Yipee. Dry July done. It certainly got easier in last couple weeks. Now going to do AF August! Wine witch noisy at times saying after dry July you can drink every now and then. I know where every now and then leads to… 3 times a week, 2 bottles wine, sometimes more. First hour to two fine then…. blackout, wake up feeling like head in vice, missing work, what did I say and Do, checking my phone, wasting a day in bed, guilt, regret, maybe driving to get more wine. so wine witch… there won’t be an every now and then… What’s the point when so much bullshit comes with it. Feeling bloody great at 33 days sober! Here I come AF August!
A work colleague said to me yesterday we should go to this bar sometime and play pool. In my head I went into a panic and thought I can’t cause I don’t drink. I didn’t know what to say so I said I’m shit at pool! Awlful how we immediately relate alcohol to a bar and socialising . Later I thought what’s wrong with a lime and soda and SOCIALISING!! Got to learn it’s about the socialising not the booze.
Don’t be too hard on yourself @ginny, because let’s be honest, the majority of people do go to the pub to drink alcohol, albeit they may have only one or two, but they’re still going for the booze along with socialising, food, music etc. It takes time to get your head around being sober in a place like the pub, you’ll get there in time. It’s ok to avoid places that may trigger you or make it more difficult to stay sober. I would suggest that it’s actually a good strategy. Challenge yourself when you’re ready, hope this helps xo
HI @ginny. I agree with @treehugger. I wouldn’t be in any hurry to do anything I wasn’t comfortable with. I still don’t drink my AF drinks from a wineglass – too much association there for me. And much as I love to shoot pool, I don’t think I’d want to pop into a pub on a Friday night and shoot a few games just yet. Take care of you first.
Day 14 so happy to be here! Feeling great besides the winter bugs going around. So glad I signed up for dry July cause I think I might of caved. Decided I’m going to do AF August, sober September. Couldn’t think of a name for October. Then none in November and dry December! Just a bit of fun making up silly names. I’m focusing on week by week but feel excited of setting a long term goal as well… it’s better saying im stopping forever. Then Muriel (wine witch) throws a right tanty. Keep up the great work peeps. Take care and be kind to yourself 😁
I hate Muriel! I suggest slamming her head in a drawer – my personal favorite. Hand in there. She loses steam after a little while and life gets calmer. Keep looking forward – that’s where you’re headed. Good luck.
I’ve known for a couple of years I had a problem with guzzling wine. I was making poor decisions, missing work and generally felt like shit. I’ve been back and forth here a few times cause wanted to try moderation…. What does that word mean?? Ha ha. Anyway I feel so much better sober!
Thats great you have a CADS assessment. I found counselling, along with this site, and books have really helped in my sobriety. Good on you for only having 2 ciders. Getting boozed after sad news just would have made the situation WAY WORSE and difficult to get through. Take care.
Yippee, finally made to double digits, day 10!! Haven’t been in double digits for ages. It certainly helps I have signed up for Dry July as I know I will not drink! Need to come up with a solid plan for the end of July. I don’t want to go back to my binge drinking – nothing buts regrets, shitty 2-3 day hangover, grumpy, tired, foggy head, sugar overload, poor decision making and the list goes on. The longest I have done sober is 4 months and I felt WONDERFUL! I have to remember this when the wine witch (Muriel) comes knocking at my door! For all the newbies here – I found journaling really helpful so I could look back and remind myself how good I felt! Thanks for reading 🙂
Good for you. Reevaluate when you get your dry July under your belt. You’ve done this before so you have a point of reference on how good it feels without alcohol in your life – and absolutely shitty it can be when it is. Make an informed decision. Speaking purely for myself – I don’t plan to go back. Life’s too good where I am now. Good luck!
Go Sam. It will get easier. Journaling helps. Write out pros and cons of drinking…. my pros is empty! Keep a journal how good u feel without the booze and go back to read. It will get easier and u will feel great without the poison.
I’ve signed up for dry July. I have been struggling to get to double digits for a while. Now I def will. There is NO WAY I would let family and friends down her sponsor me. I have successfully completed this before. Yah. Double digits here I come. Looking forward to a sober month and so on. 😁
Same, I signed up too, for same reasons – I know I won’t let friends and family down. Perfect. Plus it makes things easy because your explanation for not drinking is simply – I’m doing Dry July. Win-win. All the best @ginny