• Dylan posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    welcome lynne!

  • Dylan posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Yep, Deester, I think many of us experience that feeling of being disconnected and reactive. After a lifetime of drinking, my body is at war with my mind. Breathing does help!

  • Dylan posted an update 2 months, 1 week ago

    G’Day fellow travellers. Day 33 today…. the mind becoming clearer, the skin smoother, the mind more objective and calmer about things. Funny how alcohol throws that all out of the window! Being off the dreaded booze and remembering all the times I have been totally out of control and reactive has made me think of this quote by Warren Buffet:
    “You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you.
    True power is sitting back and observing things with logic.
    True power is restraint. If words control you, that means everyone else can control you.
    Breathe and allow things to pass.”
    I love the quiet strength of these words … “breathe and allow things to pass (one day at a time)” 🙂

    • I really need that with one snappy colleague at work – always so quick with a put down and complaint. Used to be the sort of thing that would bring on a drink, or three…

    • Thank you – I find I am all over the place emotionally these days at day 40. Mostly numb inside until somebody at work says something and then I go right to gutter snipe critical mode. Whoa. I leave the office for a short work to re-orient. I will remember this today. Breathe and let it pass.

      • Yep, Deester, I think many of us experience that feeling of being disconnected and reactive. After a lifetime of drinking, my body is at war with my mind. Breathing does help!

  • Dylan posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    When I woke up this morning, there was a new person in my bed. I knew this was a stranger because his heart rate and blood pressure were normal; the bed was no longer shaking from the pounding of his head. The tremor in his hands had ceased, and the tsunami of anxiety and regret that had overwhelmed him for decades was gone. The lamp next to the bed had not been knocked over, and there were no beer stains on the floor. Importantly, the room was not performing cartwheels around his bed. I took him to the bathroom and made him look in the mirror. Two clear eyes returned his gaze and the red veins in his cheeks were gone. Instead of the morning-after frown and the alcohol-singed lips to which he had become so accustomed after those reckless nights of booze and blackouts over the years, there was a calm countenance and just the slightest hint of a smile… somehow I had known this stranger a long, long time ago in the summer of my youth. That stranger was me.

  • Dylan posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Happy birthday Vodcath! Hope it’s a great year for you 🙂

  • Dylan posted an update 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    G’day fellow travellers. I read a post once by a woman that had a lasting impact on me, so I thought I would share it. She described her newfound sobriety as an epiphany, in which she realized that she had become not only a non-drinker, but that was being changed into a completely different person. She said: “I’m feeling, after only five months sober, that the WHOLE of me is starting to change. Not just aspects or behaviors or values or thoughts or feelings or behavior or my health…. I mean the whole GESTALT that is ME is shifting. I, as a whole, am being transformed. ” She went on to describe how she felt that the cells in her body were changing as a result of giving up drinking, and with it, her whole experience of life. I love that description, because I have felt it myself… and that somehow, deep within us, when we stop drinking, our true, real selves, hidden so long under the buffoonery of alcohol addiction, starts to emerge, bringing with it a joy that on its own transforms our lives… This, for me is the strongest incentive to stay sober… to be me, and to bring that joy to others.

    • thanks for sharing that….”the buffoonery of alcohol addiction”…I like that. I’m only day 11 into not drinking and am finding it pretty hard. There have been some good days when I am feeling like I’m on the right track, then nights like tonight when I just want to have a glass of wine. I needed to read your post. It’s helped.

    • Wow! I embrace that Dylan and I’m so happy you shared it. It has always had to be something ‘more’ than just the right thing to do, the better way to be….for me to choose not to drink alcohol. I started to sense a new emergent life/me after a week of sobriety – it got a bit too intense as it was a new feeling, so I went and fell of the wagon into 2 weeks of stops and starts, black-outs and hang-overs. Here I am on day 5 now and beginning to feel that mystery again. Thanks!

    • Love this! x

    • I really love this too @Dylan, thank you, and it is absolutely true xo

    • 1 year sober and I am finding myself to be someone I didn’t know at all. I love who I am changing into.

    • Love this perspective ❤️

    • So true Dylan! I have no clue who I am…and know that I don’t really like myself now. Really don’t like the drinking me. Really want to get and STAY sober. Gotta keep trying.

    • Profoundly true @Dylan and the feeling, when this process begins, is spectacular!!

    • Great post @Dylan. I think a lot of us start to uncover our authentic self if we stick at this long enough. Wonderful.

  • Dylan posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    Yip. Thanks Owl. I don’t give a hoot about alcohol anymore! :0

  • Dylan posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    Thank you kitten. Appreciate that.

  • Dylan posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    Thank you Izzy!

  • Dylan posted an update 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    Day 15. No looking back now. Embracing this new life with a steady hand and a clear mind. Hope you all have a great new week!

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  • Dylan posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Thank you Agirl!

  • Dylan posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Hi Ro, Thanks for the welcome. Yep, it’s pretty exotic up here… South Africa, a long way from Kiwiland

    • Ro replied 3 months ago

      Cool! I have a mate on this site who lives in South Africa, near the coast. Her dog used to scrap with Baboons that would come down out of the forest! Just cracks me up-1. because we have three dogs and I can only imagine their faces if a baboon was coming at them, and 2. the toughest thing we have in the bush here is probably an introduced pig or deer. So yes very exotic to me. Hope to see you round and hear some yarns 🙂

  • Dylan posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Thank you Seni. Appreciate your words.

  • Dylan posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Thank you Steve!

  • Dylan became a registered member 3 months ago

    • Welcome here @dylan! Glad you joined us.

    • Ro replied 3 months ago

      Hey there @dylan it’s early morning at the bottom of NZ-where in the world are you fella? Anywhere exotic ? Welcome here 🙂

      • Hi Ro, Thanks for the welcome. Yep, it’s pretty exotic up here… South Africa, a long way from Kiwiland

        • Ro replied 3 months ago

          Cool! I have a mate on this site who lives in South Africa, near the coast. Her dog used to scrap with Baboons that would come down out of the forest! Just cracks me up-1. because we have three dogs and I can only imagine their faces if a baboon was coming at them, and 2. the toughest thing we have in the bush here is probably an introduced pig or deer. So yes very exotic to me. Hope to see you round and hear some yarns 🙂

    • Welcome @dylan!

    • Thank you Seni. Appreciate your words.