• Irpac posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    Don’t beat yourself up too much, it’s part of the journey for most people. I took Naltrexone for a while which is available on prescription & I feel it helped me. Maybe have a chat to your GP.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 10 months, 4 weeks ago

    Hi I used Naltrexone for a while when I stopped drinking and it worked really well for me. It’s a prescription medication so your daughter would need to see a Dr. There is a lot of NZ based information on the internet. I also found anxiety medication helpful as well.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi I’m sure you are through the worst of it so hang in there. When I stopped drinking I felt a lot better after a week – 10 days. Make sure you are drinking heaps of water. My Dr recommended a number of different vitamins so that might be something worth exploring.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi Magenta, I messaged you around your birthday and just thought I would check in and see how you are doing. Be great to hear from you.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Hi difficult situation. Would you be able to agree on a time to leave before you go?

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    When I was thinking about giving up I thought about all the things I wanted to achieve in life & what was stopping me. And a lot of it came down to alcohol. That really motivated me.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Hi I went to a psychiatrist to get help with my underlying anxiety & depression. His assessment/s were very thorough & with a bit of trial & error I ended up with medication that addresses my individual pattern of depression. I found it invaluable & I still see him a couple of times a year.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago

    Hi there, 86 days that’s awesome! Can you plan something else for your birthday – maybe a beauty treatment or a dessert evening with friends? What have you enjoyed about being sober? Maybe focus on the things you have gained rather than the things you have given up.

    • Thanks @irpac. I am going out for a meal with partner and daughter and her bf. My daughter and bf don’t drink, so my partner will be the odd one out 🙂 While I have been getting ready for bed just now, I thought about your comment about what I have gained v’s what I have given up. It occurred to me that I never used to spend time brushing my teeth, cleaning my face, putting on nice cream. I never did that when I was drinking. I used to pretty much crawl to bed each night with no energy for that! I guess I have gained a sense of self worth and kindness towards me 🙂

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago

    Hi Wenza, I used it when I stopped drinking, I didn’t have any urges, but I’m not sure if that was the Naltrexone or just the fact I was ready to stop. Definitely worth having a chat to your GP about it.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago

    Hi Reginald great to hear that you have had a good week. Keep it up.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago

    Hi I lived in a small town when I stopped drinking and I was worried about going to my GP. But, he was very professional and really supportive of my decision. It might not be as bad as you imagine.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago

    Hi Jasmaine, it’s pretty normal for your thoughts to be all over the place and to feel sad. Don’t beat yourself up! Get in a supply of alcohol free drinks so you can still have a drink with your husband. Or if he’s supportive of your decision maybe you could do something else together at that time.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago

    Hi I’m really interested in attachment theory. I’m just reading a new book called The Attachment Effect by Peter Lovenheim. It’s not addiction focussed, but it gives a really good overview of attachment.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago

    Hi there, been there done that & I’m sure I’m not the only one on the site! It was a real wake call for me & I’m coming up 8 years sober. Everyone makes mistakes & sobriety is one step forward & two steps back for a lot of people. You came back to the site so you can’t be that foolish! Good luck.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago

    Yes it’s very funny, but with a serious messsge. I’ve watched it three or four times & still laugh. Definitely recommend it.

    • @irpac and @chardano – Thanks for your opinions. I think I’ll watch it this weekend. I can’t believe Sandra is now 53 yrs old. She looks incredible.
      @chardano – No, I haven’t made that before. I do love Sangria! It would go wonderfully with popcorn. Sounds like a plan. Thanks! And, I don’t have to worry about getting trashed if I finish the pitcher! 🙂

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago

    Hi what a great achievement! I definitely felt tired for the first year, but I was eating a lot of sugar to replace the alcohol & it was an emotional year. But, over time my energy came back & things got easier.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago

    Hi there I think you should have a chat with your Dr. I had a really supportive Dr when I stopped drinking and it helped a lot. My drinking masked my depression so naturally it got worse when I stopped drinking. You don’t have to put up with depression and having a chat with your Dr is a good starting point.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 2 months ago

    Hi Gaila, drinking will not make the problem go away. You will still have to think about it tomorrow, but you will have a hangover to contend with as well. Definitely have something to eat and go to bed.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 2 months ago

    Morning, the great thing is when you stop drinking you gradually get your life back. And it’s even better than before. And most people have slips. Don’t beat yourself up about it, just learn something from it. Have a great day.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 2 months ago

    Hi day 39 is a great achievement and you are doing really well. It’s a massive change for the mind and the body, and it’s normal to experience a lot of anxiety. It’s does get easier, but there will be a lot of ups and downs. I hope you have got some supportive friends and family and remember to keep checking into the site. There’s always someone here.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Hi there, I really enjoy the ‘On Being’ podcasts with Krista Tippett. They are not recover focused, but ask big questions about the meaning of life. There’s quite an archive going back a number of years; I particularly enjoyed an episode on 15 December 2016 with Martin Sheen – very uplifting. https://onbeing.org/series/podcast/

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 5 months ago

    You have already shown how strong you are by not picking up for 21 months and you will get stronger as more time goes by. I quite like this quote “you were given this life because you are strong enough to live it”.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 5 months ago

    Hi Charlee15, I can only speak for myself, but I’ve found that the urge to pick up definitely gets less over time. I’ve been sober for over seven years and I did find those first couple of years hard. The odd occasion where I do feel like drinking now it’s usually because I’m bored, feeling low, lonely or tired. I just try and find something else to do and the urge passes fairly quickly.

    • Thank you @Irpac for your reply. Yes, that is usually what I do to. I do become fearful sometimes though that it is just a matter of time before I’m at a point where I’m not strong enough to resist. It is helpful to know that the urge to pick up gets less as time goes by.

      • You have already shown how strong you are by not picking up for 21 months and you will get stronger as more time goes by. I quite like this quote “you were given this life because you are strong enough to live it”.

  • Irpac posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    Hi Sarah, the early days of sobriety are tough for many people. When I stopped drinking I found ‘if then’ statements helpful. For example, ‘if I have a craving then I’m going to make a cup of tea’. I prepared these in advance so when I had a craving making a cup of tea became automatic, and my brain didn’t have to think too hard. Similarly, I tried to establish an evening routine early on so again my brain didn’t have to think about what to do next. A couple of friends knew I was trying to give up and if I was feeling a bit wobbly I would text a code word (I’m not sure why, but mine was wheelbarrow) and they would make contact. I stayed away from alcohol cues, such as changing driving routes if they went past bottle stores. I also ordered groceries online for a while so I didn’t have to run past the wine!

    I also took Naltrexone which is a drug that can help to reduce cravings for some people. Most of all don’t be too hard on yourself! Unhealthy drinking usually builds up over a long period of time, so it does take a while to undo all the habits associated with drinking.

    You can do it Sarah, in fact you are already doing it!

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