• Lee@ posted a new activity comment 2 days, 7 hours ago

    I really appreciate how you’ve defined this stage @DaveH as I was/am beginning to feel a bit alienated. Shared it at a meeting as well the other night and got some wonderful feedback. I’m on step 6 and it’s harvesting all of the reckless behaviors. Now that they are in light, they must be smashed, just like the booze was. Nothing about this is easy but it has to be done.

    • Hi @lee-2 as you look across your whole progress away from despair try to divide the challenges into these three areas. 1. Stopping drinking. 2. Becoming well 3. Staying well. They don’t run one after the other they all overlap but this is our progression into feeling fulfilled in life. Each of these phases has completely different challenges and disciplines and you will see them clearly once you stop and look. You are well into “becoming well” and fast approaching the time when managing your condition becomes the main thing you have to work at. I like to think of my work on addiction as “treatment”. While I keep doing the work (taking my medicine) I stay well. But if I fall off the treatment plan the the symptoms return. If I let those symptoms gain strength then I will drink again so the challenge becomes recognizing when things aren’t right in my head and then taking the right corrective action. It takes some ups and downs and learning to get a good grip of this but it comes as our self-awareness improves… and you are running well ahead of the pack on that one. You’re going great and an inspiration to everyone. Please don’t underestimate how you sharing your journey here helps others. For everyone that replies to something you say there are 50 that it touches that you don’t see. Keep learning and growing and shining.

  • AndIan posted a new activity comment 2 days, 9 hours ago

    Thanks @daveh, that helps. Can I assume that the normal hydration levels affects joints, lungs and liver and kidney function too. I feel a remarkable change in health and body. Breathing easier, joints less stiff and more flexible and changes in waste excretion too. All for the better. Additional skin colour and complexion all improved. The physical benefits are quite amazing. Not forgetting the mind changes. But the physical improvements are great to see and feel.

  • Lee@ posted an update 4 days, 12 hours ago

    105 days at a time today. I’m finding it a bit strange just how much I live in my own head these days. Finding hard to relate to people at work sometimes but most of my free time is spent doing recovery related or other healthy, constructive things and I’m quite sure no one there is interested in where I am at with my recovery or the books I’m reading, (although some maybe would benefit) therefore conversations are very limited. At this point, anyway. Feels like an odd sort of growing pain, one that doesn’t hurt though, and I know that this is just a phase and exactly where I need to be in order to continue this sober journey. I always have the option to be drunk instead but that hasn’t worked out very well for me during the last 30 years. Missing a few warriors here lately. @malibustacey, @DaveH, @Wakingowl Come out, wherever you are!! Wishing everyone a fantastic sober day!!xo

    • I feel like that @Lee, I spend all my time reading sober books that i don’t seem to talk about it at work, they just wouldn’t get it.. in fact a friend at work said “I’m getting slaughtered tonight” then looked at me and said “oh sorry luce”… she just doesn’t get that I couldn’t give a rats arse how pissed she gets or how hung over she is tomorrow, this is about me and normal drinkers just don’t understand that this is an addiction and we can’t help it.. I get fed up of being looked at as if I’ve got 3 tits… anyway sorry to go on.. just thought I’d say congrats for 105 days x

      • Isn’t it strange how people have to tell us things? Almost every night the lovely friend I live with has to tell me how much she has drunk, or how she bought wine after intending not to etc etc – it is a fantastic reminder of the terrible prison one is in when hooked. Helps me, but curious.

        • @morgan It’s not everyone, just a few. One made a snide remark recently after I’d commented on how a food item made me happy. She said “I guess it doesn’t take much since you don’t drink”. The same one is always commenting on how little she drinks. Who the fuck cares really. I don’t go around bragging on being sober nor do I judge those that drink but I already know that there’s a certain amount of misery to be had and shared by problem drinkers (having been one) and I am sort of being snuffed for being out in left field. There are 2 people that are apparently miserable and choose to extend their unfavorable behaviors in my direction. I don’t think I was ever so cruel. Maybe I’m being overly sensitive.

      • @lucy it’s more like 3 tits, 5 eyes and some horns! Sucks being looked upon as a leper just because we are trying to better ourselves. I only get the jab from a few though. The rest at lease have some sense about them.

    • @Lee thanks for thinking about me, was just about to post for the first time in days. Good on you for 105 days!
      It does seem we inhabit our own little world some days, it’s amazing how much time and space staying clean and healthy takes up.

    • Hi @lee-2 Yet again I read one of your posts and smile at the remarkable pace of change in you and your self-awareness of them. You say “I’m finding it a bit strange just how much I live in my own head these days…. most of my free time is spent doing recovery related or other healthy, constructive” Isn’t that a colossal change? There was a time not at all far back that time alone was filled with churning thoughts filled with doubt, fear, and dread and then drinking to oblivion. Now that time is spent making things better for yourself instead of making things worse. You also have this remarkable comment “Feels like an odd sort of growing pain” and this is precisely what it is. I drank from an early age and then increasingly heavily from my twenties onwards. While in that time I continued to learn new things and grow my capability what I was not doing was growing as a person; that had been paused while I served my addiction. But it began again once I stopped drinking. This line describes it well. “I started to become the person I should have been a long time ago”. My life has changed completely since I stopped drinking and it has changed in ways I could never have foreseen. I couldn’t foresee them because I am a quite different person to the drunk that once lived in my brain. I live entirely differently, I do different things, I think differently, I am motivated differently, my values are different; everything, absolutely everything is different. This all took quite a bit of exploring, discovering and growing into. It felt a bit weird sometimes but it all formed up into a completely new personality. I didn’t revert to the person that I was before I started drinking (I was only a teenager then), I became someone totally different. That is the journey you are on now and it is going to take you to some entirely unexpected places.

      • I really appreciate how you’ve defined this stage @DaveH as I was/am beginning to feel a bit alienated. Shared it at a meeting as well the other night and got some wonderful feedback. I’m on step 6 and it’s harvesting all of the reckless behaviors. Now that they are in light, they must be smashed, just like the booze was. Nothing about this is easy but it has to be done.

        • Hi @lee-2 as you look across your whole progress away from despair try to divide the challenges into these three areas. 1. Stopping drinking. 2. Becoming well 3. Staying well. They don’t run one after the other they all overlap but this is our progression into feeling fulfilled in life. Each of these phases has completely different challenges and disciplines and you will see them clearly once you stop and look. You are well into “becoming well” and fast approaching the time when managing your condition becomes the main thing you have to work at. I like to think of my work on addiction as “treatment”. While I keep doing the work (taking my medicine) I stay well. But if I fall off the treatment plan the the symptoms return. If I let those symptoms gain strength then I will drink again so the challenge becomes recognizing when things aren’t right in my head and then taking the right corrective action. It takes some ups and downs and learning to get a good grip of this but it comes as our self-awareness improves… and you are running well ahead of the pack on that one. You’re going great and an inspiration to everyone. Please don’t underestimate how you sharing your journey here helps others. For everyone that replies to something you say there are 50 that it touches that you don’t see. Keep learning and growing and shining.

    • Heya Miss @Lee@…you are nothing less than spectacular!!! Working in the food & beverage industry must be a “mildly interesting” environment at the mo??? How do ya do it?? Mind you, I’ll bet you’re bloody brilliant, that’s how. Ohhh girl…we’re so honoured to follow your progress (as far as the ol’ alcohol is concerned). My my…lots’a love, M.

  • Jocord posted a new activity comment 6 days, 23 hours ago

    Hmmmm, I don’t know if you are feeling the pink cloud or just feeling happy. @DaveH would tell us the pink cloud is the brain producing a super amount of dopamine in response to the removal of the abnormal dopamine (alcohol). So that would be a completely individual thing. I think you have it exactly right. You can enjoy where you are right now and look forward to discovering all the joys of a new AF life while being aware of the ups and downs of life in all it’s rawness. There are some who crash pretty hard into anxiety and depression after quitting drinking and that’s a valid reason for cautionary statements to the group as a whole. Go ahead and enjoy!

    • Thank you. Having had a couple of crappy days I think it is more just intense emotions emotions including happiness which had been dulled by booze. Not used to feeling!

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Thank you @daveh. Not chasing the thoughts around or debating them but instead using them to defeat themselves. This is revelatory! I’ve suspected this might be the answer but how you describe it really packs a punch. Bless you for this response, I read it all with utter resonance.

  • newstart100 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    I learn so much from you @daveh, thank you for all that you share with us. It is invaluable xoxo

  • morgan posted an update 1 week, 6 days ago

    I hope it is the site and not just my computer??? I searched for mentions @danthedev – it is a pain at present – oh, see you @Ro and @Daveh

  • Lee@ posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    I agree with @sober4real and @DaveH. I had some success staying sober in the past but it was limited until I made a firm commitment to my self. Doesn’t mean that I am never tempted to drink anymore, I just don’t give in to the temptations or cravings and they have become less frequent. It takes practice and effort to retrain the brain but that’s basically what I’ve had to do as mine was hard wired to drink. You can do this!

  • I opened the Toolbox under reading material, and I came across this posted by @daveh, and highly recommend this for new and relatively new folks recovering. https://lyingminds.sixboats.co.nz/links/

    Keep on keeping on my friends!

  • Lee@ posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    How incredibly heartwarming it is to wake to this today. Thank you @MalibuStacey, @DaveH, & @timidwarrior for your kind words and for thinking of me. The little girl in the photograph that I chose for this website last year is a random picture that I’d found of her dancing amongst a crowd of at the big Woodstock concert in the 60’s. I immediately fell in love with this photo as she looks so happy and free. That’s how I feel and am now, for the most part and thoughts are, so is my cousin after some years of battling cancer. I’m feeling happy and sad at the same time. Not looking forward to driving in rough weather today to attend the funeral but it’s a pin prick in comparison to other life experiences that I’ve had, mainly what it’s taken to get sober. The last time I saw this cousin was at a funeral for another one, that had died from cancer and addiction. I was sober at the time, had been for months and she was so very proud of me. She’d lost both parents to alcohol related deaths and alcoholism is widespread in our families but she was spared of it. I was elated to wake up sober today and even more so to recognize the fact that this never has to end. 30 days if fine, been here before many times but what really excites me is not the number, it’s the heartfelt fact that alcohol no longer rules my existence and I am carrying out this enlightened life as a result. I feel balanced, secure, confident, whole and also very fortunate to have found you all here and to have my sound group of sober friends that I’ve made through the years in AA. Ironically, the person who first introduced me to AA 17 years ago was a lovely lady from NZ who had been living in the US for years and got sober here. We’ve been great friends ever since and now I’m thinking the whole lot of you are equally as wonderful! Can this be? 🙂 I will find out soon enough as I am planning a trip there next year sometime and hope to have the pleasure of meeting some of you in person. This sober…[Read more]

  • janus2 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Mm debate that of being ashamed of being bipolar, huge stigma still out there, and huge regrets of spending approx 5 yrs in n out of looney bins, rehabs, residential care, over today of shitloads of meds, as meds added to, since op and hit depression. So..
    Depression more accepted out there b4 bipolar or schizophrenia, as i used to say i was, with lol violent sexual tendancies to scare the bajesus out of people when in care, left me well alone lol 😁🤔 @DaveH

  • kaydee posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Thanks for taking the time to give feedback @daveh. I think I’ll do the same.

  • MissBennet posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    Hi @DaveH, thanks for your reply. The triggers had been along the lines of H.A.L.T earlier and because I could see them for what they were, no worries. I have also, like @Morgan (and thank you for your kind words), been going to and am going to club stuff and could handle being around booze. But this was triggered long before I got to the bar and I think I was trying to win a colleague over. When she suggested a drink, I stupidly thought yup, that will be a bonding session. Unfortunately, I don’t trust her, it was her environment, not mine and she is a force of nature. Hindsight is like, come on, what were you thinking? The lack of trust and lack of bonding grew. She used to be a really good friend and we used to drink together all of the time but the job took us separate ways. Now I feel an undercurrent, something I can’t put my finger on. Anyway, as you say, it’s made me stronger. Gosh I have a conference with her and her friends in November. I’m dreading it. I have my own room thank goodness.

  • getclear posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    @sobere, glad you’re back on track! I wrestle with moderation as well when I am an active drinker. True for many That is a spot on description of me as well by @kitten. I read a reply from @daveh last night of ways to stop the madness of drinking. They were excellent words of advice. Many peeps on here say one leads to ten. Very very true. Do whatever it takes not to sip even the one!

  • Sparkle posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    I really needed to read this @DaveH – I am 575 days but struggling tonight with some anger around an issue at work. I think I will get busy on Penzu – thanks 😊

  • happymoods posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    Thank you @daveh. I really love and feel relief knowing that I can observe the thoughts as lies and call them out, each and every one. I feel more capable of doing this than in previous attempts, I don’t know why, I’ve just had enough I guess. Reaching out to LS shows me I must remember why I stopped in the first place. Like you say, the lies are real, loud and persuasive, but still lies. So true. So helpful. I’m so thankful I’ve found this.

  • heidi19 posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Yes @DaveH, mona was telling me all of that last night, but ever so briefly as I said to her so nicely she had to leave as I had things to attend to! She acted like I would expect a lady would, leaving oh so quietly!! Thanks team sober!

  • heidi19 posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Just had a cuppa and cracker biscuits and relish and cheese! Has hit the spot nicely! Thanks for a great reply @DaveH, never stopped to think how many old read my posts!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Thank you @daveh 🙏

  • Lee@ posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Yes @DaveH! Make sure to bury the shovel on your way out!!

  • Lee@ posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    @Shez, just keep in mind that the detox symptoms and any cravings will pass. The first few days are the worse but it gets so much better. It will never get better unless you stop. You CAN stop the horrible cycle and do not have to be a slave to alcohol any longer. Make sure that you have food that is easy to prepare and enough for a few days. I ate whatever I felt like in the beginning, gave my body whatever it craved except for booze but certainly wasn’t feeling health inspired or creative in the kitchen. I felt like absolute shit. Not sure if shit has feelings really but you get my drift. I’m thinking that you can still download a book called “Alcoholism in a Nutshell” by Stan West which is a publication from our own @DaveH. (Hope I got this right) Reading about alcoholism was just about the only constructive thing that I could do at that point. That book has helped me immensely! DaveH also supplied you with a very helpful list of what to and not to do in the early days. It’s not something to be checked off and completed, rather great suggestions and advise. Prepare yourself for some down time as you will feel sick. It’s very likely if your a gluttonous drinker as I was. @MalibuStacey once compared it to an exorcism, which I thought was pretty close! The demon booze is leaving your body and it can be quite unpleasant but no birds should fall from the sky! It kinda felt like having the flu for a few days but once that parts over the healing begins and everyday gets brighter. Welcome to sobriety my friend!!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    I had a read through this @daveh, I will definitely use these tips!! Much appreciated!!!

  • heidi19 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @DaveH, I’m just worried if I go in the opposite direction I may get lost(forget where I was heading) and I’ll have no friends to return me,lol!!

  • heidi19 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Yeah, wondered about being healthy and going for a walk to the pub,lol!! @daveh.

    • Hhaha. My experience was that it was wiser to set off in the opposite direction, otherwise when I got near the pub I’d be going “you’ve done so well! you deserve a drink after that” But of course one was never enough for Eric (that’s what I called mine).

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Thank @daveh, it’s a lot to take in right now but I really appreciate you taking the time to share!!!

    • Lee@ replied 1 month ago

      Baby steps @Shez! It’s going to be OK. Just do yourself the biggest favor you’ve ever done and don’t drink today!

  • Daisy posted an update 1 month, 1 week ago

    OMG you guys are so amazing thank you so much for all your comments it has really inspired me I made it thru the day 1 today day 2. @DaveH thank you for the great ideas. I work log hours and last night I bought something to eat on the way home from work and that really helped to not walk in the door hungry-that’s my one super tool EAT. And I will not worry about weight right now it will all even out without the booze.
    Thank you all again for the great ideas and SUPPORT. Off to work feeling brighter and better and motivated to change:)

  • TimetobeSober posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    A good list @daveh!

  • enzedgirl posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    i’ve gotta say @daveh i think it’s also true that we get much more skilled at managing cravings or random thoughts … as well as the reality that they get much less over time

    • Hi @enzedgirl re “i think it’s also true that we get much more skilled at managing cravings” Yes, for sure! We have no direct control over cravings… they occur completely automatically and we can’t stop that, but we CAN change how we respond to them and we CAN to a significant extent manage how we expose ourselves to them. Both of these will help us get through those crucial first weeks. Regarding dealing with the cravings that come we’ve the straightforward; delay, distract, and deny tools, but if we work carefully on the “distract” one then we can avoid one craving triggering another… once we start to dwell on the idea of having a drink then we’ve going to keep re-triggering ourselves. But also in the early weeks we need to think about reducing our exposure to triggers. We can overcome a craving far better when we know it is coming, but fighting off cravings is exhausting, so another thing we can do is space them out a bit so that our resolve doesn’t get completely depleted. We know the times of day/week that are going to be the most challenging so we can deliberately fill that time in a way that completely occupies us… leaving no space for the craving to enter. We can also plan to expose ourselves to certain triggers in controlled ways… socializing, going into bars etc, celebrations… these are things we can elect to do or forego for a while, and if we choose to do them then we can prepare the circumstances (be accompanied, have a way to leave etc, etc).

      There is a great deal we can do to help ourselves with cravings, and we can do the same for the other challenges… lies our minds create, changed emotional state, and biased memory.

      As you say “we get more skilled…” We can do this by figuring it out for ourselves as we go along, or we can take advantage of the experience of others (when we find it convincing). The second route favors fewer relapses. My experience was that the more I was able to learn from others the easier I made my o…[Read more]

  • AprilsFool posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    100% agree @DaveH. It continues to amaze me how different I feel without alcohol in my body. Some people may think that it’s bullshit, but it’s not. My whole outlook has changed. I’m not stuck in that downward spiral anymore … Feeling sad, then drinking cuz I’m sad, then hating myself for drinking, then getting depressed because I hate myself. Then start the whole stupid cycle again. Ridiculous waste of time, emotion and life. The thing is it all stops when the alcohol goes away. If this looks familiar to anyone, give it a try. You’ll be happy you did.

  • getclear posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    So true! @DaveH! You’re right, with all these people posting life without drinking is beautiful it’s hard not to want what they have found and it does seem very possible with just some work!

  • Jocord posted an update 1 month, 1 week ago

    Hi sober warriors! Thank you @Winner for the shout out!😘💋💕😄🙋. I’m coming up on 13 months AF next week! Hurray, yay! I tell you, I’ve been going through some shite lately and I am so happy for the support of this site. Last night I had to make a presentation in front of our township board opposing a land rezoning. I was the first name called. Well, better to get it over quickly. Long story short, after a string of opposition speaches, the township approved it anyway. If it comes to fruition it will change the quality of our life here in a big way. After the meeting hubs stopped at the store and asked if I wanted a drink. I said I really wanted a very large beer. Because I did. He said I could have one. He’s of the opinion I can drink one day and not the next. Outloud I reasoned “no, this is the whole point of being AF everyday, if I drink today that would be ok but then I’d drink tomorrow and that would not be ok and then I would quickly be back in the same mind fuck I was in before and who wants to start all over again?” He went in and bought me a nice large, cold ICE flavored water and I was able to make my morning physical therapy appointment today. My world was rapturous today. Sunny and warm, trees aflower, lunch with Mom and brother, a walk in the woods turned up a nice batch of huge morel mushrooms, son is at respite and I get to go to bed when I want. No thoughts of drinking to ruin my peace. As @DaveH life is wonderful without the booze! To give it up its short term pain for long term gain. And so worth it! xoxo

  • Krisb posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Thank you @daveh this is a keeper for sure!

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Thank you, @DaveH. Exceptional post!

  • hikermom posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    These are exactly the reasons I decided to stop. I was so scared for my health, above all else. I watched through Facebook as a friend of a friend of mine died at age 33 from liver failure. One of my good friends sisters died the year before from the same cause. One of my close friends lost her father to liver cancer. I saw all of this happen within the course of a year. Suddenly I started reading about physical damage, seeing the articles coming out about it, paying attention when the news hit about the drunk driver who crossed the line and killed a mother and child….. and that’s just some of what can happen. Once I saw it, I couldn’t look back. I couldn’t unsee it. I’ve been AF ever since. I want the best odds I can get at living a long and happy life. When I was drinking, I was taking years away and living the ones I had in depression and hopelessness. I’d rather be sober and happy, even if it sucks sometimes. I just read a book that said something along the lines of “I want to feel all of my feelings, not just the happy ones.” It went on to say that making that choice was one of the most courageous things a person could do. I like that. It empowers me and motivates me. Thanks for the post @daveh

  • Izzy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Wow. This post will probably save my life. Thank you so much. I intend to read it over and over. Everything you say makes sense. Thank you @DaveH you’re a smart man!

  • Hammer123 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Great post @missfreedom and a great response from @daveh. Helping others does seem to also help ourselves!

  • AprilsFool posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Thank you @DaveH. I learn sooo much from you.

  • Izzy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @DaveH you always have the most helpful, sincere posts that just click!

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @DaveH @freedom1025 @gage @tewy @rise2015 @enzedgirl @Hammer123 @Mari135 I wanted to thank each of you again for your words the other day. You each helped me so much. I had a frustrating internal struggle a few times while out on that birthday date night that is typically filled with drinks pre, post and during dinner, but I had none. It really was healthy to exercise these sober muscles. Yesterday we met our group of drinking friends for Mother’s Day at a local brewery, and I didn’t have a problem ordering kombucha instead. Ultimately, I am so happy with how this first sober weekend went, that happened to be filled with two celebrations that usually would have been filled with mimosas, wine and beer. Now it’s Monday morning and I feel great physically and mentally. Thank you again and again. Have a great week everyone!

    • Yay! Now you know what a sociable AF weekend can feel like – and you know you can do it!

    • Well done!! This is where the change starts to happen … you prove to yourself that you CAN go out and have a nice time without drinking. Alcohol is such a liar. It tries to convince us we can’t do anything without booze in the mix. SO NOT TRUE! I’m so very happy for you. Keep going. 😊

  • Hammer123 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    I agree with @DaveH, I don’t think your husband understands your struggle and how difficult these 40 days have been! Most normal drinkers could go 30 days and not realize that they have done it. We really know that your 40 days is a big deal! We are very proud of you and support your accomplishment! Keep doing what feels right, keep being your best self and eventually the world will notice!

  • Lee@ posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Brilliant answer @DaveH. Iv’e also come to realize that those who do understand can be indifferent, especially if they’ve witnessed you relapse time and time again. I can’t let other peoples judgement or lack of influence me anymore. Learning how to love and respect myself is enough for now.

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you so much @DaveH. I needed that. I know everything you just said, but I really needed it to be told to me. All the research that I’ve been doing has taught me about the alcohol voice and I know this is it that is talking. And you ask “And how will you end up feeling about yourself?” Such a good question…not only is it my birthday and day 8 of a really great healthy feeling streak, but it’s Mother’s Day the next day and I don’t want to wake up feeling like I let myself and my kids down. I really appreciate your words. Thank you again! I hope you’re weekend is off to a healthy, awesome start.

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    @savtadontdrinknomore goodness I can relate so strongly to the not believing I can stay sober ! I initially set myself a one month goal of sobriety because to think past that seemed impossible ! I’m gratefully 38 days sober today and so much has changed within myself already and externally, my thinking is clearer and brighter. The list of massive benefits is long ! I share them all here and here https://sobernotesbyangie.blogspot.com/
    Staying close to this community was advice @DaveH gave me not long ago and its great advice. Reading others stories and sharing my own here, attending AA and my faith in God have all helped keep me sober this time, I can’t do it alone, I’ve tried and failed so many times so stay close x

  • SoberDaisy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks @daveh your posts are always so relatable and help me to make sense of why can’t I drink.

  • MalibuStacey posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you @Daveh. Another exceptional piece.

  • Marie2 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    @marnielee it’s hard isn’t it. Reading one of @daveh ‘s posts about alcoholism being progressive scared the life out of me. I’m keeping that thought front and centre. Continuing to drink is not treading water, it’s slowly drowning. Wishing you strength for your journey x

  • TimetobeSober posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you @daveh, @sober4real, @morgan @angiex, @mari135. Your words of wisdom, experience, advice and kindness mean a lot! It helps so much knowing that i am not alone in experiencing these things and I hope my mindset will improve with time. The important thing is that however shitty it makes me feel I do not want to drown it out with a drink or 5. Next target for me will be to carve out some time for exercise. I have a feeling that by pushing myself physically I will also improve my mental resilience. Early night for me tonight, have a good morning/day/evening xxxx

  • JR posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    @danthedev – awesome! When that function is developed, will you give me a shoutout. I will save this post to share with these lovely sober rockstars. Thank you! @daveh @mrs-d @winner @mari135 @prudence @morgan @r51 @agirl @ro @liberty

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    @daveh I love that simple reminder that it is as it should be and a sign of healing! Great reminder!

  • Lee@ posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    @DaveH has a book “Alcoholism in a Nutshell” which is a fantastic resource. It helped me immensely and my drinking patterns were very similar to yours @Medow. Were. 🙂

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