• Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 1 day, 4 hours ago

    thank u all for your support and suggestions. I am a musician and we’re currently recording so writing lyrics has been a big help

  • 3 weeks yesterday
    things are getting better but I need to keep healing, keep working on myself so I can truly be free. It’s one thing to not drink, I am proud but I crave more joy in my life and I’ve been seeking it in all the wrong places; time for a new map
    stay strong everyone
    peace and love

    • That’s wonderful to hear you moving along steadily here. What’s the plan to put more joy in your life? For years we have artificially generated the sensation of “fun” by drinking and when we stop that ceases and leaves a gap as you have noticed. What can you do to deliberately replace this?

    • Congrats on 3 weeks – awesome job!!

    • Hi @dylan-john maybe hook into your creative side, art, craft, photography, writing, whatever you dream about or learning a new language can be fun. Plan little trips to places you would like to explore. Have some adventures!!!😀

    • Congrats on the 3 weeks. I too am craving more joy in my life. People bring me joy – I love reading the posts. I like the other suggestions.

    • @Dylan– John it’s really weird eh? We don’t think about experiences for what they are, until we take the booze away. It’s astonishing how much it is (was) Ingrained into everything we do. New activities sound great. I’m an artist and creating whilst sober has been a new but fabulous experience, I can’t believe how much more creative I can be, where I thought Al was unlocking all that passion and talent, I can see now how much it’s smothered it. As a good friend of mine said, who’s over 7 years sober, it’s all about making sober experiences the norm, and the only way to do that is to get stuck in and do it. I’ve felt anxious and it’s still early days for me but trusting and enjoying new experiences and also the daily mundane sober, is just incredible. Enjoy your new hobbies!! Brilliant xx

    • Reconstructing my evenings has been a challenge. If I want to remember what I used to do in the evening before I started drinking, I have to remember what I did in the evening when I was 19. I’m now 35 so obviously life is a bit different. Regardless, I am starting to REALLY enjoy my sober evenings – I absolutely hated them the first and second week. Into week three now and enjoying time sober and alert for the first time in ages.

    • thank u all for your support and suggestions. I am a musician and we’re currently recording so writing lyrics has been a big help

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    brilliantly said

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    my first attempt at getting sober I went to AA
    not a bad word to say about it, having and hearing common things really helped me. I am going to get back to meetings soon but AA really does help in my opinion, the wisdom of well alcoholics is invaluable

  • Dylan.John posted an update 1 week, 1 day ago

    day 16
    7.23am
    it’s amazing how quickly the days stack up, my rock bottom seems so fresh still
    waiting outside work having a coffee preparing for the day. we’re working on a tv show at the moment, selling houses Australia, it’s very stressful and full on but I’m enjoying it for the most part.
    temptation has come, almost every day but I’m feeling strong and glad to be sober
    stay strong everyone
    peace and love

    • Days do go by faster and faster and before long you don’t even realise a month, two months have passed. Sounds like exciting times at work, enjoy.

    • Good on you. I am a day ahead at day 17. Immerse yourself in work and don’t give in.

    • @Dylan.John wow that sounds really exciting! Stay strong and best of luck! 🙂

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    try an AA meeting, a podcast, reach out here or to family. try everything you can before you go back and try what you know doesn’t work xo

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    that’s really tough
    thinking of you all x

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    thank you all

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    welcome
    stay close, keep posting. this site is amazing

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    if he told you about the shower situation there is something you can do! hearing that broke my heart

    • oxox Thanks a lot for your feedback! I think this is one of those things where I trust my sister in law has got this.
      It’s just…so sad to hear that about my own brother….Knowing what I know about our family trauma. 🙁
      It’s a pretty heavy thing to hear….She is too worried to leave the house to get a break because of him.

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    hey mate I’m really good today. I just checked in on members feed 🙂
    has been a good day
    what about yourself?

  • Dylan.John posted an update 2 weeks ago

    day 9
    just wanted to check in as I’ve just had a moment and feel really proud.
    It’s payday and after work I went straight to the supermarket and loaded up on fruits and veg and lots of treats too as I have my humans this weekend. I also spent $60 on a board game, coloring books, pencils, play dough and puzzles! All that cash and more would usually have gone on poison and it felt magnificent leaving the shopping complex with all this good food and good times ahead with my kids
    seriously good day and I’m feeling on cloud nine
    hope you’re all well
    peace and love

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    congrats that is amazing

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    let’s do this!!!

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    thanks

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    thank you

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    thank you, as always, for your brilliant advice.
    I wrote a lot of dark poetry while drinking but will also do what you suggested, it’s a great idea
    thank you heaps

  • and just like that I’ve been sober a week
    I need to stop comparing this to the first time I got sober as it’s a different journey
    I need to just focus on the fact I’m sober and be proud
    I need to stay sober today
    peace and love

    • way to go Dylan.

    • I will join you today in being sober, why not!!

    • Hi @Dylan.John A week is brilliant. Getting over the peak of withdrawal is a great milestone to pass. You’ve done this before so you know stopping drinking is possible and last time you got to around 100 days. When we get that far and drink again the issue isn’t about alcohol at all is it… it can’t possibly be as the amount of alcohol in our systems is nearly un-measureable. The challenge is 100% in our minds, and that is where the fight is won or lost.

      You know that stopping drinking is possible and that’s the biggest difference between this time and last time. All the sabotaging thoughts that come in support of the idea that it isn’t possible to stop drinking are easy enough to push aside this time. But there are two other streams of ideas that are still determined to trip us if they can; “it’s not worth it” and “it’s not necessary”. The more you can anticipate and prepare for these thoughts coming the easier they are to step past.

      Something that you can really do right now to help yourself in a couple of months time is to record precisely why you have had to stop drinking. If you can find the time then record what it felt like to be you while you drank. Record the emotions: the depression, stress, anxiety, restlessness, irritability, misery, alone-ness and so on. How bad was it? record that. It felt so bad that sometimes it wasn’t worth carrying on living. But time will dull these memories and hide them from you. In a couple of months time the enormity of how awful it felt will have disappeared and thoughts will come in telling you that you are missing out on fun, and that you can probably control having a few drinks now. If you can record right now how completely false these two ideas are then this will help you when you really need reminding. And the best thing about this reminder is that you don’t need to rely on someone else’s evidence, you have your own.

      I hope you don’t mind me pointing out something else. Last time you stopped checking in he…[Read more]

      • thank you, as always, for your brilliant advice.
        I wrote a lot of dark poetry while drinking but will also do what you suggested, it’s a great idea
        thank you heaps

    • Refreshing to hear your progress, @Dylan.John.

    • Boom. One week. Let’s keep that momentum going. Gently and steadily. Just today….that’s all you have to do.
      Just today. Let’s not worry about last time or tomorrow.
      oxoxox

  • Dylan.John posted an update 3 weeks ago

    well it’s day 4 and a beautiful day here in Adelaide
    I think the bulk of the pain is over I feel a lot fresher this morning and really looking forward to a booze free weekend. I’m in the studio tomorrow tracking drums for my band so that’s exciting
    I hope you’re all well
    peace and love

    • Day 4 and as always so good to see you be here, Dylan.John!!!
      Not giving up. Not an option.
      oxoxoxoxoxox

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    beautifully said!!!

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    great words. well done

  • such a wake up call how quickly my body starts getting this poison out and how physically and mentally draining detox is
    woke drenched in sweat last night and it was freezing I didn’t feel confident behind the wheel today massive headache all day no appetite little things were irritating me a lot and I just feel drained and zoned out BUT I got to see my kids and I am still sober
    bring on day 3
    I hope you’re all well
    peace and love

    • Hi there @Dylan.John. It’s a bit of a rude wake up – but it will pass. The important thing is you got through it. Two days down, on to 3 – then to 4. Things will even out. Hang it. You will be in a completely different place at weeks end.

    • @dylan-john see ya later day 2 onwards and upwards to day 3 ! Trust that it gets so much better, you deserve that! Peace to you too!

    • Great to hear @dylan-john! That sweat is a good thing. I know it sucks and you probably feel like you’ve been run over by something large but this won’t last very long. Just a few days, if even. Every day will begin to get better. That shaky and sick feeling will pass as well. Ride out this little storm. You will be feeling great in no time and so glad that you did!!

    • Hang in there. You will feel SO much better soon without the stinken booze.

    • Sending virtual hugs to you during this time ❤️ Kia kaha my friend.

    • Hi @dylan-john be kind and look after yourself with nourishing food and drinks, get plenty of rest. You are doing a marathon and need all of your strength!!! Well done on a massive effort😊

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    so sorry for your loss
    stay close to this site, it’s incredible

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    hey mate I’m so glad you’re here still your advice is always so wise and relatable
    last time was just over 100 days but it seems like a lifetime ago and it doesn’t matter but I am trying to change little habits that may trigger me
    last night was hard and sweaty like you said haha
    thanks for your msg and I’ll keep posting because I want this so bad, tired of misery

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    I’m a reader of sorts, a lazy audio book reader haha
    gonna restart Recovery by Russell Brand that really helped last time but I never finished it

  • 12 hours into day 1 and I’m exhausted
    I know this drill and I know I need to let the poison leave me, not expecting a good night sleep but feeling positive. Usually I’d be well drunk by now and feeling sorry for myself but I’m making a good healthy dinner for a change and drinking lots of lime cordial
    one moment at a time
    I hope you’ve all had a beautiful day
    peace and love

    • Well done @dylan-john. Soon day 1 will be over and you have done it. Are you a reader? find that helps me nod off sometimes or write a plan for tomorrow with some little thing to look forward to. 😊

      • I’m a reader of sorts, a lazy audio book reader haha
        gonna restart Recovery by Russell Brand that really helped last time but I never finished it

    • Awesome @dylan-john great that you’ve posted and you are 12 hours sober. Definitely take that one-moment-at-a-time stance, coz each moment, hour, day counts

    • HI @Dylan.John I was hoping you’d pop up again. You know how the next few days is going to go… churning mind, sweaty sleepless nights, anxiety etc. You also know these are all going to fade and then you have to get into the grind of beating the cravings and the noise in your head justifying why have a drink is a good idea. What have you learned from your last effort? (around 60 days as I recall).
      Stopping drinking is difficult, and as we close doors in our minds to alcohol the addiction has to find new ways to get around our resolve. In this way it appears to become more devious the further along the road we go. The big thing is to keep learning. Relapse isn’t failure, it is education; but only if we will learn the lessons from it. What was it that corroded away your resolve last time? Self-sabotaging thought? The idea that you could keep it under control this time? Try to identify the lesson and learn it well. Also have a good look at what helped last time? If it worked then start doing it again and keep looking for more things that will help. But remember, as you go the challenge changes. Was there something more you needed to add to your arsenal? I see you will read a little and I’d like to suggest this free eBook download “Alcoholism in a nutshell” https://lyingminds.sixboats.co.nz/links/ . It will show you the full range of what addiction throws at us and why this happens. It will expose the challenges ahead and let you see what parts of the difficulties in life are coming from addiction and what parts are just life that we have to get on with.
      You can do this. You know you can string a good few days together so grit your teeth, do the things that help, and get the first month done and behind you. Then you can look again at the part after that and fill in the missing parts of your defences. You’ve got this. Push on.

      • hey mate I’m so glad you’re here still your advice is always so wise and relatable
        last time was just over 100 days but it seems like a lifetime ago and it doesn’t matter but I am trying to change little habits that may trigger me
        last night was hard and sweaty like you said haha
        thanks for your msg and I’ll keep posting because I want this so bad, tired of misery

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    I’m up and getting ready for the day. 6.17am here. feel average but focussing on it being the last time I feel this and just wanna get through the day, hour by hour if need be. thanks for your msg and how r u

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    thank you all x

  • hey guys
    I’m back, I’m falling apart, I know what I need to do but refuse to do it
    I feel like I’m falling and just testing how low I can get to the ground before I pull the parachute cord and my children are watching and screaming at me to pull it now!
    I’m feeling very sorry for myself but also realise I’m being weak and selfish and a bad father and just a bad human
    I need support and this is the place it all started for me two years ago, I feel safe here!
    I miss light and joy and energy and time well spent
    I’m tired of using all my energy to pretend I’m ok
    I’m ready for real, lasting change but can’t do it alone
    I hope you are all well and fighting hard
    peace and love

    • Hi @dylan-john. How are you. Where are you. Reach out here, use the help line, let the members here help you. For your kids sake Kia kaha, be strong. Good luck.

    • Hi @dylan-john, you made an awesome move to come back, thats actually really really brave while you are feeling all those feelings. You can totally do this, especially with these wonderful supportive people. And as you know – all of us “get it” and none of us judge, we all know how bloody hard this it. IT IS BLOODY HARD!!! Geez that could be me writing those things. I’ve been drunk numerous times right in front of my kids, and my 5 year old would pour me glasses of wine one after the other . WTF – right. But I’ve never been more honest with myself and my situation than over the last few days. So many stories, so many journeys, so I tautoko (support) you brother, you can so do this. Keep posting

    • Welcome back @dylan-john. We are all here for you, let’s start over, step one, no booze tonight. Check back in the morning.😊

    • thank you all x

    • Glad you checked back in @dylan-john. I scrolled through your posts and it looks like you were doing well a year ago. You were checking in often. Why not make yourself accountable to everyone here and commit to check in daily? Everyone here supports you and understands. I think staying connected with this community would be a big help. You can do this. I will not drink with you today!

    • Cut the cord! Get off of the entire ride. Get rid of your stash, if you have one and start now @dylan-john. This parachute metaphor is understandable but is allowing room for more destruction. It’s the booze talking. You can take full control of your actions (choice) and stop. Keep posting!

    • I’m up and getting ready for the day. 6.17am here. feel average but focussing on it being the last time I feel this and just wanna get through the day, hour by hour if need be. thanks for your msg and how r u

  • Dylan.John posted an update 4 months ago

    hello beautiful people
    sorry I’ve been a stranger
    been thinking of you all and with the madness a few days ago you are all in my heart xoxox

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 8 months, 3 weeks ago

    amazing achievement mate. congrats

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 8 months, 3 weeks ago

    thank you all x

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 8 months, 3 weeks ago

    the drink has be by the throat again, laughing at me, controlling my every thought, my every move.
    I feel so fucking weak and useless, I’m such a worse father than I can be and it stabs at me.
    I’m over this dieasee

    • Don’t let the grog tell you bullshit @Dylan-John – you’re not weak and useless. I’m glad to hear you say you are over the disease though, because you and your family deserve to have the best you around – the one that YOU love and respect too. And that is totally possible – just gotta put sobriety first and throw everything you have at it. You’re worth it, please hang in there. You just need the strength to put one foot in front of the other – one day at a time – until you build a life of success. You’ve got one life, and its worth fighting for xx

    • Being critical of yourself is only going to make it worse. Every parent I know has times when he/she is not parenting well. It happens; our children are resilient and the most important thing you can give them is unconditional love, which sometimes involves an apology.
      You can pull it together. You have no choice, right?

  • hey guys
    I’m lost. I need help. seriously thin ice at the moment
    hope you’re all well
    xo

    • Hello @DylanJohn you have found all of us here and we are here for you. There’s lots of help and we have all skated at times on thin ice. Join us on the journey to feeling well and being the best person we can be. Post as much as you need to and night and day around the world the LS tribe will be here. m

    • Hey @dylan.john thanks for checking in. It must be a thin ice kind of a day. I had to tell the wine witch to rack off (sternly!!!) this afternoon. She was trying to tell me one little drink wouldn’t hurt. Whatever!!!!!!! I know where that one drink leads…

    • Hi @Dylan.John, what’s going on? What’s your trigger? What has helped before? Long hot shower with some good music in order? Or perhaps a really big feed so the stomach is just to full for anything else. You can do this. You can do this.

    • Sending thoughts ofstrength, comfort, and love. A support phone line may be helpful.

    • You have been here before, as we all have, youve got out of it before with the site. Dont lose the 1 thing your fighting for and screw everything else.

    • Just hang in there @Dylan.John – don’t put a hole in the ice and fall through, its too hard to get back out! Sounds like things are hard for you right now – we’re here for ya, you’re not alone xx

    • the drink has be by the throat again, laughing at me, controlling my every thought, my every move.
      I feel so fucking weak and useless, I’m such a worse father than I can be and it stabs at me.
      I’m over this dieasee

      • Don’t let the grog tell you bullshit @Dylan-John – you’re not weak and useless. I’m glad to hear you say you are over the disease though, because you and your family deserve to have the best you around – the one that YOU love and respect too. And that is totally possible – just gotta put sobriety first and throw everything you have at it. You’re worth it, please hang in there. You just need the strength to put one foot in front of the other – one day at a time – until you build a life of success. You’ve got one life, and its worth fighting for xx

      • Being critical of yourself is only going to make it worse. Every parent I know has times when he/she is not parenting well. It happens; our children are resilient and the most important thing you can give them is unconditional love, which sometimes involves an apology.
        You can pull it together. You have no choice, right?

    • thank you all x

    • Hi @dylan-john sending love and support, throw everything at it, YOU deserve it!

    • Hey, @dylan-john, thin ice is what i feel like some day, but especially at the beginning of my AF stroll, i am sure that i dropped through a few times, keep head up and make it your only goal of the day not to pick up a drink. i apologize, i don’t know a lot, i read your profile, but am hoping you have had some sober days strung together like a chain of puka shells. just keep on. feel the shift when you know it is your day and do NOT let that day go. again and again and again, throw all your tools, walk, run, scream, eat, sleep, but your only goal for months should be, don’t pick up. sorry if this is too much.

    • @dylan-John we are all here for you. Lean on us. Log in often, whenever you need us.

    • Hey @dylan-John how are you? We’re here for you xx

  • hope you’re all well beautiful humans x

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 11 months, 1 week ago

    hey Ro I know you meant well and I appreciate it

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 11 months, 1 week ago

    thanks for this amazing reply mate. makes total sense
    you’re awesome

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 11 months, 1 week ago

    Hey mate
    Trying to reinforce positive thoughts, kept myself really busy last night after work. Leaning on music a lot at the moment, sad as it is I feel like it’s the only friend I have. I know that’s not the case but being honest I do feel really isolated at the moment I’m just not keen to open up to anyone
    trying to organize counselling, holding on to any hope there is I guess
    Don’t like being so negative on here but I’ve never been one to sugar coat either I have to be honest about how I feel
    Thoughts of drinking are coming and going, both sides of that coin seem appealing the bad side only sometimes lures me, the good side is inarguable
    I’m rambling
    thanks for checking in mate

    • Hi @Dylan-John. You are on the down-curve that follows on from the Pink Cloud at the moment. The alone-ness and feeling down come directly from this. We get the elation of the Pink Cloud as our bodies try the re-normailse the levels of dopamine and serotonin in our brains after stopping drinking. While we drank the natural production of both of these reduced. When we stop drinking our bodies try and find a new equilibrium and initially overshoot the mark producing too much. That’s when we get the bullet-proof feeling of wellness of the Pink Cloud… that’s us having more dopamine in our brains. After a while our brains correct this overshoot, and for a while it under-produces both dopamine and serotonin. Low dopamine makes us feel down, and low serotonin makes us feel socially insignificant. That’s where you are at the moment. It is entirely normal, and shitty as it feels it is exactly what should be happening while your brain adjusts to not sitting in a puddle of alcohol. You’ll start to feel yourself again pretty soon. Hang on in there.

      • thanks for this amazing reply mate. makes total sense
        you’re awesome

      • Have you checked out rational recovery @dylan-john ? You are a clever dude I think it will resonate with you. Hope you didn’t think I was coming on too strong yesterday- sometimes I have foot in mouth and just blurt shit out. But it was meant with good intentions. Hope you’re having a better day 🙂

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 11 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks everyone
    appreciate the support

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 11 months, 1 week ago

    thank you
    beautiful advice
    One moment at a time, I am trying

  • day 57
    12:09
    Had a really stressful week!!!
    Was sick last weekend so my weekend was basically wasted which I was bitter about, lost Monday and Tuesday at work with sickness too and my car broke down on the way to work Wednesday so I lost that too. I’m plagued by anxiousness when I call in sick because I did it so much falsely. The car was really expensive to fix so I has to borrow money from family which I hate these days as it makes me feel inadequate and I’ve done it so much in the past but lied to get it or used it for drugs and drink.
    Struggling with my partner I feel like we just go in circles constantly and have become housemates pretty much, I feel like she could be doing more around the house especially with clutter and throwing out things that are making our lives harder to manage. We fight about it so much I’m not sure if I am going crazy sometimes. This issue is too deep to go into, we need to communicate better and get help I just don’t know if I want to or not. I’m scared of what will happen if we part ways, shed never keep the kids from me but I’d see them less there’s no doubt about that and they are the main and almost only thing keeping me going
    I want to drink, I want to get drunk, I’m thinking about it a lot but I know it won’t help just cause pain and make everything worse
    Just fucking over it all lately and feel very isolated inside my own head, sick of feeling like I’m stuck in the cement and not moving forward
    I don’t want to talk to anyone about it, I don’t want pity or someone pretending to understand I just want to be well and I’m fucking sick of this disease
    I could go on but won’t, that’s enough darkness for you all to endure
    stay strong everyone
    peace

    • @dylan.john I am so glad you posted here versus running to drink as you’re right it’s only temporary and everything that is going on Will still be there. So proud of you for staying the course. I truly believe You will have a breakthrough and your circumstances. The hard part is just not knowing….keep faith keep strong and I’ll be rooting for you

    • Hey there @dylan-john that all sounds a bit shit mate. As for calling in sick, hangovers were in the past, so don’t feel guilty about that, you have been genuinely sick. Nothing you can do to change the past, so move on from that. And same goes for borrowing the money-that’s what family are for, and I’m sure you would do the same. Just make good on the repayments and it’ll be sweet. Things with your Mrs sound a bit more concerning. You guys need to have a serious discussion and get things out in the open. You have children together that need their Mum and Dad to be a united front-I’m saying this from my own experience of breaking up with my kids Dad, and changing their lives forever. It’s not about you, it’s about them. They didn’t ask to be born and you need to make it the best you possible can for them, and work out that shit with their Mum. Is it really important for their mental health and well being to have a Mum and Dad that are together through thick and thin. Things can be worked out, overcome and compromised on. As for drinking-get rid of that stinking thinking mate- do you really want to fall back down that black hole? No no you don’t, and you know it. Nothing good would come of it, and all the hard yards you’ve been putting in would be a waste of time and effort. Buckle up Dylan, time to put your big boys pants on, and get strong in your resolve. You’ve been on this merry go round before. Get off and choose a different ride. Be strong . You can do it. For yourself. Your Mrs. And your children. They need you.

    • Communication is a really big thing and can help a lot when issues in a marriage or partnership constantly crop up. I know from personal experience that nothing ever goes away till we learn from it and try something different. Don’t drink on it cause in my experience it makes things so much worse and things get said that can be pretty mean and of course you feel like shit from the alcohol. I have a cold at the moment and my husbands car needed something fixed laat night which we couldn’t afford and we too borrowed the money as he needs his car. Things seem to feel better after you sleep on them. We have two kids and both come from parents who had broken marriages so are not wanting to do the same to our kids that we went through but you need to speak up and honestly and calmly try to be honest about what you need from her without criticising. I find that helps a lot. I’m thinking peaceful thoughts for you.

    • Hi @Dylan-John You’re meeting life as it is, not with your head in a bottle. While you were drinking you were only making matters worse, but now you can see things as they are. SOBER… Son Of a Bitch, Everything’s Real! Go back and re-read what @Ro said to you, it’s the best advice you’re going to get anywhere. Breathe, straighten your back, pull those big-boy pants up, pick your head up and step forward… you’re needed.

    • @Dylan.John – sounds like a stink as week, one thing after another for you. Unfortunately, life still throws us these curve balls, sober or not they still keep coming. But, by staying sober you are in the best place possible to deal with, roll with and meet head on all of the crap, and the good stuff, that comes your way. Keep venting on here, most of us do from time to time. I remember feeling super irritable at the 60 – 70 days mark. It was like my brain fell to pieces, memory shot, but it all came together again in time. Breathe, you can do this xo

    • Hi Dylan.john.Youve just spoken to all of us on here and that’s therapy in itself.We won’t give you pitty,just an understanding of,we all know how you feel!!Everythings raw,It’s like we’re baby’s again,learning from scratch after we’ve just lost our dummies,our comfort and it’s hard..Throw in the fact you’ve been sick,your cars broken down and your relationships under pressure,all adds up to that dark cloud andfeelings of anxiousness and uncertainty.Try not to tackle any other stresses right now,your takling the biggest one of your life right now,not drinking,that’s enough.The cars sorted,works sorted,already past events.Take one moment at a time,things will get better

    • Thanks everyone
      appreciate the support

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    Don’t beat yourself up, we do that enough in our oblivion. Use this to your advantage, learn from it, leave it in the past as a lesson learned
    you can do this

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    cheers mate feeling good
    hope you’re well

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    nice work!
    Friday after knock off/nights are my biggest challenge too

  • day 47
    6.26
    feel like I had a bit of a win last night, in all places my dream haha
    I was given two beers at a party, I knew I was dreaming and I’ve been able to lucid dream as long as I can remember, but i tipped them out. I know this seems a bit weird but I actually feel really stoked because of all places to drink why not in a dream? I’m not really drinking right? I won’t get drunk, absolutely no one will ever know…
    Feels good that sobriety is ingrained in my subconscious somewhat
    stay strong everyone
    peace

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    alcohol is our solution
    getting sober allows us to face the real problems with strength

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    thank you mate x

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    so good

  • Dylan.John posted a new activity comment 11 months, 3 weeks ago

  • day 39
    19.20
    The worst of winter is over, 15 degrees at 6am
    The last day of the week is here and so is my old friend
    A friend who stole and made me sick, a friend who never helped
    A friend who took me from my kids, who took me from myself
    A friend who wouldn’t quiet down today, a friend persistent
    A friend who offered quick escape from problems non existent
    A friend I listened to all day, considered every bribe
    A friend I almost called back to arrange a place and time
    A friend I can’t delete for good but can choose not to see
    A friend i didn’t see today
    My friend the enemy

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