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Hey @tom4500 I’m with you on the forever thinking. I’m not sure how I would have processed it all in the beginning if I hadn’t decided that I wasn’t going to drink again. Definitely made it easier, for me, knowing that it just wasn’t an option anymore. 🙂
I read this article this morning. 🙂 Love this part of it… “For decades we’ve had this idea about moderate drinking, like moderate drinking is fine, just don’t binge drink… but moderate drinking is a term used by the alcohol industry. They use the term because it sounds good, but it’s not actually healthy.”
I say I start to feel manipulated.
“It’s because you are,” he replys.
“Is alcohol good for anything then?” I ask.
“It’s good for hand washing,” replies Towers, before explaining that at the simplest level, alcohol kills cells.”
I used to drink 1 – 1.5 bottles of wine most week nights and more on the weekends. I just stopped. The side effects I had were grumpiness (I was surfing the urges when they came but it did make me grumpy to start with) and tiredness for the first couple of weeks. That was it for me. I’m an overthinker also, gosh it can be tiring. I found that once I decided to not drink anymore there became less to stress and worry about. I hope things become clear in your mind of what’s best for you.
I’m sorry to hear of your family’s loss. I agree with you about not needing to reach society’s idea of rock bottom before you can change. My ‘rock bottom’ was not being able to start Dry July properly one year… more like a ‘first world problem’ than rock bottom but it was enough for me to want to change. 1520 days is super awesome. 🙂
“Sobriety = the world’s best life hack” Wish I had learnt that earlier… but it is what it is. I loved reading Kirst’s Sober Story today especially her advice for those just starting out on their journey; definitely go have a read of it. Today marks three years since I started living alcohol free! *Pats self on the back* My journey of discovery probably started the previous year though when I realised things really weren’t right and couldn’t / shouldn’t carry on the same. Moderation does not work! I started Dry July 2016 on the 4th because the beginning of that month was a weekend, and weekends were definitely for drinking (so were week days but hey…) That in itself made me realise I had to change so during that Dry July I read Mrs D’s book, Allen Carr’s book, plus a few others, and then made The Decision that I no longer drank alcohol. Like Kirst wrote in her Story I had some ‘white knuckling’ in the first couple of weeks but knowing that drinking was no longer a thing made it easier to just get on with it. Anyway, although life sometimes can be a drag I am so pleased that I no longer have alcohol in there mucking it up. Huge huge huge thanks to Mrs D for her book and for this site. What a life saver! 🙂
woo hoo 3 years that’s epic! That makes you eligible to share your Sober Story on here (as a post on that blog page).. are you interested in doing that? I can email you the list of questions if you are. Send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org if you’re keen. x
I used Dry July a couple of years ago to start being free. During it I read ‘Mrs D Goes Without’ and Allen Carr’s ‘Easy Way to Control Alcohol’ along with a few others and the Sober Toolbox on this site to cement my decision. I think Dry July is a good ‘reason/excuse’ to not drink for those in social situations. (Or even those that are struggling with it in their own head.) 🙂
Great post. I used to try and keep to the rules I imposed on myself but it never worked. * No drinking during the week, except Thursday because it’s Thirsty Thursday. *Only drink beer as you’ll drink less. *No drinking until 5pm unless it’s the weekend. Etc etc. How tiring it was trying to moderate. The good thing about all though was that it led me to realise that it doesn’t work and from there I made the decision just to stop drinking completely. What a relief! 🙂 I really enjoy your thoughts from the big comfy chair. 🙂
Another great post @hammer123 . Thanks. I have no regrets also, I’m so pleased that I finally figured out that drinking isn’t necessary, I think having regrets would make it that much harder in the beginning. Enjoy your day. 🙂
Today my counter says 1000 days. Ain’t that a grand number… 😉 It’s a smidgen over three months until I reach three years. Sometimes I’m in two minds about the whole celebrating the milestones. On one hand I LOVE acknowledging milestones and awesome numbers, but on the other hand I also recognise that being alcohol free is who I am and is just part of normal living. Hmmmm. Then again I am pretty darn pleased with myself about it all so I guess I will think of acknowledging milestones as part of my ‘self-care’… And ‘self-care’ is so important, for everyone not just for those of us who have overcome something… maybe we have a better understanding of that though. Here’s one of my favourite quotes from Brian Tracy… “Every positive change in your life begins with a clear, unequivocal decision that you are going to either do something or stop doing something.” Anyhoot, have a fabulous day people, I know I will.
Yay for an early finish. 🙂 I haven’t read The Book Thief, although I have heard of it… and I’m currently book-less so I may look into it. I’ve just finished re-reading the Flowers in the Attic series lol That sure took me back to my teens 😉 Have a great day @Ro
Good stuff getting though. Our minds are tricky things; latching onto something and overthinking it. When I think back I’m sure I used to look for issues that would mean I would ‘have’ to have a drink. Today will be a better day!
Welcome. I read ‘The easy way to control alcohol’ by Allen Carr after reading Mrs D’s book. Those two books in succession set me on my way. I like finding out about the science behind why we drink, how to break habits etc so I also enjoyed ‘Alcohol Explained’ by William Porter (the first 5 chapters are free online). There have been a few others over the years, including This Naked Mind, but I’ve got to say it was the first two that cemented my decision that I wasn’t going to drink anymore. I’m sure there will be more people here that will have more suggestions as well as podcasts, websites (like Hipsobriety) etc. You’ve made a super decision to remove alcohol from your life. It really isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. 🙂