• Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 hour, 29 minutes ago

    Huge congratulations @Ladyhawke!!!😁

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 hour, 40 minutes ago

    Love the quote. I’ve never heard it before.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 hour, 43 minutes ago

    What Ladyhawke said. You did the right thing.

    • It feels so shit. But I didn’t want to drink – or I did want to drink but I wasn’t going to. I didn’t want to be there with others drinking – all of the above 😀

    • Thanks @ladyhawke, @maryb and @erika375 – in 48hrs I’m sure I will feel you are right, looking forward to getting home now – I only have one more big August thing to get under my belt unfortunately that lasts 6 days and I only have 1 day of recovery in between – oh well – rest up is my advice to myself

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 hour, 47 minutes ago

    Love the quote. Thanks for the reminder!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 hour, 48 minutes ago

    Good morning! I agree – waking up without a hangover is the best! Every time I get a migraine (not often, mercifully) I am reminded that I used to do that to myself. Bleh!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 hour, 52 minutes ago

    Wonderful!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 20 hours, 9 minutes ago

    Love the canoe analogy. Very true!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 20 hours, 21 minutes ago

    Sadly, @connilynn, there isn’t really a written down recipe. I make a basic waffle batter using whole wheat flour and throw in whatever else I have on hand. Oat bran, soy protein powder, pumpkin seeds,
    blueberries, cranberries, chia seeds, whatever will make it crunchy, then I adjust the liquid accordingly. So, no two batches are alike.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 20 hours, 27 minutes ago

    I believe my issue with the “good” emotions is that I’m as afraid of them as I am the “bad.” Any strong emotion was frowned upon when I was a child.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 23 hours, 34 minutes ago

    @connilynn yes, yes, and yes!!! Sneaking, bingeing, using as a reward, the thrill of “being bad” (very enticing for someone who was always the “good girl).

    When I noticed I was hiding my sugar/carb consumption from my daughter I decided to stop hiding it. She certainly doesn’t care as long as I don’t drink. My favorite sugar is maple syrup, so I made multigrain waffles with soy protein powder and have that for breakfast. It’s what I can do for now and it’s better than alcohol.

    • Thanks for your thoughtful replies. It does indeed merit investigation, or I’m liable to start another bad habit just to be bad😉? I wonder, we’re you all “good girls”, like me and @erica375? Or have I somehow swallowed the inner tyrant and I’m rebelling against her? And yes, who am I hiding this from? Do they even care?@morgan, I have friends who love the keto diet, and I did it for a while, but I’m a natural vegetarian and just missed my grains and beans too much. This week I am going to ban processed sugar, and see how it goes. I’ll report back.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 23 hours, 56 minutes ago

    Annnd my first post magically reappeared!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 day ago

    Lost another post! Argh! I wanted to suggest googling mocktails. I’ve heard other AF people rave about them, but I haven’t tried any. Never was a mixed drink drinker. They’re basically cocktails without the booze, so zero alcohol. Hope that helps!

  • Erica375 posted an update 1 day ago

    Really good day yesterday. Finished another hat, did some embroidery (birthday present for my sister) and watched a lot of what I think of as my recovery TV shows: intervention, Mom, Hoarders, My 600 lb Life. Tried to go for a swim but as soon as I was in the water I heard thunder. Ah, well. At least I got cooled off.

    I’m realizing this time around that I have to be careful of the “good” emotions as well as the “bad.” I’m just as likely to drink if I’m elated as if I’m sad. Someone here wrote about not being allowed to show emotions as a child. That’s true of me, too. Now I have to learn how to deal with and feel those feelings without drowning them. I’m much more comfortable in neutral gear, but is that any way to live?

    Daughter is off work today so we have some plans. Gym, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning. Sounds like a great day to be sober!

    • That is so true about being careful with the good emotions and not just the bad. I actually tend to drink more when I am in a good mood. I will come home from work, have a great dinner, good night with the kids and I just feel like sitting outside and enjoying the night sounds and having a drink. Sounds like you are doing great!

    • You sound like you’re doing wonderfully! I think in terms of addiction, it’s better to remain mostly neutral until the brain adjusts to emotions without artificial enhancements. I, too, would drink when I was really happy, or excited to enhance the enjoyment. But that dopamine high was not long lasting and exhausting when it wore off. It is much better for my sobriety to experience gentle highs and lows than extremes.

    • I believe my issue with the “good” emotions is that I’m as afraid of them as I am the “bad.” Any strong emotion was frowned upon when I was a child.

    • It’s a powerful insight @erica375
      I can relate. Any powerful emotion felt potentially unstable; too big. They can Lead To Things.
      Yes, neutral is neutral but highs and lows give life so much texture and variation. 🙂

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 1 hour ago

    Welcome! You’ve found a great place to be. How’s your day going?

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 1 hour ago

    I’ve heard great things about mocktails. Don’t know that much about them because I was never a fancy drink drinker, but you could Google it and see if anything looks good. I guess I they’re essentially mixed drinks without the alcohol, so they really are zero alcohol.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 1 hour ago

    Lol! @WakingOwl it was about how I find French knots difficult and tedious but I like the outcome. And if I’m patient and careful, I can do it.

    Much like sobriety!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 15 hours ago

    Congratulations on day 4 @helsmi ! Way to go! I’m winding down another sober day, too.

  • Erica375 posted an update 1 day, 17 hours ago

    Somehow I lost the post I wrote earlier about French knots and sobriety. Wanted to thank @LauraLi and @Agirl for their responses.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 19 hours ago

    Welcome! This s a great community.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 19 hours ago

    Welcome @lou39!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 22 hours ago

    @lilydog I could have written your post a thousand times. I decided to really put effort into quitting this last time when I realized my drinking was changing me in a bad way. When I drank, more and more often I would find myself either enraged or sobbing over nothing and everything.

    I think I’m finally realizing this getting sober thing requires effort and *gasp!* work. And the dreaded change. So here I am, trying to do the next right thing. I hope you decide to be here with the amazing group of people. Hang in there!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 15 hours ago

    Lol! So true!!!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 22 hours ago

    Welcome! I really like it here. I hope you do, too.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 22 hours ago

    Way to go @LauraLi! Congratulations!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 22 hours ago

    Lol!!! 😘😘😘 No upside down text! Just slow and there’s a blue teardrop shaped thingy that appears with the cursor at times and seems to mess things up. The cursor makes me curse! But I’m not giving up!!!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 22 hours ago

    @WakingOwl I cannot imagine doing what you’re doing with no emotional support. Huge kudos to you for not drinking. Hugs from the eastern end of the Commonwealth.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 22 hours ago

    Another amazingly fantastic line, “The morning voice is the voice of truth.” Guess I’m gonna need two tatooes! (See my response to @newstart100.)

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 22 hours ago

    “I am not here to please the entire world.”

    I LOVE THAT!!! I should get that tattooed on my forearm. Both forearms. Thank you for the reminder.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 22 hours ago

    @newstart100 that sounds absolutely lovely! Great self care.

  • Good morning, sober warriors! I woke up feeling kinda blah, but then I remembered not every sober day is rainbows and unicorns, and I felt better. It’s ok to have a blah day. In fact, now I’m enjoying my blah day!

    Had a little trouble getting on the site this morning, so I set my tablet aside and did something else. I tend to have technical issues on here, I don’t know if it’s my internet connection or the fact that my tablet was a freebie. Or is it (please don’t laugh) because I’m on the other side of the world from New Zealand?

    Anywho, I’m here now! I started another hat already. Also working on an embroidery project for my sister’s birthday. Seriously considering starting a fall cleanup. Been watching some episodes of Hoarders, which always scares me into action.

    Ok, up and at ’em! Have a great and sober day!

    • Do you have trouble with the text appearing upside down under? 😉

      On a more serious note, I also have some trouble with the site. Usually it’s that I don’t get the most up-to-date version. I write what I think is a first reply to someone’s post only to later find that I’m the fifth person to write when I finally get the update. As they say, no worries.

      • Lol!!! 😘😘😘 No upside down text! Just slow and there’s a blue teardrop shaped thingy that appears with the cursor at times and seems to mess things up. The cursor makes me curse! But I’m not giving up!!!

    • I experienced the site to be incredibly slow today so you are not alone. My worst blah day is way better than my “best” hangover day any day! 🙂

  • Erica375 posted an update 4 days ago

    Yesterday was good! Daughter and I went to the gym, then did some mother-daughter shopping with a gift card from my birthday. I also went for a swim. Felt so healthy!

    Woke up around 4 this morning absolutely starving. I’ve noticed I have much more interest in food now that I’m not drinking. I just hope I’m not switching addictions, but I’m not ready to worry about that yet.

    I’m home alone today but I have plenty to keep me busy. I finished another hat yesterday!

    • @erica375, Glad to hear you had some fun yesterday and feel good about your ability to not only get through today but make it a good day also. You’re gaining confidence in yourself!

    • Hi there!! Sounds like a wonderful day with your daughter! I find myself needing a lot of more food too, but i’m also forcing myself to go to the gym as well!! Have a great day today!

    • Hi @erica375 I always wake up starving to.. and I love my food so much now. When I was drinking I wasn’t really that bothered.. took up to much booze time. Plus exercising more and burning off calories … I eat loads of cake and ice cream now.. good you had a great time yesterday x

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 4 days ago

    Lol, @sarahhj I would drink when I was happy, sad, joyful, angry, bored, every and any emotion. I am learning to sit with the emotions, then let them go and move forward. Not easy, and I’m not always successful,but I keep working at it.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 4 days ago

    Yes, that article describes me. Thank you for sharing it.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 20 hours ago

    Thank you @Lucy. So far, so good!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 20 hours ago

    @WakingOwl that sounds so beautiful and healing.

  • Erica375 posted an update 5 days, 1 hour ago

    Good morning! Just checking in. Daughter is off work today so we have some things planned, gym being one of them. I’m feeling safer today but my guard is still up and n alert for those pesky triggers.

    Wishing everyone a pleasant and sober day. 😘

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 1 hour ago

    Wow. @DaveH you explained that so well. Thank you! Knowledge really is power.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 1 hour ago

    Welcome @sarahhj! How’s your day going?

    • Thank you for asking. I’m good so far, I haven’t really wanted to drink yesterday or today which is good. But I am already worrying about what happens when I get stressed, or tired & overwhelmed, or social events and stuff. I know that there are better ways of handling anxiety than drinking, but drinking is so convenient, much more so than meditation or taking a walk or whatever is always suggested. Do you drink when you’re anxious?

      • Lol, @sarahhj I would drink when I was happy, sad, joyful, angry, bored, every and any emotion. I am learning to sit with the emotions, then let them go and move forward. Not easy, and I’m not always successful,but I keep working at it.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 1 hour ago

    Welcome @kayla! This is a great place.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 1 hour ago

    I am (was) the same way. Since I quit I can’t believe how hungry I am. I shudder to think how many calories from booze I was consuming.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 1 hour ago

    One year! Congratulations! Way to go!

    To answer your questions, SMART Recovery has meetings. Not as many as AA, but some. I’ve also heard of ( but never been to) Buddhist recovery meetings.

    I’ve never tried AF beer or wine because, let’s face it, I never drank for the taste! That should have been a red flag, huh?

    As far as food, I’ve eaten beer battered fish but I’m afraid to try anything else because I fear I won’t like it. It’s definitely a personal preference. I’ve known people who won’t even use vanilla extract, and I’ve known people in recovery who cook with wine no problem. I was never that good a cook!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 1 hour ago

    Woot woot! Great job @phoenix0407!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 1 hour ago

    Way to go, sober you!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 1 hour ago

    Congratulations on your good night’s sleep!

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 1 hour ago

    Hi @Michael6 I was on thin ice yesterday, too, but I made it. We both did! I was on here throughout the day, posting updates. I didn’t expect any responses but I got a lot of support.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 14 hours ago

    Sounds awful! Yes, that is exactly what alcohol does. Ugly, isn’t it? I’m glad I quit, too.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 14 hours ago

    Welcome! This is a good place to be @joki06.

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 15 hours ago

    Thank you @Lucy, @WakingOwl, and @Juliana. I made it!!!

  • It’s 6pm and I made it through the day! I know this is prime witching hour for many people but for me if I can make it to supper time, I’ve won the day. Thank you all for being here and cheering me on.

    • 6:15 pm here and I’m with you. Sipping diet lime tonic with a splash of pineapple juice over ice. It’s not Sutter, but it gets the job done with no ugly consequences. Another day down for us both!

    • Yes!!

    • Fantastic, Erica375. One day at a time…sometimes one hour at a time…but every minute you stay AF is a success 🙂 Much love to you

  • Erica375 posted a new activity comment 5 days, 15 hours ago

    I do, too @Juliana!

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