• elliott posted a new activity comment 3 days, 17 hours ago

    Marylourocks you are one of the foundation stones of LS. Joining in 2014, along with hetiheti and mac007, you three have shown what can be achieved. Congratulations and Very Well Done !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 4 days, 12 hours ago

    Good to catch up. Off to get Lily and Grace from kindy and school shortly.

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 4 days, 15 hours ago

    A Huge congratulations to you hetiheti. I remember when you joined in 2014. Unfortunately I only managed two years before falling off the wagon. However I have had a lot of success since and am currently very sober. This has been due to people like yourself, mac007 and later Amy.
    You are an inspiration to everybody at LS and showing the newbies how it can be done. You are Brilliant !

  • elliott posted an update 11 months ago

    Hi All. Today I tried the new Heinekin alcohol-free beer. 0.0%. It tasted OK but I don’t think it will become a habit. Perhaps I may have one after golf or after mowing the lawns when the weather gets hotter. It doesn’t really feel right, as one is drinking beer again. What do you reckon ?

    • I like it, but I can see how it would be a bit unsettling or even triggering @elliot.

    • If it still has the taste of real beer-probably not. Might leave me feeling triggered and a bit unfulfilled.

    • I tried the no and lo alcohol wine for awhile there @elliot. Unfortunately I did find it a trigger as it didn’t give that ‘kick’. So, before I knew it i was back on the real stuff again…….Nope, no way for me thanks!

  • elliott posted an update 11 months ago

    Hi Amy. Hope you are OK. We miss you xo

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    Brilliant Mrs D. Take time out today to reflect on the good you have done these past seven years. The relationships you have saved, the car crashes, and the premature deaths that have been avoided. All this is due to you setting up this site all that time ago. Well Done Mate ! !
    And Thankyou ! ox

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Thanks. Good to know I’m not the only young one on here !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Same to you Thanks !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Hi Amy. Yep all good here thanks. Hope the Old Testament learning goes well. You are such a busy lady xo

  • elliott posted an update 1 year ago

    I know that most of you have been there and done this. But this morning I had to get my 5 year-old granddaughter to school by 8am for her ukulele lesson and the 3 year-old to kindergarten at 8.30am. It was pouring with rain and I had forgotten just how busy the traffic is at that hour of the morning.
    Of course we achieved it all quite efficiently and safely. Not bad for a grandpa in his seventies. And we do the reverse this afternoon.
    I would just like to say that this is a very good reason to be a non-drinking person. We have huge responsibilities to these young ones, and also to all the other road uses. So if you have school age children and are still having the odd drink , Stop Now ! You should not have any alcohol at all in your bodies if you drive children to or from school, kindergarten, sports etc.
    Fortunately, 95% of you don’t drink at all so this will not be a problem.
    Have a neat and safe sober Tuesday!

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago

    delgirl68 you are telling the story of eighty percent of the people on this site. you are not self-deceptive, you are Human !
    Just keep trying. As Prudence says the forever bit is scary, but possible.

  • elliott posted an update 1 year, 1 month ago

    Hi folks. Haven’t been around for a while. Too busy looking after the Grandchildren during the school holidays.
    My thought for today is that we have a choice; the ‘Booze’ or ‘Life’. I choose ‘Life’.

    Go The Black Ferns and The All Black Sevens!

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 2 months ago

    Well Done hetiheti. You are a great example to us all. A Huge Congrats !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 2 months ago

    Good to see you back again our poetic friend.

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 2 months ago

    A neat post followed by excellent comments. I reckon your gym lady is definitely addicted but doesn’t admit to it. As Kit says our subconscious works hard to convince us that we are not addicted and we must go to the liquor store again and again. I love her words: “We are the Lucky Ones” . We realize that we have a problem and are doing something about it !
    I also agree with GirlVsBooze and Caramelcremebrulee that anyone who talks to us about alcohol, actually thinks that they may have a problem themselves, and we need to help them.
    Keep up the good journey everyone. Have what I call another lovely NAT (No Alcohol Today) Day !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 2 months ago

    Absolutely Brilliant 68notout! Well Done!

  • elliott posted an update 1 year, 2 months ago

    My thought for today is. “After being addicted to drinking alcohol we have to learn to become addicted to ‘NOT’ drinking alcohol.” Living Sober has been, and is. and will be in the future, a great medium for achieving this!

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    A Huge Congrats on your 199 Days. It is so good to know there are others on here from our generation. I am 73 years young and as you say the struggle doesn’t get any easier with age.
    In the past I have managed 2 years sober twice now, but have still managed to slip up after these long alcohol-free spells. Anyway have a neat celebration tomorrow. Well Done !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    Sorry to hear the bad news in your post. But the good news is YOU ! Congrats on your marvelous 135 days. You are doing Great Lucy especially with what’s going on around you. Well Done my friend !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    Yep. It is screened on Duke Channel (23) at 9 pm on Sundays. I think there are more Celebs to come like Zac Guilford etc. Worth a watch.

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 5 months ago

    You are Brilliant Lucy. Don’t do what I did after 100 days and think you can now handle the booze. Thus I am starting afresh as I guess many others have had to do !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Good on you dealing with your Mum so promptly and efficiently Lucy. I’m going on holiday shortly and off the grid. So don’t worry if you don’t hear from me until late March. xo

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks Millie76 !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks Lucy xx !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks Stella !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks Aria !

  • elliott posted an update 1 year, 6 months ago

    Day 90 for Amy and myself. Will celebrate with a ginger-beer/ lemonade. Pleasantly surprised as the time has gone quite quickly and it was a challenge to survive Christmas, New Year, Birthday and the hot weather!
    Have a Neat weekend everyone!

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Well Done on your 42 Days Kit. A totally sober you will handle the work situation better too. Good Luck with it all !

    • I hope the meeting goes well for you. Work meetings like that can be stressful but you are in a good place looking at it as having your say. That’s a good thing. Huge Congrats on D42!!

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Lucy, well done. It would have been hard not to react but good on you. Things would only have got worse. He will know that he did wrong. When we are drunk us men always think we are perfect LOL ! Been there, done that, have the tee shirt etc. xx

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks everyone for the feed-back. I did put the beers out. Unfortunately I was on the school run when they picked them up. I would have loved to have seen their faces, pretty pleased I reckon, as it’s close to 30 C again in Hawkes Bay today !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks song-bird !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks Lucy !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    So pleased you missed the storm Prudence, as it was predicted to be bad in your area !

  • elliott posted an update 1 year, 6 months ago

    I have a dilemma. I have had a dozen bottles of beer sitting around untouched for about a year now. I was going to put them out in the re-cycling ‘unopened’ as a shout for re-cycling guys, they work so hard in this heat and humidity. Then I thought that this might be seen as encouraging them to drink. Or are they going to drink anyway? A real ‘catch 22’ situation. I would appreciate your feed-back on this !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Congrats on Day 73. And thanks for being on this site. Everyone at LS inspires me, but especially you and Amy.

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks Amy. And a Happy Day 86 to you too ! xx

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    40 Days is Brilliant Kit. You are Amazing. Well Done !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks for your support and good wishes yesterday SteveF and you too Lucy and Mari135. Much appreciated. The family gathered around for the cutting of the cake last night and the atmosphere was great especially as no one was drinking.
    Good to know that there is another member here from my era Steve. Well Done on your 42 Days ! You are doing Great!

  • elliott posted an update 1 year, 6 months ago

    Good Morning All. Sounds like there is another good book out. ‘Mindful Drinking’ by Rosamund Dean published by Hachette NZ. It is reviewed in this morning’s Dominion Post in an article titled : ‘Why it’s so hard to drink in moderation’.
    A couple of quotes from the book : “once you’ve had one or two drinks, it’s more difficult to reach the off switch.” Also: ” Slipping up is commonplace, so don’t beat yourself up over it if you do.” etc.
    I will be reading it !
    Have a neat day everyone!

    • Thanks, need a new book – just finished The Unexpected joy of Being Sober by Catherine Joy, which was very raw at times in its honesty, but hopeful with some good insights into our drinking.

    • Thanks for sharing that, I’ll check it out this weekend!

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks Mari135 !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks JM !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks Kit !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks my fellow oldie !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Thanks Millie76.

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    700 Days is Brilliant enzedgirl. I see that you are in a Win, Win and Win situation. Well Done !

  • elliott posted an update 1 year, 6 months ago

    Day 85 and my 73rd Birthday so I could be one of the oldest one’s on this site? Unfortunately age doesn’t make this journey any easier. Like yesterday, I spent three hours mowing lawns in 32 C degrees of heat, and would have loved that nice cold beer when I finished. It was tough to deny myself this which would have been a norm in the old days. Same at golf to see my mates drinking their cold beers on these very hot days, is hard to watch most times. It is no wonder that I have had a few hiccups since I first stopped drinking in 2007.
    However: I WILL NOT DRINK TODAY ! You all know how tough this might be !
    Luckily I keep good health and you never know this may be because I don’t drink these days ?
    Any way. Have a Great Day Everyone. I know I will. Grandkids arriving soon, so I can do the school run. Perhaps it’s true that they keep us young !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    Congrats on Day 70 Lucy! And also well done on the loss of weight and the mood thing. We often forget how grumpy the alcohol made us. So much more pleasant now for those around us. You are doing Great !

  • elliott posted an update 1 year, 6 months ago

    Hi Amy, Day 83 for us today. You are right, I could only do a 200 yard drive on a simulator too these days, but well done to you anyway. Our holiday will be spent with my brother-in-law and his family on his remote farm. No cell phone coverage etc. Unfortunately he has terminal myeloma, so we will be helping on the farm as much as we can and taking him for the odd outing.
    It is Art Deco weekend here in Napier. Our city was flattened in February 1931 by an earthquake and then rebuilt in the Art Deco style. Every year we commemorate this event for four days, dress up in Art Deco gear, have parades, dances, etc. Lots of old cars, planes etc
    Must fly, golf on TV, have a neat weekend xx

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    You will be a very good mentor and will be helping yourself at the same time. Go for it Lucy! You are doing Great !

  • elliott posted a new activity comment 1 year, 6 months ago

    One of the best posts that I have read in a while Mair135 and a neat reply from Ellislou. I agree with you both. I was a nice person too until I drank too much. The things you are meant to taste in wines is a load of crap and wines should all be ‘organic’ ; what is the other option ‘chemical wines ? ‘ My brother still reckons that red wine is good for him, him with the permanent shakes ! Thank God for Mrs D and our Living Sober community. I need and love you all xx.
    Have a Great Day everybody !

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