After 25 years of Day Ones I was so fortunate to find Lotta's books when I was in the increasingly dark world of addiction. I really identified with Mrs D's story - I hid what I was doing from the world (but my husband knew without being told and he become my biggest supporter in working on my sobriety) I told myself it wasn't dangerous now I was older as I didn't take risks like drive drunk. But I was drinking heavily, often by myself after hubby had gone to bed. My stop button was totally dysfunctional.
I had numerous attempts of varying lengths of time to be sober.
When I had read and reread "Mrs D is going without" I somehow found the determination to free myself. It was really hard going, and I may well not have hung in there but I pretty much stumbled on this wonderful Living Sober site and the support I found kept me going! I am now updating my profile in July 2019 and I am over 2 years sober! I still visit LS most days so I don't forget what my life was like and I feel so grateful for what I have achieved.
Thanks for these words @Saoirse! They are so helpful for me after the sudden and totally unexpected death of a fit healthy friend in early 60s. He had a massive brain haemorrhage and was gone. A very special human being I feel privileged to have known him. Doesn’t make it easier for those left behind tho: “just reinforces every day is a blessing, life can change in an instant, be grateful for what you have, hold your loved ones close and let them know they are loved. Be happy and spread it around.❤️”
@mrs-d I know absolutely zilch about book publishing or writing but I am certain that if your publisher thinks you can, then you probably can. And if you can’t, well, there’s always an extension right? Either way, I am sure that you will either release something you are happy with or renegotiate your delivery date. You are in control of this x
@suzkep what other treats for yourself can you do before you go? Massage? Bubblebath? Sitting in the sun? Breathing? Relaxation session online? Colouring in? Anything that slows you down. And do those while you are away too. I find listening to meditation and relaxation things on the plane flight a great thing in the gap time between. Remember that we have your back and come here as often as possible!
Thank you @gojo it really is time to stop wallowing and get on with seeing people that I think probably care and like me – about 80% of us are a little bit sick so hopefully that will mean not too many demands on us all and we will just chill – that would be the best – and my phone will definitely be on roam lol
We were all sacred sh*@less when we started this journey, most of us still are but here you can be honest and everyone listens and understands, if you need help ask for it cos what comes back is based on the experience of people on the same journey, I’m over 200 days alcohol reduced (I cannot say AF) I now drink less in a month than I did in a week and I could not have done it without this site, I know cos I tried many times. Post lots @Floddie you are with friends.
@morgan having to reply here as no reply available under your question! Head sorting helped hugely by honesty about who I am and the resultant feeling of connection. You certainly deserve a 5 year reward and the shoes sound perfect. Still important to have treats even after 5 years! xx
@wakingowl and @dennyd I also think about keeping my house in order to save my kids! When my Mum died 4 of us spent a week clearing the old farmhouse she had lived in for more than 50 years. Literally truckloads of stuff had to be sorted and moved on to rubbish and opportunity shops as well as retaining some precious stuff for ourselves. The stuff of nightmares. And we all drank every evening so it wasn’t always pleasant being with each other! glad those days are gone.
Yep comfortable, stylish, gorgeous, professional but cool shoes are VERY important @morgan! Glad your day went well after all. Your kids are right – lucky escape! I had a lovely weekend thanks. Seem to be getting my head better sorted.
Hi @libby your story sounds similar to many of us here! Your Doctor is there to help you not to judge. The best thing is to be very honest about your drinking so that they can see what will help you on your journey towards being sober. It may be that rehab will be helpful for you. Or maybe medication to help prevent the cravings. Post here as often as you want – someone will be here to support you at almost any time. There are members from all around the world here.
So glad your head is getting sorted @Gojo – that is way, way more important than shoes, that is for sure. I feel a bit trivial and greedy deep down – perhaps I will call it my 5 year reward – August 22nd ish I think . What has been the most helpful with head sorting?
Good to hear that you are still on track with your day count @saoirse! Good that you have things to treasure that cheer you up. What will be will be with Mark but if you enjoy times with him while not caring too much sounds as though it will work in the meantime. No idea how bad his foot is but I do remember an ingrowing/infected toenail that didn’t look a big deal but was some of the worst pain I have endured! Hope the court stuff you mention is going ok?
@Jocord I feel that I am in the “presence” of a very special person when I read these words of yours. To live with ongoing challenges caring for your son in such a positive way says a great deal about who you are. And without thinking about drinking!! I have a niece with a totally disabled son who can do nothing for himself and I believe that people like her and you and @rise2015 are amazing!