Hi @Mari135! How are ya? Welcome back from your trips! The new job sounds great, and another reward for being sober – your boss clearly sees that you’ve got it together. : )
I know about that steady hum. Now that I have a lot of time off, I’ve really been aware of it – feels like an old wound that requires a lot of love, compassion and probably therapy (my hunt for a good therapist will continue). I love that Kristen Neff quote, will keep that in mind today. She was on Sharon Salzberg’s (love her!!) podcast recently, really great interview. Happy day! xoxo
Hi @Inkpink! Keep checking in, very supportive community, lots of great reading and advice. You could check out Annie Grace’s website, hip sobriety.com, unpickledblog.com, tons of sober online resources. Hang in there, you can do this. : )
Awww…I thank you @JM Its like I finally feel I am home. And I belong ❤ It will be so hard to leave in August, it will. Besides the obvious(being and living with my love) there is such peace and distance(about 280 miles lol) from ex husband. And drama. The culture in TN just suits me, it really does. I flourish and feel so peaceful and happy with southern hospitality 😎
I LOVE Canada, but this time I only had two full days there. Was pleasantly surprised by the Glen Rouge campground. That Toronto traffic was thick on the way home, wow! One thing I learned on this trip, is to give ourselves more time at each stop, and to make the driving days shorter. It was a very good trip, but it was also a learning experience.
Hi @JM what I am learning through sober books is that life is not at all miserable being sober, its amazing .. the booze just lied to me saying I needed it to relax, confidence and just to be controlled by it.. being free is the best thing ever but I know I will have to work hard this time and keep my guard up xx thanks for replying hope your good and happy xx
Hi @noodle71! Congrats on 9 days, first week is the hardest, and now you have momentum. I went to AA once. Mostly a male group, didn’t feel comfortable. There was a time when AA seemed like the only option, and it helps so many people still. There are online AA meetings, tried that, people were very friendly. I find online resources to do it for me. Belle from tiredof thinkingabout drinking.com helped me a lot w accountability. I love hipsobiety.com and lauramckowen.com. and Annie Grace has amazing YouTube videos, and a challenge on her website. Keep checking in here, you can do this. 😃🏄
Hello all! Welcome to all the new members! So as sadly mentioned, my brother in law died of late stage alcoholism a couple of weeks ago. I was speaking to my sister, his estranged wife, we’re not close but this has brought us together, and in a frank discussion, she said he needed to reach rock bottom to change. Of all the myths about booze, this is the one that is the most harmful – a person has to lose absolutely everything, before he/she can get help. No. It’s something Corporate Alcohol has come up with for its own interests. I told her I recognized I was in the middle stages of alcoholism, and that it could only get worse. I’d like to see a world where there is no stigma about discussing alcohol problems, that it’s like discussing another condition or disease. It’s difficult to stop, but far more difficult to continue drinking. Love and light to all. Day 1520. Xoxo 🏄
@jm wise words. I agree, it’s much harder to keep going than it is to stop. Living life without hangovers, sleep deprivation and bitter regret is well worth skipping that bucket sized glass of red wine (& the rest)
This is very true @JM. Great insight! It’s taken me years to figure it out, maybe because I was drunk. It’s a huge part of of the puzzle in trying to quit. Once I figured this part out it became a lot easier to stay stopped.
I’m sorry to hear of your family’s loss. I agree with you about not needing to reach society’s idea of rock bottom before you can change. My ‘rock bottom’ was not being able to start Dry July properly one year… more like a ‘first world problem’ than rock bottom but it was enough for me to want to change. 1520 days is super awesome. 🙂
Yeah death is pretty rock bottom innit? Its a crock of shit. I lost a friend/lover because no one intervened. And anyway whose rock bottom is the same? I can’t believe how some people live but you know…..We all hide behind pc bullshit. Or no one wants to get involved. Sad.
I’m so sorry @jm and you are so right! It’s a BS phrase……..I would like to see a world where that stigma is removed also. I am really sorry to hear about your brother in law. It puts things into true perspective so I appreciate you sharing even though it’s painful.
Yes, so sorry for your loss JM. Rock bottom is a bit of a myth, there is no rock down there, just clay and you can always dig deeper if you’re stubborn enough. I think the bottom is when your circumstances allow you to think a little and begin to weigh what your really value against the empty promises alcohol promotes.