• I just got home from a second trip to town. I really like the feeling of getting in my car and going whenever I like. Usually I would have had a few beer in me by 4pm and going to town was not an option. Feels like freedom.

  • gilligan5323 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 10 hours ago

    The tracker is called Dailyo I believe. I will check for sure. It’s funny because I saw my psychologist today and she asked me to track my moods.

  • Good morning. All is good here and Spring is definitely on here on the East coast. Enjoying walking the trails again. They are still full of ice but can be managed if I am careful.

    I found a helpful tool. I downloaded a mood tracker. I am hoping to spot patterns in my moods/cravings. I think every bit of information can help. I am feeling…[Read more]

    • oxxooxxo Good morning!! Uhh I like that mood tracker!! You’re absolutely right, every bit of information can help. Sometimes when I feel low I am really just hungry or tired…those are two big ones. But I forget….and then feel all pissed off/sad/angry/scared/lonely…well one good meal and 8 hours of sleep….voila….all is well. I wish…[Read more]

    • Ahhh the joy of Mud Season! Right with you enjoying this budding spring.

    • Hey @Gilligan there’s a book titled- Alcohol in A Nutshell, that you can download for free, that describes how cravings are created and how to banish them for good. I just read it and found it incredibly helpful.

    • A mood tracker is such a great idea!!! I need to do that as well. Suggestions??

    • Oohh what’s the name of the mood tracker?!

    • The tracker is called Dailyo I believe. I will check for sure. It’s funny because I saw my psychologist today and she asked me to track my moods.

    • Sounding good, @gilligan5323. Quirky, why do you want to track your mood? And, there’s a generic app which tells you? Heh. Did I miss something here?

  • Another day. Thank you so much for the comments yesterday. It is really encouraging to have help with all of this. I am so fortunate in life. I think Inwill stop sweating the small stuff and just enjoy being.

    Went out for sushi Saturday night and had a blast. No booze involved by anyone. Had the parents over for turkey yesterday (Sun).…[Read more]

    • ❤️❤️

    • So oood to have fun without drugs 🙂 So hard to listen to those wrapped up in their ‘conditions’ without it though 🙁 🙁 But easier to be patient when straight. So sad to end up in that place…

  • gilligan5323 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 14 hours ago

    No I am n a good space. I am enjoying my new found freedom.

  • Can we discuss the counter? I haven’t changed mine because changing it indicates complete and utter failure to me since I began this journey in October. In October I called my principal and told him I had to go to rehab. It was a massive, huge, brave, positive undertaking for me that I do not regret to this day. On that very ill day in O…[Read more]

    • @Gilligan5232 I changed mine because if I didn’t I may feel like it’s not a big deal to drink, that I’ll just lose a day, when it is a tremendously big deal. I also feel like I have to be truly honest with myself. Denial kept me drinking and destroying my life for a very long time. The numbers keep me humble and if I were to just add up all of my…[Read more]

    • Nope, can’t discuss the counter. Oh hey, hey, hey just kidding. We discuss it all the time! I guess that since really, you’re the only one who can see your counter, it is yours to do what you want with. It is Living Sober’s gift to you, for being a member here. Different members HAVE approached that topic different ways, and you can too.…[Read more]

      • Your right @Tom4500 To each their own. The biggest thing is not to drink, the rest are just accessories. You say you have x amount of days AF or x amount of days since my last drink. I just prefer the later as I’d like it to be my last. Once again, that’s just me.

    • The counter is a tool to enable our recovery journey. If setting it back to zero is going to make you throw your hands up in the air and say what’s the point and give into alcohol, then please don’t set it back. What matters is your state of mind. Did you learn from that one day when you drank, or do you feel like you’re tottering on the edge?…[Read more]

    • Good Sunday morning @gilligan5323. I agree with everything above! My take though is that we are very hard on ourselves and everything I read on this site and other self help books is that we should be kinder to ourselves! I would definitely lean in that direction with the counter!

    • @gilligan5323 – i agree with all of the above as well. it is really not about the counter, it is about staying sober after you drink again, being extra kind to yourself, allowing yourself time to process and not put yourself in same position again. also, remember how many days sober v non sober in last year, then add it up again the next year…[Read more]

    • Such a good question! I’ve seen it come up a few times, so you’re not alone. I lapsed 3-4 times and reset my counter every single time. That final time I was at 150 plus days and it HURT to reset it but it felt right for me. Everyone is different, there are no rules for that, I believe. Whatever you feel comfortable with, do that. And it’s ok to…[Read more]

    • Like most have said it’s a personal thing @gilligan5323. For me, it’s incredibly important that I continually recognize the day that I finally got it and committed to living an AF life. For me that was 434 days ago. I’ve had a few slips along the way. The last one being 239 days ago. I definitely learned from each slip so they have been part…[Read more]

    • It’s a personal thing in my opinion. Do what is right for you, and whatever is needed to strengthen your sober path. You are going so amazingly well- why make things hard? Treat yourself with loving kindness I say 🙂

    • I had it both ways @gilligan5323….I wish when I had five years that AA allowed the one day reset because I would have never had gone out and stayed out for seven years because of the shame. On the other hand I count on my days because they really keep me in gratitude mode and honest with myself. It’s definitely a personal thing depending on…[Read more]

  • gilligan5323 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 16 hours ago

    Hi @peterf. This is a wonderful place with real people who don’t judge and really connect on the site. Glad to have you with us.

  • Oh my dog!…….. I mean god! I am baby sitting a bull dog for the week of March Break here in NS. Holy cling on! He is positively hilarious! His name is Gary for starters. Haha. Gary the bull dog insists on being on my lap whenever I sit in my reading/writing chair. He goes through great pains to make sure I put him up there with me.…[Read more]

    • Oh you are the best pet sitter ever!!! Gary sounds utterly hilarious! My daughter (studying away in another city) is going for a job as a pet sitter just so she can get the cuddles !!!

    • Aww sounds like a fun time, you have your hands full!

    • @gilligan5323 that’s so cute! I fell in love with a friends bulldog at work named Kevin. He had some of those adorable quirks too. So glad you are enjoying yourself with him. haha!

  • gilligan5323 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 17 hours ago

    So many thoughts of you all…. Sending love and more love

  • gilligan5323 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 17 hours ago

    Hugs and prayers but also a very deep love for you all.

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  • gilligan5323 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 19 hours ago

    Lockdowns are so scary even for teachers.

  • Just read the news… My friends…just sending love.

  • gilligan5323 posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Thanks for that@Mari135. I think teachers have letting people down guilt built into their DNA. Lol. I have never had a maternity leave. I’m in my mid 50’s so the kids have finally begun to wear me down. This slow down is much needed. I spent most of my career teaching and being in the military at the same time so it was bound to crash at som…[Read more]

  • gilligan5323 posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Really? I will look those up. Thanks

  • gilligan5323 posted an update 1 week ago

    Good morning folks. Yesterday I came to the realization that I really need to structure my time. I’m a quick one! Lol. It only took me 6 months being away from my job to figure that one out. I basically have another 6 months off before I decide if I am going back or not and I came to realize that I need more structure than most people do in o…[Read more]

    • There is so much I can relate to in your post..thanks for sharing this! The structure is a big thing. Too much time to think and the human brain latches onto this and that and then back to this. Just know you are normal and you deserve this year (sabbatical, I assume) so very much. A lot of my teacher friends are burned out after only a few years…[Read more]

      • Thanks for that@Mari135. I think teachers have letting people down guilt built into their DNA. Lol. I have never had a maternity leave. I’m in my mid 50’s so the kids have finally begun to wear me down. This slow down is much needed. I spent most of my career teaching and being in the military at the same time so it was bound to crash at som…[Read more]

    • R51 replied 1 week ago

      I remember seeing ads on tv for dog walking apps???

    • morgan replied 1 week ago

      The thought of having to structure my time is rather worrying – I love the long summer holidays with a passion, but have spent my whole career in horror at how little I achieve! Retirement or a sabbatical (never likely 🙁 🙁 🙁 )seems a glorious idea, but… mmm would I simply drift through the days in oblivion?

    • kitten replied 1 week ago

      oh, i sure agree with you about structure. i have basically rearranged my life or am busy rearranging my life around the concept that i need to keep structure in my life as long as i can, for me it means work, responsibility, having a full calendar. so i can certainly relate. same thing, trying to change my job because i have no freaking idea…[Read more]

  • gilligan5323 posted an update 1 week, 1 day ago

    The sun is out and the weather is getting a little warmer. That always helps the state of mind. I have been busy with my oldest pup the last few days. She had a biopsy done on her leg. What we thought for years was arthritis may be something else entirely. The Docs think it is some kind of infection. They biopsies it to find out what kind of…[Read more]

  • gilligan5323 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Good point. Maybe I should see if there is. There are walking groups around.

  • gilligan5323 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    I mostly liked to be in the woods. Right now it is too full of ice but I guess that will change soon enough. Just a claustrophobic time of year. I am looking forward to getting on the water with my kayak. I am definitely an outdoor person.

    • Me too, just being outside in nature ‘mends’ me so yes, understand the bad weather cabin fever.
      I’m motorbiking more than climbing and canoeing these days though, as getting older! And I belong to a sociable riding group, so when we can’t ride during the winter, there are still meet-ups with talks and so on.
      Are there any kayaking groups around…[Read more]

    • I am an outdoor person too. I love kayaking and hiking. All that fresh air. Have a great day!

  • gilligan5323 posted an update 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    I wonder if at my age you just start to feel left out of stuff. I have always been a very busy person but lately I feel like I don’t belong anywhere anymore. I am not comfortable at work. The other teachers are so much younger and I feel like I don’t have anything in common with them anymore. I still have my military family but we are all sca…[Read more]

    • That sounds hard. And like you need a new ‘tribe’. I’m sorry music isn’t doing it for you any more. A different sort of music group maybe? Or something entirely new? Apart from music, what did you love doing as a kid?

    • I mostly liked to be in the woods. Right now it is too full of ice but I guess that will change soon enough. Just a claustrophobic time of year. I am looking forward to getting on the water with my kayak. I am definitely an outdoor person.

      • Me too, just being outside in nature ‘mends’ me so yes, understand the bad weather cabin fever.
        I’m motorbiking more than climbing and canoeing these days though, as getting older! And I belong to a sociable riding group, so when we can’t ride during the winter, there are still meet-ups with talks and so on.
        Are there any kayaking groups around…[Read more]

      • I am an outdoor person too. I love kayaking and hiking. All that fresh air. Have a great day!

    • Hang in there, @gilligan5323! I look back at my midset at 3, 6, and 9 months and they are all very different although each felt solid. I seemed to settle at 9 months. There is a reason why we are told not to make any major decisions in the first 12 months. I now know why. Plus we’re all tired of winter and have cabin fever! C’mon spring and…[Read more]

    • There is definitely a huge change as we age – someone posted an article about how women become invisible at a certain age. I didn’t dare read it, and felt challenged to rise up and not care!!! We have to find our way to peace and contentment, and being secure in our wisdom – things like that right?
      I guess I have had a lot of practice as I could…[Read more]

      • I agree that age can have something to do with it as the kids are grown if you have them doing their own thing, have an empty nest – younger generation at work can be fun but I don’t usually have anything in common either, I stopped some routines I had after I sold my last home a few years ago. Need to create new groups to do things with! Hope you…[Read more]

    • hey, @gilligan5323 – it is winter. remember. hibernation. it will all come to you in time.

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