• DaisyH posted an update 2 months ago

    End of day three, 29 minutes to go until there’s no more booze to buy tonight. I’m holding on by a thread. But I’m here. Have a great day folks. x

    • Congrats! Distract jump in the bath or shower then paint your nails! Shops closed ! Done! ❤️

    • Hang on to that thread! Then you can feel really proud of yourself.

    • Way to go Daisy!!! Three whole days being so so strong. Sleep well xo

    • Hello @DaisyH and well done you! Yes that first week is shit, I remember. I think what you need to do right about now is focus on how much it took to get you to Decide again to give it up and join the sober goat track again. Making that decision is half the battle. It’s a bit like me putting my gym shoes on to go do a work out this morning. Putting them on is the hardest part. Deciding that is what I am doing whether I like it or not. I know and you know that the really deep part of you wants your sober life back. Honour that deep part. Don’t toss it away for sake of one more bottle of wine, or 10. Remember also that that in a week you won’t be feeling how you feel today. YOu won’t be feeling deprived of something that gets you through. You’ll be feeling proud and grateful that you are one smart lady who toughed it out and is honouring the person you know you are, and want to be. Think once again of what you are gaining, no what you are missing. You are missing a toxic poisonous addictive crappy soul destroying substance and you are gaining your self back, and your pride and your happiness and contentment and all of this will soon be radiating from you. Hugs xoxox

    • that first week sucks, but really when you start thinking about how your body is healing so fast in the those first weeks, you can almost feel the healing happening. congrats on making it through day 3. it does get easier.

    • You know the ropes. Who is supporting you? Lovely to see you back – did I say that? And I saw your little blog – left me longing for more!

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    I’m looking at getting a new book, so that’s a great idea!

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Hey thanks go you too. x

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    thank you so much I hope you’re well xx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    I had an icelolly at lunch today and then one again at home time, seemed to just hit the spot! x

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Gardening is my thing I’ve been utterly ignoring it at home whilst I’ve been drinking so I headed to the garden centre tonight and got some bits to do the front bit of the garden. x

  • DaisyH posted an update 2 months ago

    Day 3 – bit of a fitful nights sleeping but feel better waking up without the guilt – last night was hard though I nearly caved a few times. Cooked, cleaned and put away the shopping instead, Got to 20k steps by the end of the evening when walked the dog, rather than kicking him out in the garden.
    Need a few strategies for tonight, I need go and get some bits for the garden. Might get myself a sober treat……..have a great day folks.

    • Looks like you found some cool distractions that worked! That’s what were supposed to do, too @DaisyH. Goin’ real goood.

    • Well done, what about a new hobby something that engages the mind? Knitting or some such thing.

      • Gardening is my thing I’ve been utterly ignoring it at home whilst I’ve been drinking so I headed to the garden centre tonight and got some bits to do the front bit of the garden. x

    • Ooooo sober treat yeah do it!!!

      • I had an icelolly at lunch today and then one again at home time, seemed to just hit the spot! x

    • Nice job!!

    • Way to go!!!
      xoxo

    • Sober treats! Great idea. I bought fresh flowers … crunchies (love those chips!) … online books … whatever I fancied. Reward yourself. This shit is hard. But the payoff with each passing day is priceless! Good luck. Stay close. This is a great place to land.

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Day three is hear after a fitful night although I slept, I feel so much better. No more 4am up and restless. Have a great day.

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    I like that she read it herself and was very honest.

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Good for you!

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thank you for the shout out @morgan I found my way back, I’m hoping you are well x

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Welcome @lawfs32

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Keep that sober car moving forwards Joblogs – you can do this. Day 2 here we come.

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Izzy I’m with you here take it easy and try to be kind to yourself. Step by step. Day by day.

  • DaisyH posted an update 2 months ago

    Day 2 – I’m cooking and cleaning, made myself do an online shop last night to ensure I had to be home and sober to receive it between 6-10pm which is the slot I chose. I was talking myself in and out of drinking in the car on the way home. I came home and ate a snack, put myself to work on some chores. No drinking, tonight I have to be here, I have to wait for a full load of AF shopping, to be engaged and to be alert. The door is open and the garden birds are singing. I don’t feel much in the way of joy like I did when I woke up earlier today, but I know, I deserve to feel so guilt free in the morning. I need to enjoy the birds singing knowing that I got 8 hours sleep, no 4am wake up. I’m listening to ‘The unexpected joy of being sober’ by Catherine Gray – its candid and very humbling to listen to accounts of wine in juice bottles and the lows that come with alcohol. Be well people, thank you for the kind words. Love and Strength. XOXO

    • Well done, on to day 3 you go. Changing routine is good for the brain as well as helping avoid drinking

      • Day three is hear after a fitful night although I slept, I feel so much better. No more 4am up and restless. Have a great day.

    • I read Catherine Gray, she opened my eyes!

    • I just finished that book too! Made me squirm in spots – cut a bit too close to home for me. So grateful for here honesty. On day 77. I’ve no intention of turning back!

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    @joblogs – aint that the truth. And, thank you it makes me hopeful too. Especially now when the day is feeling so triggery and the night seems to steal my strength. But, I’m home and booze free. xx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    You!!!! Right back atcha! Hey lovely lady. I’m certainly not feeling very sparkly that’s for sure, its a dumb drug that numbs/dulls/steals sparkle. I had a real lovely wake up this am when I just thought, I don’t need take a bath just to wash my hair just to ensure no one can smell the booze, I can just take an extra half hour, relax and get up guilt free. It was a nice way to start the day. I’m struggling now but I’ve eaten and have some activity planned for tonight that keeps me at home booze free. So nice of you all to be so welcoming thank you so much. xx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    @pooks45 looks like we both made it back through, time just stacks up doesn’t it? Welcome back too.

    • Hi @daisyh yes. Although last night I had that internal voice going…come on….it’s just wine. It’s okay. Lol. I won!

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    @ladyhawke I’ve always known one day I would have the courage to be back here, its such a welcoming and hopeful/nuturing place. Thank you for your kind words.

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    @prudence thank you today is a hard day. Its been long and sore and very difficult drive home to stay off the booze trail to the shops before heading home, but I’m here. @tylee thank you its nice to be back. I hope you all are well and hearts are happy.

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    It is indeed my lovely @prudence. Its been a very long wiggly way finding my feet in the right direction back. How I’ve missed you all. xx I’m off to bed now, I’ll pop in again tomorrow. xx

  • DaisyH posted an update 2 months ago

    Hello all
    I’ve been a long time away coping badly with lifes tragedies, no more than a normal person, I’m sure but its been a rocky road and I relapsed, in denial that a few drinks wouldn’t hurt. A day turned into a week, a week into a month, months into years. Today is my new day 1, I have so much to be grateful for, and so much to need to be fully alert and awake for. Very grateful to be here. A new day 1. Hello to all old and new faces. I’m sorry I left but am grateful to be back on the start of a journey.

    • Is that you our little Daisy from Scotland? You beautiful thing. Welcome home xoxox

      • It is indeed my lovely @prudence. Its been a very long wiggly way finding my feet in the right direction back. How I’ve missed you all. xx I’m off to bed now, I’ll pop in again tomorrow. xx

    • Welcome back 🙂

      • @prudence thank you today is a hard day. Its been long and sore and very difficult drive home to stay off the booze trail to the shops before heading home, but I’m here. @tylee thank you its nice to be back. I hope you all are well and hearts are happy.

    • Well done for having the courage to come back 🙂

      • @ladyhawke I’ve always known one day I would have the courage to be back here, its such a welcoming and hopeful/nuturing place. Thank you for your kind words.

    • Welcome back. I’m new back here after a rather long time away.

      • @pooks45 looks like we both made it back through, time just stacks up doesn’t it? Welcome back too.

        • Hi @daisyh yes. Although last night I had that internal voice going…come on….it’s just wine. It’s okay. Lol. I won!

    • YOU!!! How lovely to see you. Sorry it’s been a rough road but great to have you back with us. In time you’ll remember how all the cool people are sober and alcohol is just a stupid drug that dulls and takes all the sparkle out of our lives. x

      • You!!!! Right back atcha! Hey lovely lady. I’m certainly not feeling very sparkly that’s for sure, its a dumb drug that numbs/dulls/steals sparkle. I had a real lovely wake up this am when I just thought, I don’t need take a bath just to wash my hair just to ensure no one can smell the booze, I can just take an extra half hour, relax and get up guilt free. It was a nice way to start the day. I’m struggling now but I’ve eaten and have some activity planned for tonight that keeps me at home booze free. So nice of you all to be so welcoming thank you so much. xx

    • You took the words right out of my mouth! “In denial that a few drinks wouldn’t hurt. A day turned into a week, a week into a month, months into years. Today is my new day 1, I have so much to be grateful for, and so much to need to be fully alert and awake for. Very grateful to be here.”

      It’s wonderful to come back to this community and words that resonate. It really helps and it makes me hopeful.

      • @joblogs – aint that the truth. And, thank you it makes me hopeful too. Especially now when the day is feeling so triggery and the night seems to steal my strength. But, I’m home and booze free. xx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 years, 10 months ago

    Thank you Prudence he was only 364 days older than me. Poor soul. Lovely thoughts to you too. xxxx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 2 years, 10 months ago

    They are lucky to have you Morgan! And thank you for the kind words as always. I’ve not been doing much other than greiving my cousin and trying to find a way to get both feet forward. I’d not really been counting just taking each day as it comes, needing to just be in the now somehow I’ve got to Day 50 again. SO much love to you and your kindness and for those on here having a tough time, I’ve had quite a few steps forwards and many backwards but I’m so grateful to be here.

    • Hello @DaisyH and I’m so very sorry for the tragic loss of your cousin. I will try to send you some healing energy for your soul just by holding you in my thoughts and thinking of gardens and sunshine and laughter and love and contentment. xoxo

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years ago

    Hey thanks! Day 2 again but away in Cambridge hugs to you all xx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Thank you! Its so lovely to see you guys too and have some hugs xx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Oh wow utterly amazing news!! And a house by the sea, how beautiful. One day you never know I might hope to see it, even from afar! x

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Done up there lovely thank you ^^^xxx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Have a great day @mrs-d xx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Hey there how lovely thank you for being so wonderful. I’m promising myself that I will try and do a sober something everyday for at least a month. Hold me to that. I’ve been in a dark dark silly cave. mainly of my own making.

    And, the garden, well slowly its waking up. Thank goodness. Although sunburn and woolly hats are still in order.

    Work has slowed down for the summer, I work in a mainly winter garden. So it means I get four days a week in my own patch. xxx

    Hows life with you xx

    • All good here thanks @Daisy , I’ve clocked up some flipping huge sober miles, who would have thought!!! 676 days now. I am building my retirement home over on the land I grew up on by the sea. Not ready to retire quite yet but thought I’d better get on with it. So busy times for me, and loving the process. My son is building it. “All in the family”…….xox

    • Oh wow utterly amazing news!! And a house by the sea, how beautiful. One day you never know I might hope to see it, even from afar! x

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Oh how lovely – thank you so much. The blog – its not pretty but I’m here. xxxx

    http://thesobergirlwifeandmum.blogspot.co.uk/2016/05/a-peek-over-my-sober-shoulder.html

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    I’m a bit late for the weekend but I am sending lots of huge love to you all xxxx

  • DaisyH posted an update 3 years, 1 month ago

    I’ve been awol, but I’ve been thinking of you all. I’ve been mainly sober, drunk the odd glass occasionally. And fake drunk alot. I’ve updated my blog and wanted to thank all of your who’d got in touch and kept sending virtual hugs when I’d switched my sober head off and I just couldn’t cope. Love and Hugs and Thank you xxx

    • Hello gorgeous @DaisyH how lovely to hear from you. Yes we did miss you, you wee breath of fresh air. Great to have you back, try and pop in more often. How’s the garden? I’ll bet it’s looking gorgeous. Are lots of things flowering? Big grin and warm hugs for you xoxo

      • Hey there how lovely thank you for being so wonderful. I’m promising myself that I will try and do a sober something everyday for at least a month. Hold me to that. I’ve been in a dark dark silly cave. mainly of my own making.

        And, the garden, well slowly its waking up. Thank goodness. Although sunburn and woolly hats are still in order.

        Work has slowed down for the summer, I work in a mainly winter garden. So it means I get four days a week in my own patch. xxx

        Hows life with you xx

        • All good here thanks @Daisy , I’ve clocked up some flipping huge sober miles, who would have thought!!! 676 days now. I am building my retirement home over on the land I grew up on by the sea. Not ready to retire quite yet but thought I’d better get on with it. So busy times for me, and loving the process. My son is building it. “All in the family”…….xox

        • Oh wow utterly amazing news!! And a house by the sea, how beautiful. One day you never know I might hope to see it, even from afar! x

    • Oh hi @Daisy!!! I am so pleased to see you pop up. Are you happy to republish the name of your blog. I’d love to catch up with what’s been going on with you and to reconnect xx

    • Yes link please Daisy xo It’s something like a girl a wife and a Mum

    • Gorgeous Girl!! So happy to hear from you @daisyh 🙂 big hugs xx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago

    Thanks guys! I’ve been sellotaped to my lovely husband with almost zero chance of any online time. All good but does somewhat interfere with life in sober land. I wish you all peace and love xxxxx He’s back at work tomorrow HOORAY I love him so but its time for us to get on with being ourselves for a bit, unsellotaped! Love and hugs xxxx @Morgan @RSW

  • DaisyH posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago

    So we got through the new year and the mad family visits, meals out, nights out and the snuck away holidays. I hope you all are well and happy my sober lovely friends. I find this time of year like an epidemic of bad judgement, bad behaviour and excuse after excuse to over induldge. Its like dodging an alcohol infested minefield. I hope you’ve all found your way through it in your own path. Love and so many sober hugs for the coming year. To those of us who find this time of year incredibly difficult, soulless, hard (with loved ones gone or away), and the soul sucking commericalness just too much have a hug. I never enjoy this time of year, it reminds me of my broken family and my mistakes.

    But, now we’re through it, thank goodness best foot forward. xx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago

    @AEG maybe @Mrs D can give you my email and we can write now and then! xx I’m not online much either at the mo! Love and hugs xx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    Well done! xx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    I had a day off too – pity we’re too far for coffee or tea or cake.

    Pity we can’t have virtual meet ups 🙂

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    Well done!! And good luck!

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    Congratulations and you’re right one day as we go. x

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    I got the headaches too – @hetiheti use to say to me drink more water. xx Just make sure you make time for taking care of you. I also started an elephant dose of multivits which seemed to help too x

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    Hey there Sue – happy happy 3 years you guys are so inspirational and helped me so much on my journey! x

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    All sounds rather yummy on here. Do you guys have a fitbit too – I’ve just ordered one for my anniversary – my extra stone of sober belly needs to go.

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    Distract distract distract and with lovely mood altering music – brilliant I may use this when those craving monkeys start.

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    Did someone say UK…..:)

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    Welcome!

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    Busy, keeping active and an early night. you’ve nailed day 3 x Congratulations. Welcome to Day 4 when it arrives. x

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    Hugs to both you and your daughter. xx

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    When I first stopped folks were quite pointed about my not drinking. Its like you’re holding a mirror up to their behaviour. I’m glad you managed to salvage something good from the evening. Be angry. As for the ‘drunk cuddle’ from often strangers, ergh. Hate those.

  • DaisyH posted a new activity comment 3 years, 8 months ago

    @Morgan you’re always so lovely. Not much happening in my life – aside work ups and downs. Both of us have jobs going through ‘redundancy’ at the moment, husband safe and I might be laid off until next spring. Its a testing time. But the sun is shining and the leaves are a gorgeous riot of yellow, red, orange and we have food in our cupboards. Can’t complain so much. His job is safe, for me that’s the main thing, i’ll be fine xxx When I post something upbeat I’ll share it xxx Must get out with the camera and go find a beach x

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