• janetv posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Thank you!!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Thank you Mrs. D. So much of my success is because of you.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Thank you!!!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Thanks. You are absolutely right, I was bored and stressed for a few days and that is what triggered it. Think it has passed!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    I did and thank you!!!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Thanks Morgan! A safer car is far more important than a savings account. Agreed, I too spend differently now. Healthy food and drinks are expensive. Honestly, everyday is a celebration, though I did awake to find a cookbook I have been wanting left as a congrats gift by my bestie.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    P.S. Where is the $7,300 I have saved by quitting? Did anyone actually put their money saved away?

  • janetv posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    Day 365. Wow. The crazy thing is, in the past 4 days I have been craving again, after months of being sure I had this puppy conquered. Wasn’t expecting that, so my smug complacency is now clearly in check. Anyway, congrats to me and all who are here. This sure isn’t “easy” but it is so worth it.
    Thank you to all of you. I still log on at least once a week (it was 10 times a day in the beginning) and will always find strength and inspiration in this safe place, You have all helped to change my life forever.

    • P.S. Where is the $7,300 I have saved by quitting? Did anyone actually put their money saved away?

    • Fantastic!!!!! Congratulations XXX Great effort. I see my savings as having gone into a safer car for my girl. In reality, I don’t think I have saved much, as couldn’t afford much wine anyway, and have replaced by all sorts of drinks, a soda stream, now keto eating which can be expensive.
      How are you going to celebrate?????

      • Thanks Morgan! A safer car is far more important than a savings account. Agreed, I too spend differently now. Healthy food and drinks are expensive. Honestly, everyday is a celebration, though I did awake to find a cookbook I have been wanting left as a congrats gift by my bestie.

    • Congratulations on one year!!! And yes, wish I had set aside my wine money somewhere when I quit as it certainly isn’t in my bank account!

    • A FULL YEAR! That’s great news for you. Dont let that evil little voice in your head try and tell you to ruin all your hard work. I’m happy for you to be able to push through the cravings and make it this far! Keep up the good work.

    • Congratulations @janetv! One year is a huge accomplishment and you should be very proud! I have found that around big anniversaries my cravings can sometimes pick up, I think it is because there is so much expectation and anticipation. Settle back into your sober routine and I bet those cravings will subside. Definitely treat yourself to a special item or gift for your anniversary though. Even if it is just something little, a momento to celebrate this occasion xo

    • Congrats on 1 year! Epic achievement. I’m so very happy for you. I find that cravings ebb and flow based on what else is going on in my life and how far I may have strayed from my sober self care like kindness towards myself, exercise, eating well, connecting with others.

      • Thanks. You are absolutely right, I was bored and stressed for a few days and that is what triggered it. Think it has passed!

    • congrats!!!!, 1 year, happy for you.

    • congrats on a year!! woot woot! keep going, soberversaries can be tricky.. you’ll get back to an easy place again soon. Remember – booze is shit and all the cool people are sober nowadays! x

    • Congratulations on your one year anniversary! Yep you can never let your guard down!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you!

  • janetv posted an update 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    180 days! For those just starting out on this life affirming journey, I can only tell you that it gets easier and easier. I never could have imagined going 6 hours without a drink, let alone 6 months. Have never looked or felt better and there is a joy in my soul that was dead for many years. Thank you all for your support and your stories and your honesty. You all helped me get here.

  • janetv posted an update 7 months, 3 weeks ago

    New Years Eve morning here in Canada. Day 142. What an incredible journey this has been, with many thanks to this group, I am 100% confident that I will never sink back into that black hole again. My first sober Christmas was my best yet, truly in the moment and able to see the love. Full disclosure: A couple of times I had a sip of alcohol, and I hated it. Even a sip affected my body and I loathed that feeling. Damn stuff didn’t even taste good. It was a scary experiment and I was fully aware of the potential dangers, but I am glad I did it. Now I “know” . For me, quitting allowed me to do the messy work, to strip all the layers of pain and grief I had wrapped myself in. I honestly did not know joy, true joy, and hadn’t in years. Now I wake every morning with a sense of peace and sheer bliss at how far I have come, both in sobriety and in living my best life ever. Why would I ever go back? All of the ghosts have been freed, forgiveness granted, only delightful possibilities remain. Not numbing that shit! πŸ™‚ Sorry, for the long post, but you have all become an integral part of my days and your journeys have made mine easier. Happy New Year to all of you.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 8 months, 1 week ago

    Me too! Almost 5 months and the thing that amazes me is how the redness on my arms has gone. People used to ask me if I was sunburned. Never realized it was from all the wine! Also, oddly enough, my nose looks years younger πŸ™‚

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    No doubt about it, success is the only option. Congrats @winner, we did it!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    Yeah, me and @Winner are, well, winners πŸ™‚ Thanks

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    Thanks @buckeyeone, you are one of the many people that have particularly inspired me.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    We are all doing it, that is why I love this site so much.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    Thanks!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    Thanks!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    Yippeee indeed. Congrats to you. Feels wonderful doesn’t it?

    • Yep it sure does lovely and so cool to have a number of us sailing together !

  • janetv posted an update 9 months ago

    Good day! Though the dog has had me awake most of the night, I am still in a joyful mood. Day 100. Holy sh#t, I never thought I could go 100 hours without wine. Congrats to me and everyone here. Have a wonderful AF day.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months, 1 week ago

    “focus on the bottle and the next drink, was there enough, will the bottle last, who is drinking out of which bottle… ” Wow, thanks for the reminder, horrible way to live/die

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months, 1 week ago

    Own it sister! Well done.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months, 1 week ago

    Congrats @Ladyhawke. It is a wonderful life isn’t it?

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months, 1 week ago

    You can almost visualize them sitting on your shoulder can’t you? I am learning to laugh the wino one off, he is pathetic. Good on you, feel proud!!!

  • janetv posted an update 9 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you so much for all the kind congrats on 90 days! Kindness and support abound here.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you1

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months, 2 weeks ago

    And congrats to you @Winner!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 9 months, 2 weeks ago

    A long hot bubble bath was treat enough! Thank you

  • janetv posted an update 9 months, 2 weeks ago

    Good morning all, well at least good morning for some of us. Good evening to the rest. 90 freaking days today. I never thought I could make it 90 hours without wine, let alone 90 days. I have never felt this good in my adult life. I find myself singing and dancing a lot. Cooking up a storm and sometimes just sitting and contemplating joy. Man, do I ever sleep well! All of the grief and sorrow that kept me a drunk has lifted. I know this is a lifelong battle and I must remain vigilant, but I also know I am not prepared to go back. This is the life I dreamed of and never knew I could achieve. Thank you dear friends for your posts, your words of encouragement and of inspiration. Here is to all of us, no matter where we are on this journey. xoxoxo

  • janetv posted an update 10 months ago

    May have just found the best way to continue AF. We are now living with the most adorable little Chihuahua. Not a breed I would normally be attracted to but he is so cute. I couldn’t have kept him when I drank. If I stumbled or tripped I could kill him! He will force me to exercise more, to be in the moment and just enjoy cuddling him. He deserves an attentive and loving mom for the 3 months I have him.
    So, need further incentive? Get a dog πŸ™‚
    Thinking of all of you.

    • That sounds fun. Little dogs are great, but you’re right, you have to be careful not to step on them. Dog/God- coincidence? I think not. πŸ™‚

    • Hey, whatever works! I’d have a dozen of those little dogs if that’s what it took to keep me AF! Actually, we are former dog owners, currently without. Not ruling out another one, though.

    • Awww that’s so cute! I agree- pet therapy is the best, I love my doggy buddy,

    • What a great idea πŸ™‚ Enjoy your walks.

    • @Janetv, sounds like fun. I agree with @sobere, God has ways of helping us.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    Good on you!!!! A couple of people have told me something similar. Feels great doesn’t it?

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    Maybe, in time, you will tell them your truth.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    Good to hear from you and to know all is well. Here is to being tough πŸ™‚

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    Thanks @scared. Anniversary of my moms death. It’s ok, going to bed, tomorrow is a new day!!!

  • janetv posted an update 10 months ago

    @buckeyeone, have been thinking about you as we hit the remarkable Day 70 mark at the same time. How are you doing? Tonight is hard for me, but hanging on. I hope you are too.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 10 months, 1 week ago

    Start over my friend.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 10 months, 1 week ago

    Thank you Mrs. D. Day 68 for me, and so much of that is because of you and this site. Just logged in as it is a bad night, and seeing your post was a good reminder of why I am doing this. Thanks to all.

  • Tee hee, tomorrow is day 60. My first thought was “Can I celebrate with a glass of wine?” I laughed and moved on.
    Thank you to all of you, and especially Mrs. D for helping me get this far. I have found comfort/solace and joy in your words.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    I am learning to agree with @SharonT on this one. Day 57 and I have experienced a few days like you have. Now realizing it isn’t missing the wine, it is learning an entire new set of skills and perspectives and “ways to live” now. Hard work to be sure. The overthinking, I believe, is that you now CAN think, clearly. That opens a lot of doors that my have been shut tight for a long time. It also opens a shit load of new ones πŸ™‚

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Good for you! After receiving 2 blood tests in 3 months, my liver enzymes were high. That just added to my decision to quit. Happy to report they are good now. Hang in there and yes, look after you.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Good for you! I am sure that was hard, but you did it. Please don’t say you don’t deserve your family’s caring and support. You deserve that and more. Sleep well knowing you made it through another one.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Thank you!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Isn’t it amazing? Our bodies are now demanding we treat them with more respect and yes, it feels great to do so.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Thank you. I am sure it is “the pink cloud” I keep reading about, but I intend to ride it.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Thank you!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Yes, it does appear to happen that way, for many. I am happy it is happening for you. I feel the same and it is magnificent.

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    I like the quote, thank you and congrats to you! Day 33 is fab isn’t it?

  • janetv posted an update 11 months ago

    Day 40. Wow. In some ways this has been easier than I imagined, only in that I could never imagine it. I feel and look so much better. My family is so proud and clearly enjoy spending time with me now. Have not saved the $800 as calculated, primarily due to the increase in healthy food costs and the cost of AF beer (I was a wino so not concerned about that) . I was literally malnourished and “healthy” food is so much more expensive! So congrats to me and to all of you on this journey. I read your posts daily and have truly found inspiration and support here.

    • @Janetv, Congratulations! 40 certainly is a wow moment. Keep on keeping on!

    • Keep up the joyful work!

      • Thank you. I am sure it is “the pink cloud” I keep reading about, but I intend to ride it.

    • Day 40 and eating better and feeling better…..way to go!! oxoxox
      I can relate to a lot of things you wrote about….because I used to never bat an eye when I bought a wine bottle for $10-20 but don’t ask me to buy organic fruits and veggies….took me some time to turn that around and view food as a nourishing source of things my body needs and deserves.

      oxoxoxxo

      You are on your way. Take it all in! You deserve to feel safe and healthy and good.

      πŸ™‚
      Sobriety high five your way!!!

      • Isn’t it amazing? Our bodies are now demanding we treat them with more respect and yes, it feels great to do so.

    • huge congrats on 40 days absolutely brilliant

    • Thank you!

    • That is awesome! You will notice lots of physical changes for the better. I bet your family is really enjoyimg the new you!

  • janetv posted a new activity comment 11 months, 1 week ago

    I will check into the book, thanks!

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