• delgirl68 posted an update 4 days, 16 hours ago

    Hopping into bed with my herbal tea. Made it through – it was touch and go there for a bit earlier this evening, I am away on a “mini break” with my sister. Took a bit of talking to myself – coming in from that ledge I wanted to go over. But all good. Pheww. Need to be on my guard for the next few days. But like @MissFreedom below me has said, the…[Read more]

    • oxoxox I am so glad you made it through, and gave yourself a good sleep after an herbal tea. Most days I feel like a good sleep cures 98% of feeling-waves. oxoxoxo

    • You’re answer to the next time of a questioning/debating mind is this mornings reflection. Great job staying true to you and your ultimate desire to remain AF. Enjoy this little things today.

    • Wise. Yes, willpower will let us down according to research – our bank account runs out pretty quickly if used too much throughout the day. Neural change is really the only safe thing, and takes a lot of time which is hard for we impulsive types!
      Have fun xxxxx

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 4 days, 16 hours ago

    That is awesome!

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    This book has been on my list to read for a long time, it sounds like it had a big impact. Do you think i’s something more people should take a look at? ie do you recommend it?

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hey @peterf, welcome to this great site

  • delgirl68 posted an update 1 week, 2 days ago

    I went to a 50th birthday today. I was reluctant – it was a camping weekend. It was the birthday of one of my yoga teachers, so it wasn’t going to be a bender, but being around that many people, drinking just normally….felt pretty conflicted. It was actually my 12 year old that convinced me, as some of his mates would be there. So I took my…[Read more]

    • Love the esky/chilly bin thing…I remember all of those words from Australian English and miss being immersed in it. Sorry to hear about your sober hero lapsing….may it be a lapse and not a full on relapse. You’re a good person for wanting to reach out to him in peace and quiet, he may be more open then. oxxoxxo

    • I’m glad you had a good time. I’m still not wanting to or feel ready to socialize sober.

    • Love the term chilly bin in south Africa we call it a cooler box. I love hearing different words used in different english speaking countries. A funny one I think unique to south Africa is we call traffic lights robots so if you’re ever here and someone says turn left at the robots you’ll know what they mean 😉 hope you manage to have a good chat…[Read more]

    • I think chillybin was a brand name. Same as eski.

      Sorry to hear re your sober role model drinking. I can see how that would rock you. And I think your idea of talking to him later about it is a good one. Be prepared, if he’s on his way back to drinking he might not want to talk to you about it 🙁

    • That is a lovely post after the way you have been feeling. Great news about the sleep too. Have you grabbed any other remedies? I read a great article on raising dopamine so will try and capture to post here – every new person should follow, and those of us who start to feel a bit meh

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Big hug from me too @dreamer88, that’s so lovely that as he wold be proud of you. You could dedicate your sobriety to her sometimes when the going is really tough.xx

  • delgirl68 posted an update 1 week, 3 days ago

    Just been driving home tonight listening to the news – I’m so saddened, and shocked. My prayers and thoughts are with all NZ’ers tonight , Im so sorry this has happened in your beautiful country. Love to you all xxx

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    I slept from around 11 all the way through till 6am. wow! It’s been a while. Lets hope it wasn’t a one off

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    The salads lol! That must have felt very good to hear x

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Woohooo awesome x

  • delgirl68 posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    *So when I lie in bed at night and can’t sleep, I try and switch my thoughts back to look for things to be grateful for. To switch off from the shite that usually floats in my head.
    *I found this good app called “Calm”. I signed up kind of accidentally the other night – you get 7 days trial for free and after that they hit you up for a year $70.…[Read more]

    • 30 das done and dusted high five!!! oxxox Love the sleeping help strategies there. I found that moderate physical exercise also helps. Puts my body and brain into an exhausted state so that sleep beats thinking, as I tend to overthink and ruminate.

      oxoxox

      Thanks for sharing this! Now I REALLY want some lavender tea tonight myself! Nom!

    • Have you tried melatonin?

    • I hope as I write this you are peacefully and deeply asleep @delgirl68 I have also been struggling to sleep lately uuugh such torment lying awake for hours

    • Insomnia – sounds awful though I rarely have experienced it. Have you tried the soporific Tara Brach late at night? or in the too, too early morning? She does it for me every time, but then, I am a sleeper from way back – sorry, not meaning to rub it in your poor tired faces @Ellislou and Delgirl

      • I slept from around 11 all the way through till 6am. wow! It’s been a while. Lets hope it wasn’t a one off

    • congrats on 30 days.

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    My mum has it too, she’s in a care facility down in Sydney – 4 hours away. I try and visit once a month or 2 but geez it’s awful. We were very lucky, it was a very smooth transition, moving her in there (not for my sister and I though). Funny this came up cos I was just thinking about mum tonight while I was cooking dinner. I thought I’d love to…[Read more]

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Wow, that amazing – you can cruise into retirement without having that drama of addiction. Freedom to be you

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Sounds like you are shaking things up in there and hahaha not many people like their boat rocked! Must feel great to be appreciated, and so good to know your’e making a difference in these kids’ lives @janus2. They can’t do anything with the video surely. You’re rocking it xx

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    That sounds like an incredibly brave process. Something that you will get so much out of – amazing growth on the sober path. Congratulations on 3 years xx

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Welcome @changeitup, it’s good to have you here x

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    What a great thing to do for yourself, I’m going to pinch that idea and buy a special mug too.

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Go you! I love that – finding the love within yourself, thats beautiful xx

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Welcome @hope1965. It’s great you have found this site. It is unbelievably helpful and you will get to meet people here who truly will be in your corner when you need it.

  • delgirl68 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Heya, how’s it going?

    • So far so good. The weekend starts tomorrow which is typically harder for me. Plus St Paddy’s Day on Sunday. But, I feel strong. How are u doing?

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