• ieltje posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Hey @janus2 glad to see you are on a more even keel again as others have noted you are important to many if not all of us on this site. 🙂 Someone has probably already said this but as far as your tutoring is concerned why not do it from home if people care enough about their children’s learning to employ a good tutor which you clearly are then they can bring them to you. 🙂 Kia kaha

  • ieltje posted an update 1 year, 7 months ago

    For some reason the site won’t let me comment keeps telling me not to leave comment space blank when it is full of words!!! anyone else have this problem? So will leave my note for @prudence here

    Not having much gardening experience with cactus @prudence but I do know they grow like weeds and huge in Aruba which has nothing but sea air 🙂

    • Yes..but if I log out and go no in it will work.

    • Yes, I had this issue yesterday.

    • Happened to me before, usually reloading the site takes care of that. xoxo

    • so sorry you are all having trouble posting and commenting.. aarrrrgghhh this is a frustrating issue we have sometimes that so far the techies have been unable to fix. There is a rebuild planned which will hopefully eliminate these problems.. but in the meantime do try logging out and back in again or copying before you hit publish so you don’t lose what you have typed. Sometimes I think it happens more when the site is very busy.. but it’s an annoying pain in the arse whatever the case. Apologies that was your experience here @robynb @ieltje @rose1975 and @cola99 xx

    • Yes that happened tome yesterday. I gave up leaving a comment as it wouldn’t accept I had written one. Kept telling me not to leave a blank space.

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 1 year, 8 months ago

    Hey @frog stay please you have contributed so much positive commentary and as many say it is all our own journey I too have an occasional wine or lite beer and am comfortable with that compared to 1-1.5 bottles of wine a night a glass or two here and there for me is ok 🙂 Not fraudulent I know there are others on here whose journey is similar. Stay on your lilypad and keep croaking on Sorry to put this on another thread but it wouldn’t let me post on the other

  • ieltje posted an update 1 year, 10 months ago

    Flowers for @freyfreya even if they are sideways I am sure she would smile at my lack of technological skill 🙂 Hugs for everyone especially @janus2

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  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    I am sorry for your loss she will be missed in the LS community Arohanui

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    You’re doing well the ‘itch is a bitch’ but it does go after a few days an antihistamine helps such as one for hay fever especially at night I remember thinking it could almost drive me to drink 🙂 Bryce Courtney called it the ‘booze fleas’ 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    Yes it is interesting @K1W1 at a recent visit to a counsellor she suggested I look up self compassion !!!!!

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    Go you onward and upward 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    Cyberhugs @janus2 and a shout out to @honner for some of those lost kilos still winging their way to you from the UK snail mail obviously 🙂 Kia kaha

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 1 year, 11 months ago

    Stunning writing @IslandOne I will have to put Bermuda on my bucket list because of this description well done 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 1 year, 12 months ago

    Oh so true @janus2 🙂 a recent visit to a counsellor (failure tick) where she asked me to look up self compassion!!!! Duhh have it in spades for others but for me myself seriously lacking – a work in progress 🙂

    • Why because yiur seeing a councellor. Tell you this now lol I have been seeing councellor, psychologists, psychiatrist wince 16 and I am 42 now and still see one, not really had a break exccept xmas but I email them. For me it works, as if I dont I become overwhelmed emotionally and cracks begin to appear, also works for man, as my emotions can be very intense and the general joe blogs find it hard to understand the intentsity of them. I try to fly solo but it doesnt work, and I am nt ashamed ot it. So @ieltje hold that tick and think it is going to help. xo

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    ping pong ball with a funny face on it

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    So good to see you welcome back 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    Just super cyber hugs Denise you will get there I am sure xoxoxo tomorrow is another day and the shortest day so will be over in the blink of an eye 🙂 thanks for posting you are an inspiration to me in many ways you will never know kia kaha

    • Thank you so much but I’m no inspiration. Quite the opposite. My book on reliance to going to be my saviour. Developing ways to cope with adversity. This self pity thing has gone long enough. Kia kaha xxxx

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    Hugs @trace -1 and move on a small bump on a long road don’t beat yourself up you have done and can do this 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    Hey @freyfreya whinging is all part of the healing process. Stuck in hospital is no fun thing especially for something as serious and life threatening as you have. Hurray for your lovely colleagues I can see where they are coming from when they say it is worse when they are dealing with ‘one of their own’ makes it more personal I should think.

    But I for one and I am sure that your family and all your LS friends are glad that your are still here and battling on and AF even if you don’t have much choice in that at the moment 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    Haha I can so relate to that I don’t feel ‘home’ unless I have my books around me (H is the same just as well he is a good bookshelf maker 🙂 and I struggle to get rid of them even the old dutch books from my parents and grandparents that only my H and I can read ah well a job for the kids in the distant future 🙂 good wall and sound insulation in the meantime 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    Oh @freyfreya so much pain my heart hurts for you, can you sit thru the painful memories and move on to the happy ones think of the future with two granddaughters walking in the park, feeding the ducks, playing with your bunnies celebrating all those awesome milestones with them and sharing with them your happy memories of your daughter and their aunt.

    Please don’t drink come on here and whine and whinge as much as you want – we all have your back. It is so hard as someone who has not been through what you have to say things that do not say trite but they are said with love and caring

    Kia kaha

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    kia kaha bobby cyber hugs xoxo

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    whoo hoo a week well done that is one of the hardest hurdles out of the way go you 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    So great to have you back @hilux missed your poetry and humour keep on keeping on 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    OMG @janus2 all joking aside that is a painful thing to have happen – sitting takes up quite a lot of our time 🙂 hope you have a speedy recovery

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Hey @janus2 never say never 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Awesome well done 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Hey @Freyfreya you have been, are in the wars at the moment sounds like really scary stuff 🙁 and of course because you are an ‘insider’ where hospitals are places you work in or visit other people, not where you yourself go because you have to!!!! Mmmmm don’t they say that doctors and nurses make the worst patients 🙂

    Glad that you have the week off and that writing down what you are going through helps. Self care should be your number one priority now not how many AF days you do or do not have 🙂 Do look after yourself you are an important member of this community lets keep it that way 🙂 xoxoxo

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Hey @freyfreya No need to count it just concentrate on getting well relieved to hear that you are safe home 🙂 rest and recuperate xoxoxo

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Ditto @freyfreya xoxoxo

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    Kia kaha xoxo

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    So lovely to see you ‘front’ on worth the wait 🙂 xoxoxo

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    Awesome congrats on this superb achievement you have been a role model to all LS members with your support and encouragement GO YOU for the next 1000 days many of them spent at Taka 🙂

  • ieltje posted an update 2 years, 2 months ago

    Just had bloods done interesting no thoughts of s… I better not drink the night before – because I don’t. 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    I really like the Becky who gives a shit 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    Yay go you 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    Congratulations QD see how special you are to all us LS kiwis (and others of course) 🙂 Thank you for being here on LS you are one of my favourite contributors always calm, wise and providing so much support for members when they stumble on the ‘goat trap’ roll on your next 3 years plus and of course your interview with Mrs D 🙂 Awesome way to celebrate @behind-the-sofa 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    Hi @leesah I can so relate to this but to reiterate Mrs D’s comment and from my own experience when dealing with grief and pain alcohol only delay’s the pain and an unfortunate side effect is that you can say do things that you do not mean and can make the situation worse. Dealing with it clear headed not only will be helpful and strengthening for you but also your sisters and your Dad

    Kia kaha xoxo

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    dear @butterflybecky it saddens me that you feel you need to leave. as one who doesnt often post i have valued your contribution and hope that you at least maintain the real life LS contacts you have made. Go well and kia kaha xoxo

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    Sleep tight it will look better in the morning

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Hurrah LS telepathy alive and well 🙂 I was just wondering how you were getting on also @grannie good to see you back in the land of the long white @Marylourocks you rock and @hetiheti too 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Wow @janus2 u are on a roll with your acts of kindness today

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Hey @janus2 good advice coming to you deep breathes Fatbum cuddles and keep posting somewhere in the world a LS warrior will come to your rescue even if us kiwis are asleep Kia kaha xoxo

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    A little bit of weirdness goes along way 🙂 So long as it works for you. Can relate to the forgetfulness concerns @freyfreya scary stuff to contemplate whether for oneself or a partner/parent 🙁

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Good self care and no half a glass will not count 🙂 carry on carrying on!!!!!!!! Sounds like OH should be laying on the TLC with an extra big trowel for the rest of your sick leave s’cuse the gardening pun. 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Welcome mmmm yes my standard response to “want a top up” was “yes please top half” 🙂 It still is but now for soda and lime juice 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Sorry @freyfreya but I had to have a wee giggle – best not to let men unsupervised in garden I have found. And great that you only had half a glass of wine – supermarket close to plant shop I assume 🙂 Perhaps you should water the new plant in with the wine to give it a head start – has to be better for the polygala than you 🙂 Time for a ‘nice cup of tea perhaps’ 🙂 xoxoxo

    • Yes @ieltje everything close in tiny town north of welly. I cried at the garden shop. Holy shit I even forgot I was SICK. And I have a sick note for rest of week off. Lying calmly on bed. Have claimed bedroom as my space. Reading Amy Schumer “The Girl With The Lower Back Tattoo.” She is hugely funny. Going to read chapter on “An Open Letter to my Vagina.” Fuck wine. Half a glass won’t count today xxxx

      • Will have a look @madandsad and see if I can find your garden. Your pic is of you and your puss cat? Xx

      • Good self care and no half a glass will not count 🙂 carry on carrying on!!!!!!!! Sounds like OH should be laying on the TLC with an extra big trowel for the rest of your sick leave s’cuse the gardening pun. 🙂

      • No @ieltje he occupies the moral high ground because he planted a beech tree and knowingly but with unplanned malice intended I ripped a branch from it. In a display of anger unbecoming to a woman of my age. Well ho hum all plants will grow in spite of the teenage behaviour around them. And I’m NOT drinking xxxx

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    All good 🙂 I was a bit concerned I would offend you 🙂

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Hurrah so glad you have surfaced 🙂 thank goodness for Lizi 🙂 keep on keeping on and keep that MAN
    xoxo

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Good to know 🙂 Thanx

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 3 months ago

    Hey @janus2 sorry I to respond you are so important to yourself, to your man and this community in many ways I think that you are the glue that holds the other LS members to the site albeit sometimes with their fingernails. One of the things I always like and admire about you is your straight shooting 🙂 when commenting on other peoples difficulties in dealing with all the issues that come with trying to looze the booze. I hope I don’t offend you what I say is meant with kindness and caringness 🙂 1) yes your health issues suck BUT your man is choosing to help you, stay with you and he obviously cares about you PLEASE DO NOT LEAVE HIM he is an adult and if he thought he was better off with out you at least give him the onus to make that decision himself.
    The West Coast is not the place for you, where you are now is home, you have your friends and job opportunities DO NOT FUCK IT UP use the organisations and tools around you reach out grab them and hold on tight for a while it will get better keep posting you have so many virtual friends that literally wait on tenterhooks to see how you are going and even better your IRL friends especially @prudence. I really hope that you don’t take this wrong – this time I am not going to delete MrsD can if she thinks its inappropriate. KIA KAHA

    • Great post, @ieltje. Worrying times. 🙁

      • @Janus2 – so this is what it’s about? You think you’re too much for your man to handle? Did you honestly ask him what he thought or have you taken the liberty to make that decision for him??? If you did, that’s not very fair! Don’t go away. Do as Prudence suggested above and go stay in your wee house with Fafbum and let yourself breath and sort everything out. There’s too much going on for you here right now to just up and leave. xxx

  • ieltje posted a new activity comment 2 years, 4 months ago

    Awesome 🙂

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