• gage posted a new activity comment 2 days ago

    Love the quote and I’m spending some time meditating on it. You sound in a great space @mari135 Congrats on your 734 days

  • gage posted a new activity comment 2 days ago

    @rise2015 How dreadful for both of you. With your permission I’ll send positive energy in the hope that your boy recovers quickly

  • gage posted a new activity comment 2 days ago

    welcome @soberrocksfest

  • gage posted an update 2 days ago

    Day 59. I’ve been agonising over whether to apply for a new job. There’s one I sort of want with the state government, it pays really well but I don’t feel I have enough confidence. Anyway, first step and I’ve commissioned someone to help me redraft my resume. I’m pretty sure I could do the job, but it’s scary, I know I would be way out of my…[Read more]

    • I too have been thinking about changing jobs to look for more of a challenge. At the same time I’m 56 years old and know that I’d be running up against much younger candidates for anything I looked at and that’s very daunting. I do like the little niche I’ve carved out for myself and know I’m an integral part of something everyday which is…[Read more]

      • Good idea @wakingowl. You can always dip your toe in the water and not accept the job if that’s what you choose? You are absolutely not being crazy stupid!!! What do you think- do you want the job or not?
        I’m sorry about your friend :(.

    • What’s the harm in applying @gage? If it’s anything like here It’s a bit of a process and you’ll have time to think about it.
      Yes there are all those if’s and and’s and it’s daunting…but something in you wants that job. What is it you want about it?
      How might you feel in a month if you hadn’t applied.
      PS: Just be aware that some parts of the…[Read more]

    • @gage reading your post it’s so crystal clear that you want this job. Go for it! If it doesn’t work out then you know you gave it a shot and the timing wasn’t right. If you get it and it works out…well, the positives there are many and you’ve listed them all. I am a firm believer in reaching for the stars. Try try try. There is no shame in fail…[Read more]

    • Watch Brene Brown on Netflix right now about Daring Greatly, or something like that. She talks about getting into the arena of life and failing. I haven’t watched it all yet but it might help you make up your mind. You are brave for even considering a change! xo

  • gage posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Thanks for the lovely words @tim I’m just about to go to bed, I’ll meditate on them as I sleep and hopefully have beautiful dreams

  • gage posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Just whip up a meal for an extra 40 people!….you are amazing

  • gage posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Walking along that sober road with you today @Buckeyeone We can do this…. and the sleep does get better. You’re doing great.

    • @Gage, I am counting on sleeping well tonight since I had very little last night. Now that I am at work, I think the melatonin that I took is finally kicking in. 🙁

  • gage posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Hi @daisy It’s early days for you and you need to decide whether your sobriety can withstand the temptation of going out with friends and not drinking. However you also have to ask at some point in time whether your friends are so boring that you can’t bear their company without a drink of alcohol. Ask yourself what do I get out of being with my…[Read more]

    • @gage I ended up going and Im gad I went. Funny I did not make a big deal of not drinking nor did anyone else but was asked a couple of times if I wanted a drink-no no, no, thank you…but will not do that often fr a while- prefer to meet a gym or go out for coffee.

  • gage posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    Day 49 – seven whole weeks. Not been super easy, but not been super hard either. Much gratitude to all here who have helped me and understood and not judged. You guys are just amazing. It’s so good to have somewhere to just vent, good days, bad days, good feelings, bad feelings. Thanks and here’s to the next minute, hour, week etc…

  • gage posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Hi @michael6 All the suggestions here are great. For me I found that a new “habitual behaviour” was what helped me through the wine witching hours – 5pm – 9pm. I decided on my new drink of choice – tart cherry juice and soda water and I would drink that while I made dinner. It was a special drink which I didn’t drink at any other time. Cherry…[Read more]

  • gage posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    @jm Clarity and boundaries – great description. Enjoy your Easter on your terms, surrounded by your peace, whatever you want to do. Walk, read, meditate . Very liberating.

  • gage posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    @buckeyeone I’ll stay sober with you.

  • gage posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Not the end of the world or the road @sobere Tomorrow is another day.

  • gage posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Hi @js123 I’m at day 46 and I can relate to your feelings. I still have the odd craving coming at me in the form of a voice saying why not just have a glass of wine tonight, you deserve it and you can handle one, but of course tomorrow would be two and the day after three. I also no longer feel preoccupied with alochol. For example I’ve just…[Read more]

    • JS123 replied 2 weeks ago

      Thank you @gage for your post. Yes, that is what I’m feeling too, a void. For me too, all the benefits of not drinking and there are many, do not fill this emptiness I feel at times. Alcohol did fill certain needs, albeit with horrible side effects. I am absolutely certain we are far better off all things considered. But that void is there and…[Read more]

  • gage posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Oh I don’t know how many top knot trimming conversations I’ve had in my life – hours I’ll never get back LOL. Thanks for the imagery @islandone

  • gage posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Six months is wonderful @beehappy. Be proud you have done soo well and lucky you having such a supportive husband, give him the biggest hug

  • gage posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Here in NSW Australia we’re into Autumn, glorious day today. Enjoy your beautiful spring isn’t nature wonderful @kitten

  • gage posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Inspiring @robynb

  • gage posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    So Sorry for your loss @mrs-d

  • gage posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    I agree with you @ro I don’t want to feel that my past relationship with alcohol will define me for ever so meetings like you mention are also not for me but I can see the attraction for many because staying AF can be a lonely old road. That why I find this site so empowering. I never come here without getting something positive out of the things…[Read more]

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