• Evening all, had a good day, and looking forward to putting my feet up and watch a movie. 🤗

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    You can’t mix the two . There is also a movie called ONE LITTLE PILL !! That might shed some more light on the matter.

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Hi guys, I’ve read lots about this treatment, THE SINCLAIR METHOD! It’s a strange thing, I know to do this I should drink one hour after Naltrexone, but I just don’t want to. But I have a sip and I’m done . Like Pavlov’s dogs experiments. The goal is to create behaviour extinction. And get the control back.

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    It’s really amazing, the voices in your head just stop. No compulsions . The treatment centre in Christchurch says that it should be used a lot more.

    • Hi @happyguy – I’ve been offered this and I’m keen to know what side effects you’ve experienced if any ? Does it take a while to kick in? I’ve googled Naltrexone but get mixed write ups on it …..?? I’ve listened to the TED talk you mention and it seems quite effective …..hhmmm 🤔

  • Hi all.

    I have been trying something new to me called Naltrexone, if you have not heard of it I am not surprised. Google Naltrexone or Claudia Christian Ted Talk. This could be a great help to dealing with cravings.

    Happy Sober day All 😊

    • that is great, @happyguy, is it working?

      • It’s really amazing, the voices in your head just stop. No compulsions . The treatment centre in Christchurch says that it should be used a lot more.

        • Hi @happyguy – I’ve been offered this and I’m keen to know what side effects you’ve experienced if any ? Does it take a while to kick in? I’ve googled Naltrexone but get mixed write ups on it …..?? I’ve listened to the TED talk you mention and it seems quite effective …..hhmmm 🤔

    • Whatever works for ya seems like a smart idea to me, @Happyguy. (Are you drinking on it?)

      • This is a good question… “Are you drinking on it?” I have tried to add a reply to Happyguy’s question, but for some reason I can’t post it at all.

    • Hi @Happyguy Naltrexone is an extremely interesting medication and one that I suspect will become central to most supervised recovery programmes. What I find most interesting is not its use for reducing cravings, that’s not what it was developed to do, but how it can be used to re-train the reward system.

      All of what follows is my personal observations and opinions. I am an inquisitive recovered alcoholic, not a medical professional.

      When we take our first drink of a session we get a huge “aaahhh!”, a sense of ease and comfort washes through us. It isn’t alcohol that does this… it can’t possibly be as we get this sensation IMMEDIATELY on taking the drink. This is minutes before alcohol actually gets transported to the stomach, absorbed into the bloodstream, passes through the liver, then through the heart before finally getting to the brain. That wave of relaxation and relief is caused by a big burst of a chemical “dopamine” that is released in the brain at the instruction of the “reward system”, and it happens completely automatically.

      It is the reward system that induced the craving that lead to us seeking that drink, and it is the reward system that causes the dopamine to be released. But this dopamine does more than just give us that feeling of relief; it also modifies the reward system. The craving begins in response to us being in circumstances that have previously yielded alcohol… a drinking “trigger”, and that particular trigger is modified dependant on whether or not it is successful in delivering alcohol again. If the trigger was successful, we had a drink, then the trigger is made more important (the intensity of the next craving it launches is increased). If there was no alcohol forthcoming from the trigger’s craving then the importance of the trigger is reduced (then next craving from that trigger will be smaller). The reward system uses the dopamine release to detect if the trigger was successful, and this is where naltrexone is so cle…[Read more]

      • Hi guys, I’ve read lots about this treatment, THE SINCLAIR METHOD! It’s a strange thing, I know to do this I should drink one hour after Naltrexone, but I just don’t want to. But I have a sip and I’m done . Like Pavlov’s dogs experiments. The goal is to create behaviour extinction. And get the control back.

      • Heh, makes me recall a time when I haphazardly went to a counselor once, well I did. I think she wanted me to stop drinking more than I did. She suggested I take Naltrexone because when I drank on it, I wouldn’t feel any pleasure from drinking. I thought she was nuts. I mean, so what’s the use in taking it?? Aha.

        • HI @malibustacey It wouldn’t have worked for you. It will only help people that actually want to stop. If you don’t then at the end of the medication period you will simply carry on drinking again and bring the triggers right back to where they were.

        • You can’t mix the two . There is also a movie called ONE LITTLE PILL !! That might shed some more light on the matter.

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Could not agree more. I can’t believe it, that throwing up used to be almost normal! Well at least for me . Have an awesome day!

  • Morning all, up early, sober but feeling a bit out of sorts . Think my body is still getting to grips with no alcohol. NO PAIN NO GAIN !! Right !! lol

  • Morning all, great to be sober today. I’ll go swimming again tonight. Any other recommend activities to stave off the boredom. Especially for the weekend.

    • walking, bathing, eating, cooking, walking around stress and looking at all the different af drinks, watching tv, working, @happyguy. glad you are sober today, it is a great day to be sober. enjoy.

    • Getting a massage , going to see a movie , museum , art gallery , restaurant for lunch , reading , hot baths , eating chocolate , yoga , writing and sleeping and being proud of yourself . xx

  • Happyguy posted an update 2 months ago

    Morning all

  • Well day three, I’ve had some drinking thoughts this evening, but now I’ve finished my dinner and I’m about to go for a swim! Sober today. How are you doing?

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Very good comment, he gives a glimpse of Hope. 😊

  • Good morning, day 2. I will be a sober person today. I’ve had enough of feeling like shit.

  • Hi guys, I know it’s been a while, I’ve had a horrible weekend of boozing and I want to stop this shit .

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    The most successful people in the world fail heaps, but they just keep getting back up and try again.

    I will be sober today!!

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    Welcome

  • Day 14,
    It’s Father’s Day here in New Zealand, and I’ve had a great morning with my daughter, I am so happy when she is here.

    Happy Sober Fathers Day all !!!

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    Brilliant, !! It’s good to have a partner in crime

  • Good morning all!
    I thought that I was on day 9 but I’m actually on day 10 !!!

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    Good stuff Tim

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    That’s awesome! Great achievement!

  • Morning and day8 is here.
    I slept for 10 hours last night, I was just exhausted.
    Off to a meeting tonight and I will not drink today.
    HAPPY AF DAY EVERYONE

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    Welcome @em13recovery ,

  • Day 7 .
    I’m looking forward too a nice lunch with friends and eating good food. Then a bike ride this afternoon. I will be sober today and I will keep any signs of complacency in check.
    Hope everyone has the best AF day.

  • Day 6 !
    It’s early morning here, but I’ve had a great night sleep, which is an amazing feeling because I used to struggle so much with it, that self medicating and passing out was my remedy to insomnia. As it turns out my insomnia was pretty much caused by my drinking!! Hindsight is a great thing. Headspace, mindfulness, hypnosis or any other method – given some time will definitely change how we sleep and gain some control back into our hands.

    Have wonderful AF sober day.

    • You too @happyguy 🙂

    • Day 6. Well done. That first week is almost done.
      Sleep will continue to get better for you the further into this journey you go. Your liver will continue to detox and as your body gets cleaner and healthier, you sleep (and all aspects of your life actually) will improve.
      The best part about sober sleep (for me anyway) is the not waking at 3am, dehydrated and full of self loathing and regret. Four years down this path, if I wake in the night, I’m still happy and proud that I’m waking for some entirely ‘normal’ reason.
      This is a one day and one sleep at a time journey. You’ve got good days and bad days coming. Hold on to this group. This is where you will be supported, loved and encouraged. We’ve got you. You’ve got this.

    • Up early too @happyguy So good to log in here and see you are feeling so much better than 6 days ago. Really awesome!

    • Great work, waking up after a great sleep feels SO GOOD!

    • Going well
      Keep trucking bro

    • HI @sobere If you can find the time, write down what Day 1 feels like. Pretty soon your mind will hide that from you and drinking will seems like a perfectly reasonable option again. Write down how it was emotionally. What was it like to be you? Address it to yourself and keep it handy. Read it regularly over the next month or so.

    • HI @Happyguy Sleep came back to you quite quickly, and that’s good news. It shows that your brain is starting to adjust to no longer sitting in a puddle of alcohol and having to fend that off. Keep doing whatever’s working!

    • Yay day 6! Well done @happyguy. Was thinking of you 🙂

  • Day 5 ,

    Busy day, but I have daughter today. She makes me

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    Very good!!
    How did we do it Drunk ?
    That’s right, we didn’t do it very well at all.

  • Hi all, day 4 and all is well. Did 2 x AA meetings yesterday. And more to follow. I will not drink today.

  • Day 3. I went to a meeting last night with a lovely bunch of people. Was made to feel very welcome. I will be sober today and another meeting tonight. Have a great sober day everyone.

  • Well here we go again. Day 2

    I feel really shity and need to find a way through..,,,

    • Welcome back @happyguy. Hang in there, you can do this.

    • Only way through is to get through @Happyguy. Just powerfully know that this is what you want and NOTHNG is going to come along and mess it up. Decide! Takes all the angst out of it, no moe will I or won’t I. Not negotiable. R3each out here and tell people how you are feeling, it helps to write about it, especially when the going is tough. Keep visualising the guy you want to be, see him laughing and talking and being respected and listened too and loved by others xoxo

    • Just step off the misery step happyguy I didn’t um and aah about becoming a non drinker. I knew if I didn’t stop, I would never know what true living is like. You can do this!!

    • Hi @Happyguy You might have a look at “Understanding and learning from relapse” by Stan West. It’s full of practical advice on getting over relapse and getting on with getting well. There’s a free download of the book here: https://lyingminds.sixboats.co.nz/understanding-and-learning-from-relapse/

  • Day 2, feeling pretty rotten, head is really foggy. My weekend was pretty horrendous and ended up with a full blown binge, day off yesterday, this has to stop.

    • Sorry you are feeling so badly. Okay. Day 2 and you want this to stop. Can you add some more support to help? Evaluate what happened and go on to day 3. Sending a big ChardaNO hug.

    • Hi there @happyguy glad to see you back. Well done on day 2, you can do this. I am back to day 10, fell off the wagon at day 40ish and yeah horrible feeling, but you just got to get back up and try again. Check in here often and stay strong.

    • Hi @happyguy, drink lots of water or tea and send yourself to bed as early as possible! Then you’ll be on day 3 – so just need to string those days together one at a time. It’s great to check in here each day, read through the sober stories. If you’re a reader then there;s a whole genre of sobriety books. They have helped me get back on track and remember the pain and emotional shit fight that my life was like when I was drinking like a good solid pisshead.
      Be kind to yourself xx

    • Now is a really good time to stop and think through how you’re going to do it differently this time. What do you do to avoid diving into the same hole again?

    • Are you sick and tired yet of feeling sick and tired? It’s completely up to you to decide. But do it for you, not someone else. Glad you’re back here!

      • @Happyguy I think it’s time to take a check in with yourself. Have u asked yourself why you drink? Get more support go to meetings if that is your thing. You need to get out of that dark place we will never win this battle if we keep picking up we will forever be miserable it’s not living. My last thought when I decided to stop is if this disease doesnt kill me it will kill someone else. Something to remember. Please I can’t stress anymore just dont pick up that first drink it’s all it takes. Grab a soda next time u wanna drink just dont pick up that first drink.

    • @Happyguy – I agree with what’s already been posted. I still have vivid memories of that first few days and I understand that rotten, shitty, crapstorm of horribleness. But, you need to have a good hard look at what happened leading up to you drinking so you can learn for the future. Please keep posting, you are not alone in this and it is possible to get sober. Hugs xo

    • Hi happy guy,write a list down now,of everything you hate about drinking,all it’s negatives,all it’s pitfalls and how it makes you feel,then every time you are tempted to drink go back and read that list.As time goes by we forget just how crap alcahol is.Dont be fooled,remind yourself.Dont beat yourself up,brush yourself off and be strong.

  • Morning all, I went to the gym last night, first time in months. Lots of people and amazing energy. Beats being at home boozed up any day. Another sober day ahead, keep up the good fight. Happy Sober Day everyone.

    • Congrats on the gym and sober days. Have another good one.

    • Amazing what we are capable of without the poison, eh? Have a great day!

    • Nice work @happyguy, can’t beat those endorphins! 🙂

    • Well done on putting the gym into your routine, it should really help. You get three advantages from this; you will have endorphin running through you after your session which will make you feel better in yourself for a few hours, you are doing something you know is good for your health instead of something toxic and this too will help, but crucially for these early days you are filling time purposefully that you would otherwise be sitting and struggling through. You’re doing great. Keep doing whatever’s working.

    • Like the image of people and amazing energy at the gym. Nice. Happy Sober Day back at you.

  • Does anyone know about Naltrexone? Any insights?

    • I took it for a little while @Happyguy. It DOES work to stop you from wanting to finish a drink. It’s really inexpensive and been around for quite awhile. It doesn’t stop the body from becoming drunk. And it doesn’t prevent withdrawal. For me, I was really happy at first because I could drink normally. Just 1/2 a glass. Then it pissed me off because I couldn’t feel the buzz. At that point my bloodwork came back and my liver enzymes were 5x higher than just drinking. Naltrexone can raise the liver enzymes. My dr said I was at risk for acute liver failure. That scared me enough that I decided to just quit drinking without meds. This experiment was helpful in that I could actually feel how “normies” drink. They just don’t want to. It convinced me I can’t drink or moderate. So I quit without meds and am in such a better place physically and mentally. I’m not for or against Naltrexone. It’s a tool.

    • I have a prescription, but I have not taken it yet. I have read a LOT about it, and it took a while to talk my Dr. into prescribing it. The best way to get it to be truly effective is to take it before drinking, and continue to take it on the nights you drink, so it diminishes your desire to drink,. I have not started it yet because I don’t WANT to drink to get it to work. I have a friend who quit drinking completely after taking it for a while, and she swears by it.

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 11 months, 4 weeks ago

    Great effort, keep up the sober work.

  • Happyguy posted an update 12 months ago

    Day 2, a good night sleep and I’ll get up and get into the day. I wil be sober today.

  • Happyguy posted an update 12 months ago

    Day 1 . This sucks!! Why oh why do I do this.? I feel terrible.

  • Happyguy posted an update 12 months ago

    Well day13/, felt a bit flat yesterday so had an early night. My evening schedule is terrible, in that I don’t have one. I finish work at 4:30 and when I arrive home it’s just empty and so am I. I have written plans , go to the gym, go for a walk etc. but it seems to slip very easily. The weekend is worse, I drop my daughter off at 12. And my mood and thoughts change very suddenly. What a mess !!

    • Day 13 is great. I know how time can stretch out ahead of you when you,re used to drinking for entertainment and relaxation. Making plans and carrying them out to pass that time is really helpful. You may not always WANT to carry those plans out, but if you just get started it usually falls into place. Sending you best wishes.

    • @happyguy – congrats on 13 days!!!! I know it may not seem like it now, but you are making huge progress!!!! Every day that you don’t poison your body, you are getting stronger. I am so proud of you!! I know it seems hard now, but I promise it will get so much easier. Stay close to us, we are the best group around for when you’re feeling alone and flat! xoxox

    • Oh, the void of empty evenings, I feel for you @happyguy. I used to really struggle from the afternoon on, and weekends are still a challenge at times. I gather you live by yourself? I wouldn’t have said it’s a mess. It sounds very painful. Maybe partly the shift is learning how to be in our own company. But maybe partly there’s grief/pain that needs our attention.. Maybe we just need more company.
      For me, I do a certain amount of gentle chivvying of the self to do some things, like you would a small child. As many early nights as needed. I have an animal buddy – huge difference there. Lots of Netflix/books/etc. Sometimes I have work or work-related groups in the evenings. Volunteering is a good way to feel some meaning and purpose. Thing is, I think you know this stuff. Have you considered supporting yourself by seeing someone to talk to? A single person or a group if that works better. xx

    • Well done for having a plan/plans. Those who do are far more likely to succeed.
      Exercise is great in every sense. Do you feel a bit better at the gym – like, not just the endorphins, but being around people? Long sauna afterwards possible?
      @Tim, what did you do in the evenings – I guess trying to resist your boozy druggie flatmates gave you a purpose! then finding somewhere else to live

    • Unoccupied time alone is our enemy… It leaves vacant brain space for all the difficult ideas to go storming around in; “I can probably have just one”,”perhaps I’m cured”, “just one won’t hurt”, “forever!” Etc. if you can find something for those times it will really help, so keep looking for something that actually interest you enough to go and do it. Is there some sort of project you’d thought about but never got around to doing? Is there some new skill/craft/ability you’ve wanted to learn for a while? Is there some sort of voluntary work or a cause you’ve got an interest in? You’re going great and thinking about what you’re doing. Keep going.

    • I can relate @happyguy but you are doing so well, nearly at the 2 week mark which is significant! My “go to” to fill those empty / lonely times is usually overeating which I don’t recommend, lol! I think the gym / walk is a good idea, in the early days I was dog sitting so luckly enough to be able to walk him daily whilst listening to podcasts (can be on sobriety or anything else you find interesting, apparently Joe Rogan’s one is good?). Perhaps challenge yourself to walk up Rapaki after dropping your daughter off? I’m free to catch up for a coffee or a walk this week one this week if you are keen? Let me know and we can get Mrs D to connect us via email. 🙂

    • Hi Happyguy! Well done on 13 days! By the time you see this, it might be 2 weeks. Well done. This is hard stuff. Be easy on yourself. Very soon you will find little things to fill your time and then big things. Just focus on doing the next right thing. It might be sleep, or cleaning the window, or reading a book. You’re doing great.

  • Happyguy posted an update 12 months ago

    I feel like shit today, sore head and body. At least I’m sober today.

    • This is true! Feel better soon

    • Sorry to hear but you are right, at least you’re sober. Lots of self care and chicken soup x

    • I’ve had a sore head too but very happy to not have drunk alcohol for 7 days….very happy…hope you feel happy soon happyguy

  • Happyguy posted an update 1 year ago

    Day12, feeling great. Happy sober day everyone!!

  • Happyguy posted an update 1 year ago

    Day 10 !! Double figures. A small number with a huge significance. There’s a long journey ahead, but I’m ready . Yippee !!!

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    That’s brilliant, keep up the good work!!

  • Happyguy posted an update 1 year ago

    Day. 9 it’s bloody freezing here in Christchurch, but I’ll take the crisp cold morning air over a rotten hangover any day. Happy Day,

    • Lizzy replied 1 year ago

      Well done on day 9 @happyguy 🙂

    • Well done happyguy. Im still snuggled up in bed in freezing Kapiti Coast, so happy to wake up knowing I didnt drink last night and 14 days sober. These days are adding up. Keep going happyguy. One Day at a Time.

    • Ro replied 1 year ago

      Bit further down the line here- had fella cover car last night. It will be a cracker day here in the deep south if it’s frosty outside. Well done on Day 9 @happyguy keep that momentum going and have a plan ready for tonight 🙂

    • Happy day to you too @happyguy 🙂

    • Love crisp cold days as long as there is no bitterly cold wind.

    • Feeling fine on day nine! Nice job!!

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Now that is simply brilliant. !! Everyone needs to read this !!

  • Happyguy posted an update 1 year ago

    Day 8, I have my daughter later today, so today will be a very happy sober day. Keep believing in yourself, be the best version of yourself you can imagine and don’t drink.

  • Happyguy posted an update 1 year ago

    Evening all, I’ve had a good day . Bring on tomorrow!!!

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Well done Chris

  • Happyguy posted an update 1 year ago

    Day 7, early morning, can’t sleep, maybe just cold. But I’m good and I’m sober. Wicked !!!

  • Happyguy posted an update 1 year ago

    I’ve had a good day today, time for bed and a good book. I am sober today!

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Yeah congrats on your day 6

  • Happyguy posted an update 1 year ago

    Day 6, I slept really well last night, and I’ve been for a walk. So have a great sober day everyone.

  • Happyguy posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Great to hear that your giving it another go. I’m on day 5,
    Day 1 is still very strong in my memory, so I know what you’re going through. Be strong

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