• dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 3 days, 2 hours ago

    @kjpeche I can relate. You and I are on roughly the same day count (I’m on 110), and I’ve been struggling too.
    I’m trying to to easy Keto, but really just trying to cut down on carbs (they don’t make me feel that great) and up the vege components. I’m also trying to ease back into running, but only when I really feel like it.
    Basically, my goal is health, but let’s not kid anyone – I would like to lose some weight too.
    I have noticed that overall, this stress me so much less than it did when I was drinking.
    That ‘I hate myself’ cycle is really diminished with the lack of wine intake.
    It’s more like, oh well, tomorrow I need to try and be healthier, move on.
    I’m still really at the stage of trying to sleep as much as I can, take vitamins (did my bloods and I’m too low on iron), and be kind to myself. My skin looks great though!
    I have always struggled with not eating crap food. I love love love fried and savoury food. Sugar is not really my thing.
    I’m trying to think if I can not drink wine, then I can also not eat crap, but its definitely a journey and still a work in progress.

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 3 days, 2 hours ago

    Agree with @Lee. Well done @timetobesober. Isn’t it fascinating how really really hard things are so much more manageable when you are not drinking. They are still hard of course, but you are stronger and know that sweeping problems under the carpet (with the help of a drink or 10) only makes it worse. So much for stress relief. The truth is that drinking only adds to stress.
    The very best of luck to you. Truely, a brave inspiring post.

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 4 days, 16 hours ago

    I have to say I am the same as @stevef here. I love a decent mocktail.
    Definitely not trying to deceive anyone, I’d be the first to admit its virgin but why should people drinking alcohol have all the fun. I’m actually fascinated to see what bars and restaurants around NZ have the best AF cocktails I’m offer
    I’m based in Wgtn, but heading to AK soon for work.
    Anyone have any recommendations?
    In Wgtn Charlie Nobles has a few creative ones. I hear Nightflower does too.
    Havana Bar was incredibly disappointing with its AF selection.
    Perhaps we could start a list of recommendations around the globe in site menu @mrs-d?

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 6 days, 14 hours ago

    Massive congratulations on your 40 days @māoriGirlSober ⚡️

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 6 days, 22 hours ago

    Completely agree @Jesss I’ve found stopping drinking pretty easy compared to some people, but I really struggle when it comes to food… And it doesn’t mean I didn’t have a problem with how I drank. I just count my lucky stars and hope it lasts.

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    @aprilsfool love this 💕
    Thank you

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    @mrschurchill I’ve known for about 5 years but it took a few really dreadful nights out over about 2 years before I really faced facts.
    And then the job I’m currently contracted on was incredibly intense and I realized I just wasn’t on my best form. If I wanted to succeed at my job I needed every ounce of my brain, and not to be foggy due to drinking too much over the weekend. That then turned into facing the bigger picture. I also have a much loved sister that I was spending a lot of time with, and her drinking was really worrying me. All of the above just kind of collided at the right time for me to just stop. It hasn’t been hard at all so far. I think for me the slow slow burn meant it was just the right time.

  • dorothyparker posted an update 1 week ago

    I posted the link to this on a thread yesterday, and re reading it, I remembered how bloody brilliant it is…
    @jennah this might help you

    The Obstacle Course (written by Clare Pooley)

    I read loads of sober blogs, and I get hundreds of e-mails and comments from readers of Mummy was a Secret Drinker.
    The ones that really make me want to cry, and yell in frustration, are the ones written by people who do the first few days over and over and over again.
    They do four days sober, then back to day one. They manage ten days next time, then go on a bender. Three days. Four days again. Ad infinitum.
    I get it! I really do. I’ve been there. We all have. And you do just have to keep persevering until one day it just sticks.
    But now, with the benefit of six months of hindsight, I just want to grab them in a big bear hug and yell “Nooooo! You’re doing the hardest part over and over, without ever making it to the good bits!”
    And the problem is, the longer you spend wallowing around in those early dark days of despair, the more you manage to re-enforce the idea in your subconscious that that’s what sobriety is all about.
    So, if that’s you, then think about it like this:

    Imagine you’re standing in a field which you’ve been in for a long, long time. Initially it was beautiful – filled with wild flowers, friends, sunshine and fluffy bunnies (maybe the bunnies are a bit too much? But, hell, I’m going with it).

    But, over time, it’s got more and more miserable in your field. There are still some sunny days, but there’s an awful lot of rain, and some terrible thunderstorms. You keep thinking the flowers are growing back, but they die before they bloom. The bunnies are few and far between.

    Then you start meeting people who tell you about another field, not too far away. They’ve seen it. Some of them live in it. It’s everything your field used to be, if not more so. And they appreciate it so much more because they’ve seen what your desolate home looks like. They used to…[Read more]

    • Love it. I am reckoning a Bright Eyes fan. Yup a marathon not a sprint. Great inspirational story, thanks.

    • Teazy replied 1 week ago

      I have read this before and as a serial re-setter i can so relate, doing the hard bits over and over and it feels like such hard work without the benefits! this is amazing and gives so much hope to newbies, thanks for posting!

    • Yikes this made me tear up because it hits so so close to home. Even this week I have been imagining “maybe this weekend I’ll allow myself a few drinks because I’ve been doing so well.” This could not have come at a more perfect time. Truly, thank you.

    • Thank you @dorothyparker!! Yes, I’ve read this before but forgotten it! This will come in handy for the next time I think I want a drink.

    • I came across this early on in my sobriety and would read it over and over again. Good to see it again. Thanks for posting!

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Hi @Tedthedog – we are all different.
    I know there is a lot of ‘I could have written this post’ comments on this site, but Living Sober has 8,500 members, so no surprise there are many common denominators.

    My question for you would be – why do you pick up that glass of wine?
    Do you think it will be different this time?
    Do you just not recall, at that time, what you hated about feeling like you are living a lie?

    I’ve not really had any problems with giving up drinking so far (106 days)
    But.
    I can feel myself slipping into the thoughts of ‘was I really that bad’ and that is why I stay close to this site.
    It reminds me that yes, I didn’t drink normally. I was shamed and unhappy often about my drinking, which was beyond my control when I stopped.
    I can’t lose sight of that fact, and being on here (and hearing other people’s struggles) makes me face that I have had it lucky so far with stopping, and that normal drinking people do not join a sober living website.

    Maybe keeping a letter written to yourself – or even a print out of what you have written above – somewhere that you can read it, before you next take that single glass of wine that sends you back into that booze bucket, might help?

    A reminder from you to you, that you don’t want the drinking phase in your life anymore.
    Lastly, don’t feel ridiculous. We are complex beings x

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Yippee @ladyhawke! Off like a rocket ⚡️

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    @JPM as you say, you are feeling good today so decide. I AM DRIVING.
    Then, your decision is made. No need to worry about it any longer.
    Thats one of the exhausting things about drinking – should I do this, what if I do that…ugh no wonder we get so worn down its easy just to reward ourselves with a drink.

    Make your decision not to drink when you are feeling strong, and then move on to the next thing like, what are you going to order?!
    I also like to research non alcoholic drinks available in advance, so when you are asked, there is no sudden uncertainty or accidental wine ordering
    I hope you have lots of fun at your sons birthday dinner x

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hey @option, In the wise words of Van Morrison, there’ll be days like this.
    It will pass and you’ll have another day like yesterday.
    The best bit about not drinking is that you are not ruining your tomorrow’s happiness or adding to tomorrow’s woes.
    It’s a journey that gets easier with time.
    Clare Pooley wrote a great blog post about finding the field with fluffy bunnies.
    http://mummywasasecretdrinker.blogspot.com/2015/09/the-obstacle-course.html?m=1

    • Wow! What an epic read. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it, and understand. I’ve been here before. I don’t fancy coming back again and again.

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    @MāoriGirlSober you are rocking it hard lady. An inspiration x

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Wise words @seizetheday

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Big scarey changes are often the good ones!
    I hear AA recommends no major changes within the first year of becoming sober. I suspect that is extremely good advice..

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Congrats on 56 days @burnssimon.
    To echo @enzedgirl this is a common complaint here and I just felt exhausted.
    I slept well and often but still just so damn tired.
    However, I ended up getting all my bloods done and hello, I’m iron deficient.
    No idea if that’s related to not drinking (?) but I am glad I know the cause and how to try and improve my energy levels.
    So talking to your GP and getting some tests could be an idea worth pursuing too

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Oh Sam27. You’ve been in my thoughts and I know many others.
    I haven’t walked in your shoes. I can’t image your pain.
    But – this as true for you as it is for me. You ask, how do you stop? You don’t pick up the glass or bottle.
    Thats the only way you stop drinking. Day by day, minute by minute. You just don’t do it.
    You are the only one that can make that choice.
    I know it’s not easy. And if you falter, then you pick yourself up and try again.
    But.
    That is how you stop.
    Many people here have gone through hospitalised withdrawl programs or help with medication.
    Have you attempted those as an option?
    I wish you luck x

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    @Shez I can tell you from my experience by the time you hit Day 100 its much easier x

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago


    Great podcast interview with Catherine Gray

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    I really want to read Drinking, a Love Story. Its not available on kindle and our library doesn’t seem to have a copy…

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Yipee! Congrats @kjpeche – 100 days feels just different. A real milestone. Roll on the next 100 x

  • With so many new members on the back of the stuff article, I just wanted to mention books I found helpful when I was sober curious.

    I suspect most new peeps here would have come across Lotta’s fantastic books ‘Mrs D is Going Without’ and ‘Mrs D is Going Within’.
    If you haven’t read them yet they are great reads.

    I also loved ‘Dry’ by Augustine Burroughs, ‘Blackout’ by Sarah Hepola, ‘The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober’ by Catherine Grey & ‘Girl Walks Out of Bar’ by Lisa Smith.
    A firm favorite (I’ve read it three times!) is ‘The Sober Diaries’ by Clare Pooley.
    Many people here have great podcast recommendations also, but my podcast feed is too full with my murder obsessions…oh and the moon landing, anyone listened to 13 minutes to the moon? BBC podcast as the 50year anniversary is coming up on July 20th 👣🌒🚀

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    @malibustacey CONGRATULATIONS, showing us how it’s done ⚡️⚡️

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    @DennyD such great feelings! Exercise really helps, doesn’t it. I’m so glad for your achievements ⚡️⚡️

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    @jm wise words.
    I agree, it’s much harder to keep going than it is to stop.
    Living life without hangovers, sleep deprivation and bitter regret is well worth skipping that bucket sized glass of red wine (& the rest)

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    @aprilsfool you’re an inspiration. And such a great writer. I want more. Is your memoir in the works??

    • Thank you @dorothyparker. Maybe someday, if I can work through all stuff in my past, I’ll put it down on paper. I appreciate your support and wouldn’t be here without it – and everyone else’s.

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Thanks all you lovely folk xox

  • Today is day 100 AF.
    When I joined this site, there was just over 8000 members. Today there is 8470.
    I want to thank Lotta for starting Living Sober and for all the people on here who are so generous and kind with their time, comments and unfailing support to everyone that joins.
    We are all traveling our own path with our relationship with alcohol.
    Some people here have struggled for years.
    Some have been sober for years.
    Some are concerned about their level of drinking and are looking for help.
    Whatever stage you are at, there is so much love and wisdom offered here.
    Thank you for making the last 100 days much easier.
    Here’s to the next milestone, I’m going to aim for 365 days.
    To those who have joined, I want to echo Lotta and others here – there is no downside to being alcohol free.
    I went to an average party last night. It was a bit awkward, combination of the venue and the mix of people. I obviously wasn’t drinking and when I talked it over with my partner he said ‘awkward because you weren’t drinking?’ And I said (and realized) ‘no, it would have been awkward either way – but I got to leave, drive home and not wake up feeling like utter crap’
    Being sober doesn’t suddenly magic you a better life, but it doesn’t make bad things worse.
    Kia kaha x

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    In 20 years with my husband I’ve seen him drunk about 3 times – and that was only because I was pregnant. Every other time I’ve been about 4 x more drunk than him. Honestly, the scenes he has had to put up with (mostly without a whisper of complaint) is incredible. Either he’s a saint or he loves me a ridiculous amount or he likes me being a messy wasted vicious smelly mess. I’m going to hope its the middle option! In any case, for me if he does get drunk I think he gets a few free passes 🙂

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    Good for you @sam27. I’m in bed too! I love early nights so much. Have a wonderful sleep and wake up on your Day 2 knowing you did it ⚡️

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    My best advice. Commit to yourself.
    If you don’t feel you are important enough to make a promise to (low self esteem is something I struggle with) – commit to your sons.
    Both the beautiful boy you lost and the beautiful boy you have.
    You are worth being sober for yourself, but if that’s taking some time to learn..
    Be sober for someone else until you know you are the reason for your own sobriety.

    Distraction. Do something, go somewhere. Do something that you don’t usually do, whether that’s a yoga class, listening to a meditation podcast, swimming….break the usual patterns.
    Be gentle, kind to yourself. What you are doing is hard hard hard. But you’ve been through hard right? You can do this.

  • Today I am feeling really glad that I’ve not been hungover for bloody ages.
    I watched a film yesterday with someone getting really drunk and throwing up – hugging the toilet bowl – you know that old familiar feeling.
    It was visceral and I literally felt nauseous watching the scene.
    It made me so grateful that I’ve not been hungover for almost 100 days.
    I hate that feeling. More than I love the happy drunk sensation.
    I’m not able to have one without the other so it was a good reminder of what I’m happily missing out on.
    Then today at work, someone who works for me who’s literally half my age, was still feeling seedy from getting really drunk on Saturday night.
    She missed the most stunning day yesterday. Wellington pulled out an epic one.
    She missed it. I ran 10k and really enjoyed it.
    I feel so grateful that I’m not drinking.
    The quote that resonates most with me: drinking is stealing tomorrow’s happiness x

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Hi @tgrim I can fully relate to your post. That was me almost 100 days ago.
    It has been such a relief to make the decision to stop drinking.
    You won’t regret it.
    It might be incredibly hard. It might be easier than you think.
    Either way, you will not have to wake up thinking what the fuck did I do last night.
    Who is upset/mad with me? Who do I have to make amends with (even worse when you can’t recall what you did and really do not want someone to tell you).
    We get it. We’ve done the same messed up things and have the same regret.
    It’s okay.
    This site is amazing.
    There are some great books out there, lots of recommendations for podcasts etc.
    My advice is be gentle on yourself and don’t forget how you feel about drinking today.
    I am at the stage when the mists of time are starting to blur what was so terrible about my drinking.
    I really felt your post came at a great time for me to remember how I felt almost 100 days ago.
    Life AF since then has been great.
    Waking up clear headed is the best.

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Far out @Suze99. You are a wise person. I just read your post about having a rough day and some bad news about your job and here you are, propping up Sam27 with your kindness, wisdom and love.
    You are amazing.
    I have zero doubt that you will find your way successfully through your current problems, and probably end up way better off.
    Hats off to you x

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    @Sam27 I am so very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what you’ve been through. I wish you the strength to stop. I know you must be an incredibly strong person. I echo @Suze99. This site and the people on it really help. There is nothing here but support, love and understanding for your struggles with putting down the drink. Sending you aroha

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Oh gawd yes, I’ve signed up for just 10k (I’m a sucker for medals). Ridiculous really for that distance but I’ve not run since the Waiterere Forest Run (another 10k I didn’t train for)…
    It’s really annoying me that despite being on Day 90-something I don’t feel like I have any energy. I used to run a lot and absolutely loved it but right now all I can manage is work and sleep..

    • Haha @dorothyparker I was like that too but signed up for the Taupo 50km. My turning point was stopping the booze and getting a coach, before that I just did parkrun on Sat and a run with the marathon club on a Sunday, always after a bottle of wine the nights before.

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 5 days ago

    @kitten thank you!

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 5 days ago

    @deester what great advice, thank you. I am going to try and remember WAIT x

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    @Ro – we are on round two of our dogs, always have two on the go! The JR was hilarious, full of beans right up until the end pretty much. Now we have a sleepy westie who loves nothing more than snuggling in bed.
    @Tom4500 – I have had it good as well. I am super lucky and know it. I love your analogy of weeds popping through asphalt. Its exactly like that

    • Ro replied 4 weeks ago

      aaw I LOVE Westies- they are SO cute! I know two in real life. One is on a farm and she’s a great wee farm dog. Gets filthy lol. The other is a cute wee town doggy.

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    Thanks @jm I’m looking forward to making some lasting changes for the better with myself and my relationships. PS love your profile picture, Jack Russell? We had a dear old boy that lasted to 17! Still miss that furry face

    • JM replied 4 weeks ago

      Thanks! He’s part terrier, labrador and greyhound – originally a street dog from the Yucatan in Mexico. He’s the sweetest and my ultimate sober coach. The positive changes keep on coming, expected and unexpected ones. : )

    • Ro replied 4 weeks ago

      What a mix! Naaw he’s lucky to have you @jm 🙂 17 eh @dorothyparker I’ve a Jack Russell mongrel who is 8. Another 10 yrs of him might push me over the edge…just as well he has a cute wee face cos I tell you he’s been a wee bastard over the years. As dogs go he is by far the yappiest, shrillest, vicious,brave though-is a fantastic mouser,LOVES trying to smash hedgehogs to pieces, goes any dog that is larger than him, honestly SO embarrassing . Shits at least twice on a walk. My other dogs ( Staffords ) are such babies in comparison. And sooky with it. Anyway I digress . . .Congrats on 85 days. Must be something in the water mate, I’ve been reading up on personality types and perhaps I’m more passive aggressive ( I always just thought I was aggressive aggressive lmao ) and I need to be more assertive. Thing is I don’t like confrontation either-unless you’re talking Bob Marley albums ha ha aaahh dear I need a holiday. Keep up the great work 🙂

  • dorothyparker posted an update 4 weeks ago

    Day 85! Getting excited about hitting the big 100 soon. Haven’t experienced any pangs or regret about not drinking. It took me so long to actually throw in the towel I think I’d done my wrestling while still imbibing.
    I’m now moving into thinking about emotion suppression. Being your classic people pleaser, I’m trying to really analyse how I honestly feel about things. This does not come naturally to me.
    I’m quick to anger, to complain. But I’m not good at dealing with the actual person that’s causing me problems.
    What’s the difference between bitching behind someone’s back and working through a problem by taking it over (not with the person directly involved)?
    I have some work to do. I guess 46 is not too late to start.
    Happy Thursday wherever you are and whatever day you are on ⚡️

    • JM replied 4 weeks ago

      Hi @dorothyparker! Congrats on 85 days!! Everything changes in sobriety – I found I looked at relationships very differently. Said ‘no’ to social events, rather than go to them reluctantly and drink. I was 46 when I got sober too, best decision. : )

      • Thanks @jm I’m looking forward to making some lasting changes for the better with myself and my relationships. PS love your profile picture, Jack Russell? We had a dear old boy that lasted to 17! Still miss that furry face

        • JM replied 4 weeks ago

          Thanks! He’s part terrier, labrador and greyhound – originally a street dog from the Yucatan in Mexico. He’s the sweetest and my ultimate sober coach. The positive changes keep on coming, expected and unexpected ones. : )

        • Ro replied 4 weeks ago

          What a mix! Naaw he’s lucky to have you @jm 🙂 17 eh @dorothyparker I’ve a Jack Russell mongrel who is 8. Another 10 yrs of him might push me over the edge…just as well he has a cute wee face cos I tell you he’s been a wee bastard over the years. As dogs go he is by far the yappiest, shrillest, vicious,brave though-is a fantastic mouser,LOVES trying to smash hedgehogs to pieces, goes any dog that is larger than him, honestly SO embarrassing . Shits at least twice on a walk. My other dogs ( Staffords ) are such babies in comparison. And sooky with it. Anyway I digress . . .Congrats on 85 days. Must be something in the water mate, I’ve been reading up on personality types and perhaps I’m more passive aggressive ( I always just thought I was aggressive aggressive lmao ) and I need to be more assertive. Thing is I don’t like confrontation either-unless you’re talking Bob Marley albums ha ha aaahh dear I need a holiday. Keep up the great work 🙂

    • 100 is my favorite milestone, with the one-year being close second. Some consider 100 days to be the sign of a person who’s serious about it and has a good chance of making it. Your mention of emotion suppression caught my eye. As my months of being AF roll by, I find that there are little things from long ago coming to mind, like weeds popping through asphalt. Some call it peeling the onion. Whatever it is, it’s something that is happening naturally, I haven’t tried to uncover any suppressed thoughts. And I like to remind myself that I’ve really had it pretty good.

      • @Ro – we are on round two of our dogs, always have two on the go! The JR was hilarious, full of beans right up until the end pretty much. Now we have a sleepy westie who loves nothing more than snuggling in bed.
        @Tom4500 – I have had it good as well. I am super lucky and know it. I love your analogy of weeds popping through asphalt. Its exactly like that

        • Ro replied 4 weeks ago

          aaw I LOVE Westies- they are SO cute! I know two in real life. One is on a farm and she’s a great wee farm dog. Gets filthy lol. The other is a cute wee town doggy.

    • Congrats on getting to 85days! One day at a time and make sure to celebrate those milestones, even if it’s just a nice hot soak! Or a long walk 🙂

    • Hi dorothyparker (by the by, Dorothy Parker is one of my favorite authors). Well done on 85 days. I too am a people pleaser and noticing myself not automatically jumping in to offer a solution or opinion or judgement. This is huge for me. I think dealing with difficult people is a challenge for all of us. If it is someone that matters to me, I pray about it and ask for guidance and usually the matter gets resolved on its own or an opportunity to resolve presents itself w/out me having to orchestrate anything. If it is someone just passing through my life, I turn away. Least said, soonest mended. I like this acronym -WAIT: Why Am I Talking. It is usually my mouth that jumps in there and causes most of my grief. 🙂

    • congrats on day 85.

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    I could have written this post and I’m now on Day 79. Things are good. I feel a calm that I just didn’t have before. Work is still crazy stressful and I’m still learning to cope with that but I know I’m less reactive and have a clarity I just couldn’t get to when I was drinking.
    Managing stress by drinking is such a trap.
    Today I too got up early, made bread, fed the animals, drank my tea in bed and am reading. It’s the best thing for me after a long busy week.
    I am so so glad I didn’t have a bottle or more of central otago Pinot last night, my usual end of week reward.
    Being at peace is worth it

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Congratulations @malibustacey! Amazing achievement. Roll on year two of sobriety ⚡️

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    I love alcohol free beer. Doesn’t make me want real alcohol at all. But then, wine was my thing, not beer, so maybe that’s the difference.
    I don’t like Seedlip, the botanical no alcohol ‘gin’.
    Tastes like expensive water – which is what it is.

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @morgan, jumping in on your conversation… I’m trying Keto as I want to drop about 10kgs and now, with 58 days sober under my belt, I think I can stick to it. I also naturally love fat and protein (eggs! Bacon! Cream!) and have had success in the past with other low/no carb diets.
    Anything I need to watch out for or advice you can give me?
    Thank you in advance x

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    @jesss thank you so much, very interesting. I will get my bloods checked!

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    You know what I love most about your post @soberdaisy?
    You chose yourself and your sobriety over someone else. And I of course don’t mean that negatively, you met your sister in laws need for some comfort and solidarity – just in a way that met BOTH of your needs.
    I feel that so many of us don’t think it’s okay to put yourself first, and that we are the first ones to think our well-being is less important than someone else’s.
    And it’s not.
    I love your post. Thank you for sharing it

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    What is Thiamine exactly and script/no script advantages? Is this an NZ thing? I’m intrigued

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    @soberwifenewlife like many above, your story is my story. I’m Day 53 and don’t miss alcohol at all. But I love being AF. Life is so so much easier without it. Going out is more fun. I used to dread a social event because I didn’t know if I would disgrace myself or not. I’ve always been a binge drinker. I wish it didn’t take me so long to figure out I could actually just not drink. Welcome to a new life, it’s much much better!

  • dorothyparker posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thank you so much for all your enthusiasm and encouragement.
    @enzedgirl I did actually splash out and buy myself an expensive skirt. I don’t usually wear skirts. This was unassociated to reaching 50 days but maybe subconsciously it was a treat.
    For my 100 I’m not sure, maybe a dinner party with friends and cooking fantastic food!

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