• Daisy posted an update 3 days, 4 hours ago

    Im moving on to day 5-not going to stop trying the more days away from alcohol the better I feel and Im getting too old for this it does not feel good.

    • You’re so right, @Daisy! I had to become over 40 years old to recognize, that enough is enough! And I found lot’s of people here, who start into a new live after 30, 40 years of drinking. Isn’t that wonderful and encouraging? You are on your best way!

    • Im with you @Daisy

    • Day 5 and onto your first full week! oxoxoxo Way to go!

    • Hi Daisy…62 years old here and on day 17 after 32 years of daily drinking. Just so grateful each morning that I didn’t drink the night before. I’m still working so it’s so wonderful to go to work each day now as my best self. Congrats to you!!! 🙂

    • Right behind you patty’s. 61 years old and on day 54. The only thing that quitting drinking has in common with a shitty hangover is that every second that you don’t drink, you feel better. So the longer you don’t drink, the better you will feel. The really awesome thing about that is that you continue to feel better and better every singl…[Read more]

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 5 days, 4 hours ago

    @Jaxisdry-Hey thanks so much for reaching out-Im on day 3 today was afraid to come back do not want to discourage others. You are doing awesome. I have to keep trying until it sticks.Do not want to carry on with the ups and downs. xoxo

    • Hi @Daisy don’t be afraid to come back what you are doing is hard, it is really hard. Do keep trying you can do this and you have more than 13 days experience under your belt. You have picked yourself up, now lets move forward AF one day at a time.

  • Daisy posted an update 1 week, 2 days ago

    Day 13 off for the weekend with kids-feel strong and certain no desire to drink. Life is good.

    • Well done!! Great news & have fun. Do you feel great?

    • Almost two whole weeks!!! How did you do it? Feeling strong in the early days is pretty fortunate and very helpful for you 🙂 🙂 🙂

    • @Daisy hope your weekend went well. Life is so good AF.

      • @Jaxisdry-Hey thanks so much for reaching out-Im on day 3 today was afraid to come back do not want to discourage others. You are doing awesome. I have to keep trying until it sticks.Do not want to carry on with the ups and downs. xoxo

        • Hi @Daisy don’t be afraid to come back what you are doing is hard, it is really hard. Do keep trying you can do this and you have more than 13 days experience under your belt. You have picked yourself up, now lets move forward AF one day at a time.

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    @MrsD so sorry for your loss. Good luck in your speech-you were given a gift to spread to others, thank you for your hard work.

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    @Jaxisdry Hey Im right there with you Im day 12 and feeling good. Looking forward to a sober weekend, lets touch base on Monday!!!

    • Absolutely @Daisy sounds like your doing well. Our bodies will be loving the no poison. Mine is getting a sugar bashing though never knew there was such a thing as a sugar hangover

  • Daisy posted an update 1 week, 3 days ago

    Made I through my social occasion and watched others drink it was not a big deal but I do remember why I started drinking such a long time ago as a teenager -social anxiety. But now that I am a grown up I will learn how to get through it and grow up which I should have allowed myself to do years ago… I’m up for the challenge. Im feeling so good…[Read more]

    • Good for you, @Daisy. I love that you have a plan and are sticking to it. I think you are right about the fatigue. Your body is healing from all of the past abuse so you are tired. Get plenty of rest. Heck, I went to bed at 8:00 last night.

    • @daisy – I find being self-aware as to why we drank is vital to our healing. Good for you!

    • I think that’s right – getting sober is quite enough to be working on to start with. You’ll know when you’ve got the energy for working on something else as well xx

    • At my previous attempts I’d go in guns ablazin’ to exercise, eat well, and not drink. Didn’t work. This time, 356 days, I did the bare minimum to keep the house clean and the family fed. I used all my energy to be sober. The days were SOOOO long I could wash windows at 9 at night instead of putting the last touch on my buzz. I didn’t start…[Read more]

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    @Mari135 wow that sounds wonderful. Not sure how long you have ben sober but you are living right. And what a gift to get sober at your age because you have soooo much wonderful years of living ahead of you the best is yet to come.

    • Thanks so much for your kind words, Daisy!! They are much appreciated. I have been struggling with anxiety and depression for a long time but am slowly coping better. Last night was a success. No worrying…no catastrophizing…just bliss in the moment. One slow step at a time, I reckon.

      oxoxox

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    @winner made it but right will not do that often.

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    @js123 Hey thank you for your input. I ended up going and all went well. Really the smell of the drink was not enticing at all if anything I cringe with the smell or the though of drinking. Im in a good place right now but like you said will protect my sobriety and will not do that often-I did have to say no thankyou 2 times.

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    @gage I ended up going and Im gad I went. Funny I did not make a big deal of not drinking nor did anyone else but was asked a couple of times if I wanted a drink-no no, no, thank you…but will not do that often fr a while- prefer to meet a gym or go out for coffee.

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    @morgan No you are right they are not boring. And the drinking was not as much-a lot more sipping. The husband who was chiming in now and then was the louder, more drinking person. I concentrated on listening more and responding when I can really when drinking my mind is in a fog. BUT I must admit I believe I still have social anxiety…which I…[Read more]

    • So you did it! Bloody anxiety. I was astonished at how much I had been suppressing with wine. Even 4 1/2 years later, with heaps of yoga, meditation, way less stress and grief, I will suddenly realise I am as anxious as hell – over something as pathetic as the family coming for dinner. My family… I mean, some one could get anxious about, but not…[Read more]

  • Daisy posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    Day 11 for me and feeling stronger. Have a night tonight of friends and drink. Here’s the challenge I will not drink but socialize and not drink I find it boring. So do I isolate and say I cant go??? My problem is not drinking there because I drink at home but its a strain to go and do this but if I keep saying no to friends then Im lonely.
    The…[Read more]

    • I am just a few weeks ahead of you but had many of the same feelings which I am happy to say are getting much easier to deal with. I found exposing myself slowly and not drinking worked to dissociate drinking with the situation. This happened even if I struggled and it kept getting easier with re-exposure. The first couple of times I went out…[Read more]

      • @js123 Hey thank you for your input. I ended up going and all went well. Really the smell of the drink was not enticing at all if anything I cringe with the smell or the though of drinking. Im in a good place right now but like you said will protect my sobriety and will not do that often-I did have to say no thankyou 2 times.

    • Hi @daisy It’s early days for you and you need to decide whether your sobriety can withstand the temptation of going out with friends and not drinking. However you also have to ask at some point in time whether your friends are so boring that you can’t bear their company without a drink of alcohol. Ask yourself what do I get out of being with my…[Read more]

      • @gage I ended up going and Im gad I went. Funny I did not make a big deal of not drinking nor did anyone else but was asked a couple of times if I wanted a drink-no no, no, thank you…but will not do that often fr a while- prefer to meet a gym or go out for coffee.

    • Mmmm are your friends really boring? Is it possible to be with them the first couple of hours while they are not half cut, and have conversations? Find out how it is to relate to them without alcohol blurring the relationship? if/when they become repetitive and the killer drinking ‘conversations’ start, leave 🙂 Have a special treat at home, a…[Read more]

      • @morgan No you are right they are not boring. And the drinking was not as much-a lot more sipping. The husband who was chiming in now and then was the louder, more drinking person. I concentrated on listening more and responding when I can really when drinking my mind is in a fog. BUT I must admit I believe I still have social anxiety…which I…[Read more]

        • So you did it! Bloody anxiety. I was astonished at how much I had been suppressing with wine. Even 4 1/2 years later, with heaps of yoga, meditation, way less stress and grief, I will suddenly realise I am as anxious as hell – over something as pathetic as the family coming for dinner. My family… I mean, some one could get anxious about, but not…[Read more]

    • Day 11 is early in sobriety and I must admit didn’t do much socialising around drinkers in first couple of months. Planned more brunch catch ups where other beverages were more common! ❤️

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    @Jes thats awesome Jes.

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    @buckeyeone Im right there with you too.Here we come Springtime…

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    @angiex !! Im right there with you on day 9 today-it feels so good and grateful.

    • @Daisy thank you ! It really does help to cement the decision each day when others are on the same or similar journey & giving messages of support x

  • Daisy posted an update 1 week, 6 days ago

    Day 9 and feeling good.Doing a lot of podcasts and working out consistently-feels so good.And catching up here regularly-love hearing people say how wonderful long tern sobriety feels and the short term pain, pull and struggles are worth plowing through to create your new path that is anxiety free, calm ,good sleep, less depression and so much…[Read more]

    • Well done @daisy! Those podcasts are life savers. In the early days I’d listen to at least one a day and read sober blogs. It helped tremendously to know I wasn’t alone and to learn from others. You’re doing great. 😊

    • Yay on day 9, and finding things that help xx

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    @grannie thanks you I did on to day 8 and a new week!!!

  • Daisy posted an update 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Hi everyone -Happy Sunday! Day 7 for me again. I was at this same place a week ago and then I drank Sunday night. Will not do that today-need to be up early in the am but also just because I don’t want to.Ive been really reflecting a lot lately about my life and what I want it to look like ahead of me. And just listening to all these sober people…[Read more]

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    @angiex HI! Im just a few days ahead of you.Keep going I realize this is so hard but it can be done and need to realize it will eventually get easier and feel so much better. Stay strong.

  • Daisy posted an update 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Hey Day 4 for me and feeling good. Glad I can post here with so many wonderful people making it happen.It helps to read when people say this is hard, its not easy and push thru it.That is the message I need to keep posted in my head.

    • Hi Daisy! It is hard, but so worth it, you’re doing great, congrats on day 4, you can do this. : )

    • Congrats on Day 4! This is a danger day for many people, so be prepared and keep some treats and lots of AF drinks on hand.

    • Congrats on day 4, keep going you are doing great xx

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