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@hodge

2nd real attempt. Made it to 8 months last time before attempting moderation. This goes ok for a period and then end up doing things I’m ashamed of and it impacts all areas of my life. Want to be in the happy place I was in before and stay there. Have a 4yr old and 8month old and want to be a present parent and not let my babies see me drinking. Here for the long haul and thankful to be a part of this community.
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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Congratulations @beehappy such an amazing achivement. Keep at it. I hope to join you there soon. Second real attempt. Can’t wait to get back to 100!

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      beehappy replied 1 month ago

      You can do it @hodge X

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Hey @takingabreak. I got – A happier hour by Rebecca Weller. Caroline Knapp Drinking a love story. Drunkard, Blackout and Lily Allen story. One down. Four to go 😀

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    @hodge posted an update 1 month ago

    Just purchased 5 new sober memoirs/books to read. Really excited to get stuck in xx

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      timidwarrior replied 1 month ago

      So cool! My copy of This Naked Mind just arrived today, just about to sit down and get stuck into it!

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      Taking a break! replied 1 month ago

      Which books did you get?

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        @hodge replied 1 month ago

        Hey @takingabreak. I got – A happier hour by Rebecca Weller. Caroline Knapp Drinking a love story. Drunkard, Blackout and Lily Allen story. One down. Four to go 😀

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    So sorry to hear you are feeling down. I’m
    Sure thecsession on Monday will help and until then just focus on the massive achievement so far. 80 days is huge! Things would feel a whole lot worse if you was drinking. Thinking of you xx

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      timidwarrior replied 1 month, 1 week ago

      Thanks @hodge ❤️

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    So sorry for your loss @agirl a dog is part of the family . Thinking of you xx

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      Agirl replied 1 month, 1 week ago

      Thanks @hodge. There’s something really special about the doggie- human bond isn’t there.

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    @hodge posted an update 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    It felt so good waking up this morning hangover free. A very chilled night and no stress over how much I’m drinking or how much extrani could drink, hide and get away with. So peaceful in my head. Celebrated the new year this morning dancing in the front room with my 4 year old. Can’t say I would have been present enough to do that if I’d been…[Read more]

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      01oceanbreeze replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      What a lovely moment ❤️❤️❤️

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      timidwarrior replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      Awww sounds lovely! I bet your 4 year old loved that moment x

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      kitten replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      fun. have a great new year.

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Stay strong @timidwarrior. You got this! X

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Amazing!

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    @hodge posted an update 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    30 days. So happy to be here. Amazing how much better you feel when you are not ashamed. Very grateful for all the support I have received from people here. Thank you and best wishes for 2019 xx

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      Jes replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      Huge congrats @hodge😁

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      JM replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      Fantastic!! Congrats! Best wishes to you! X

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      Sober4real replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      @hodge congratulations! It is amazing when we stop feeling ashamed. I can’t believe how much time is wasted when we feel that way. Sad. So glad you are here too! xoxo

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      Tom4500 replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      Happy New Year Hodge, you’re doing great. Congrats on knocking off that tough first month. Onwards & upwards!

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      timidwarrior replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      Congratulations @hodge 30 days is awesome!

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      Iowadawn replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      @Hodge good on you!! A month AF and starting during crazy holiday season. Cheers to you!!!!

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      Cinderella replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      Well done you, 1 month- always great to get that under your sober belt @hodge 🙂

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      Agirl replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      Oh I am so pleased for you- 30 days @hodge. Wahooooooooo!

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Sorry to hear this @oceania, well done for fighting the urge despite it being strong as in sure you would feel a lot worse now if you hadn’t. We all have bad days. Hope you are feeling better now but if not it’s a new day tomorrow xx

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    That’s absolutely amazing @malibustacey you should be so proud of yourself xx

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Haha I want to change mine too as doesn’t make complete sense and out of date but @robynb that is very amusing. You should keep that even if it gets fixed 😀

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Sorry to hear you are having a rough time today @timidwarrior. I got some af bubbles for Christmas Day and was pretty pointless although the drink with fuzz in a wine glass did help as others were drinking around me. Key thing is it stopped you getting the real thing. Focus on that and congratulate yourself on it. Tomorrow is a new day and…[Read more]

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      timidwarrior replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      Thanks @hodge that’s what I am hoping for! New day, fresh start x

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        Strongerthanever replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

        @timidwarrior sorry to hear you are struggling. It seems to be different for everyone but I must say AF wine and beer are what’s kept me sober. I really really struggled with feeling isolated and left out when I have up, but having a af beer or a glass of af wine meant I still had a drink to cheers my hubbie with or having a bottle of af beer in…[Read more]

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Amazing @soberheart so lovely to hear you had a great break. I’m right behind you Day 28 here xxx

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    You are doing amazing in your sober journey at @jes, this is such a tough thing and I can relate to many of the things you have said here. Thinking of you and hope you get what you need from tour session xx

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      Jes replied 1 month, 2 weeks ago

      Thanks @hodge

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    It’s ok to feel sad and have a lie in @sober4real like others say sounds like you have awareness around it. Sometimes we have to sit and enjoy this time and not give ourselves a hard time for it xx

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Lovely post @saoirse xx

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    @hodge posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Trust @lowadown that drinking will make everything so much worse. You will not be able to think clearly to make rationale decisions which is important right now but also if you drink it won’t just be knew it will go on and on and on xx

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