Day 44 and my sober app tells me I’ve saved 222 hours of time freed up that would have been devoted to drinking! That’s over 9 full 24 hour days of doing something other than drinking! What have I been doing? Sleeping, taking baths, running on the gym treadmill after dark, talking to my daughter on the phone and remembering every story,…[Read more]
@mamatomany was an a great exampke to me of how to do a cruise sober. I also love the numbing down while sitting in the sun watching it go down. The only thing wrong with that is that we can’t stop after that brief, enjoyable moment. That is why we vacation sober.
Same thing started happening with me. I started joking that ‘hangovers make me paranoid’ because the antsy, restless, anxiety filled twitchiness felt to me kind of like I was expecting something massive and bad to happen only I was the only one who could feel it coming. It was my body’s changing relationship with alcohol and none of it was good. I…[Read more]
One – I was exhausted leaving work yesterday at 8pm, got into my car for my 45 minute commute, and my strongest longing and the only image in my mind as I was driving home was imagining myself taking a long warm shower, my comfiest pjs and sleepytime tea. My mind was tired, my body was tired, I’d just…[Read more]
I love this post @em76! The first time you realize you just really want tea and to go to sleep is awesome!! Also it feels really good to share with someone doesn’t it? It helps to have a friend know. Have a lovely day!
Happy Friday to you! Several months in I redid our bedroom to make it a sober retreat. Late in the evenings I would rearrange shelves and raid my house to find peaceful and calming items. I ordered new bedding and got rid of clutter. I’m not a buddha person but ordered a picture for it’s colors and constant reminder to center myself. Every…[Read more]
Ugh yes!! I went to a public lecture yesterday and was offered a ‘wine upgrade’ on my ticket (??) and then came home and did a group skype with friends and 2 of them had the massive balloon goblets of red wine (my personal kryptonite). That constant exposure really made for a rougher sober night than I’ve been having. I’ve got to avoid watching…[Read more]
So many really good insights! I admire your willingness to remove toxic people from your life along with alcohol, it really sounds like you’re building a foundation for stability to launch your big year. We’re in the same time frame being AF and I too am still waking up after 7 hours of solid restful sleep thinking: YES!! This feels amazing! 🙂
Hey there, I’m sorry about your husband! I hope he recovers quickly. And listen, I also have always responded to stress by drinking and I’m still close enough to the beginning of the journey here to still have that same impulse. The pattern is stress, drink, then a couple of hours later you have alcohol anxiety on top of whatever caused the…[Read more]
– The first snowstorm in years in which I only thought ‘uh oh do I have enough coffee creamer for tomorrow??’
– A conversation with my daughter in which I did not remark to myself, ‘I’m so glad I’m sober and really participating in this’ because it’s become a bit more normal to talk to loved ones sober.
Great post, that sense of presence in conversations with your family, and the lack of anxiety about strategies to get your next drink – such good feelings! Enjoy your restful sober sleep and I hope you keep posting!
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