I started a new day 1 on the 26th May 2018, I stopped drinking last year after a big night drinking at home with friends, not a mad night out but totally over-drank- I woke fully dressed at 2am thinking this is not normal, I couldn't remember going to bed! I felt absolute rubbish! Total disappointment!... At which point (2am) I asked myself "could I stop drinking if I wanted to?" and for the first time ever the answer was "No! I don't think I can" This realisation terrified me and made me feel defeated.
I had a determined resolve after that night to give up drinking altogether, it was something I had to do, I didn't want to waste another day eagerly awaiting 5pm, I gave up and made it to 3 months before my arch nemesis - complacency, stuck its big nose in and mocked me with the old - you'll be able to have the occasional 1 now... but this inevitably meant that there was a part bottle in the fridge, so 1 glass soon turned into 2 glasses and then 3, because I can't just leave an open bottle in the fridge... you know the drill... back into the old routine before you know it.
It did teach me what to expect though and that having a lemon water each night is my alternative to wine time. That wine doesn't make things easier to deal with, or an occasion happier, it doesn't help you to unwind which I used to think it did, it was what signified the end of a busy day... time to relax with a glass of wine...
Each time I stopped though I was happier, and I've realised I like myself a whole lot more when I'm not drinking... and I make the most of every day because I'm not just looking forward to 5pm, not to mention it's great not to have to worry if I am drinking too much wine!
So this time I gave up because I want a sober life, my biggest concern is that I'll get complacent again which is a big part of why I finally signed up to Living Sober after quite a lot of visits, and have to admit I hovered over the 'register' tab so long that the 'I am not a robot' expired and I had to re-check it... So, thank you to all the warm welcomes I have already received and I am so looking forward to living life beyond the bottle!!!!
Shine Bright Sober Stars!
For the first 6 months I would have icecream – after the kids had gone to bed… and then chippies (or crisps, depending on where you are in the world) at 9pm… it was an easier habit to break than wine o’clock.. and it served it’s purpose in my journey because it was something I could treat myself too having beaten the wine witch 🙂
Have you got an alternative non alcoholic drink you can have instead… the wine won’t help with the tiredness, it will just make you feel even more tired… you can get through today without wine, play it forward, you will feel sooo much better tomorrow if you can get through today without a wine… get an early dinner, early shower and tuck up…[Read more]
I was amazed at how much more I dreamed when I first gave up… it was something that takes you by surprise a bit… in the first bit of google searching I did on giving up there was nothing saying when you give up the drink you will dream more 🙂 I found it harder to get to sleep too, so ended up going to bed later but you do get a better sleep…[Read more]
Oh my goodness, that’s funny… I think I had a similar dream a while back and woke up feeling so annoyed and dissapointed at myself – so hard to get back to sleep after that!! Not boring at all, thanks for sharing, made me smile 😀
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