• hummingbird posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    can we not post links any more ?

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    there is a brilliant podcast by Veronica Valli and Chip Somers called Soberful. I get so much from it.
    Veronica has written an excellent book that helped me in the early days called Why You Drink and How to Stop: A Journey to Freedom. Chip was the guy that helped Russell Brand get sober. They have years of experience and both work as addiction counselors
    some links below…

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  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    sadly I purchased the series so get to see it via Amazon. We’re settled in Welly now which I am loving. Didn’t know Luanne fell off wagon in real life, guess what I’m googling now

  • Hey you guys, it’s been forever. Loving my not drinking life, lost track but must be about 4 years now.
    I have zero desire to drink, this is from someone who had their fair share of restarts. I guess it was a process for me.
    Hey @mrs-d was thinking of you re Real Housewives of New York, so good they are addressing the booze issue, did have to cringe at last nights show tho, geez, thank goodness I am no longer doing stuff like that in the name of a good time.
    Love me a nice quiet early night with a cup of tea and some Netflix snuggling my doggy. Also feel like I literally couldn’t get away with that lifestyle any more with crazy work schedule at my age, mid 50’s.
    Have a wonderful day out there xoxo

    • Hey! Was that Sonya? I think we’re a week behind here, I watched last night and at the end saw her falling off a chair in the promo for the next episode. Interesting watching Luanne deal with not drinking as well.. knowing that in real life she’s recently fallen off the wagon. Booze always plays a big part in those Real Housewives shows.. which I’m always interested to see. Watching women getting boozed in a real sense on those shows sure is a great way to reinforce how happy I am for being sober! Great to hear you’re doing so well! x

      • sadly I purchased the series so get to see it via Amazon. We’re settled in Welly now which I am loving. Didn’t know Luanne fell off wagon in real life, guess what I’m googling now

  • passing on sweet message from brave girls club email this morning

    Your daily truth from Brave Living…
    Dear Seeking Soul,

    There are so many things that we would never do unless we were down to our last straw….and pushed to the very edge until there was nothing left to do but to find a better way.

    We often get complacent when we are too comfortable.

    Discomfort leads to movement and action and change. Discomfort makes us get up and do big things to make things better. So often, discomfort is a humongous gift in our lives!

    Be thankful for all of the places in your life that feel uncomfortable, confusing or even painful….those feelings are catalysts for change and can be fuel to get you on the road to where you want to be. Ask yourself honestly…”would I really have done _______had I not been in an uncomfortable place that I wanted to get out of?”

    You can start to see how life makes sense…how even the stuff that we don’t like is a big part of the stuff that we love.

    Life is really so beautiful. All of it.

    You are loved.
    xoxo

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 9 months, 2 weeks ago

    love the 1000 drops, that was true of me, took years for bucket to tip, always was a slow learner :-)))

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 9 months, 4 weeks ago

    omg classic

  • good morning, have listened to most of the podcasts from Soberful the past few days, soooo good. Think its some of the best conversations I have heard around recovery. Chip is the person who ran the place where Russel Brand got sober and has an amazing story himself. I knew Veronica from her book which I love, so if you are looking for some inspiration highly recommend.

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    copy + paste
    Veronica Valli and Chip Somers are experts on recovery. Chip Somers was most recently described by Russell Brand in his book ‘Recovery’ as a ‘right social liability.’ Now he is a psychotherapist with over 30 years experience helping people recover from alcohol and drug problems. Veronica Valli is the author of ‘Why you drink and How to stop,‘ a recovery coach and the creator of the Soberful program. Together they have been sober for almost 50 years and have a LOT of stories, messes, experience and occasionally helpful advice to share on living in sobriety.

  • hummingbird posted an update 10 months ago

    Podcast Recommendation: Soberful By Veronica Valli & Chip Somers
    …had to share this podcast with you guys, sooo good. Have recommended her book and didn’t know she had started a podcast. Just listened to the 2 part called Veronica’s story. Chips story is also good.
    link here. They are both now trained therapists,
    https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/soberful/id1371013717

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    thanks, yeah i just took a walk with a friend, totally helped

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    yeah its been hitting some folks pretty hard here in NZ and hangs around

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    just saw your post below re vit c thanks, will give that a go, have been having some but not nearly that much. There is an interesting 60 mins doc on this about the farmer with swine flu

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    that’s awesome @Kate1975, yeah the fresh mornings are the best. How much vit C did you take out of interest?

    • just saw your post below re vit c thanks, will give that a go, have been having some but not nearly that much. There is an interesting 60 mins doc on this about the farmer with swine flu

  • hummingbird posted an update 10 months ago

    been feeling down lately. Society is quick up with reasons why, illness, stress, etc. I don’t know why. Maybe it’s my tendency to be depressed is rolling in for a bit. All I want to do is isolate and stay in bed. Have dragged myself to work, put on my mask and then go home and go straight to bed. Yep I have been ill and off work for a few weeks but now the darkness is lingering. Grateful that I don’t even think about reaching for booze anymore. That was always my go to. I know this will pass eventually.
    Look after yourselves out there awesome brave souls

    • Hiya @hummingbird. Prayers that lurking illness you’ve had will lift. And real soon. Is it a virus thing?

    • It’s ok to feel down, especially if you’ve been sick. And when I am at home for extended periods of time I get blue and lonely, too. Maybe give a friend a call or go visit someone.

  • the heartbreaking eventually uplifting story of a man’s struggles from ABC news. Alcoholism, addiction, childhood abuse. Wow I don’t have words, highly recommend.
    The rainforest hermit who stepped out of the wild

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 1 week ago

    half an hour of moderation, yep that was about my limit as well. So cool you are on the other side. It’s so weird looking back at how we were trapped into that cycle and now I couldn’t think of anything less I would want to do.

  • I didn’t know a lot of these folks didn’t drink, look at this kickarse list
    These Are 37 Celebrities Who Don’t Drink Alcohol
    https://spoonuniversity.com/lifestyle/what-i-learned-about-partying-from-being-sober

    1. Blake Lively
    This Gossip Girl star has never touched a drop of alcohol. She’d rather chill with the sexiest man alive, Ryan Reynolds.

    2. Dane Cook

    Comedian, Dane Cook, has often alluded to his father drinking too much, so now he’s sober.

    3. Eric Clapton
    He’s been sober since 1987 after battling a heroin and alcohol addiction.

    4. Jim Carrey
    In the words of Jim Carrey, “life is too beautiful” to drink or do drugs. Fair.

    5. Shania Twain

    Twain doesn’t drink or do drugs. She’s also a vegetarian.

    6. Tyler, The Creator

    Sources close to the rapper say he is “straight-edge.”

    7. Eminem

    He’s been sober for nine years after battling with addiction.

    8. Chris Martin

    Gwyneth Paltrow’s healthiness must have rubbed off on Martin during their marriage because he doesn’t drink anymore.

    9. Kristin Davis

    She has struggled with alcoholism and didn’t even think she would make it past 30.

    10. Rob Lowe

    He recently celebrated 25 years of sobriety.

    11. Jennifer Lopez

    J Lo doesn’t drink because it’s bad for your skin, which makes sense because she looks the same way she did 15 years ago.

    12. Daniel Radcliffe

    He apparently struggled to return to reality after the Harry Potter franchise ended, but has been sober for two years.

    13. Bruce Willis

    He went from promoting Seagram’s Wine Coolers to sobriety. We don’t blame because that ‘ish is gross.

    14. Sarah Silverman

    The comedian has struggled with depression since a young age, so she has chosen to be sober.

    15. Kim Kardashian

    She’s too busy to be hungover, so this lady doesn’t drink at all.

    16. John Travolta
    Travolta does not drink, having dealt with substance abuse problems in the past.

    17. Ben Affleck

    After a stint in rehab, Affleck gave up drinking for good.

    18. Tyra Banks

    She apparently t…[Read more]

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  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 1 week ago

    love that goal x

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 1 week ago

    what a cool memory, thanks @hetiheti

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 1 week ago

    so awesome and inspiring @Mrs-D Thanks for all you do. Happy Seven Years xox

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    so heartwarming you took the chance to communicate that to your daughter.
    Thanks for the Nigel Latta tip, will give that a watch, sounds awesome

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    you came back x feel better

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    thanks @Mrs-D I have never lost a post. I use a computer

  • Love me a sober story video
    ‘The Making of an Alcoholic + Barely Surviving Alcoholism – The Amazing Story of Elizabeth Vargas’
    US TV presenter Elizabeth from 20/20

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    you are awesome!

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    best decision ever, I know it might not seem that way sometimes but stick with us, we get it

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    so cool thanks @DaveH

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    thanks @kit yeah so fascinating. Awesome to be able to have a bird’s eye view of my behavior now. Before I was going through life in a lizard brain trance with no idea

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    totally relate, its something I have been working on. I used to get all my sense of self from what other people thought of me, but didn’t realise it, it was how I was raised. This woman’s videos really helped me see things from another perspective
    she has a youtube channel with a load of great stuff, maybe this can help you too . xxx

  • copy + paste about lizard brain below . Love learning about this stuff. So much of our behavior is unconscious, getting some perspective, seeing things another way can create a small crack to create change
    ….Blame the lizard brain
    It’s not a lack of motivation or a scarcity of skill that’s limiting your spirit of adventure. It’s your brain.
    The lizard brain – the earliest part of the brain to evolve – is responsible for our primal emotions of survival, such as anger and fear. This is the part of your brain that tells you to flee from danger – it has you sprinting full speed away from that grizzly bear before you’ve consciously thought about running.
    The lizard brain once helped our ancestors avoid predators, and that was a good thing. But, in today’s world, the primal instincts of the lizard brain can actually be detrimental.
    It’s the lizard brain that fills you with fear, and often doubts when you want to try something new or challenge yourself. You know that sneaky voice inside your head that tells you, “You can’t ask for a promotion because you’re not good enough.” Well, it stems from this part of your brain.

    • Thanks for this, it’s very interesting.

    • It’s called the lizard brain because we have it in common with all animals, even reptiles. This part of the brain directs our behaviour, by encouraging us to do certain things, and discouraging us from others… it is really primitive survival level stuff. The way we are motivated to do things is that this part releases chemicals into the brain that are compulsive… that is, we are compelled to take a certain action on sensing a particular circumstance. Unfortunately for us this part of our brain has identified alcohol as something really important to have. It compels us to seek it out, then rewards us with a wave of pleasure when we get it. We experience this as a craving, and then we get the wave of ease and calm flow through us when we take the first drink. The very big problem for us is that this part of the brain is entirely automatic; there’s no conscious thought or decision making involved at all. We are compelled to drink by the same brain mechanisms that make birds sip from sugar-filled feeders and flee from cats. These automated processes have been perfected though millions of years of evolution and we have to try and overcome them with only our willpower.

    • @hummingbird The subconscious is where the backbone of addiction is deeply entrenched, through years and many drinks. However, the conscious mind, and this is the good news, is where the ‘craving’ occurs. We have entire choice as to whether or not to crave. Our brain’s ‘negativity bias’ is prehistoric, yes. However, as we now know with neuroscience, we can ‘take in the good’ and literally carve out new neural pathways – more good news- so that we are not ‘reactive’ but can be responsive. We can therefore choose what we want to choose. This ‘prehistoric brain’ was in place for some very good reasons, most of which simply do not exist anymore. And again, the good news is that we can, through the brain’s neuroplasticity rehab or build up our brain’s most positive and responsive choices to live a life that is full of freedom. Don’t get locked into that prehistoric conundrum. We are free. We need to practice this, enrich this and install this to create new parts of our brains!

    • Great stuff, nothing to add, but thanks for the post and the comments, very interesting.

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    that’s so cool you volunteer at the animal shelter. Sounds like yr body needed the rest

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    when you think about how we fall asleep and make movies in our head its crazy, I am sure there is some kind of mind processing going on

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    what a great post. I agree, getting through all this hard stuff has taught me so much.

  • Back after the Break …..halfway thru this audiobook by Osher Gunsberg. It’s so good. I only know of Osher via the Rich Roll podcast – another awesome sober dude. Osher writes about his life and journey through mental health challenges and self-medicating with booze and drugs. Highly recommend this book esp the audio version as he adds comments in that aren’t in the book. He talks about a lot of stuff that has taken me years of trying to figure out myself into an entertaining story memoir.
    copy + paste below….

    https://www.audible.com.au/pd/Back-After-the-Break-Audiobook/1460798678

    A revealing, raw, funny, and heartfelt memoir from one of Australia’s most well-known and well-liked celebrities.

    Osher Gunsberg, one of Australia’s most loved celebrities, opens up in a powerful, dark, funny, and heart-wrenching memoir about life, love, and living with mental illness. It’s hard to remember a time when Osher Gunsberg (or Andrew G, as he was then) wasn’t on TV – he’s just always been there, looking at ease in the spotlight, beaming a big smile, with a questionable haircut. He was there hanging out with The Offspring backstage at the Warped Tour on Channel V; announcing to a national audience of three million people that Guy Sebastian was our first Australian Idol; and later capturing the heart of the nation by hosting every season of The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, and now Bachelor in Paradise.

    But while everything looks great from the outside, the real picture has not always been quite so rosy. Osher has always known he’s different to most other people. Struggling with anxiety, panic attacks, and weight issues since he was young, he tried for years to drink away the anxiety and depression. He ended up unemployed, divorced, suicidal, and certifiable on the other side of the world, yet somehow he managed to put the broken pieces of his mind back together and make a life for himself again. He lives with a mental illness – and he’s come to terms with it to…[Read more]

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks for the thoughtful post @delgirl68

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    wow xox

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    you are perfectly imperfect, human, hope you are feeling better x Love kombucha as well

    • Thanks @hummingbird feeling so much better. Saw my dad for the first time in 5 months and the first thing he said was wow you look great….. it’s only been 7 days! Said no I dont need a drink, then offered me a cup of tea and that was that! I love that saying thank you xx

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    wow awesome

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    that’s an interesting comparison, hadn’t thought of it like that

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    welcome 🙂 there are lots of goodies in the sober toolbox up the top

  • Just For Today
    Just For Today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for 12 hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.
    Just for Today, I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that, “Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
    Just for Today, I will adjust myself to what is and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my “Luck” as it comes, and fit myself to it.
    Just for Today, I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
    Just for Today, I will exercise my soul in 3 ways. I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least 2 things I do not want to do – just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt, they may be hurt, but today I will not show it.
    Just for Today, I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, talk low, act courteously, criticize not one bit, not find fault with anything and not try to improve or regulate anybody except myself.
    Just for Today, I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. I will save myself from 2 pests hurry and indecision.
    Just for Today I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective on my life.
    Just for Today, I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful & believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    yes, I don’t know who this person is but it seems we read daily of these struggles, much love to his loved ones

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    so awesome, good on you for taking care of yourself x

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    ha yes enzedgirl

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    yeah this does help with things, seems wack but you can feel a shift x

    it is based on chinese medicine

    copy and paste below ……
    What is EFT tapping?
    Emotional freedom technique (EFT) is an alternative treatment for physical pain and emotional distress. It’s also referred to as tapping or psychological acupressure.

    People who use this technique believe tapping the body can create a balance in your energy system and treat pain. According to its developer, Gary Craig, a disruption in energy is the cause of all negative emotions and pain.

    Though still being researched, EFT tapping has been used to treat people with anxiety and people with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

    How does EFT tapping work?
    Similar to acupuncture, EFT focuses on the meridian points — or energy hot spots — to restore balance to your body’s energy. It’s believed that restoring this energy balance can relieve symptoms a negative experience or emotion may have caused.

    Based on Chinese medicine, meridian points are thought of as areas of the body energy flows through. These pathways help balance energy flow to maintain your health. Any imbalance can influence disease or sickness.

    Acupuncture uses needles to apply pressure to these energy points. EFT uses fingertip tapping to apply pressure.

    Proponents say the tapping helps you access your body’s energy and send signals to the part of the brain that controls stress. They claim that stimulating the meridian points through EFT tapping can reduce the stress or negative emotion you feel from your issue, ultimately restoring balance to your disrupted energy.

    EFT tapping is an alternative acupressure therapy treatment used to restore balance to your disrupted energy. It’s been an authorized treatment for war veterans with PTSD, and it’s demonstrated some benefits as a treatment for anxiety, depression, physical pain, and insomnia.

    https://www.healthline.com/health/eft-tapping#bottom-line

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    ah yes anxiety, get ya
    thanks for that idea @wordsmatter love that
    remember reading if you say i am enough that can help
    always seem to forget to do these simple helpful things tho so thanks for the reminder
    i am enough x

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    what a lovely way to get to work

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    nice:-) . yeah our norms can be weird when we stand back and take a 50 foot view of things
    that has been one of the most helpful things about doing all this work onmyself to be able to have a shift in perspective
    thanks

  • hummingbird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    omg yes I remember that
    You know what I was the last person I thought could honestly get to a point deep in my soul of saying I will never have another drink – but i have – and you can too. That fracken voice is a little scared child and with a lot of love it will fade off and be replaced by a calm place that doesn’t want to drink
    this didn’t happen over night but this is the journey of a lifetime

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