• happymoods posted a new activity comment 16 hours, 2 minutes ago

    Thank you for the understanding, letting go is a tough one. The swim was terrific and helped me to lose the unhealthy control xxx

  • Day 27
    Waiting to be picked up and taken to the Peak District for more wild swimming. Thought I’d do a morning post as my head was about to collapse in on itself, nothing to do with drinking but some other stuff I have no control over. Oh heck! Anyway, gotta go prepare some sandwiches… another day sober will give me comfort as will reading your posts. Peace out ✌🏼

    • Hi day 27 is so good.. well done you… I know the “just letting things go” is so hard for us.. I’m going to really try now as I cannot control everything.. we come first now.. have a great swim.. xxx

      • Thank you for the understanding, letting go is a tough one. The swim was terrific and helped me to lose the unhealthy control xxx

  • Day 26
    Feeling good. Volunteer work earlier went well, better than usual, found myself being looked to as the guy who knows what he’s about, so they couldn’t see the huge well of doubts just beneath the surface but one thing I was sure of was that nothing was going to get to me enough to make me want to reach for a bottle. Yesterday’s troubles have largely been forgotten, funny how quickly these feelings of despair can vanish and leave us with easygoing attitudes of helpful indifference. I’m reaffirming my commitment to stay sober regularly, especially while feeding the cats and making breakfast in the morning.

    • I know what you mean about that feeling of dread, what if? Because it was so bad being in that place. I have that too, maybe that’s our insurance policy, our reminder not to get complacent? 26 days is awesome by the way😀

    • I love the idea of ‘helpful indifference’!

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 1 day, 19 hours ago

    Thank you @daveh. Not chasing the thoughts around or debating them but instead using them to defeat themselves. This is revelatory! I’ve suspected this might be the answer but how you describe it really packs a punch. Bless you for this response, I read it all with utter resonance.

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 2 days, 15 hours ago

    I bet we’ve drunk a galleon between us 🤣. Thanks again for the direction and support friends, it must be something to do with this site that’s keeping me strong this time 🙂

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 2 days, 18 hours ago

    Thank you so much, this message has given me heart just when I needed it ❤️ 😁

    • You’re welcome! You’re in good company with what you’re feeling. That lovely mix of anxiety and exhaustion seemed to be my specialty during those first couple of weeks. But then it suddenly disappeared! Yeah really. I’ve suffered from anxiety for years – (maybe connected to the galleons of wine I poured down my throat every 24 hours?) but it’s gone now. So …. another shining light to look forward to. Hang in friend.

  • Day 25
    Anxiety and exhaustion, a strange and very draining mix. It will pass, one desperately hopes!

    The last few years for me have been filled with attempts to stay sober, I just got to the stage where I accepted the relapses as the best I could do and maybe that was the best I could do, two weeks here, three weeks there, usually ten days ish then another three day drinkathon then try try, try again. What is different this time? I don’t know but I am more focused than ever! I think I am. At least it will pass, in fact I can feel it passing now I’ve got most of it out… one final push, the day is almost done.

    • Day 25 – nothing to sneeze at! You’re getting the hang of this ;-). Yes. It will pass – already has, right? Keep pushing, keep going, keep coming here. Day 26 is right around the corner and then you’ll be looking at a full month!! Take a deep breath and give yourself a big hug. You’ve got this – and it only gets better and better. Yup. It’s different this time cuz it’s gonna stick!

      • Thank you so much, this message has given me heart just when I needed it ❤️ 😁

        • You’re welcome! You’re in good company with what you’re feeling. That lovely mix of anxiety and exhaustion seemed to be my specialty during those first couple of weeks. But then it suddenly disappeared! Yeah really. I’ve suffered from anxiety for years – (maybe connected to the galleons of wine I poured down my throat every 24 hours?) but it’s gone now. So …. another shining light to look forward to. Hang in friend.

    • Hi @happymoods! 3 1/2 weeks is fantastic! These are the hardest ones to get through. I remember thinking with clarity, this is it, I’m going to get to day 100, and then I kept going. These sites helped: tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com, unpickledblog.com, thesoberschool.com and lauramckowen.com. Annie Grace has amazing videos on youtube + a 30 day challenge on her website I think. It’s hard, and it can feel like you’re plodding through a desert, but then it gets so much easier and life is just better. xo

    • I bet we’ve drunk a galleon between us 🤣. Thanks again for the direction and support friends, it must be something to do with this site that’s keeping me strong this time 🙂

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 3 days, 3 hours ago

    Mental gymnastics is a great way of putting it, I can’t be bothered with that anymore. Thank you for joining me.

  • Day 24
    Finding my feet today, occasionally feeling fantastic, reinforcement for continuing AF. Occasionally feeling emotions I know I wouldn’t be feeling if I wasn’t AF. My listening skills are getting better, I’m not getting stressed out by daily tasks as much. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have fleeting thoughts that drinking is a good idea. Then I recall the numerous disasters from trying to have a good time drinking, many many failures. So, onwards.

    • @happymoods….well I’d be lying if I said I was the expert. I’ve had not that great of track record of consecutive AF days But here’s what I know … that no one ever regretted going without But so many of us have regretted dating back on to the hamster wheel… Plus if you’re like so many of us the mental gymnastics of trying to moderate is exhausting So I will join you and trying to keep up the good work!

  • Day 23
    Hi gang! I have been stressed out today to the max, which is weird because I’d planned on today being a lazy carefree day. I did some cleaning and went out for a coffee and read Mrs D, browsed a few charity shops, bought some stuff and now I’m back on the couch closer to the relaxation vibe I’d imagined 😌

    • @happymoods, Congratulations on day 23. Maybe you can make yourself some nice cinnamon and honey tea. It seems to help me when I feel stressed. Keep on keeping on!

    • Congrats on day 23 @happymoods! Your day sounds lovely to me! What your experiencing, this stress, may be the booze brain trying to tell you that something is wrong when everything is fine. Just tell it to fuck off. 😉

  • Day 22
    Definitely an interesting experience this sober malarkey. It’s been a busy few days and I feel a sense of accomplishment to be managing AF. The worry of appearing boring or being bored without drinking is disappearing… wow! I love walking through these illusions.

  • Day 21
    Walking in Wales with a sober buddy today, also did some wild swimming and planning on more this summer. Amazing day, very tired in a good healthy way.

  • happymoods posted an update 1 week, 1 day ago

    Day 20
    Last night went well, eating a gigantic feast of deliciousness followed by playing balderdash and watching a film. I love my own space but too much and I can turn against myself and then who knows what might happen, well we all know… anyway, friends are still here and we’re heading out for coffee ☕️

  • happymoods posted an update 1 week, 1 day ago

    Day 19
    Den den dennnn, dramatic intro… friends staying until Sunday… they know I’m sober so food and games and fun… sober head on the pillow to look forward to at the end of the night. Easy does it ❤️

  • Day 18
    Going well. Yesterday was rough but I find it’s rare to have two terrible days in a row, hope I’m not tempting fate by saying that, I’m a bit of a worrier… I think I’ll keep posting my day count everyday until I’m 30 days then I’ll cool off slightly. The good news is I’m not planning my next drink. Emotions are hard at times. I’m super grateful for all the encouragement and look forward to the ups and downs levelling out somewhat.

    • Thank you happymoods. It’s great to hear those stories. And the bit that caught me was I am not planning to drink. I wasted so much time drinking and also so much time planning to ensure I had plenty to drink and plenty of opportunities. I am a mature male and am being trolled by another mature male. Yesterday was hell but I came through not even tempted. This site has given me strength and calm. Long may it last as I take baby steps forward at the beginning of Day 4.

    • Way to go on day 18! I’m a great fan of the counter and post my day count on the regular. In the start it really helped me a lot, and now I’m stoked to be hitting some big numbers. Post what you want when you want, this is a great place for sharing and caring 🙂

    • Nice work Happymoods. I think it’s a great idea to post daily, it helps to keep the focus. Also we like to hear from you and it gives us an opportunity to say nice things!!! Have a lovely day!

  • Day 17
    Lots of crazy thoughts but not alcohol based. I have a cold, nothing major. Banged my head on a cupboard door, think I’ll survive… good night from England.

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Thanks for these replies. I have thought about what you said @tom4500. I think you’re right in getting it out in the open and telling my sister well in advance that if I do go then I’m going as a non alcohol drinker and that’s that. This way I’ve set my goal and can enjoy the holiday.

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Hi @malibustacey. It’s basically this guy called Wim Hof who I discovered on a Russell Brand podcast. He has his own technique which is made up of three parts, breathing, meditation and cold water exposure. I’m finding it all really interesting, especially the breathing exercises and cold water as they are relatively new for me. The cold water is anti inflammatory and helps us to moderate our immune systems, very useful as I have psoriasis and it’s improved so much since I started, being sober helps too. He’s an interesting and enthusiastic Dutchman, worth a look. I add icy water from the freezer into an already cold bath and stay in for up to 10 minutes. This weekend I’m going wild water swimming with a friend, we’re in the north of England so it should be cold.

  • Day 16
    So I’m working on finding the balance between being kind to myself and being disciplined at the same time. During cold water exposure my self talk is forced into a calming and counselling tone, the aim is to transfer this skill to less extreme conditions. Well done to the long time sober people, the newly sober people and all those in between. Respectfully yours, happymoods.

    • Day 16 and lots of mindful self-reflection going on there. Way to go!
      oxxoxxo
      In my experience, we humans tend to be really critical of ourselves and have an inner taskmaster….chances are being kind to yourself is that one area that suffers. We can’t be too kind or too self-compassionate. oxoxoxox

    • Hi @happymoods. What’s your cold water exposure routine like?

    • Hi @malibustacey. It’s basically this guy called Wim Hof who I discovered on a Russell Brand podcast. He has his own technique which is made up of three parts, breathing, meditation and cold water exposure. I’m finding it all really interesting, especially the breathing exercises and cold water as they are relatively new for me. The cold water is anti inflammatory and helps us to moderate our immune systems, very useful as I have psoriasis and it’s improved so much since I started, being sober helps too. He’s an interesting and enthusiastic Dutchman, worth a look. I add icy water from the freezer into an already cold bath and stay in for up to 10 minutes. This weekend I’m going wild water swimming with a friend, we’re in the north of England so it should be cold.

  • Day 15
    Really feel like I’m hitting new ground now. Still wary of dangerous whispers but feel safe I’ll get another day of wild sobriety under my belt. Let’s not get ahead of ourselves ✌🏼

  • happymoods posted an update 2 weeks ago

    Day 14
    My sister lives in NZ, I’ve visited with family and travelled there solo before that. I loved it, even if the first time I brought some drunken messy behaviour with me, sorry about that Kiwis.

    When I wasn’t losing the plot I was able to have some good experiences.

    Last year sis came to England and we holidayed as a family, nephew and niece included, in Ibiza… the family friendly resort, not the crazy clubbers part. Anyway, I was five weeks sober at the start of that holiday but the night we arrived I decided to join the rest of the family and hotel guests and have a drink. Because drinking was a steady constant during the 10 days we were there, it was difficult to identify myself as a ‘problem’ drinker, since it seemed the majority of hotel guests were knocking them back from morning until night.

    After long days of uncle to duties to two very lovely but very demanding children, I found myself ordering a few glasses of red at the end of the night to enjoy in peace and quiet on the balcony. It was ok, but part of me was annoyed for having lost my five weeks and the serenity and new sense of self I was beginning to experience before that first drink.

    Within the context of the holiday, it seemed I was able to drink without the obsession, but once home and living alone as I do, and alcohol not being one of the main themes of everyday life, I soon began the old and tiring habit of trying to control my drinking.

    In hindsight, and even during the holiday, I’m confident I could have had an equally, if not far better holiday, without consuming any alcohol.

    I’ve recently been asked if I want to do a similar holiday this year and my immediate reaction was NO! Because I just want to look after my sobriety, but something is telling me I could do it. Sober in the sunshine without dehydrating alcohol shrivelling up my brain. No hangovers, no remorse believing it would’ve been better sober. Surely it should be an ebullient YES!

    To summarise, it…[Read more]

    • I think you could do it too, but perhaps let your sister know in advance that you’ve stopped drinking. Consider letting that issue be resolved before you even go….unless of course, your sister doesn’t drink. Then it isn’t even an issue. It’s a wonderful invitation. Just because you screwed up last year, doesn’t mean you have to this year. Now, if you decide to go, don’t mess it up again or I’m going to feel bad about typing this. Also, congrats on the two weeks! Well done.

      • I would say, listen to your heart 🙂 I think it knows if you are ready to do this or if you still need some time.

    • Thanks for these replies. I have thought about what you said @tom4500. I think you’re right in getting it out in the open and telling my sister well in advance that if I do go then I’m going as a non alcohol drinker and that’s that. This way I’ve set my goal and can enjoy the holiday.

  • Day 13
    Yesterday was tough, but here I am, hoping today will be different, or at least the way I react will be different if I’m faced with difficult feelings. I’ve got this, thanks all.

    • I can sense your determination. You’ve got it alright. And it’s so worth it.

    • Two weeks tomorrow, very nice. It does get easier, but it’s a gradual thing. Some things just need to be done though, whether they’re tough or they’re easy.

    • Seni replied 2 weeks ago

      You are doing great @happymoods, with all those ups and downs you don’t loose your aim. You are getting more and more control about your life, walking over sticks and stones sometimes, as we say here. The training makes it easier with every day, week, month. Stay careful and optimistic! 🙂

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Thanks you all. I’m furthering my research with Tara Brach @mari135 xoxo

  • Why am I so sensitive? The ego takes a hit and my thinking goes stinking… then I chirped up after some warmer encounters with the human race… gotta take the rough with the smooth just to throw out another cliche… apt for my day though 😌

    • Sensitive or taking it personally often things are more about the other person

    • Sigh. I’m the same Happymoods. It does help to be aware of what’s going on, that stops me from buying into my feelings too much. Eager to please to a fault. I do find with sobriety that the dips aren’t as dippy and the highs aren’t as fragile, so that’s progress. Worth it!

    • Try and tend to that sensitivity like you would to a child in distress. It’s a good thing to be sensitive. A superpower really, and our world could need more sensitive and compassionate people like you. xoxox Easier said than done of course…it can be exhausting to feel so much. Just know you’re not alone, others feel it too. Since the beginning of humanity. Tara Brach is a psychologist and Buddhism teacher and she had a talk a week or so ago about this. About how this is not just “me” but “others, too”. It helps me sometimes to think there are others out there who go up and down with the flow of the feelings-waves.

      I am reading “The nice girl syndrome” right now, which helped a bit understanding why I care so much about what others think (of me, for example) and to learn how to let go of that a wee bit more.

      There is nothing wrong with you.
      It’s ok to be sensitive.

      oxoxoxoxox

    • Thanks you all. I’m furthering my research with Tara Brach @mari135 xoxo

  • Day 12
    Feeling lovely even though the weather isn’t particularly special this morning in England. I had guests stay over last night so it’s good to feel bright and in tact for dealing with them. I have a more helpful vibe now I’m waking up sober. Amazing support, all the best for the day or night wherever you are in the world.

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    I would have to say initially it was the pressure from family and I guess also personally just not wanting to miss out on life. I suppose curiosity was partly the reason to try drugs but also partly the reason to get off them. Now I’m super curious to know what it feels like to be sober as well.

  • Day 11
    Easy does it. I’m now in my late thirties and it’s been 7 years since I stopped taking drugs on a regular basis. I started young and spent my twenties on and off sociably unacceptable drugs. Just before I turned 30 I quit and fortunately I’ve stuck to it, a handful of relapses in the last 7 years have confirmed how much I prefer my clean living lifestyle to that of the days of active addiction. Perhaps I am naive, because I kind of was hoping I’d at least still be able to drink… so for the last few years I’ve been repeating the same cycle of trying and failing to drink successfully until it’s become an all consuming obsession and a losing battle. Life is still going to be difficult and challenging but I’m working on being humble and grateful enough to take enjoyment from the the many joyous gifts life has to offer.

    • Good for you @happymoods. It takes time, living and courage to get to where you are. I admire you for recognizing that addiction is addiction. You’ve quit one, now you’re booting the other out of your life. Day 11 will be day 12, then 13 then a full 2 weeks! You’re on your way and while it’s true that life will still be difficult and challenging at times, you’re strong and smart and can take it on sober and with grace. Good luck my friend. You’re best years are yet to come.

    • You are giving yourself the best gift @happymoods. I have found that sobriety from alcohol has given me so much clarity and peace in my life. Glad you are here and you are absolutely right. Taking the joy from what life has to offer is the ticket. xo

    • Day 11 and what a powerful post!!!! Thanks for sharing this!
      oxox
      You got this.

    • I like that – easy does it. Sounds like you have done the same “moderation” experiment as many of us. Personally I know it’s not possible for me to moderate, and finally I am aaaaall good with that! So good in fact. So much better that I spent a lot of time wishing I had done this earlier. I miss absolutely nothing from my drinking days, life is better in every way sober. Congrats on day 11! Keep in touch, we’re here for you.

    • Mmmm the craziness of our culture, separating alcohol from drugs. Unfortunately, one in the same, but you know how to get free! What helped the most with stopping ‘socially unacceptable’ ones?

      • I would have to say initially it was the pressure from family and I guess also personally just not wanting to miss out on life. I suppose curiosity was partly the reason to try drugs but also partly the reason to get off them. Now I’m super curious to know what it feels like to be sober as well.

    • Well done on 11 days and I love the easy does it.

  • Day 10
    I’m looking forward to my Mrs D books, within has arrived already but I’ll wait for without so I can read them in order, not sure it matters but hey. Today’s been busy, I had a splitting headache in the afternoon which vanished when I took a cold bath (people think I’m crazy with my cold baths but I have a personal best thing going on and there’s loads of health benefits, research before trying if you are interested), so then I chilled, literally, the rest of the day and I’m now feeling secure another day of sobriety has been accomplished. I have no plans to drink either, which shows I’m changing old behaviours and thinking habits. I’ve noticed some frustration emotionally today around family and self but fortunately it passed, OMG again! Stone cold sober 🚿😊

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    This is very inspiring, thank you for the support. My passion to remain sober has been doubled by this insightful and seasoned response.

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Thank you @daveh. I really love and feel relief knowing that I can observe the thoughts as lies and call them out, each and every one. I feel more capable of doing this than in previous attempts, I don’t know why, I’ve just had enough I guess. Reaching out to LS shows me I must remember why I stopped in the first place. Like you say, the lies are real, loud and persuasive, but still lies. So true. So helpful. I’m so thankful I’ve found this.

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Staying strong 💪 thank you all. I love the visualisation technique.

  • Day 9
    From my experience it’s around this many days that I start to plan my next drink, it begins with little tempting thoughts which soon turn into obsessing over the idea, then around the 2 week mark I’ve usually relapsed. I’m glad to be at this point now, because I’m practicing and noticing much quicker how dangerous such ideas can be if entertained for too long. ‘You can’t avoid temptation but you can resist it’, I once heard someone say, it makes sense. My resolve is strengthening so any negative triggers or self negating habitual thought processes will hopefully weaken and lose their power and I can continue on this journey. I believe I can, especially with the help of everyone’s messages. To be honest I’m having a decent enough day, I’m just wary given the history.

    • Stay strong you know the pitfalls.forwarned is forarmed 💪

    • Think about how fantastic you will feel when you get past this point. You can do this!

    • Yes, it is dangerous to entertain such thoughts for too long. I was food shopping the other day and there was a big display of Smirnoff near the bread and egg section 😳🤔 (I live in Europe.🙂) I am not a vodka drinker really, more of a red wine kinda gal, but I was tempted for a moment. Then, for some wierd reason, I envisioned a giant American football player tackling me into the shelves (Ally McBeal style) while he growled, “don’t even think about it!” Maybe you can visualize something similar when confronted with thoughts of drinking.

    • Staying strong 💪 thank you all. I love the visualisation technique.

    • Hi @Happymoods Thank you for this wonderful post. What you demonstrate here is something that is so easily overlooked in the wake of a relapse. When we set out with the intention to not drink but then fall short and drink again we feel an overwhelming sense of failure. We feel that all that society says about alcoholics is true of us, that we are useless, can’t be helped, will never amount to anything, we are weak, exercise poor control over ourselves etc, etc. But what society doesn’t recognise is the extent to which we are held captive by our own minds; their experience of wanting a drink is COMPLETELY different to ours. They have yearnings to drink that are incredibly mild in comparison to the power of our cravings. They do not obsess about having a drink every moment of their waking day. They receive mental messages that say “time to stop drinking now”. They are mentally warned off drinking because sometimes it is not a good idea. They have counter-balancing arguments in their head that say drinking is good, but also that drinking is bad. So when they say “you should just drink less” it shows their complete misunderstanding of the issue. Choosing to drink less, to not take the next drink, or to stop for a spell is an easy thing for them to do, but it is not for us. They can take it or leave it and they have a free and balanced judgement in exercising that choice. Their minds do not scream at them demanding they drink. They judge us from their own experience, not from our reality. They are wrong, but that doesn’t stop what they say hurting us, and that hurt is enormous. The sense of shame we get from relapse is completely crushing, and can be enough to drive us even further into drinking to bury our self-loathing. But what you say here shows the very opposite is true if we will learn from it; that relapse isn’t actually failure it is progress. It wasn’t the outcome we sought, but it makes us better able to overcome our addiction in the long term. Your p…[Read more]

    • Thank you @daveh. I really love and feel relief knowing that I can observe the thoughts as lies and call them out, each and every one. I feel more capable of doing this than in previous attempts, I don’t know why, I’ve just had enough I guess. Reaching out to LS shows me I must remember why I stopped in the first place. Like you say, the lies are real, loud and persuasive, but still lies. So true. So helpful. I’m so thankful I’ve found this.

    • Yip, familiar with the whisperings of complacency… don’t listen… you are stronger, each time we try we learn and strengthen our strategies from the time before… this time it sounds like you have identified the thought, now you can over-ride it… Sober is better, yes you may be tempted… it is ok to miss something and not want it back. When those rogue thoughts pop up I ask myself … Why would I want a drink anyway, when sober is soo much better… and time and time again I come back to the conclusion that I don’t actually want that drink, my brain is just so used to thinking it wants a drink… you’ve got this. Shine bright sober star!

    • This is very inspiring, thank you for the support. My passion to remain sober has been doubled by this insightful and seasoned response.

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Wow! Well done for having the confidence to embark on a new job without alcohol. As we keep going through these life events I’m hoping and expecting it will become second nature to deal, without immediately thinking of the alcoholic escape route. Emotions flowing naturally is a beautiful goal.

  • Eventful day, far more challenges than had planned, like meeting friends for coffee, invited back for tea and then the alcohol came out… I’m pleased to post that I said no thanks to the booze and enjoyed a refreshing ginger ale instead. Feeling pretty tired from all the socialising but great to know I can say no and still relax and enjoy people’s company, sober.

  • Day 8
    I relate to people saying they feel tired in the mornings but fortunately I am sleeping well, maybe it’s my body and mind catching up with feelings I’ve been numbing with drink. The thought of drinking today is something I couldn’t be bothered even thinking about, all the should I shouldn’t I and the hard slog of moderation just aren’t appealing to me. The reality is that each day we face challenges, I don’t want to get bogged down by them but deal, maintain and feel the struggle. Before I know it, perceived problems have been swept aside and strength has been gained from the experience.

    • Day 8 and an amazing post full of gold!
      I want to get better at what you described regarding dealing with challenges. I used to just freeze and run (flight) and then drink. It’s hard to sit with it and feel it all…but it’s also the only way to digest and let emotions flow in a healthy way. Your post gave me a lot to think about this morning, especially since I start new job responsibilities this summer… Thanks for sharing this!!!
      oxoxo

    • Wow! Well done for having the confidence to embark on a new job without alcohol. As we keep going through these life events I’m hoping and expecting it will become second nature to deal, without immediately thinking of the alcoholic escape route. Emotions flowing naturally is a beautiful goal.

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    I do enjoy classic fm after all. Haha! Thanks guys, I’ll definitely be kinder to myself from now on 😊

  • Day 7
    Thanks for all the support. I’ve been for coffee with a friend, he’s also sober and we had some laugh out loud moments amongst the deeper stuff. Early days, changing some other habits along with my no drinking, like listening to classic fm while I eat my tea. Easy does it. Funny how I find myself quoting a lot of AA quotes on here because when I attend meetings I struggle a little bit. Basically because whenever people are certain of something, my silly little head reacts with disbelief, silly silly little head. I’m sober, I’m happy, classic fm can get too much but fortunately there are other channels.

    • Good job, a week of sobriety, laughter and happiness! Believe it, it’s great and it’s true 🙂

    • Be kind to yourself @happymoods. I don’t think you have a silly head. I think you are doing the best you can knowing what you know. What else can one do?? Yay you are sober and have found a helpful strategy with Classic fm 😉. Great work!!!

    • I do enjoy classic fm after all. Haha! Thanks guys, I’ll definitely be kinder to myself from now on 😊

  • Day 6 woohoo! Took me a while to get to sleep last night, stuffing my face then being on my phone for an hour in bed probably didn’t help but I’ve woken feeling alright. Did my breathing exercises then a cold bath for 3 mins and now I feel right on.

  • I feel great! Enjoying the company of my cats who sit soberly by my side with a serenity I admire. When I’m hungover and feeling sorry for myself it’s more envy, but today it’s appreciation

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    5 days and I’m already replacing the depression and anxiety with feel good emotions. I hope I can keep it going because my relapses always end in the same regret and misery. I can only look after today, so far so good.

  • The two times times during the day which I’m the most undisputedly grateful for being sober are the beginning (waking up to until approx 1), and the evenings (from approx 9 to when I fall asleep). The middle parts can become quite turbulent.

    • @happymoods I agree morning is wonderful. I have trouble sleeping though. I think I used the drinks to get me tired ( passed out really) so consider yourself lucky if you can sleep !

    • This is gold….and I think everyone can benefit from you sharing this observation. Because it shows yet again that everything is temporary, including these feelings/craving waves. Wine-o-clock is a trigger for so many of us.
      oxoxoxo I too love the early morning sobriety and crawling into bed, putting my head on that pillow sober.

    • Looking forward to climbing into bed sober was a big motivator for me. Sober sleep and hangover free mornings are the best!

    • 5 days and I’m already replacing the depression and anxiety with feel good emotions. I hope I can keep it going because my relapses always end in the same regret and misery. I can only look after today, so far so good.

    • Hey @happy moods as you learn to manage more stuff in your life for real, and without the “assistance” of alcohol those 2 time periods will join up. Not saying that sobriety equals day long ecstasy, but you will get better at feeling and managing that feeling. Also- your body is still going through some chemical hoops as it gets used to life without alcohol and some turbulent feelings come with that. You are doing so well, keep going!!!

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    Thank you for the warm welcome

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