it. But the night before, we were at this mountain refuge, surrounded by high peaks, were served great food, beautiful music played and I was telling some funny stories, enjoying being w people, on a bit of a high, that alcohol would only detract from. I’d be obsessed with getting more, more, more. That is not my life anymore. I take pride in saying I don’t drink if I trust the person. I feel grateful (and exhausted from the walking), and relieved that if I’m having a challenging time, I know I can post here. If anyone is struggling out there, pls hang in there, it is so, so worth it, and keep posting here for support. xxx

  • JM posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    Hello @AprilsFool! No, I’ve been only sober for 4+ years, but I still think a bit about whether I’ll drink in the future. Then I think about the reality of it. Not. Remotely. A. Good. Idea. : ) week-end! x

  • JM posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    Hi AprilsFool! You’re onto that little drinky voice, well done for powering through, figuring out what you really needed. I was even thinking about having wine in 10 years when friends come down to visit me down south, how it’d be nice to chat over wine. And then I thought the next day I’d be a disaster, shaky, nervous – why would I do that? Have a beautiful week-end! xo

    • 10 years?!! … And it still whispers sometimes, huh? I’m going to keep remembering that. Just as I remember each and every tidbit of advice I’ve gleaned from the warriors before me. Thanks for the well done. I appreciate your support.

      • Hello @AprilsFool! No, I’ve been only sober for 4+ years, but I still think a bit about whether I’ll drink in the future. Then I think about the reality of it. Not. Remotely. A. Good. Idea. : ) week-end! x

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